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sometimes,the type of partner we bring into our life's,a smart person can easily know if they will stay or not when crisis cames around the hux ,,,,
it's not magic or abracadabra

a relative of my got another girl pregnant,while he still had a wife at home ,she didn't leave the matter no enter 2 ears ,the girl remove the belle,case close life continues ...

or is it the other family friend who married woman way pass am,,,the guy is looking so old than his own elder brother ,,,,

most men especially the Nigeria man above 20 years have failed in more than one part or neglected some things in life ,
guys I will keep repeating money can't buy love ,the earlier you knows this the better for you guys /men /males /kings.

I see a lot of guys doing all sort of things to make money mostly illegal name it yahoo , fraudulent activities all to impress a lady, forgetting what they call self development ,I was shock to see a fraudster who handles laptop day in day out ,but can't even draft a cv .
kings ,u can use money to impress a lady but not for long till her eyes becomes clear that the other guys coming around her are way better than you,and are more of high value than you .

guys develop your self ,its very important

Bouz:
You have an inferior mindset, that's why you think you must have money to stay in a relationship, there are women that provide for the house, to keep it going.i guess you've been hanging out with hungry ladies. Relationship needs both parties effort both financially. Stop feeling you have the burden of providing alone. Every body cannot make money in this life, but with two head, a family won't lack basic needs.

na u day talk this one,let me remind you we have less than 10 percentage of females who will tell u , Their money is also their husbands money ,

DankemzI:
Relationship needs care and attention, irrespective of her financial status you'll need your own money for self esteem and confidence to avoid see finish!
I remember Jemi my lover, this girl showed me all lights I had to call her aside and tell her I'm not financially buoyant to be in relationship with you RN, Omo she started funding me till I found my foot again true love exists for real.
Don't go for 1st daughters or lastborn.

or only daughter ,the pressure on them is high ,

Carchoice:
Bread and tea wey everybody dey manage for breakfast, e reach your turn, you turn adviser Onuwabhagbe.

I tire ooo

can fed govt implement the use of cctv in every establishment as a mandatory requirements ,

least I forget to add ,only few percentage of Lady who says no sex relationship and the guy agrees but she doesn't see him as a mumu along the line of the dating phase , because many go still go chop gbola for outside ,which is equal to ,my guy na mumu

a one night stand might hold the guy back or he might move on

telling him no , might make him try harder ,but u and I believe that era is fading away ,guys don't waste time chasing again,

playing hard to get ,for this era ,I wouldn't say anything before someone start asking me if is okay for a lady to be so cheap .

I have seen guys who had a one night stand and still stayed with the lady till date , infact u add more injury to the salt if ,all u want is a no sex relationship but u want him to pay bills ,

Nigeria govt need to tackle Yahoo activities like drugs ,else we are going to get worst daily ,

shout out to all the Yahoo boys ,did India also steal from your forefathers?

longetivity:
Like he should not go outside his country to celebrate birthday because he's a CBN governor

that's y dubia are fast developing leaving your African continent behind Bec of this your self entitlement mentality,,,

Nigeria govt need to start treating corruption,fraud ,money laundering the way cocaine traffickers are been persecuted ,,,else we will continue to be the disgrace of Africa , recently Ghanaian are given free visa to united Arab Emirates ,we are going back ward Bec of corruption

temitimx19:
I don't think 27 is old. Considering how Nigeria is, many youths at 27 never balance

if u use Nigeria take day judge how life supposed to be ,problem no go finish o,but it's well sha

temitimx19:
What if his family is wrong? How will you call a 27yr old woman old? Haba, do you want him to marry a teenager.

Many people are single because their family are the ones making decisions for them. During our parents time who choose for them? They explored did crazy things, if you try such things now they will call you wayward.

These days I feel many parents/family members are overprotective they don't want their kids to make mistakes which is wrong. Someone who's 32yrs is old enough to know what is good for him.

27 is old sha ,what's is the danger age for giving birth for a lady ,if they where dating before she hit 27 it's okay ,but starting a relationship when she is 27 ,,make op look well o

LLiKYekoba:
Listen and listen, when he is marrying anyone he is marrying that person into the family and they will all bear the same surnames with his siblings and family, so they have a say.

