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Depends on what kind of house you're staying in. If you don't have Air conditioning, you'd likely open the windows through out the day. It means sweeping will be everday.

The floor type also matters. if not tiled then you'd sweep twice a day self😁.

pocohantas:
Forgive me, your wife is only being delusional.
Probably she is surrounded by career women and because she sees them in heels, she thinks they have it all rosy. Whereas some of them can't boast of 500k savings.

If she was such a career woman, she would nurture her accountancy career, not look for cheap customer service jobs that offers little career growth in Nigeria. If she removes transportation, she would be left with nothing.

In the longrun, she makes nothing to add to the home. The home is neglected. She comes back tired. Sex life dips. Family time dips. Then matrimonial issues sets in and we blame village people.

Don't mind people telling you to support her. I pity these modern husbands that support everything. The mistake you made was marrying a woman who didn't work in her most active and free years only to try make her some Okonjo Iweala after childbearing. They most times exhibit this confusion later in life. Not their fault at all. You don't learn left hand in old age.

Don't play.. She'll learn... (in verydarkman voice)....

Kobojunkie:
No mind them! Churchians and sex-on-the-mind are like Siamese twins joined at the head.

😂 😂 😂.. Dark

Wilgrea7:
Earthquakes (a common natural disaster) also happens on the moon (called a moonquake).

Whose sin is responsible for that?

that must be sins of the moonspirits dwelling on the moon.

TheBillyonaire:
I am not being stingy. just that the public is not ready for certain information yet.

drop it for those who want to see.

TheBillyonaire:
Hahahaha, Its for personal use oh,,,,,

don't b stingy oh..

what's going on here?

yewit37486:
Hahahaha
Jokes aside, it's amazing you took so much responsibility for your younger ones and I can bet you all must be quite close as adults. Reading your comment just made me laugh as I could picture it. Nice one.

🤣 🤣.. Fun times men..
Atleast, I have enough stories to use against them now..
🤣🤣🤣

The same spirit that supplies ayedepo, and his likes with prophecy ba!!

tosinhtml:
It can never work in reality, but it is good people enforce this movement. People usually look down on their partner's task & belittle it, therefore It is important each person has a taste of their own medicine. I was trying to explain to a lady sometime ago that your 9-5 job or business has a way of entirely affecting your emotions that it begins to affect your home, she asked if I am the only one with 9-5, why is my own different. Now she reached out to me regarding her job, It has been toxic as hell. Now that she is now experiencing it, she can testify.

In the same vein, anybody that says staying with kids is not a hard job, should be left to take care of kids for a week.

Make dem use their own eyes see am, as e be!

Nobody is saying staying with kids isn't a hard job. Nonetheless, its not as difficult as going out there to earn money. No-where close. I practically raised my siblings. I will keep baby at one side while playing my video game, cooking with firewood while chatting on 2go.. My mom was employed, so was dad..Was it preparing baby food or feeding baby? Was it washing baby cloths? When baby turned two, during holidays, i bathed them. fed them, clothes them, in many occasions still cook. My mum was living her best life then. lol.. 😂 😂 😂

will the babies remain babies for ever? Abegiiiii..... By 5 years old, children are already doing house chores? by 15 they have completely taken over from mum except maybe cooking... So, tell me, what is mom doing

Even now, I handle domestic chores and provide for the family. Between domestic work and job, nothing makes me go crazy like job. Nothing!!!

Skyview01:
In situations like this, communication is key. You have to confront your wife with the evidence of her cheating and watch for her reactions.

In all you do, do not ever debase yourself by confronting your wife's cheating partner.

Then you have to determine if your wife still want to continue with the marriage or not. If it is just a fling with no emotional attachments and your wife is remorseful and beg for forgiveness, it is your decision to make if you still trust her enough to continue with the marriage.

If she is not remorseful, then i suggest you call it quit and seperate from her a little bit to see if she would come to her senses. If not, then move on.

At this stage, your mental health is more important than the marriage in my opinion.

I also suggest you work on yourself , look for anything to do to make money. As a man, you lose almost 80% of your value if you are not earning.

Viewing it from the angle of a man abi... "no emotional attachment" 😂..
Bro, if he doesn't get his finances back up he's a gunner.. Plus, if he himself didn't cheat during his glory days, I see no reason he should forgive someone who has ridiculed him because Nigeria happened to him. Let her go.

This thing usually happens when you married your wife and continously remind her that you are the boss. So, of course, when you lose your job, your boss status crumbles and your wife now sees that there's actually nothing special about you.

The financial strain is dealing with the average man mentally, not to talk of a woman who wasn't bearing it before. The person she's cheating with might have helped her during those dark times. He may have provided the moral, financial, and emotional support.

Of course, im such circumstances, those things are bound to happen. Better focus on your self. Get a job, and simply adopt open relationship. She's free to nack who she likes, so are u. Keep the family intact.

He didn't value the wife who's going through hell to see him succeed until he was in a mess...

Didn't waste the opportunity to nag.. nag nag and nag...
Poor at finanace.. wasted lots of resources.

