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emmaodet:
Who told you they want to be a man’s biggest supporter? They don’t mind being ordinary fan girls

very few population,
another thing we men or guys must learn ,is we should avoid running down your fellow man ,I mean ,if u don't respect your fellow man ,how much more do u want a woman to respect an average man ,?
who ever want to drop a reply/comment/contribute not problem but adultive comment

to me when a lady makes a condition of no sex till marriage,my people just let her be , mostly if she isn't a Virgin ,who day deceive who ,.if a lady is fully in support of no sex in the relationship ,just tell her hope she wouldn't be angry if no financial commitment also , since na standard we wan set ,
most people have or had a one nite stand and it let to marriage most people did no sex in a relationship for virgins oo,and it went to marriage ,and less I forget ,no sex relationship be you a virgin or not ,you as the lady have a bigger role and responsibility to play in the empty relationship

Fellas, stop dating women who show little or no interest in what you do. Most ladies don't care about the money making process, but only care about the money. If you wait for a man at the finish line, he'll treat you like an ordinary fan girl & not as his biggest supporter...
#fela in Versace

helicoptarr:
Exactly!

May God open their eyes before it's too late.

bro it's late already ,go on YouTube and see updates concerning relationship ,if she aren't good enough drop her ,if she has nothing to offer you or be coperative drop her ,that's the tread now ,
shout out to #kelvin Samuel on YouTube

Jupiter7:
The girl no get sense . If she is that desperate for husband, instead of crying and disgracing herself online, she should just look for one billionaire and become his 13th wife. Easy breezy.

Unless if she just chasing clout.

Bec they tell u say billionaire 13th wife na billionaire they finalize the agreement abi ,if the older wife's na agree ,they will only frustrate her life

Ikwerelastborn:
Truth is that by the time the effect of feminism manifest fully in Africa the ladies will understand what they have been enjoying especially the financial security that comes with marriage and all that.i actually had a female friend who made the fiance not not marry her ,she was almost getting to 40 years and had to just get pregnant from a random guy yet she's not happy with absence of a man in her life

I made a quote before, people mostly today youth don't know the definition of Loneliness at all ,see all the friends they chose to roll with will be all gone hiding under their husbands hux ,while u still keep receiving calls of have you eaten this evening

most guys today don't even care about marriage Bec they have been played for long ,see the recent news of Dr Dre wife getting 300k every month for divorcing the husband abi na bill gate or na Kenya west ,,men don't give a Dem about marriage , Bec they kw last last at 50years they can still settle ,

onefleshmind:
Founder Of The Marriage Institute Has Something To Say
Proverbs 24:3-4 – By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. She failed the entrance examination, that's why she couldn't make it into the Institute in the first place. OP please learn from your mistakes. You ignored a lot of red flags over the time.
Three things I discovered from this story
1. You guys have different love languages that you both refused to learn. Don't forget, without language, no communication in the first place
2. She isn't really ready for marriage.
3. You just dodged a bomb in human skin going somewhere to explode.

it's high time men know that not all ladies want to get married ,forget all this I want to marry stuff,
according to stat ,most break-up are first initiated by women ,
most females are been taught how to be a woman and not how to be a wife ,it's better men /guys learn to differentiate them ,to save headache,if na that rated 5 girl they show u she is ready for settle go with the flow ,

don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
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Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

welcome to the generation where females dictate to a man what to do ,if I were to be the op,I would have asked her to drop 50% of the wedding finance or even 20% let's see if she will have mouth to talk again ,

I just pity today's gender mostly the males ,they think getting rich will give you any woman of your choice ,if you aren't intellectual upstairs and firm ,I just pity our men

Bola146:
Why not keep your relationship private

quote]that lady is finding all means to make a fool of her ex husband ,which is morally wrong , wether she likes it or not ,she has a kid with the ex husband already ,nd it doesn't change anything , infact she is breeding a mentally unstable kid ,

Bola146:
Why not keep your relationship private

that lady is finding all means to make a fool of her ex husband ,which is morally wrong , wether she likes it or not ,she has a kid with the ex husband already ,nd it doesn't change anything , infact she is breeding a mentally unstable kid ,

Emotionss:
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She wants to be friends again because of the incoming exam.

She will try again tomorrow.

ad Bec she passed the last one ,watch her dump this man after final year ,even if he becomes friends with her ,out of all the females I helped via exam in campus ,am in communication with just one ,I mean just one ,,even the one I didn't really help her ,that's to tell u ,after graduation it's always I don't kw you

Osnami:
What is your backup plan incase you lose your job today or your company folds up?

the moment I am emplyed in any company,I start making a back up plan which is sending new cv to other companies

Forgodsgrace:
Na Ashawo work be that and men hardly take them serious .Go for INfo Tech or Fashion designing

lol ,na really ashawo job.
and someone just asked me if marriage abi relationship na achievement,and it still boils down to certain types of jobs ladies do that men don't take them serious

kabukabu50:
This is the kind of comment that shows how uneducated some of our people are.

