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jelel6:
Please, for all the guys here who are apparently sympathetic to the Husband, I have a question for you...

How can a man marry a mother of two little kids who are not adults yet and NEEDS TO stay with their mom, would be so ungentlemanly after marriage to request a boy of 12 years begins looking for a relative to stay with whilst his mother is alive, well and capable to look after them?

I'm sure the woman lived with her son and daughter before the husband met them, why marry the mother only to push her son away? Why ask a woman to push her son away because of you?

Things took a hit financially, so you agree with the mother to take the boy to relatives pending improve conditions. Afterwards, the reasonable thing to do is to ask the boy back as soon as things improved. Common!

How can a man feel OKAY when his "marriage" separates his wife and her son?

If a husband CANNOT accept the children of his wife as his partial responsibility due to marriage, how can he then expect any relative whatsoever, to accept the children? Who can be closer to a child than a mom and a step-father?

Original poster @Vyvyanvyvy, if you were my sister, I'd be baffled as to why you'd marry a man who would refuse to allow a small boy stay with you guys. He cannot stay alone. Your husband's excuse that he will influence the girls negatively is simply some fake bullshiit I'd expect from an unthoughtful person.

If that boy were his, do you think he'll send him off to his own brother and leave him there because he's supposedly stealing #100 and biscuits? No! He'll never give up on his OWN CHILD. His own child will never run out of chances.

Besides, a 12 year old boy stealing is NOTHING NEW. Majority of boys did worse growing up. I Stole moms stuff too when I was younger. Majority of the guys or girls, men and women you see commenting here STOLE THINGS if they will be honest with you. But now is the time to straighten your son out. But you can only be sure the best training can be giving if he's with you.

In my short time existing, I've felt real pains when I see how some people treat their relatives who are not part of the immediate family.

I'd be honest to say I myself will not be keen to take in a relative who's not immediate nuclear family, that's the heart. But if I do (which is possible in all ramifications), I'm SURE I'll be Fair and just with them. So you'd understand me when I say I'll NEVER MARRY a woman who can't be fair with my wards. Even if she brought home that said relative, She must be fair and kind to them. And I'm ready to divorce them one after the other if need be.

Reason with your husband with respect and understanding. If he's still adamant, say your brother threatened to throw your son out so you have no other options than to go and bring him with you. If he's still insisting that NEVER means NEVER, I think you can be rest assured he's laying down the ultimate ultimatum, in no uncertain terms:

Son or Hubby? Choose!

your indeed blessed with wisdom, if i can see you i will definitely host you for a day

on your last conclusion that if the man says NEVER and insists on NEVER then she has a choice to make whether son or hubby? i say there is no choice to make, the man has already made the choice, the son stays with the mother, there are no two ways about it.

legally too that marriage is voidable as it was obtained by deceit.

ubunja:
I remember saying at one time that the greatest haters of the Miseducations are married men. They hate the miseducations more than women themselves. Oh how deep their hate runs! How bright and hot it burns!!

Which is funny because the Miseducations badmouth women NOT men. But men are the most offended. Riddle me that.

These married guys are just pissed they discovered the Red Pill too late when it can't help then in any way. They wish they knew earlier. And the things we talk about as regards to women's manipulations they see them daily. But they can't just up and leave because they are married.

What they'll do though, to gain some peace of mind, is to attack the redpill. No no, they can't ignore and mind their own business. They really can't. But will forever troll the threads "Liking" other haters' comments and responding to each other strengthening each other.

THEY ARE SCREWED AS FAR AS LOVE IS CONCERNED. Because they don't even know the Redpil can still help them as married men. Guess they're incurable as you say bossman.

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I can boldly say that your topics are truly eye opening and enlightening, am indeed marvelled as to the wisdom in one man

but saying the greatest haters are mostly married pple is indeed been myopic, am a married man and even before now i know the key to women is all you have been saying and as married man it works even better because ur in a position to check the manipulations both within your marriage and outside your marriage
every woman deep down likes an alpha male thats the way they are wired no woman truly values a sissy man, so when ur married and an alpha male it makes your wife to submit willingly and naturally loyal

i dont see why a married man should hate your topics or be jealous, i think they need it more cus they are the most vulnerable, they are the ones single gals tend to exploit and manipulate the more and that exploitation invariably destroys their marriage only because they think they are in love with the single when indeed he is been used

we are all adults, too much of everything is definitely bad, balancing is key
i can tell you that i am an alpha male and my marriage is the most peaceful and happiest... its enough if i can say it

finally in kudos to you...even the bible said " my people perish for lack of knowledge" so knowledge is key and thats what u bring to the table.

