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mmadu4:
my brother but they are useless

useless in what sense,
they thief your money ,or they play your feelings?

my guy ,this your bitterness for 9ja ladies is high I,
see every community in the world have their own default when it comes to female ,,am sure you have heard of open relationship ,that's what most western community practise .
like they say the devil you know is better than the angel u never meet

psucc:
Honestly, no matter how bad, some women still keep their honour. No matter how much education they gather, the 'destroyers' can never change.

they are few,no vex

mibrims:
Brace up bro and be a better person
We all have been there, aside money, true love is also hard to come by, jst like in today’s Nigeria is hard to find pple with legit money same as true love, times are hard. I have been in ur shoes i understand ur pains
3yrs ago i was serving in same state with my gf of 4yrs frm uni days, man was broke and gf automatically changed, a gal i have spent more than half a million to change her phone, wardrobe and plenty flexing turned my boss over night. Started dating a guy with Benz and hardly picks my call nor reply my WhatsApp msg, i even beg her to upload pics of us together whenever i go visiting her on weekends, in my broke state i rented her a good sef-corn in akure while i stayed in corpers lodge inside one village with pit toilet, babe banned me from visiting her cos of this new Benz guy, for apartment wey i rented for 90k in 2018? U can imagine, long story short, during Xmas she moved in with this Benz guy and lied that she was home, on the is faithful day, I called and her number was switched off and i decided to call her mom since she’s home and her mom told me she’s not yet back home from service, we later spoke and she was still liein until her mom called her, then babe showed me her sel and insulted my life, i advised my sef and moved on cos she kept demanding and i tried meeting up jst so i don’t loose her to a Benz guy, but for how long can this continue? I moved on she never bothered to beg to call, today I am happily married and drives a Benz and all she does is to like my pics on IG, bro don’t kill ur sef, work hard and be happy

,,such is life bro ,no condition of the state of mind is permanent,,, temporary pleasure will and doesn't last , still someone out there is trading a relationship of 4 years for a new guy in town ,
sometimes what baffles me is the time taken to know someone vs some one u met yesterday and it's easy to just drop the old guy ,I day quick tell Person if relationship done tire u ,just tell the other person, instead of using him /her to catch cruise for the main time

Tickles001:
The bolded must be true. The reason most relationships are now kinda pay as you go.

then it's best you let it know to them ,the type of relationship you both are setting up,if it doesn't aline ,call it off

BiggyB242:
This kind of relationship started from probably secondary school. They just graduated from the post.

there are some type of relationship in which the other partner must moved in but we still refuse to accept it

profilemessages:
Women

to your face they will pretend they love you


at your back


they will bite their fingers in spite





#MAYGODSAVEUS

the lady saw the relationship as a hobby not an investment worth taking

BiggyB242:
I think you hit the nail on the head, even guys betray each other. Everybody is trying to survive, so be smart on who you put your trust on.

If I were toe guy, I go scope the girl make Alhaji run one or two packages for me, she's free to go.

but to be realistic,8 years old relationship isn't called smartness oo ,

Tickles001:
Survival? I think this a more of a case of betrayal and insensitivity.
Are you saying it's okay for one to do anything to a supposed soulmate, because they're desperate to survive?

the lady has long had the intention of moving on but got the opportunity to do so ,,,
most people we see around are hungry fellows (man or woman)
so it's best we tread careful ,,,

OyinNurse:
I don't agree. If a woman disregards or takes for granted the sincere love from a good man, then she is hurting or broken. No one is perfect and not everyone comes from a perfect past. However, it is the duty of every hurting/broken woman to take steps to find healing and become whole again emotionally before moving to next relationship otherwise it won't work. When you find a woman who is emotionally whole, you can feel free to shower her with affection and love her to the moon and back; I assure you that she will receive it with grace...

relationship is like a hobby to most people , though they might not know ,but if we look within it is ,,some times our expectations in relationship is just abit high and if it doesn't go as we wish in fantasy ,we start looking for an exist door , remembering only the bad times while forgetting the good times

i think what the OP means is that, why is it that guys do not like marryin a lady who already has 1-child, its not like havin a child outta wedlock is a disease, that it just a thing they didn't plan for, and they also have the right to be in a good relationship and get married someday.


OP u wont blame some guys o, cos some ladies are just loads of sh!t, and no one wants a drama queen

like u said most of such ladies are better than those who hasn't given birth yet.

the truth is most ladies who have given birth are really cool to communicate with , Bec within the 9 moths of that pregnancy ,trust a lot have gone tru their minds but the problem is the condition and standards they bring along with them when a new guy is in the picture ,,and we are all African most parent see it as weird to bring a single mom home ,but who cares one man apple is another man's posion , definitely those ladies will see who suites them ,but they must be careful of the type of standard they set on the new relationship

Maryjane001:
This is where you people get it wrong.
Anyway it depends on your environment and the kind of people you find around you.
I go on harmless dates every now and then with people I like and those I just want to be friends with. And there has been nothing like sex for payback.
After every every, I dey go my house after saying goodbye right at the venue.
If u carry personal car come, I LL decline and take myself home. Cause some guys would promise to give you a ride home and before you know it, u guys are heading to his place under the excuse of "come see my place" and there would be nothing the girl could do about it at that point in time.

what's a date first of all

see pretty lady , people you don't find romantically attached or getting involved with don't waste your time and his time,we all know , before a date is been fixed,u must have been in contact and u seems to find him interesting "romantically in quote",,,so why ,best thing take you money along and go 50/50 and them u can tell me boldly u took your bag and went home ,no problem,,,,

Maryjane001:
You take me out on a date and you request for sex afterwards?
I don't get....
Did I force or ask you to do so?
I was on my own jeje ,na u say u wan see me. Now u r asking for sex.
I always have a reason for carrying more than enough money with me on a date just in case anything sup.
Thank God I v not met these kind men before.
I don't roll with anyhow guys.
If you have good ethics and morals, good men would always come after you.

if u don't have affection for him don't go on a date ,it's not an interview ground ,and for u to accept ,that literally means you find him sexually appealing

Psych412:
do you think going out for a date with a guy means hunger solution to me. Not all ladies are the same with the ones you go/relate with.

pay for your date the first date ,and he wouldn't ask for sex ,try it except the guy is mentally unstable

SanctifiedSista:
welcome back sir

thanks

Mylife89:
You are right people are ready to forgo long term goals for short term enjoyment

We all learn, and I would begin my healing stage, it would not be easy, love is a facade and I will be fine last last.

