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this is one of the few sensible posts on nairaland nowadays, Seun should be paying people like this

a2space:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.

your background is part of it which determines the kind of people you end up having around you both at work and neighborhood. not all bachelors feel like you and don't think every unmarried lady you see feels lonely. one trip, I repeat one trip to a developed country and you will understand that marriage is just optional and that Nigerians are the most ignorant people in the world. talking about lonely do you mean you have no girlfriend? or is it lonely of having noise in your house? do you read books at all? do you have any goal that isnt giving you time to even call family members in a whole month? there are single men and ladies living like that my brother many many of them are my friends, one finally married last year at 43 and he is happier and richer than most married folks i know even before he married. and lastly if any pastor is making you feel your greatest assignment on earth is to give birth to children and you believe it then am sorry for you because you haven't seen loneliness yet

WHATEVER YOU DO DONT EVER SLEEP WITH HER WHILE SHE LIVES UNDER YOUR ROOF WITH YOUR WIFE! AND REMEMBER IT ALWAYS PASSES, AFTER YOU NACK HER, A WHILE LATER YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF FOR IT AND THERE MIGHT EVEN BE MORE ISSUES IF YOU ARE UNLUCKY. SHE IS SOMEONE IN NEED OF HELP FROM A HUMBLE BACKGROUND - THAT IS WHY SHE IS A HOUSEGIRL IN THE FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT IT IS, EVEN IF SHE IS THE ONE WANTING YOU, SHE DOSENT KNOW WHAT SHE IS DOING AND THIS IS NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF.
AND LASTLY ONE THING ABOUT THE MIND, WHEN YOU REFUSE TO FEED IT, IT CORRECTS ITSELF. sHE COULD HAVE BEEN YOUR DAUGHTER AND THIS CAN ALSO HAPPEN TO YOUR DAUGHTER. IF YOU DIE OR YOUR SOURCE OF INCOME DRIES UP, YOUR DAUGHTER TOO WILL BE A HOUSEGIRL. A WORD IS ENUF FOR THE WISE

BlackPeni5:
Yaradua's government killed Yusuf and gave us the Boko Haram problem today. When they eventually kill Zakzaky, they will blame the subsequent southern government.

What crime did he commit when he was not part of the procession. If the procession was illegal, was he warned earlier by the police? Has he been warned about previous processions in the past?

If the government is trying to justify it's illegality via this sham trial, it should also be prepared for the consequences. Later they will start begging for reconciliation and settlement when the issue has gone out of hand.

so you now agree it was yaradua that caused Bokoharam? i thought people call them northerners that hate Goodluck?

jakiedudu:
PMB's silence after the brutal massacre of shiites last weekend is an indication that he endorsed the actions of the army. This attitude will send negative signals to the international community especially Iran that Nigerian govt sees nothing wrong in killing shia groups.

does Iran say anything when those shia group with cutlasses massacre christians? are you telling me if those soldiers were unarmed Christians they would have walked free? so did Mohammed build any highways for Nigeria so that muslims can close? abeg

Ayt27:
Nobody knows the people behind the scenes, and since you are behind the scenes Mr Okoye, nobody would recognise you.
You should know that by now, but probably your ego won't allow you too.

I remember few years back when the VP of Mtv was bounced at the Mama awards, it was until those Kennis music men came that the guy was allowed to enter.

Security wey dey bounce Oga, because him never see hin Oga before.

this kind of situation underscores the African problem, why does he expect to be known and what is the big deal about being known? I have more money than many celebrities and i don't wish to be known by anybody that doesn't matter, so what's the big deal?

Abbykem:
And u tink all d guy's don't know



When it comes to pu33y, guys no dey keep secrets from each other



Believe me, they all know that u r fu3king dem



That's why they keep coming



Or are u really beautiful with d sexy body of Kim K?