Ladycewhy:
That Nigerian men are willing to sleep with mad women and even impregnate them shows how low the quality of men that we now have gone. The way you boys talk on this forum about Nigerian women,one would think you boys are all that high and mighty ,but here you are admitting that you and your fellow Nigerian men can sleep with mad women.spits


Everyday on this forum I hear whining of how Nigerian ladies are this and that, but your forefathers never got this low, those days girls as old as 13 years could bathe outside but now you lots now rape babies and even grandmothers.

It is even more hilarious that this thread is about another low life Nigerian man without shame .

you are just a low profile castrated she goat, you should go back to kindergarten and become their prefect

my own is to write, am not responsible for your low IQ and almost non existent understanding.
you dont need to be half smart to understand that the OP was rejoicing and gallivanting over her numerous pms and the point i made was that everyone including mad women has admirers and is nothing to pride over as non of them might actually have good intention, its like rejoicing over spam mails

but then u wont understand this too as it might not be you fault cus most issues like yours is normally generic so do well not to speak in public with that u can mask the family deficiency

by the way people do bad things not cus they are male or female but cus they are wired like that, i recently saw a case of a woman that sleeps with dead people once every week for wealth and fame, is she a man? even women sleep with mad men for different reasons but your type will alwayz see it as a male issue

why am i even talking sef cus you still wont understand what i just said

ok on a serious recite twinkle twinkle Little star.... Because indeed that's your level.

Ladycewhy:
That Nigerian men are willing to sleep with mad women and even impregnate them shows how low the quality of men that we now have gone. The way you boys talk on this forum about Nigerian women,one would think you boys are all that high and mighty ,but here you are admitting that you and your fellow Nigerian men can sleep with mad women.spits


Everyday on this forum I hear whining of how Nigerian ladies are this and that, but your forefathers never got this low, those days girls as old as 13 years could bathe outside but now you lots now rape babies and even grandmothers.

It is even more hilarious that this thread is about another low life Nigerian man without shame .

you are just a low profile castrated she goat, you should go back to kindergarten and become their prefect e- idiot

my own is to write, am not responsible for your low IQ and almost non existent understanding.
you dont need to be half smart to understand that the OP was rejoicing and gallivanting over her numerous pms and the point i made was that everyone including mad women has admirers and is nothing to pride over as non of them might actually have good intention, its like rejoicing over spam mails

but then u wont understand this too as it might not be you fault cus most issues like yours is normally generic but then do well not to speak in public places with that u can mask the family deficiency

by the way people do bad things not cus they are male or female but cus they are wired like that, i recently saw case of a woman that sleeps with dead people once every week for wealth and fame, is she a man? even women sleep with mad man for different reasons but your type will alwayz see it at a male issue

why am i even talking sef cus you still wont understand what i just said

ok on a serious recite twinkle twinkle Little star.... Because indeed that's your level.

kids will not really understand the implications of your wifes father buying her a car without your involvement

it is easy to say he should be happy and all that, but in truth everything is wrong with that
the point here is not that a father cant buy the married daughter a car, House, aeroplane or whatever but that he must carry the husband along, for instance what if the car is not genuine or the custom duties was not exactly paid or even that the father didnt completely pay for the car or maybe it get as the car carry come and finally the car puts the wife in trouble, who do u think will run around for it? who do u think will suffer most

forget about a mans ego which ofcourse he needs to be in charge of his home, but who takes care of the expenses for the big car?

wont the father in law use the fact that he bought my wife a car to insult and dictate what happens in my home tomorrow

the truth is that with that car my father in law has a leverage over my wife, overt or covert he will somehow control my wife

imagine running off with my wifes car assuming i cant immediately access my car and my father in law sees me and tells me " i didnt buy that car for you"

in a nutshell if my wife accepts a car gift from his father WITHOUT HIM CARRYING ME ALONG then it is in her fathers house that my wife will stay and drive the car, there is no two ways about it.

