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bukatyne:
I agree with you.

What you can't condone in a marriage, start rejecting it in a relationship.

same goes to a lady ,what you don't like the guy doing start rejecting it , marriage doesn't change anything,na just one semi coated ring change the boyfriend/girlfriend vs marriage stuff

Masturbator2020:
When you say to you you're being selfish. Years ago I asked a girl out,and she refused because she was dating a guy she didn't want to cheat on.When the guy travel out of the country he then call the girl and ask her to find her way..Sadly I have already switched to another girl, I could not marry the girl again..So when you have not paid a bribe price she is not urs,you can dump her anytime even if she had let go a man that would have married her..Let's stop this selfishness pls.

you wouldn't blame her she invested her time and energy in an emotional robbery relationship, did she cheat maybe yes or no ,but trust me if she had left her boyfriend which she already clearly state she had then for you ,baba u and I know you will still say those bitches aren't loyal

Masturbator2020:
When you say to you you're being selfish. Years ago I asked a girl out,and she refused because she was dating a guy she didn't want to cheat on.When the guy travel out of the country he then call the girl and ask her to find her way..Sadly I have already switched to another girl, I could not marry the girl again..So when you have not paid a bribe price she is not urs,you can dump her anytime even if she had let go a man that would have married her..Let's stop this selfishness pls.

you wouldn't blame her she invested her time and energy in an emotional robbery relationship, did she cheat maybe yes or no ,but trust me if she had left her boyfriend which she already clearly state she had then for you ,baba u and I know you will still say those bitches aren't loyal

rotimioluwamuyi:
I really need help and strategies to handle this matter. My wife sister came three weeks ago to live with us. She is 22 yrs. My problems now is her dressing mode which my wife is not careful about.

This lady always wear see-through singlets and night gowns. She has big breasts and always displaying them. I don't know how I will tell my wife to talk her sister to cover herself. She may feel bad that I'm attracted to her sister.

During the sallah holiday, I was with her alone because my wife don't holiday in her place of work, I have to leave the house and stay in the accommodation given to me in my place of work.

This morning, I carried my undies to wash, she crossed me and told me to give it to her to wash, the towel she tied because she was going to bathroom before was removing and showing her full breasts and she never worry about that.

Our marriage is just one year and I never cheated on my wife and she trusted me but her sister is really giving me emotional trauma. Can you imagine, yester night, my wife went to a programme, I was with her. So I called her around 8 pm that we should pray and go to bed. This lady came with a see-through night gown with a push up bra that put all breasts outside. Even her pant color was visible. I tried to control myself....

Even this morning, she came for prayer with the same gown and my wife did not caution her.....
How can I handle this matter?
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do your self a favour ,take your wife to the market and tell her to pick cloths her sister can wear in the hux,if she picks the same type drop it and pick a more better one that covers every part of the body ,trust me ,she go get the code instantly

bukatyne:
I agree with you.

What you can't condone in a marriage, start rejecting it in a relationship.

,till date most religious body use that statement she is just your girlfriend and not or wife ,what you condole in relationship definitely you will also do such ,if you are okay with your girlfriend cheating around and you say ,ts Bec she is just my girlfriend, definitely when area go hard for you,she go do her formal business to tay sustain till you bounce back again .....
woman that doesn't likes going to the kitchen or market what makes you feel she will change when u wife her officall,,,to me marriage is just a name and everything remains desame na just iron day d middle finger

Bosch10:
I think rejecting a lady's food is one of the greatest thing that annoys her.i can relate

y reject a food ,it's better u take one spoon and act okay or filled up than reject the whole pot ,

kenneth58:
Devil dey learn work where some people dey

I swear ,I can imagine how this dude go do spend up to 48hrs thinking of how to punish he said lady

luminouz:
Nice one.

I hope to be like you one day bro. I'm very brutal about things like your babe did. I would have ended that relationship ASAP. Infact, I ended one because she said I should come to their family house to eat new year food. I was like,can't you bring the food to me? She said nope. Naso I just ignored her till date o

to go sha ,e no bad ,its a get together man ,the next one comes up ,or Easter you can also invite the whole of her family also ,

luminouz:
This is weird!

