₦airaland Forum

justlikedat:
This is one of the problems naija is having

aways afraid of dead ,we go last last die ,and I go happily die for my country for my children Future

one thing is common among all the pics , Avoid Fair ladies ,their wahala too much

Sarita01:
Oga it's not all,everyone have their preference,there are men who prefer airheads to actual intelligent women,maybe you've not met the right woman but there are naija women who are knowledgeable,witty and charismatic,it's just if you find them cow they are few. I've met some naija men who have dull sense of humour,ignorant,can't understand sarcasm and authoritative in all the wrong areas. They're a turn off to me

I might not have met 9ja ladies like you said ,,but I can tell u ,most cant hold a conversation , everything to them is boring not knowing it is them that is actually boring ,the type of answers many give back during a conversation is a mood killer answer,,am sure I am not the first person who has said this before ..make we no pretend or assume

I was in imo state 2014 ,this location has been like this since then ,I can remember and recall every building the the above picture ,I remember the day rain fell and so many people car got stock there

Happyguy201:
absolutely brother but then again . nigerian girls have poor mentality most of them think that when you ask them out on a date it means free food and drinks for them

man ,ever since I stepped outside 9ja ,and I try to engage our nigeria girls back home in a conversation on mobile ,I come to notice that 9ja girls are just boring abeg ,even other Africa ladies still try abeg ,nigeria girls need to understand that life is beyond having sexy face and big Yash

Alkheira:
This guys just dey use Nigeria frustration beat beat people

I swear,we kukuma like fight

Mrscarter:
U mean like bad influences? Yeah sometimes ppl make choices the way their friends do.
I used to be easily influenced as a teen

really ,I hardly get Influenced ,I don't kw if I have been in this life before ,so I don't get freaked by sociality material

sweetilicious:
Husband wey don move on with a white woman.Not making sense

why do u feel so

Arcbox:
Some of you are damed fucking shit with evil mind and that’s how you can never make progress in life.
I am gonna give you an insight into different scenarios you know nothing about.
My family is in Nigeria and I am outside presently. I came for a PhD program on scholarship and just spend one year here. You are allowed to come over with your family. More over, you need to go and see how things look like. My intention was that my family will join me in six month later which is around faburary/March this year. Event turn out that coronavirus strike and every air space is shutdown. My intention was to come and see my family in July as summer break start but Nigeria air space is shut. Now that’s a different ground. Do you know that my little daughter who just turn 3 years and was schooling in Nigeria, her school fees here is over 10million naira per annum?. My wife is living close with the mother and father. I know she miss me but she can never be close to anyone. I trust her and we are on video call every day. Any woman that believe you and your dreams will support you not all about sex. In the western world here, people huzzle and not thinking of romance and sex as you in Nigeria is always engrossed with. I will see my family in November. When you are coming to social media and talking trash because you manage to buy mtn data, you watch what you say because everybody are different.

exactly ,after buy 2gb data for 1k ,they just come online and post trash of ,the woman can't sleep alone ,I don't understand the type of ideology 9ja youth have o seriously

Nuttella:
I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place.

hunger never mama u

franchasng:
pray make owu (financial lack) no catch you and your husband or future husband, you will even encourage him to forget you for life if that would end the sufferings you guys are passing through

I swear ,some don't kw brother ,70 percent of those comments here are either tennager or individuals not yet married ..

when hunger hit you hard ,na ur wife go even day find link for u to travel out ,na love u wan chop

ariklawani:
God bless you, for no reason shld you leave your wife for one year...

for this 9ja economic,u go ready adapt o,,, except say na love you wan chop

lefulefu:
yea before..i no dey benin for now

ok

lefulefu:
there is one story that happened in benin..this rich mani don forget im name.they said in the early 90s there was a wife of his who cheating on him with reckless abandon.the woman even slept with his gate man and driver.In anger the man carried his children with him overseas abandoning the woman.Today if u see the woman she look like a mad woman.na for street she dey stay.the reporter that was interviewing her she was begging the reporter to help him try and contact her ex husband cos hunger wan kill her.they asked what of the driver she left her husband for and she said the driver left him.she was telling the reporter to help contact her husband and tell him to forgive her.her children go don be adults now.wen infidelity break marriage ehn e dey hard for that marriage to get mended again

na benin u day ?

