₦airaland Forum

Horayce: In the west, kids are generally not beaten,yet they grow up to be responsible and well behaved citizens for the most part; can't say the same for Nigeria with our holier than thou attitudes on raising kids. My siblings and I were not flogged and we turned out ok, it's entirely possible dude.

Do you really mean western kids are well behaved? Hmmmm. Please can you illustrate how you came to this conclusion.

However, consider these two scriptures

1.Rod (beating) and reproof (correction, caution) giveth wisdom and a child left to himself bringeth his Mother shame.

2. Chasten your child while you can and let your heart not rend ( melt) for his cries.

God is the author of man and only He has the true instruction for dealing with him.
Mothers in the house advocating contrary positions beware! It is you that your unchastised child will bring shame.

koboko67: Ihejirika kinsmen are the problem of this country. Ethnicity covers thier sense of reasoning, making them think like toddlers. The sensible ones avoid making comments on delicate topics like this. Butnthe minors are the ones always wining all over the place saying poo

Pls do not develop HBP.

If you sincerely think the unrepentant Boko Haram will divulge their true sponsors, then you are a miserable toddler yourself. What do you think is the intents of a blood thirsty terrorist group that is yet to give up their trade disclosing their lifeline to the enemy? Whosoever discloses tradesecrets is heading for destruction, and BH is smart enough to know that.

By the way, since they gave away their "sponsors", who has been sponsoring their activities now they are more than ever daring even to set up a caliphate under Shekau?

silica: The English language is dieing in this country. I cant believe that vanguard editor allowed this much errors to be published. Tomorrow they will join in complaining about the failure rate in WAEC and NECO exams. Yet they can't put togther a single paragraph without committing grammatical blunders. Even the spelling of simple words and their past tense is a problem. God save Nigeria

When recruitment standard is on a free fall in the name of cost cutting. Do not be surprised that the poorly paid correspondent is just s fresh OND holder.

Junipero: All the Ladies coming here to air out how richer they were than their Spouses. How they supported him/her. How in-laws hated on the situation. I have just one thing to point out.

With all due respect, you all have failed the first test. The Law of Subtlety in Marital Unions. What does this mean?

Subtlety in terms of keeping private family issues personal. You as a good partner shouldn't come here to explain how not-so-good your Partner is/was doing.

Why not just be coy about it and pass the important message. I don't know if you are getting my point. He/She is your other Half. Keep it low-key.

All the same, may your marriages move from strength to strength. Jah Bless!

Pls can you tell us the real-life identities of these ladies?

oz4christ: It is indeed ok for a woman to earn more but guys, let's be honest. Look around u and tell me the kind of women u see. Only a few will earn more and still respect their husbands. These things are easier said than done. Even born again Christians don't. It starts little by little. Unless the man choose to play a fool.

Your wife can earn much more without any qualms on the relationship. In most cases, what causes the resentment men interprete as arrogant is if the man is not doing his best or outrightly lazy, ( which is increasingly the order of the days), while she inturn slaves to earn the money used to support the man.

Respect comes naturally from your exploits. God commanded women to respect their husbands because He expects that men be hardworking like Him, their creator.

No reasonable woman would be convinced that her husband is doing his best ( even without so much to show for it) without opening her treasury to support him totally.

So Men, let's wake up!

virago: Even a stark illiterate can become a multi millionaire tomorrow , education is not the only key to riches

Very correct. Confirm from PEJ

buoye1: Satisfied with all the responses so far!with al dis violence here and there,u stil xpect ppu 2 blv islam?......religion of "ecaep" in deed

Muslim are always looking for cheap validation. How many christian post have you seen implicitly begging for approval?

Truth does not need arguments!

seunmsg: Just read over what you wrote again and see if you make any sense. So Boko Haram sympathisers were able to frustrate our duly elected president Jonathan, the minister of defence and all the military chiefs from procuring hardware to fight terrorism? If an El Rufai can frustrate the president and the entire Nigerian army from procuring needed equipment, then I think those calling the president clveless are right after all. Just imagine Obama telling Americans that sympathisers of Al queda or ISIS are frustrating his government from acquiring weapons to fight terrorism. Am sure the GOP will roast his balls the next day.

As for Ihejerika, he should bury his head in shame. An Army general that was frustrated by an ordinary civilian like El Rufai. Big shame on him.