You knew she was loyal and still wanted to punish her? For what exactly?

most times wen (human ) over think too much when it comes relationship every one is a victim of such ,,john say e girl cheat on am ,u that it doesn't concern will start having insecurities too ,, every one is a victim of such imagination

Masturbator2020:
She was ur girlfriend, never ur wife.Now what if she gets married to the guy she cheated with?

it's from girlfriend,she turns to a wife ,we need to stop this ,she isn't your wife but your girlfriend ,what's is the difference ,bride price? to me there is no difference between a lady who stays with your for couple of years and the one u finally out ring ,na the same character u go still jam for hux ,
just as man way day rude (boyfriend ) will still be rude wen e become husband

PlayMaker14:
Like I earlier said on the previous thread, it was a planned assassination carried out by someone very close to the deceased...

The deceased had a chance to survive the bleeding, but people who want him dead left him bleeding to his death.


Keeping friends is one thing I am really scared of doing nowadays, some might smile with you in your front and stab you at your back.

More investigation should be carried out and it would shock so many people who the mastermind of this wicked act are.

family is enough for me ,

davit:
After 10 years of leaving school, you still sound immature! Obviously you have pride issue. That won't help you go far. You better drop that your pride and call her.. DMH

op is seems to be the first born , Bec many of them are always like that

Volkswagen90:
Op she might not help you, even if she does, u don join her fuvck mate be that, hope u have it big and long.

see as your thinking be ,

MrNipplesLover:
I just hope this OP won't go overboard.
If u go do any illegal stuff just because u felt useless, u go regret am.

Dem dey advise am on the 1st page, him dey do strong head.

U better be legit and hustle more, focus on ur own life and forget about others.

Someone don tell u say she fit be ur luck plug.

Just calm down and run ur own race.

U dey compare urself with a woman?


SMH.

lol...he no even compare e self to man ,na woman the op funny sha

ashybabs:
not just bout that...
its so painful i feel so left behind.

you are not left behind , my secondary class mate where actually way ahead of me after finishing ss3 but god so doing ,I also thought like you ,but now everybody is out of college and university and my brother they are not even way ahead ,,,so just face your path bro

OB7Foreva:
Long story short, there's this girl I've been dating for a year now she's a single mum but I love her for being herself she's so sweet and straight. Whenever this girl visits she throws herself around me like I'm her husband and she always makes sure we had s*x. She's not about the money even if I insist on giving her tfare she'll refuse to take it saying that I should keep it to myself.
Fast forward to last week, she came around I tried touching her and she hit my hand off I ask her what the matter was she said nothing. Lately she have been billing me unnecessarily and talking bluntly at me she even complained about my height the other day...money for her child's milk, money for this money for that, she also asked me to buy her a phone when she knows I'm a student.
Her birthday is in two days time, someone that barely calls me she have bursting up my phone with calls since Monday asking me what I'll gift her on her birthday. I've been having a mixed feeling that she's no longer into me because at first she wanted to build with me but now it seems like I'm the only one fighting for the relationship I'm already losing interest idk if I should tell her to move on or I should keep on dancing to her tune to know what she's getting up to.
Apart from long boring conversations and s*x I honestly can't decipher the importance of being in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

guy finish school first o,there is more to a relationship than it seems physically

baba ,free these ladies , someone will definitely marry them ,if you mistakenly marry one who still has her eyes out side that's y you can send her back to the street legally ,that's y court is available for divorce ,save your self this headache abeg ...date who u wan date and let the ladies be..

bigpicture001:
Bro u don't even get it fully.. Whether they are made or not.. The priorty is money guys over loving guyz

yeah ,thats y it's easier to leave even if they date a rich dude ,and a richer dude comes forth ,but there are some exemption sha ,some ladies are just after a loving guy even if he never hit bag of success ,but these ladies are rear

Nusaibart:
Men are trash scum

why

bigpicture001:
The major reason is that ladies live in fantasy world.. They don't seem to understand or belief that the real world can be different, hence they dream of rich, well built, loving caring guy...