Jonathan39:
Only a poor man worries over a woman's pussy.

I swear

bukatyne:
Money is not everything

When one passes survival mode, that realization comes naturally.

but na love we wan chop

lefulefu:
the 80s and 90s was really tough .there was this lecturer then i was a kid.he travelled to uk for his Phd and during that time he got rumours that his wife was cheating on him.Though his wife aways disrespected him then when they were together in naija but dere was nothing about cheating.when he went for his phd and came back he heard news about his sleeping with another fellow lecturer in his work place.He got mad and chased her but their catholic priest called the man and talked strongly to him.He accepted her back sha but the man died some few years back.He was cleaning his car and when he bent down to clean his car tire he collapsed and died.Some ppl were saying it was high blood pressure.Ever since the priest reconciled him with his wife he was never a hppy man

na waooo,,,,,,the koko be say when you have the mind set of hustle for your kids bro u will be the last person to worry about ur wife cheating on you , because last last na she go loss everything ....

virginprincess:
i reall pity him.

na wa oo,I distance myself from such friends , thank God for social media ,I do advise guys if u find your self in a country that doesn't give citizen ship ,just try communicate often ,and try set up a running business for her to occupy her mind and soul for the whole day because last last na the kids we day chase the money for ,make they kw suffer like us

lefulefu:
but many young guys do it.na the way way many of these young sugar boys dey take feed for abuja or abi i lie?

my brother I kw that for sure ,i keep telling myself ,I am not ready for marriage at the moment,even if I do ,I will definitely spend time like 2 years home with business running smoothly for me ,and I hustle for my kids mostly

lefulefu:
her friends would always chip in and disturb her on the issue.there friends who even will link the lady to other men.If a man is unfortunate to travel for a long time leaving his wife and kids at home he should try as much as possible to communicate with them reguarly.Try and do a video call with them when u have time..video calling more better than normal call..Some guys would be giving excuses that it will make them look week or look lihostingke woman wrapper..but then we are talking of wife and not just ordinary gf.Assure her u still have her in ur heart.that might do the trick.thankfully we live in a age of andriod and iphones so videocall no go too hard.

yeah definitely ,thank God for social media,I wonder how ladies lived back in the 90s when no social media ,

Mrscarter:
Going without sex isn't that hard.
I don't see how ppl can't do it.
It's no big deal. It depends on your priorities in life and how important your wife/husband is to you and how much you love them

if u occupy the lady with one or 2 tins back home sex will be the last tin she will think of all day , except she has some virus call a friend's

Michelle55:
If she can't wait, let her buy vibrator na. But it ain't an easy feat being without your spouse.

Then again, being faithful isn't something we do for our spouse like most people think, it's an individual decision to stay sane and worthy and not to turn to a public rest room where anyone can come in and deposit their spunks.

Dear men abroad about wifing our ladies in Nigeria, make una consider say body no be firewood too, make una try dey reach house at least every 6months or 1yr edakun.

As for me, I don't know if I'll be able to cope without seeing my spouse (not on the ground of sex) but I like seeing my partner every day, listen to his tales on how is day went, make him smile it off and lastly gum body

When you place value on yourself, you go wait as a wife knowing he isn't playing there but rather trying to make life easier for you and the kids.

thank for been real babe

ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

exactly ,I tell guys don't hustle because of a woman ,do it for ur kids

MrBrownJay1:
That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

oga I don't understand u ,a young guy should go sleep with someone's wife ? why kin guy u be self ?