Get a life girl.

boys don't keep secret but don't try some men, I am sure those men aren't saying nothing. the young lady is actually a victim but she has decided to make the best of it. my advice to you young lady is to pick only the boss, drop the others but in a matured way. start forming church girl but keep the boss. lastly see if you can have a worth besides your body, your body will take you to some place one day but you will need brains to stay there and that is the day your own judgement day will come and it always comes quote me. enjoy the moment but make hay to change and keep your mouth shut everywhere

menesheh:
If Buratai's name was Ihejirika & Buhari's name was Jonathan, I sincerely doubt a lot of us would have been in the camps we currently are in

stop expecting to be hated or loved without earning it. people will hardly hate you if you don't earn it either one way or another. this is the thinking causing ibos to fail politically, they expect to be loved without earning it. so at this stage you think Jonathan earned been loved ? really?

lovaleenny:
This ur grammar get double k-leg


Modified: if this is true...i humbly suggest u divorce her,she has a high libido and she doesn't have respect for you or your union and her indulgence will only affect you the more...some women have high libido but they don't cheat,they rada buy Love Machine till d tym dey meet their husband...

so he is the one that respected her by committing adultery he refused to confess abi? so his sorry excuse is to hide behind some archaic culture that protects only the men abi? so Mr OP have you asked your parents if there is punishment for you that first cheated on her? that should be the first thing to tell your parents before her own

tosyne2much:
First and foremost, for the few years I have lived on earth, one thing I noticed about life is that, people tend to ride and be in control of your life when you subject yourself under their authority and leadership


Personally, I'm not that type of a delusional person that always attributes the challenges of men to spiritual problems, and I so much believe in the saying "no one does the same thing over and over again expecting different results". I think you should change your way of life, it may be your dressing, manner of talking, too much stalking, the perception you have towards people, how you treat people, your social relationship, your self esteem, etc

I'm not necessarily trying to tell you to become a pretender in a bid to finding the right partner. All I'm trying to say is that, Just change your way of life and see if you would still get the same result. You might think you've got the qualities every craves for, but mind you, there might be something you are ignorant of which pissess them off


That aside, some people are not so lucky when it comes to dating, it's always a sorrowful experience and emotional trauma that ends it. You might just be that type of a person. Since you are not more a kid, kindly discuss it with your mother and also take it to God in prayer

best advice so far, there is something she is doing or not doing that she isn't aware of. then she might also be drawn to kinds of men she doesn't know she has nothing in common with.

femu:
Question is if you were to represent the army at an arbitration what will be your defence?

How do you intend to avoid compensation?
The army is already going to spend 10bn in 2016 to pay compensation for Odi and zaki-biam.

Backup your arguments with the law not emotion and sentiments

how many Christians and other religions have this same northern Muslim youths massacred in issues where they have no right just like this in the past? and nobody has compensated affected Christian families, pls answer within the law and not emotions

femu:
when a British soldier was hacked to death in front of a barracks did the British govt order a slaughter of muslims?

continue to justify the brutal actions of security forces, when you or someone close to you have a personal encounter with them you will know better.

remember this same forces can be unleashed against anyone or any group. rule of law is what guarantees our individual right

RULE OF LAW TO BLOCK A HIGHWAY FOR YOUR RELIGIOUS ACTIVITY? DID YOU LISTEN TO YOURSELF?

Soldiers were trying to pass a state road, a road for all citizens and the muslim crowd came and said the soldiers must respect their tradition. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS CAUSING PROBLEMS BETWEEN MUSLIMS AND OTHERS ALL OVER THE WORLD! MUSLIMS HAVE NO REGARDS FOR OTHERS THE MOMENT IT HAS TO DO WITH THEIR RELIGION WHICH THEY CARRY ON THEIR HEAD 24/7. IMAGINE SOLDIERS PLEADING WITH YOU AND YET YOU ARE ADAMANT? THIS IS HOW MUSLIMS BLOCK THE ROAD FOR PRAYER EVERYWHERE, BUT UNLUCKILY FOR THEM PEOPLE WITH GUNS WERE PASSING ON THAT PARTICULAR DAY. ARE THESE THE PEOPLE THEY WERE CALLING UNARMED CIVILIANS? THESE ARE THE SAME KIND OF WEAPONS USED IN SLAUGHTERING THOUSANDS OF CHRISTIANS IN ZARIA, KANO, KADUNA, BAUCHI, ETC FROM TIME IMMEMORIAL. ARE THERE MUSLIMS THAT ARE READY TO REFORM THEIR RELIGION AT ALL? NO I DOUBT BECAUSE I REALIZED EVEN THEM ARE SCARED OF EACH OTHER

Realwvn:
My wife and I had been married 15 years and we had been through some challenging times like most couples. Our sex life was regular but my wife was never really willing to explore things in the bedroom and whilst I desired her to be more adventurous l accepted it.