Mr OP, please don't listen to uncultured dysfunctional mugus here who think you shouldn't listen to family members about who you should marry and end up tearing your family apart.

You may be blinded by love, but what you can't see, your family members will see. They definitely mean well for you.

are the ladies married into the family all responsible,if they are they should hook op up with the single ladies among his sister in law

how old are u again ,u never kw watin u want for life yet ,I hope u are aware no matter the age a man gets to when he hits 40 years above ,and a younger girl approachs you ,the question they keep getting from her family is why didn't he marry early,and I hope you have a convincing tongue o,,,,, Bec your family will not be there to defend you

Irijosa777:
I'm the last born in the family, all the members of the family had gotten married except me.
I'm 32 now, just rounded up my study. I'm into farming, school works and doing catering work as well. I'm financially balance. I have not gone into a relationship before, I just ignore that aspect because I believe in the principle of "one thing at a time".

Now that I'm through with my study and I have something doing, I'm planning of going into a relationship and get married at least by 2023 but I'm perceiving there's going to be a problem between me and my family.

My family is very selective, very selective... There was a time a friend started visiting me anytime I went to the village, my mother notice it and told me that the girl is not welcome in the family, she gave me her reason too, I told my Mom she is just a friend and nothing more.

Today my neice got married, I invited my crush and she came to the wedding and I introduced her to my family as my friend, when the ceremony was going on, my sister told me and I quote "this girl you brought is not acceptable, she is too old for you, "common" she is just 27 and am 32... I told my sister that we are just friends and nothing more, then she said better...

I don't want to have any issue with my family in marring a girl but I'm afriad problem might be inevitable because I won't want my family to choose who or who not to marry, I have never had issue with my family before, they love me very much and we are living happily.

One mind is telling me to follow my heart another mind is telling me don't let a woman bring issue between you and your family...
Gosh! family get wahala! What is wrong in marring a girl of 27 years and I'm 32. (5years different)

I'm not ready for any family wahala...
Please how do you handle this kind of issue.

this is where u guys always Bleep up ,u can't have it all , concentrate on school work ,time to marry becomes a problem ,and 80% end up settling for who u don't understand Bec he or she makes flowers glow on your stomach ,and forgetting sometimes it's all desperation taking place not love ........ advice those close to you ,same way u sharpen your brain in education , sharping your body fitness in the gym ,also sharpen your brain in relationship as you grow in life that part you have missed it all ,it's isn't a one day journey trust me.

I just pray you meet who understands you ,,am sure u must have been around guys who approach ladies like juice but due to I wan make money first ,u under looked their actions as waste of time ,now u still have to pay the price ,,,,that's why I said initially you can't have it all ,,,, develop your self and know what you want bro

rayvelez:
Damn dis lady get badmouth like wtf is 250% density wig wearing.

she no get bad mouth,she literally discribed the mindset of an average Nigeria lady back home,

lkillbrokehoes:
I already knew hushpupi downfall will come, it was already too obvious that a little kid would predict it.

I wonder why scammers/fraudsters don't like living a low-key life since they know that their money isn't genuine.

if u kw the definition of poverty /grass to grace ,then u kw your answers already

simonsays:
Hello Naira landers,

I looked up the cost of enrollment for HSE 1-3. It's almost around 400K. Considering the economy, is it wise to spend that kind of money on training?

How lucrative is having a HSE certificate in the job market?

Which jobs are readily available for HSE holders?

am not sure u know the meaning of HSE,,don't do a program Bec others are doing it,even if u get the job ,u will get bored within a year or 2

Calibrator:
A woman in love who comes to you for relationship advice wants to hear the truth - Give it to her, she won't be able to handle it anyway.