And once you don't fit in well into it after months of relationship, they dump you and start looking for another. Their senses only make a full circle when time is fast running out.... . ..meanwhile guys face the bitter truth much earlier in life.. And gets to see life the way it is

a lady will be fast to dump you when she hasn't invested anything in the relationship ...it's psychological .when you don't invest in a relationship be it time or money you don't value it ,

PastorFire:
Stay away from multiple relationships and focus on one headache. It's more healthy.

multiple relationship na headache I swear to both men and women ,
when it's the prime of a lady to settle down ,it becomes a confusion whom to settle down with most times she goes for who has the money ,but last last joy and happiness isn't available

for the guys na time ,money ,and resources just wasting a way ,within 6 months it's enough to know if you will marry a lady ,I don't know about others people ,if the relationship is more of symbiotic rather than been toxic or parasitic

OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

you actually love him , Bec you have invested in the relationship already,

TheEnygma:
Job at a small guest house, 4pm- 8am...
Job description; Receptionist, room steward, cleaner , laundry man and security and the salary was not even up to 20k..... I ran for my dear life before I come die before my time .

Some employers are just wicked, most of them take advantage of the high rate of unemployment in the country to either maltreat or underpay staff since they know that they'll always be someone else who's desperate for the job.

Bec we don't have an institution that regulates employment for employees

paulemmy19:
I will not accept any marketing job.

marketing job na sucide mission abeg

Vivien458:
Hello everyone, I recently made a post about my friend. He told me he actually wanted to get his girlfriend pregnant, and he wants to have a kid at 25 and also check if he is potent so when he gets to 30 the child is 5 etc.now the big issue is here. She is 21

1: the girl he thought loved him never did, as the girl has refused to keep the baby. He informed his parents and they told the lady they will train the child, but she refused. This guy's make 400k every month as an animator. He also has a shop locally etc. But still in his parents house, Self contain, but is ready to move out. My type of man

2: the girl has threatened to drink sniper and force the baby out if anyone tries to stop her. Her problem is she doesn't want to have kids at all, she has life to explore. Etc. She is still in school though.

What have we suggested?

1: the guy told her to have the baby and let her bring it to him and he will take care of the baby, she shouldn't bring a dime. She said no, she can't bear the pain of carrying that child for 9months all her friends will mock her.

2: the guy suggested to travel her outside the state and pay for a house and nobody will know, until she has the baby, and she said no, she can't abandon her school to satisfy someone else, which is the boyfriend.

3; we have told her that abortion is illegal in Naija, she says it either she aborts or she dies, we should take one.

At this point, my guy backed off, though I've been coming around to help him out with some ideas .

What am I searching for?

Any suggestions on how she can have a good abortion without risking her life.

Is drugs better?

Is Hospital better?

What else can we do?

I made this post on his behalf, so he is reading as a visitor

this your story has k leg o,,,it doesn't seems like a story that has taken place in reality but still under actualization

PrimadonnaO:
Facebook is a poor example, because I've not been active there for years, so I'd naturally not get around to replying messages.

But generally, I don't read a message and deliberately ignore because I'm counting minutes or hours before I reply. That's childish.

it's childish even to my own angle,but will you say psychology is childish,when most person play by the rules of dating,which to me it's all wrong

PrimadonnaO:
What's with all these mind games?

it Isnt,most person or individuals just do that intentionally ,I am very sure u have list of chat on your what's or Facebook you haven't replied ,they are still there praying you reply them someday

LadyTiannah2:
It's because most guys of nowadays rarely do something nice for women without expecting sexual favors in return

who tell u ,?

Naija147:
Bro I sabi give well oo, but the thing be say before we see twice or talk for 2 months in the case of distant relationships I don tire

yeah , distance relationship no easy ,that's y u have to make time for each other ,if you con day where there is a time difference ,my brother you go value the one way day next state to you I swear ....create time , weekends are there travel over,you need to tolerate o

LikeAking:
Op na 4 sex.

Lets be realistic na.

We have a culture in Nigeria.

na the culture day breed bad girls for the society so ,in as much op message sounds some how but there is a level of truth in it

Naija147:
Thanks bro

as you say shoot ,you go spend money sha oo,don't forget that aspect ,if the money part comes very very early it's always a big red flag for me ,I will just ask you straight am I paying for the love ,...25years above are most times ready ,bug below that age brother ,no waste your resources and time abeg

Unlimited4G:
Age may not matter to some.

I can marry a guy that's (4-7yrs) older than me but I can't marry a guy that's younger than me or that's same age bracket with me 'cause I feel he's not matured intellectually and psychologically.

not all who have aged are mature intellectually, haven't you heard of mama's boy ,