There are thousands of women who are in marriages where they get abused every day and beat up,with cheating husbands...its better for those women to be single than endure that violence for years.

here comes their self defense word "abusive",so men aren't been abusive in marriage back to back .

sigiyaya112:
Why do Nigerians think that getting married is an achievement

it isn't Nigeria thinking,it's a general world perspective,,the best achievement of a man is been able to provide for his family ,and what of a lady ?

u lady need to stop this your one sided thinking of is marriage an achievement,show me a lady in her late 40s and she will tell you the definition of not having a partner/husband ..you ladies really don't Know the definition of loneliness , Bec you see your friends hovering around you,u think they will be there for ever ,wake up pretty lady ,you will achieve more been with your husband ,

sigiyaya112:
Why do Nigerians think that getting married is an achievement

it isn't Nigeria thinking,it's a general world perspective,,the best achievement of a man is been able to provide for his family ,and what of a lady ?

nahzyla:
Lol

If you hate women just say so. What kind of bitter and frustrated post is this?
Avoid females if you hate us so much, no need to carry all that bitterness in your heart

mop ,it isn't hate ,it's an awareness that's awaken.. nobody hates women ,

VillagePipu:
When your wife insults you over money ehn, that love will evaporate.

that one fit happen when u marry who pass u

Auntiebookie:
The man won't take you serious

,says who

no amount is too small or too big to marry ,all that matters lies on the man and the woman

1 ,if he is a hustler ,he will definitely make it quickly
2,if the woman is also a motivator ,the family will make it faster ,not the one that waits for validation on social media o

MartinsD12:
The idiot girl no fine self, so because of ordinary booty this foolish guy lose his life, men should thread with caution

men are already aware already,go on YouTube and I can bet my balls ,there is a mass awareness of who females are naturally when it comes to relationship ,only some few good ones exist

we are entering an era ,where by the hate towards females will be so high,to the extent ladies will beg for love but it will be hard to come by Bec it's becoming obvious ladies are scammers when it comes to love and relationships ,I don't kw how to say this ,,the formation of relationship is gradually changing in this era and the odds are against the lady ,to all the lady's at age 25-30 years ,if you got a serious guy ,hold him else next year will be worst than this year at the amount of attention you receive on the highway ,if you want to cheat pray he doesn't find out , just pray ,

SOZINN:
I did mention it before, but let me repeat it again. This is just one of those cases where the woman pretends to register herself as the "right" woman in his head. Then when they get married, she goes back to default mode. Which makes sense in this scenario because this is a gynocentric society. The proper way to dig gold would be to sign those papers.

I have asserted in the past that red pillers should keep all assessments (vetting) a secret. That's why I am against asking a woman about her past. Such questions can jeopardize your plans. If a woman discovers that you are evaluating her every move, you become a learner in that very game you are trying to play. Such questions can create suspicions and there is nothing you can say to convince her that you don't care.

But, it seems the rules of the game have been updated. Women come prepared to pass your tests these days. Which begs the question.
How can one tell the difference between what is real and what is not?
Books are not providing some of the answers I seek.

be unpredictable that's the best u can do man

SOZINN:
I did mention it before, but let me repeat it again. This is just one of those cases where the woman pretends to register herself as the "right" woman in his head. Then when they get married, she goes back to default mode. Which makes sense in this scenario because this is a gynocentric society. The proper way to dig gold would be to sign those papers.

I have asserted in the past that red pillers should keep all assessments (vetting) a secret. That's why I am against asking a woman about her past. Such questions can jeopardize your plans. If a woman discovers that you are evaluating her every move, you become a learner in that very game you are trying to play. Such questions can create suspicions and there is nothing you can say to convince her that you don't care.

But, it seems the rules of the game have been updated. Women come prepared to pass your tests these days. Which begs the question.
How can one tell the difference between what is real and what is not?
Books are not providing some of the answers I seek.

be unpredictable that's the best u can do man

Martinez39s:
"I am not like other girls."

– Females

don't compare me ,

Martinez39s:
They are always playing the long game.

there is always a all general reply when you (guys) ask a lady why do u love me and what do you want ,,,
mine has always been" I just love you and I don't want any thing "..

but when they start asking for financial assistance you will be like ,

FRANKOSKI:
ANY BIBLE CHARACTER THAT IS REDPILLED ?

Samson

FRANKOSKI:
I'VE BEEN CHATTING WITH A GIRL OF 18 ON FACEBOOK ,SHE IS IN NAIJA AND I WAS IN EQUITORIAL GUINEA. I CAME BACK TO NAIJA FOR HER BIRTHDAY AND WHEN IT WAS TIME TO BANG HER,SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS RAPED AT THE AGE OF 8 BUT THAT HER PUSSY IS TOO TIGHT. I GOT ANGRY AND TRIED DRIVING AWAY FROM THE HOTEL SHE CRIED A RIVER AND CONFESSED THAT SHE ISN'T A VIRGIN AS SHE TOLD ME. I WAS LIKE DAMN.
I'M THE 4TH & OLDEST GUY SHE HAS DATED.

there are lots of them out there, looking for who to throw their revenge on ...

Dabronze:
You only talk about the girl's advantage u never talk maybe the guy was happy after they get married

got married ke,,which marriage,no marriage dating cut short, her wide life was just too wide accept,last I heard is she turn to baby mama last last

but he needed to make enquiry about her , things were going smoothly but he still needed to ask questions from people around the vicinity,and that beer parlor was the best place to ask ,and someone had to reveal everything the guy needed to know a fellow guy man ,,,so the guy had a choice to make ,and he chose the part every redpillers will take ,and he ended the relationship quitely ..

so bro a ladvcsn hid her past but not for long ,if you choose to know ,the choice is yours and if you still don't want to know ,the choice is yours also ,but best you know if you suspect all her past doesn't make sense