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

some guys are like that ,fire way day quench never meet am

eejo:
I left my Wife in Nigeria early this year for overseas after getting the job of my dream. My Organization is ready to move my family anytime am ready. People are leaving Nigeria because of the Economic situation and the way APC is managing the country. Don't blame the Men but the country.

who no go ,kw kw ,leave them make they they talk

samnaija:
Wrong , a child that wants to be bad will be bad. So according to you the deprivation of things made you no my brother. Parenting is very complex. My parents will provide bountifully for me so that my eyes don't go astray to other kids things. And I am ok also. Even I make sure my kids also get the best so when they go outside things don't freak them to the point they doubt themselves.
If you are not capable or not that type of person don't feel superior and telling people it is right.
Every parenting style is different the goal is to have good kids.

wrong ,a child born into dis world has a brain of clean slate ,u input wat you want inside ,

timbabng:
I hope the op is practising the same "fingers are not equal" theory on himself. In case someone wants to help his life with a nice gift, like a car or house, he should decline for fear of reciprocation.

don't always give a child that the world is a bed of roses ,what u are saying is actually how most kids get spoilt ,when they face the real world ,they complain every day ,I got a friend , whose parents wanted him to study med ,but dude started demanding for stuff that where beyond him ,200level ,he needs a car ,bus needs a good apartment ,but last last he still fail ,when the parents started to deny him of such materialistic life style ,he had to buckle up ,...

no go use ur hand spoil ur pikin and later start to blame one demon

NaijaCr7:
Poverty mentality mixed with inferiority complex

It's a gift and am sure it would have been what the child (celebrant) wished for.. I am sure no inscription on the box reads you must Payback with similar gesture.

Why don't u stop breathing because you think u can't pay God what it worth.

You go your friend party he serve you rice and chicken shey that one mean say u no go invite am come yours cos na rice Nd fish u fit afford.

And for those Mofos saying PS4 is counter productive, you need to do more research. Gaming helps develop mental reasoning and decision making, the only bad side is addiction, and we all know addiction to any thing is likely dangerous.

Modified.
Let's assume the father of the celebrant gets to know about such act from the child's father, in the future when such child need his connection to get something am sure he might be skeptical offering a hand....when you can afford a school where your child can mix with the influential what you teach them is power of humility, sharing and contentment. You don't create enemies for them because of perceived competition

u kw,while I was growing up ,back in secondary school,mg parents actually wrote emails and letter to the school why I can't attend a traveling trips at the school disposal ,or why I can't pay certain amount of fees ,not because my parents didn't have the money but they always weigh the outcome of the whole situation ,if u are a parent and every thing ur kid calls to u ,u are on the run to provide dude that is how u start to spoil the child ,u have actually made the kid think the world is a bed off roses ,and trust me when he or she gets to the real world ,he or she can't cope never .....that has made me who I am today ,so don't call it poverty no body has money tree at his backyard ,u just have to use ur brain ,don't let one confuse parent tell u or dictate to you how u should socially train ur kid

foolbuster:
The truth is the truth. This write-up is pure fact. Truth of the matter is that the Nigerian government have turned almost all of our women to prostitutes
Lalasticlala over to you.

that's true

gregyboy:
Same way those countries feel nigeria is better than them until dey step into d countries,
They are only deceived by the oil we have

And the fake entertainment we put up on tvs, bros talk truth those African countries are better than us

I am speaking not as a person who has been to other Africa countries but I have interact with them in person and I don't need to back stab my country even wen we are making effort to be better ,9ja day try ,na because of the situation on ground so even if solution is taking place u will not fill the impart

ghuzy01:
Bro they will never know how great Nigeria is compared to these African countries. I was talking with one Rwanda national here in Canada, he was like all the promotion of Rwanda is all packaging,they are really lacking behind and look up to Nigeria. Beside Rwanda is just one city country. After kigali..nothing else. The Kigali self can't stand port Harcourt.

Sometimes I tire for Nigerians

I have a Rwanda as a friend currently ,and he told me frankly there is nothing in Rwanda , physically all looks good but internally there is nothing to write about