₦airaland Forum

Magnoliaa:
I see.

yeah ,y do u think modern woman want marriage but aren't ready for the responsibility that comes with it ...

frozen70:
If you are a woman, you will understand better

I am not a woman ,I appreciate that fact ,if the romance you talk about can't be express out by lips for others to understand ,then the romance you feel only your fellow gender understand alone is a manipulative one ,am sorry to say ,

BRATISLAVA:
What exactly are you saying? That the woman is the head of the home who carries everything called marriage so that the marriage lasted? Or that it lasted because the man was not one of the irresponsible modern men who are looking for women to give them a soft landing in life?

Modern men are some of the most confused about what masculinity and feminity are. Worst is that they don't even know what feminism is. They are just looking for someone to offload unrealistic expectations on.

The reason modern marriages seem to last a short while is because women are tired of the excesses of men. That's what is tagged feminism by men who don't want to end their bad ways in relationships.

As a man, work on yourself and your character and you will have a long fruitful marriage. Don't think that because a woman has endured long with you that she is enjoying your attitudes or even happy to be married to you.

Congrats to their parents, though.

what's the definition of feminism pretty lady .
do u believe modern women or female have character
if you can't endure in a relationship ,are you really worth been in a relationship Bec from your quote it seems you believe relationship is a smooth sailing drive ...
I will appreciate your response without insult attached so others can also learn atleast if u can convince me ,you have also been able to convince another male about what feminism is all about.

frozen70:
Only a romantic man like this can keep a woman happy for 50yrs

and you believe na romance go make u last long with a man ,hmmmm,so if he became not romantic for a seconds,na to move go next project

Magnoliaa:
I wonder why too.

Bec they have been coperative and supportive to themselves in ups and down ..

DaddyRochie1642:
This marriage lasted because the woman is Feminine to her Husband.
People really underEstimate the power of being Feminine.

i believe u have been naive of what the female gender defined feminine as ,both on media and human form

obembet:
No one is perfect.

And pls don't blame the woman, let hear the other side of the story

here we go again ,u wan still defend such an action ,is it that the female gender is just a confuse gender ,?

macrodata:
If Ataga was a relation, would you say the same?

Emotions must be kept aside if justice must prevail. Her pretty face isn't fooling anyone.

that's the problem with Nigeria society ,we feel sorry even when we know Black is black

VoltageDivida:
Whatever they do, the girl should face the full consequences of her crime. We all know she guilty.

if Nigeria govt joke or play with this case ,they should expect more murder related case involving lovers

Omoluabiii:
Bro, nobody will love you for being an inadequate man,
stop saying, she should love you for who you are, when what you are is inadequate.....
Step up, upgrade, then someone that will compliment you will come around.
But when you re less that what is required, and you want a quality lady, i dont think that will be rosy.
Step up, and upgrade bro, and you ll find your match or she will find you...

and when u mention step up ,u feel every one is equal when it comes to step up right..... if u like step up and u still flop in relationship issues ,she will dump your sorry ass ,if you think it's all about step up

expertman:
Congrats. But what most of them does is they create fake tokens and then post online for other Nigerians to buy.

After people start buying they will just jaapa with people investments .

They make money from shitcoins not bitcoins.

They are all fraudsters you create shitcoins without liquidity and started posting on every where on social media for us to buy.

Meanwhile newbies will start buying seeing their expensive lifestyle thinking they make money legit by trading not knowing they made it via scamming other Nigerians

my guy when u look how some Nigerian youth are dressed or with tattoos all over his body ,with no history of hustling to prove his wealth ,I just know the are coated fraudster ,
who ever wants to argue with me should go and read about invictus

Fejimummy:
Yes o with Msc sef

when we hear ,some people go to campus but , didn't pass front of campus gate na the back they they follow ,that's a typical example

Omoluabiii:
you both were good friends,
and when he proposed to you, you reject it, because he has identity issues?
What is the good in him initially, that makes you say, you were good friends?

exactly ,I just tell people these days mostly guys just date a lady who loves u for who u are ,if u force your self on them just 6 months down the line na error she go just day read on you

baby124:
You can only help who wants to be helped. Some people are very arrogant about their bad traits. I am not his mother to sit down there and be begging him to change. We move. Every adult should be self aware and do a self audit.

and did u correct him openly,I mean I have met ladies,who can't correct instead they just walk away ,and if asked why ,they claim the guy is arrogant or doesn't listen,u and I Kno most ladies lack the ability to hold a Convo Instead prefer u read their brain or imagination

IamKizzbrown10:
A lot of men make that mistake prosposing to a girl, wen u knw u dnt have wat it takes to have her as a wife, maybe u only have wat she consider as bf and gf stuff and nt marriage. No reasonable lady will reject a man she knws he is capable of taking care of her and her unborn kid or call it a responsible man. But if a lady reject such man just knw that her villiage people ar on her matter. Thank u

sometimes a lady rejecting a man is of two things interms of marriage,
one it might be the guy isn't worth it ,but why date a gut up to the stage of proposal?
secondly village people involved some don't even know when they say no

Fejimummy:
One said that I should drop out of uniben in 300 level to attend yabatech because he lives in yaba... Who does that

and he is educated

lastchild:
am I the only that notice that girls are no longer in nairaland, men always answering questions directed to women

Bec both genders can't hold a conversation for long without insults attached ,so I don't blame the ladies who also most times use male moniker

JADEK04:
First time I gave a lady a ring in my life,
She rejected it,
And I can never never in my life does that again,
Her reason was that
Is too early for me to do that....that she need a time to think and decide.

she no first like u before

PrimadonnaO:
We weren't dating. We were just good friends, so the planned surprise proposal was shocking

When I got a hint of what was happening, I didn't show up.