AshiraWealthy:
And what child of God goes making such statement against a chosen of God. Hmm... Well like you said, you're a "worker"
I'll argue with you.
Let God disclose my identity to you.

you cant even take simple correction
your reply smacks of someone who is spiritually insane...a lunatic
you go about causing people you dont even know or have met
my advice forget about husband and seek deliverance
its obvious why ur still single at over 30yrs.

u live outside africa, hope ur not in china

ogabentley:
I befriended a beautiful lady about 3 months back. I was introduced to her by a friend of mine then we started talking, one thing led to another made it official and we began dating.
She is a lovely and caring lady but i have a problem with her, she demands sex always. At first i enjoyed every bit of it but now its no longer funny.
Every passing day she demands sex when i say no she would seduce me so much that after initial refusal i will give in.
Weekends are usually worst, she could initiate sex for more than 6 times in a single day.
I love her overall personality but this sex thing i'm getting tired of the whole thing.
Please what should i do?

6 times in a single day?....bros save money for casket.

ubunja:
True. Even in Eden Eve was bored and chose adventure trying to be like God. Imagine being bored in Paradise? Like Wft!!

you are gifted with knowledge bro

who says venice cant be boring? the said woman will ask you what of greece, Bahamas, Zanzibar

the bottom line u can never satisfy them

[quote author=Jodha post=85563496][/quote].

its obvious ur a slow poke
just keep proving us right

[quote author=Jodha post=85561874]I'm not giving a stupid excuse....and only using this scenario as a yardstick to portray how boring many Nigerian marriages are....

THUS MEN should try to spice up their marriages...do something fun once in a while...

Not repeating the same schedule again and again and again....till yhu kingdom comes...

That's all” quote"



you are a big fool, and this is january yet you have won an award for the biggest fool of 2020

how can u justify a married woman prostituting because the marriage is boring, what happens to quitting

how does accepting a weekend of whoring, sex, shopping, and what you termed fun with a stranger who is obviously out to slut shame married women for his ego solve " boring" in marriage??

so once your bored you find the next stranger to travel with and the cycle continues

the truth is that women like you retaliates what we already know that nigerian women are dafts

and at the bolded what will happen if the woman spices up the marriage, will the world come to an end??

mine was quitting smoking.

hope you also made the decision to be celibate.

femi4:
buy tv, you no gree

or pretend like he has one.....what an ignoramus

rubbish

which one is the same transport??
oga una dey de same bus...

RAGGA40:
I'm also like the poster, women don't move me at all, i have being asked that question are u gay, which i reply i'm not,
my sisters and my mum has asked me severally if i'm ready to settle down but i keep dismissing that cause i'm not attracted to women no matter how beautiful they are

Everybody has thier own sexuality and orientation, its unfortunate in this part of the world people are not free to explore thier innate sexuality and discover really the sex they are attracted to especially with all the religious beliefs that is part of our culture.

in a nutshell i think both you and the op might not be sexually attracted to women that means you might be attracted to men but you might not accept this yet cus here we all live in self denial

my advise feel free to discover your sexuality and accept it, with that you can cope with the society by doing the things they want and doing what you want.

Pettyprincess:
Wow!!! This is interesting!!!
He is a broke guy that needed something to eat bt used the excuse of teaching you a lesson!!
All these facebook boys are usually broke!! We have many of them here also,they will be forming dangote bt real life they just looking for gullible girls to deceive nd probably scammed them!! That's why whenever i wanna go out with someone I'm always with my ATM card incase of necessity!!! Nd they usually dress nice nd look attractive,because they knew ladies are easily carried away by this stuff!!
At least you have learnt your lesson,avoid facebook instagram twitter nd nairaland guys!!

the rate at which you jump at threads about guyz is alarming, the guy that did this to you might not even be here, so u have to move on and eschew those negativities you droll about whenever u see write ups like cus its holding you back

Do u ever think about how many lives that have been made beautiful by people u meet whether on facebook, here or elsewhere, do u know how many girls that have gotten married from guys they met on the internet, what about jobs and contracts?

my dear the truth is that wickedness exist in both sexes and not just because they are male or because they are on the internet

nevertheless your entitled to focus either on the negative or positive aspect of life cus whichever one you choose defines you, its obvious your restricted by your choices

honestly its like you have finally made it in
life whenever u see topics like this, am sure this is what turns you on, but remember one mans meat is another mans poison, to some, whether you like it or not guys they met on the internet is the best thing that happened to them.

AwkaetitiBabe:
The over 200 pms I've gotten

over 200 pms and so what? ur even counting, let me tell you even a mad woman that lives in the dust bin have toasters and pple that sleep with her

dont feel too important cus out of the 200 pms no one might genuinely like you.