A man in love who comes to you for relationship advice simply want someone who will validate his illusions and fantasy - That is a stray sheep, do whatever it takes to set him back on the right path and if that fails, a little sacrificial lamb on the altar of female machinations every now and then can't hurt nobody.

most people get excited when they hear the word love ,love alone can't hold a relationship but Respect ,don't look for a partner as a wife look for a coperative lady

ladys and guys you can't do it alone ,the world is difficult and more difficult than it seems way back ,1 hand cant raise a family presently,it's different now

SOZINN:
Nice, but even after you have won the race/competition. You don't go flickering the lights your medal for the sake of entanglements. The way you start is the way she will follow up. If you let her know you are overly affluent. She will become a gold digger, either immediately or in the future (when she had locked you in).

Upper class, middle or lower. Wherever you are, always go for genuine burning desire. If it's not present. Fûck off!

real men don't go cheating around ,creating baby mama , sleeping with lady's whom u can't marry ,

how old is princess please ?
and is she married ?

Divinehealer:
Foolish pride they have. This woman fits them very well. Nigerian women are simps for their wayward men.

so tell me the perfect or the supposed behavior of how a Nigeria woman is supposed to be pls ,I will like to know

Ammishaddai:
There is nothing wrong with marrying a woman who is older than yourself so long as you both are in-love and in agreement

if ur moniker doesn't say male or female ,I can confidently say this is from a female comment ,,
only women will agree that age is just a number
but men who have been there and back from the hypergamy of ladies alongside with their attitude know very well age is not just a number in a relationship .........if u like marry an older lady ,just know u will still first her to leave this crazy world

Divinehealer:
The kind of woman that fits the over bloated ego of Nigerian men.

so Nigeria men have ego

EmmanuelScott1:
what of Kanye west that married Kim ( previously divorced two times) Simpson is a disease

should I add more to the story ,Kim married a guy and got divorced just within 72days after marriage ,and kenye west went to pick up the mantle ,and he still got divorced

FRANKOSKI:
ANY RELIGION OR DEITY THAT IS AGAINST MARRIAGE ? MAY WE LEARN THAT FEARING MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF WOMEN'S ESCAPADES IS WEAKNESS ITSELF.

exactly man ,let's travel abit out of Africa,now we are in middle east ,show me a successful man who isn't married ,or who doesn't have a lady by his side ,what we are advocating for is a change in behavior in how our ladies behave,
now let's take a trip to Hispanic people ,of course their ladies are very down to earth ,

the truth is you can't do it alone on this crazy world ,black African community have lost their culture value ,and that's the error we must correct not advocating for say no to marriage , traditional wedding is enough if all she yearns for is a court wedding , traditional wedding is a full stop ,till she earns that's white gown position in the marriage ,u can surprise her with it .

Hassanmaye:
Are you sure please but I heard the more mature a lady is the more easier to deliver a baby, that's why most Southern women marry lately

35 years for a lady is danger zone ,and I believe you kw what danger zone is ,google your self the age best for lady to conceive medically ,most ladies are married already to their educational degree and their job ,with zero knowledge of relationship ,and they battle to settle with a male figure ...the most common word they use is " you don't understand me "

blueheart:
Men are the prize

men have long been the price ,the media ,gave females the chance to rain ,and they over ride on it ,and now it's turning back at them ,when ladies tell me relationship or marriage isn't an achievement,I just laugh and just look at them ,the truth is many ladies are not been thought how to be a wife material ,100% believe giving a man good sex makes them a certified wife material and another sets believe holding sex makes them marriage material ,

right now the future is transwomen

I will tell you what happens or play in the real world ,u better go get a diploma, /short courses in computer program / be it web design or graphics design ,and use the remaining money to set up a home studio for your job ,,,,,,,4 years in the university ,who Does that again ,,,, except u want to study med ,or engineering

iTroll:
50 reasons why men should never get married


I will start this list by stating that NO ONE is entitled to the fruits of YOUR labor.
If you’re considering marriage, please read this first.