When we talked about it later, I still didn't want to. The man had identity crisis, plus a patriarchal disposition I wouldn't be comfortable with in a life-long partner.

all this your grammar for second paragraph big ,break am down

baby124:
Reasons why I rejected, Badly behaved in relationship. I never planned to b married to an irresponsible person. Those kind of people, they were just for trips.

Lack of financial discipline

Immaturity, lack of focus and direction in life.

and u couldn't discipline him financially

josite:
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Let us educate our wives,there is nothing called cheating.man do more than one women.it is biological.but the guy that signs one man one wife and fail truly deserves hell .

and you consider a man with more than one wife as a high value man ,a man that goes around creating baby's for different ladies as a high value man ,man that guy just down graded himself...you don't go around creating baby Mama's and baby's for different ladies and u call ur self real niggeer bro

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

guys guys ,a guy man that consider himself to be a high value man ,a real niggee doesn't go around creating baby Mama's , infact you have down graded yourself ,

if you are financially stable get your sister a job ,that guy isn't worth having a full time woman as a house wife ,real men ,high value men are the ones who deserve a house wife not a guy who creates baby Mama's outside marriage .

adolfHitler1934:
I totally and completely disagree with you Mr Rhino. A politician may be a wealthy business man before venturing into politics. Infact many politicians are successful businessmen....not all are corrupt.

Pastors have a calling except those that called themselves. How can a pastor, someone who ought to live a moderate life,set good example and Christ-like aquire material things like estates,exotic cars, private jet(s) at the expense of the members tithes and offerings and whenever anyone raises concern they quote the Bible verse "Touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm" to cover up this fraud.

Meanwhile your boss, Jonathan have been hobnobbing with Buhari since apparently to escape him and his wife being investigated for massive looting during his regime, yet you lost your voice on it.

80% of nigeria politicians were not wealthy enough to fly a private jet ,you and I know that ,so let's not justify by covering up the truth ,if they were so wealth they wouldn't be concerning looting the state account dry

phazotron:
Yes o. Even if you be boring person you go funny for their eyes. If you no fine you go fine for their eyes

This is the key to happy relationship

I no send person Wey no send me

Once you tell me no the small feeling I dey feel for you go die there for your front

that's is it man ,

Clickguy44:
Boredom. It's not love, it's not money. This is the greatest enemy to our success and love life.

We get bored easily.

if two uninterested person meet,that lack sense of humor ,what do u expect ,it's going to be boring ,sometimes bring up stories ,if she isn't interesting to be with u are still wasting your time .

haven't you heard that when some who loves u is so much in love with you ,even your angry face looks funny to them .Date who loves your more .

lilvicky68:
Permanent...with more money

not possible ,it's a matter of time untill she realizes the Vail is out of her eyes ,

Idamond:
so continue doing it, don't come here and complain

if u don't have a meaningful contribution to add to the thread don't look for a way to kill it ,last time I check it's individuals like you that don't learn and don't want others to learn ,if you know it all ,and you feel your success is not open for leaning ,young bro please just lock up ,,,,,,,,,you don't read and you don't want others to learn

GreatMage:
Please enlighten me...

I keep hearing develop yourself but no one is saying how...

Thanks.

are you educated/you got a degree ?

lilvicky68:
Money can't buy love??

Oga..Money can create love..

permanent or temporary?

Idamond:
you made a nice point but you're one of the reason those guys engage in illegal things..

how many have u try to mentor, preach for advise etc.

you know me Nop.....
have you dm me before nop,,,,I don't keep track of people I advise ,I only know my spirit have inspired someone somewhere

iamtardey:
I taya

it's a topic ,it's a discussion that can't be avoided ,no matter how u try to keep a blind eye to it ,show me a successful man without a woman involved in the story ,a successful billionaire or millionaire point one for me

Bouz:
This matter tyre me oh, take a look at mr paul after all his struggle to be this known, his wife is now demanding for 15,000 us dollars per month. Haba wealth, she didn't work for, she was only available while this wealth was made. Chai nawa oh. I think this is why most ladies request for a hardworking guy, and it's mostly lazy ladies that say this, so they could file for a divorce and reap the dude off. Chai nawa oh,

I will say it over and over again,me and court marriage is a nooo,if it is signed then a prenup will be made along side the court papers,I prefer to swear with tradition than one yeye govt paper