I had bought some toys but she seemed aghast at thought of using them. I received a promotion at work and the demands of the role meant longer hours at work and often compiling reports late into the night. During this time I noted my wife gradually spending more time on the computer on social media mainly with her group of close friends. Over a 6 month period she stayed up later and later and I would tell her to come to bed but eventually fall asleep. Not long after this she told me her and a friend were going to another state to visit a work colleague. Given l was busy at work l thought a good chance to catch up over the weekend. So the wife went and returned and said she had a great time and caught up with some old and new friends so l was happy for her. She soon returned to staying up late and noticeably seemed consumed by her mobile. this continued and a month or so later I had a conference out of town and asked if wife wanted to come for the few days but she said she would get bored. So this came and went and it appeared my wife was losing interest in sex.

One day out of curiosity l decided to check the home computer and in checking the history l found the previous night an adult web site had been accessed. I didn’t think much of it but a few days later same thing so I asked wife and she said it was prob just a pop up she may have accidentally accessed.

The history log was wiped from thereafter. I could never see my wife having an affair but it began to eat at me thus l downloaded some spyware. The results stunned me as l found my wife was . I accessed emails and pics and found my wife had spent a weekend not with a friend but with a guy who she spent all weekend sleeping with. Explicit pics showed her being a total dirty slut and the guy was very well endowed and noticeably much thicker than I. He had also travelled and slept with her in our bed whilst l was on the conference.

I love her so much, I have forgiven her but the thought of it can’t make me go near her again.. I don’t know what to do, I am scared of starting over with another woman again or being alone


http://www.naijanewsrave.com/my-wife-slept-with-another-man-what-should-i-do/

if not for our ignorant culture this is not an issue, after 15yrs of sleeping with her aint you bored yourself? in other parts of the world what couples do at this point in marriage is to live on as best friends and even date other people, the fact she slept with that guy doesn't mean she wants you dead, it doesn't mean she wants the guy 24/7 in her life, it doesn't mean she thinks the guy a greater guy than you. she just wanted something new and that is all. save record of her infidelity, stop initiating sex with her, get a gf outside and don't make too much effort to hide it but continue to be a good husband and father to your kids. if she makes the mistake of catching you then show her her deeds then let her know you understood with her and now she has to understand too. you will not believe how many couples live like this in nija right now

Ghandi12:
At this perilous time this needs urgent review from the national assembly. I doubt if the beneficiaries are not ashamed of benefiting luxuries like these in the midst of starving millions.

This reminds one of Shakespearing courts - always running with lavish food and wine while the masses lack.

as at 4 years ago a retired CBN director earns N1.2m per month as pension after collecting N120m as gratuity, I can also confirm to you that Emefiele has almost doubled it since he became governor so if you call that stipend of 350k a luxury then you haven't heard news for a long time. and if you think CBN is news then you need to hear about FIRS, NCC, BPE, TETFUND, Bulk Electricity, DPR, see my guy unemployed youths have no idea what many parastatals pay their staffs otherwise this country should have burnt by now

dayomike:
I can only see a man resisting an arrest and forcefully being put in a bus, can't see any beating in this part of the video may be in another part. Law is our problem and the solution to our problem.




If a man steals a phone worth of #5000 we give him maximum shishi (jungle justice) like no ones business and probably take him to police station to continue with his "deserved punishment" but if police handles top politician who made away or mismanaged our billions we call it abuse of fundamental right.....may God help us.

You said it all

omojeesu:
Thanks for this intro. Ive checked on her. Never heard of her until now. My own comments were essentially derived from observations from history and other sources contemporary experience and Biblical perspectives including its eschatology.

I doubt if Islam would ever been reformed. Islam will remain as the Catholic Church has remained after Protestant 'Reformation'. Islamic form of reformation may be one of the many deceptive acts the AntiChrist may carry out as he unifies world religions.

truly, I doubt if Islam will reform because they lack sincerity as you said

get a gf and don't waste your time looking for one classy a-hole, just get something that you can shine kongo when needed. delete all porn video cos it reduces intelligence and discontinue self serv becos it leads to madness from what I heard

omojeesu:
Less than 100years!