OgogoroFreak:
Ok. I will help you...

But first, I will need a doctor's report to proof that you've stopped drinking. So I don't end up helping a Heineken guzzling machine.

says ogogoro freak....just shut up ewu

chrisifeanyi:
Oga if you are opportune, don't think others are lazy. You may have tried an option and it worked for you, others may try that same option and couldn't succeed. Learn to say soothing words to people because you don't know what they are fighting for. Na person wey get bag of rice for house dey see person wey wan buy one cup from shop as foolish.
If u don't have good words to say to them, kindly ignore. Nigeria is not an easy country. Not everyone has that hustling spirit but that doesn't make them lazy. Some prefers getting a degree and a job then they are fine. A degree holder is not a lazy man. Someone with a degree is entitled to a good life if this country is a good one. In abroad people with vocational training get job placement and incentives.

ur indeed a wise man

merit1988:
thanks so much for ur insults.... I'm very grateful sir

nice response dear, pls dont mind the idiot, some people's foundation are faulty from birth and since everybody can chat they vent thier frustrations all over the social media, some times its not thier fault as one cant give what he doesnt have.

what a wonderful recovery, the god u serve is alive, saving u from a calamitous situation, now imagine if that gal has come and then u 4ck her and give her the 10k, through out that day u will just feel as if u were robbed.

victorian:
For his fiancee to have blocked him?

Shes not a stranger he met in a club, on a street somewhere or online .
She started out as his gf before graduating to the level of fiancee( knowing the way most Nigerian men behave, they likely date a babe for years or so before proposing marriage, thats most Nigerian men in quote)
Which means, he knows where she stays and everything about her
For his fiancee to block him on whatsapp, knowing fully well he can still trace her to her home, means he must have Insulted her life, and possibly her family too due to anger on his part.
So it's only natural to. Click block on such insultive messages.

I'm not saying what she did is right but for Christ sakes, no one wants to be insulted endlessly on chats or even face to face because of money over a failed biz.

If you keep raining insults on me as my bf or fiance on whatsapp ? I wil block you. That's me. Then come home and rain the insult more on my face.

So fine, she blocked him on whatsapp. He can easily go to her house and continue from where he stopped.

So why should blocking in whatsapp be an issue between a couple?

you are just a low life cretin, just trying to make up stupid conjectures over what u know nothing about

you just woke up and conjectured the fact that the guy must have insulted her before she blocked him and you believe it without any other evidence and based your justification on it..

your mumu is indeed hereditary, the guy have said the girl blocked him after she ran out of excuse, so what do u wnt to guy to do? tell the girl welldone and give her more money and if he does that to every girl he is dating will he have a phone to be here?

people should be able to take responsibilities for their actions, the girl betrayed the trust the guy had on her, the guy walked away which is the least he can do

the girl trying to take her life and blame it on the guy is criminal and an emotional blackmail and goes a long way to show the kinda person she is

infact if there is any window left for them coming back, the attempted suicide closes it, that girl is toxic, dangerous and depicts the word lunatic, if that girl was a road sign, it would have read" NO CROSSING DANGER".

the best news i have heard this month...there might be hope after all

Charelsz:
can not provide? as in, he's your father or what?

no her creator

im summary, your saying u fvcked an ashawo raw.

Kyom20:
I av serious anger issues dats y i beat her, bt I am working on it. In as much as I av my faults. She also did something wrong, I just want to know if ders hope 4 d relationship.

then the thread should have read, " am very stupid and insecure, i really need help with my anger issues"

Jman06:
I can see that Victorian is truly a successful and industrious lady! That is why the lazy nairaland slay queens are against her!


Lazy women tend to hate successful ladies because the successful ladies expose their lazy aszes by proving that women were not created to be lazy and dependent on men.

That is what is playing out here between Victorian and her female haters! But at Victorian, please keep on exposing and shaming them for their laziness. Your children will be very proud of you when you birth them!

You're a real lady!

believe that fool at your own peril

victorian the other day on her birthday that was here begging for money

there is something fishy about this thread, i dont believe that it is the same victorian that lives in one room self contain and consumes 2 hungry man indomie at once that brags like this....something is really fishy

deedy111:
Married people and experience people in the house, please your views on this needed

poverty dey learn work were bad wife dey
even devil dey learn work were bad wife dey

there is a saying that when a devil is after a man but sees he has a bad wife he lives him alone as he is already doomed