1. She will pressure you into marriage, when ironically, she is also more likely to divorce you.
2. If you leave her, you are viewed as a scumbag. If she leaves you, you are viewed as “not good enough.”
3. There is a 50% chance that you will get divorced. If you get divorced, there is a 70% chance that she will initiate the divorce. That means there is a total 35% chance of her leaving you.
4. American courts are biased against men. You will not get to see your kids and will have to pay child support/alimony.
5. During a divorce, she will take half or more of your total assets.
6. You are expected to spend 20% of your total income on an engagement ring.
7. During a divorce, she is not required to return the engagement ring
8. She can accuse you of rape and you will suffer, regardless of whether or not you actually did it.
9. If she rapes you, then no one will take it seriously. If it is vice versa, then all hell breaks loose.
10. She can hit you, and if you hit her back, you will get arrested for domestic violence.
11. She has total monopoly on sex. She chooses when to give you sex.
12. She can use sex as a tool to manipulate you. She will only give you sex if you do things for her.
13. You are expected to satisfy her sexual needs. She is not expected to satisfy your sexual needs.
14. After your first child, your sex life will die.
15. After you split up, the children will be conditioned to almost always blame you.
16. She can badmouth you to your children, causing them to resent you.
17. You are not allowed to tell her what to do because of feminism. But she is still allowed to tell you what to do.
18. If you upset her, she will punish you by emotional manipulation.
19. If you even mess up slightly, you are labeled as a “deadbeat dad/husband.”
20. But if she messes up, you are expected to “accept her flaws.”
21. She will try to change you and get angry if you don’t comply.
22. Women are more likely to get bored of the relationship.
23. Women are more likely to fall out of love.
24. Women marry up. That means you marry down.
25. Woman are taught that marriage is stability. Men are taught that marriage is responsibility.
26. If you get fired and end up unemployed, she will leave you so fast.
27. If you are going through a rough financial period, you will also go through a rough relationship period.
28. Money = sex. No money = no sex. Marriage is legalized prostitution. (Just buy a hooker).
29. If she divorces you and you are worse off financially than her, she still won’t have to pay alimony.
30. You will lose quite a bit of money through marriage: the wedding ceremony, buying her gifts, raising kids, divorce, etc.
31. During marriage, you will have no time for your hobbies. You will be expected to work and “support” your wife all the time.
32. If she doesn’t want to work, you are expected to support her in her decision.
33. If you don’t want to work, you are labeled as lazy and a leech.
34. Chances are, she won’t like your close high-school/college friends.
35. She will expect you to put her above your friends, even close friends that are more like brothers.
36. She will expect you to put her above your parents. She is your highest priority now.
37. If your parents end in poverty/homeless/terminally ill, then she will expect you to put them in a nursing home.
38. If you bring your parents home to live with you, she will leave so fast.
39. If you ever get mildly angry, then you are instantly labeled as “abusive.”
40. If she ever gets angry, then she is just “releasing her emotions.”
41. She will not let you go out with the boys.
42. If you do go out with your friends without her “permission,” expect constant phone calls and resentment when you get home.
43. So. Much. Drama. Expect to hear about how Jimmy broke up with Jenny for hours after work.
44. If you have a flaw, then she can divorce you and make a profit from it.
45. If she has a flaw, then she will still make a profit if you divorce her. It’s basically passive blackmail.
46. If you’re an athletic man, expect to lose all your muscle after getting married. Also expect to gain a lot of fat.
47. If you’re an athletic man, she will secretly resent you for your toned body, which she doesn’t have.
48. If you ever end up terminally ill, she can leave you as you’re considered a burden that will “weigh her down.”
49. If she ever ends up terminally ill, if you leave her, then you are considered a scumbag and selfish.
50. She has a whole posse of girl friends that will support her no matter what shitty actions she takes. They will enable her bad behaviors and vilify you.

There ya go.

There are so many innocent men that are blindly led into marriage like a sheep to slaughter. They do not realize that the whole system is against them.

It is better to die on your feet than live on your knees. It is even better to live on your feet than die on your knees.

You’re a man with free will and independence. Defend that fiercely and let no one command you.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uD773RYUH7U

you don't advocate for people not to get married ,but we should be watchful who we ring ,even a nite to the wedding is enough to cut the whole wedding off ,.marriage is a dream come true for all lady's ,even though many claim it isn't an achievement ..and guys/men hold the key to that achievement ...been watchful is more preferably ...