In 30 - 40 years, as Maumar Ghadafi predicted, Europe would be won demographically and democratically not by war!

My opinion is that the power brokers of Europe are either ignorant / naive or are actual secret agents of Islam.

I'm sorry for Europeans and even Americans. They may discover late that their democratically elected leaders are the ones who finally will do them in.

My brother sadly white people appear only to excel in the numerate fields of knowledge and fail woefully in social-related issues. Though they err more on the side of been too magnanimous and diplomacy. I think you should listen more to people like Ayaan Hirsi Ali - you have more to learn from individuals like her.

omojeesu:
The spirit of Islam is the spirit of violence.

Muslims as minority pipe low and claim oppression.
As equal, seek dominance.
In majority, they oppress as we see in ALL Islamic countries Arab and nonArab e.g. Pakistan, Indonesia, Iran and our own Northern Nigeria

Despite this Islam is the toast of Western Media while they mock Jesus and blacken Christianity.

don't worry, s
as for the West they are finished, 100yrs from today and Europe will be Islamic and part of OIC/

Iroh88:
Muslim leaders/politicians in this country need to invest more in the education of their people. Some of the disturbances witnessed in that part of the country are mainly due to illiteracy.

educate muslims and you get yourself well-spoken bomb makers. raise them from poverty and you get abdul mattalabs, there is nothing anyone can do about Islam and violence

The world needs realists like Donald Trump, time up for Deluded Obamas and Clintons

Mrbigman1:
The dasuki guy is been under lock and figures are reeling out like pressure leak just to buy some people's mind.

Imagine they said GEJ wasted 980 billion dollars.

Please have our budget exceeded 3 billion dollars in any year?

Even d soludo and sunisi could not say a word here cos they know dat a sugar cane chewing idiot is looking at figure and giving a multiplyer effect.

At the end, d real truth will come out but most souls must ve being sold to the devil.

That's how dey mentioned the billions in used for independent day celebrations and later a more sane figure came out.

Apc forgot that in Nigeria, ruling is just about 1 and half years or 2. The rest is campaigning and d rest. They really wanna use this one and play politics and waste some persons 4 years. Me? Am more than them.

so over N4 trillion budget of each year is equal to 3 billion dollars? no wonder they said Jonathan divided the con3 into into foools and wise people and he picked the foools as followers.

Have anyone observed that? Could it be connected to Dasuki been their sponsor? In fact since Dasuki's arrest we seem to be hearing less and less form the cowards called bokoharam. the only weapon they seem to have now is cowardly suicide attack

if you're good in db both sql and oracle, and you can add sysadmin (mcitp) and add working knowledge of redhat you can't be jobless except if you not good. add html too.

dockokwus:
Why he has to release it is what I don't understand.

yeah the aim isn't clear sha but its a good information which can douse many misconceptions

dockokwus:
What's the background to this release because I don't understand how this helps anybody.Instead,it wud open up further cracks and further riffs in an already suspicious gathering of bigots in the contraption called nigeria.
Who even asked him!

He is from Ebonyi - a southerner so he is not against Ibos! And he is even a very very correct man - worked for him before during a project

go to a medicine store close to you, buy 150mg Lagatin, at your current stage the medicine will work for you

biggmusty:
congratulations! 4 idiots agree with u

stop showing your stupidity, if you think its only few people that support Trump and that know muslims for what they really are then you are on a long thing. we know what islam is and it plays on TV every day, one day its paris, another day its US, Mali, Kenya, Nigeria, etc. only a morooon will hope to convince others that islam is a religion. we understand how you muslims are quick to control the narrative with your usual falsehoods, after the Nairobi mall attack the Muslim community quickly came up with the story of a muslim security guard that saved some people's life, same thing in paris attack, luckily the white people especially americans are falling for it but many of us have started to see your strategy, that is what Trump has seen and its hurting the satanic cult called islam

Trump has said what foools have avoided saying in the name of political correctness

Rossikk:
Ignoramus, do you realise Trump is a certified racist who considers you subhuman?

so blacks are superhuman? you must live under a rock. oloshi. you think you are equal to white people? is it because people shy away from saying it on tv? you uppity morooon