Learn from my experience, ladies are amazing but don't know what they truly want

I hope I end up a married man someday, cos I have doubts

you have not yet met you knows the terms and conditions of a relationship ,when u meet one ,na you go day run from hux ,just chill man that hot blood of eating around is still boiling in her brains ...let her be

SanctifiedSista:
are u still in middle east

no am home already

Carchoice:
Friend zoned for 6 years, I’m sure he’s been nursing the move for all the years only to be slapped with a rejection letter.

Give me his number, we should sympathize with him.

some people keep saying let's be friends before starting a relationship ,I just laugh at them ,who is a high school kid here ,,,most ladies will say let's be friends then with time ,my guy I just pity you ,by the time she brings story of how she just came from a guys hux or spend the night over ,then u will ask yourself why punish ur emotions ...

and the last time I checked getting into a relationship or even marriage with a bestie doesn't grantee a successful marriage

Mylife89:
I did and she denied, that's what fueled my rage, even this morning she is still denying.

I invested, time, my heart, money, and much more, in the end all I get is this!!!

Funny thing is I know her she would deny on the premise that an not there, but as a guy man that I am, I have lots of experience and know how those type of things goes

and I doubt if this lady has invested any of these in the relationship ,,from my little past experiences ,when a lady doesn't invest time , financial aid In a relationship ,she takes it for granted,same goes with a guy and in your situation u have done it higher ,don't feel bad Bec most individuals are ready to trade 5mins sex for a relationship that has blossom ,,I have seen it over and over again ....just go to gym and keep fit by the time you are back you will be alright .

spinna:
they arent cheap but one can jog in their compound or street

that's tru ,the funny thing is people or everyone still think nigeria as a nation is save to move around,even the southern part of nigeria is not save

spinna:
Jog round your compound or buy a treadmill.. i dont think its wise to be jogging on roadside especially early hours when drunkards are going home and criminals still lurk. See purpose of jogging (health and long life) defeated..God help us. Well adieu Austin

how many person can afford a treadmill
or is the the electricity involved in powering it

if you find it hard to forget about her ,just go and register in a gym , trust me ,by the time you lift weights for 3days ,your brain will be so so occupy that it wouldn't even have the time to think about that lady

colestephan86:
You are very right man, she really helped me double up

and it's some how painful ,they end up running away after helping you build your career ,na another girl go enjoy am

date girls higher than your status as a guy , but if u don't settle with them it's okay ,it's cool ,
the good thing is it motivates you to double up

NaBanga:
It can happen when young girls date older men. It's best to provide for your child and lead by example. However Nigerians lie, steal, coverup and deny. Despite all of this, I definitely agree that a father (or mother) should not allow their child to marry a woman such as this.

not only older men ,we have relatives who can or could have also met with the lady , technically it isn't bad but it makes our stomach sick to know the lady you plan to marry has slept with every dick which you know

the shit about runs is when u eventually get commit to a dude only to find out the family you are getting to ,you have slept with one or 2 of their relative ,runs is a dirty business which can come hard on you as time comes by ,which can rip you off of your blessings ,

last last after all the money for runs ,na the man go still pay your bride pass

the question should also be like ,does asking a guy for money after sex considered cheap on first date?

harrwix:
The points highlighted hits strongly. if only guys and ladies will consider these instead of boobs, ass, money and abbs, our relationships will last longer and be fruitful at the end

these are the things most of us think of a night to the wedding day , everyone is guilty of this ,I my self isn't exempted , just trying to be a better person

Bosch10:
oga,u never chop some food wey you no go fit swallow before �

if she sabi the basics of cooking no problem ,but say she no get idea how to even start na there wahala take day o

Masturbator2020:
I don't reason like that..There is no time for female gender when it's comes to marriage..At 50 a man can still marry.But that's not easy for women, and if they do it's difficult for them to give birth @ that time..So why would they waste their reproductive age for a man they are not sure would marry them?

but you and I kw how deceptive most guys can ,we kw
though women can also be confused on what they really want o

mmadu4:
i have been there and done that not worth the time and the efforts . you will end up draining your self and your finance at the end of the day you will realize you wasted everything for one ungrateful self centered entitled hoe . the way this is going lots of nigerian women will be left with no husband to or boyfriend to milk then that is when they turn to prostitution if you are a nigerian girl shame on you

oga do what rocks your both ,and don't generalize ,na when you enter some society you will be told you can't tell a lady shut up ,or she has the power to ride on your balls Bec of the laws of that society ,this your nigeria manliness you think say na every society accept am ,when you cross the coast ,you go tell me how far

luminouz:
She told me that very day bro and was very insistent that I should come. So I should just leave whatever I'm doing and start rushing to her family house to see her family or to eat rice?

Even my own mom can't call me on new year day and talk to me like I'm supposed to be at her beck and call. It's never done like that

okay ,now I feel u ,there was lack of planning involved ,she should have told you earlier atleast 2 to 3 days ahead