He may have been the head, but his wife was the backbone of the family.

He is quick to insult, but can't stomach a taste of his own medicine. Having been a victim, i also developed the habit. Working on it though..

Are you sure he's not an animal in human form?

Poor self defeating arguments.

brabie:
you're weirdly funny

Yes. Ladies love weirdly funny guys.

Jman06:
And you think I have problems with changing my kids' diapers? I will wholeheartedly accept your suggestion too

Domestic chores can be done in one to three hours. This idea of domestic chores draining all one's energy is really strange to me. Most of the day is spent doing nothing. children are even in School, so what work exactly are they talking of?

The wife has lost interest abeg. If anybidy should complain that sex is tasking, it should be men. unless, the wife is doing some reverse cow girl, which i doubt never hapoens..

If there's no medical condition involved, then the husband has ever right to kick her out. Women divorce men on the grounds of poor sexual performance, so why all of a sudden, the man is on the "selfish" side?

Acidosis, your arguments don't hold at all at all.

The only thing working in Nigeria is Afro-beat and comedy. I can access those with my Phone. Team Japa!

brabie:
I've been thinking about it for a while now and I don't want to spoil it.
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything is going fine she is a nice person, kind and cool.
But for me am not yet financially strong enough to do what a bf is suppose to be doing, she's not complaining but I can see it in some of her attitudes towards me, I was thinking of telling her I want us to cut it off, more like taking a break off all this love stuffs so I can really work on myself and start doing what am supposed to be doing as her bf.

I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her, I know eventually she might start to see other guys, I don't want it to get to that so pls guys help me out

WHAT SHOULD I REALLY DO OR SAY TO HER

I still want to be with her but not in my current condition now

At bolded, what's that though?

Another case of "I don't have money, so, I'm a nobody"

Kobojunkie:
Let me get this straight. So, if Mr. X does not harbor any doubts regarding the paternity of "his kids" and hence does not get them tested, you are suggesting then that there is a 100% chance that the kids are definitely his? Or what are you trying to suggest here?

Acidosis is right in the sense that the method used to collect data is no different from Snowball sampling. The downside of snowball method is the likelihood of reporting exacerbated figures.

Without a doubt, this further goes to support the claims that:
1) women marry who's ready, not who they love.
2) Men use money to marry women who don't love them.

Any way, it seems the men are the ones suffering the consequences..ehyaa....

I'm about to go into the dating game again, this tells me to not provide much details about my earnings before somebody chooses to just manage me because of my finances. What am I saying self, I don't have like that.

Persephone1:
You are welcome Sis

I wanted to pass this, but if my memory serves me right, this isn't the first incidence. Ever considered that you may be Trans?

Of what authority does the minister of education have to make a verdict in a criminal case? Nothing has to pass through her.. It should be between the police, the lecturer, and the victims. What concerns VC and ko?

capnies:
THERE IS NOTHING LIKE A VIRGIN MALE. BOYS START EJACULATING FROM PUBERTY; VIRGINITY IS ONLY FOR WOMEN
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GOD MADE IT SO

How do you know? Where in the Bible was it stated?

Just like I said before, the only thing Naija man hato offer in Life is money. Take money from the average Nigerian man and watch him turn to a walking dead.

[quote author=Klass99 post=125673249][/quote]You will not stop deleting evidence abi? 🤣

You guys give out money easily. that's all. Since, your self esteem is tied to your finances, the only way you express yourself is with money. Nothing more, nothing less. If i were a babe self, I'd choose a white man over Naija men. 🤣.

Persephone1:
Lol. You experience this too?

Yes... I can't help it.. Since I did molecular biology in class.. 😂 Some folks are just predisposed to being goats.. ooooops here i go again

Persephone1:
This is a great piece. It complement the cause and effect theory postulated by Braun and Isaac Newton's third law of motion . I tried using the cause and effect theory on understanding the mind of a rapist sometimes ago but I was met with closed doors everywhere. I realize most Nigerians do not care about why you act the way you do but how you act the way you do. It's crazy really because in the long run we keep going in circles without getting solutions to even basic issues of life.How do we solve a problem without understanding the cause? People of other races understand the cause and effect theory and it's one of the reasons they are above us.
We always expect the best of people without trying to acknowledged or understand the struggle. Hence the mantra "People wants to see the glory not the story" We just want to see the good part. Lol look at where we are now.

In as much as I personally try to understand the rationale behind people's actions I have come to realize also that I tend to make excuses for people's bad behavior. Some people are just goats in and out,past present and future. They are goats because they are naturally goats .
Which brings me to the conclusion that stirring the surface, uncovering the hidden shouldn't be an excuse to justify the darkness. Use the past to modify the present not to justify it.

This!!!!

This is why Nigerians(Or rather the Christian side) have turned to indiscriminate begging and have formed the most powerful forms of entitlement known to man. Let's just sit with our hands folded and wait for redemption to come---as ordained by daddy G. O.

If it's outside my family? A big yes. If within my family, it depends on circumstances, it could easily turn to yes too.