Who frustrated the $1b loan request by the president for the purchase of modern military hardware for Nigerian Army?

We Nigerians really deserve our fate.

shizzle11hiv: Der is no doubt in my mind that Ihejirika is the main sponsor of Bokoharam. The menace of BH was under control till GEJ appointed this incompetent man and he totally messed things up. There is no doubt he has a hand in all of this.

Why cry now after the Aussie journalist revealed his part in terrorism in Nigeria?

Only for the eddiot to making counter allegations after he has been busted. Ihejirika should be arrested and investigated immediately

That Australian must be omniscient to have accused Ihejirika of sponsoring BH and on that authority you are calling for his arrest. This is a man that had contained those terrorists before all things fell apart after his exit.

It is either you guys are misvhievous or have deeply seated colonial mentality.

Sincere9gerian: Meanwhile, if an Ihejirika from the southeast is the person remote controlling the destruction and dilapidation of an entire region using the instrumentality of Boko Haram, then it means Ihejirika must be a geniuse with extra-ordinary or even supernatural powers while the leaders of the region being destroyed are the biggest fool since the creation of mankind for allowing such devastation by an outsider.

Gbam!!!!

ceenote: In trying to help you win your girl back, I have come up with a solution as below:

1. Make money
2. Make more money
3. Keep making more money
4. Repeat steps 1 to 3

I'm sure she'll come back. I feel your pain bro. Please, don't fall into depression. There's someone for everyone! Goodluck

oludashmi: Just calm down. Communicate with her even if it's by sms now that you suspect some changes, your communication should be more of sharing whatever burden she's carrying.

Then, you need to know how far she has gone with the posting the guy is helping her with. She probably may be going thru some stress and so much call at that moment can be annoying.

If all attempt to get her attention is futile, then you can tell her'she has changed'. But that shouldn't be your first point.

#NigerianHeadlines

Sister, if the situation were to be the opposite or it happened your BF started acting funny suddenly, would you in all sincerity follow these steps suggested above?

@OP
Ladies do not have mercy on crying babies. They only respond to men that show strenght of character in this kind of situation. Just ignore her totally and demonstrate visibly that you are happy. She will come back begging.

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thepathologist: u will swallow ur vomit. accident or serious illness is awaiting u or ur family members. then u would beg educated fools to rescue you.

For using such words, you must be a very heartless doctor. That same heartlessness that led you people to embark on an unpopular strike that is taking tolls on lives of nigerians over selfish demands.

Medicine is a vocation, not business. If you want the kind of wealth comparable to political office holders, then drop the vocation and go contest for political office.

phantom: not just any doctor o!! he sacked the very people on which our health system is based. looks like you guys dont understand who resident doctors are.

he sacked highly skilled doctors!! that is you CANT REPLACE THEM WITH OTHER DOCTORS. THAT IS THE ISSUE.

Highly skilled ko. Nigerians still flock to india for the most elemental treatment. Your next defence will now be that government is underfunding the health sector, yet the same is producing "highly skilled" doctors according to you.

The gamble has backfired. Maybe if the resident doctors start sponsoring themselves, they might start enjoying better welfare than what the tax payers are offering.

Leopantro: there are only 27,000 medical doctors in Nigeria. you sack 16,000. you have less than 300 doctors in military, Navy and air force combined. nobody wants to come to Nigeria right now due to Ebola. where well you get replacement from?

But nothing has changed. Doctors are presently on strike inspite of the outbreak of ebola and are not currently helping with the management of the epidemic. So with or without replacement, nothing will change.

onyxo76: just like that? do you think its every doctor that is interested in working as a resident? Besides they are not fools, who will want to work in a hostile environment with all these health sector problems..

Most doctors are interested in doing residency. You do not realise that teaching hospitals organize a stringent recruitment exercise for their resident doctors. Some doctors eventually are unable to get a slot. This is their chance.

babyosisi: Prophet Mohammed married a 6 year old and you don't condemn pedophilia because the 6 year old was happy on the day of the marriage?
You folks are funny

@ the posters,you see why the problem here is Islam?
They can doublespeak all they want ,the truth remains that they aspire to follow the footsteps of their prophet and here you have it written in black and white
Pedophilia is part of their tenets and they are not about to give it up anytime soon
Giving it up is condemning Mohammed.
There you have it

Medical science agrees that girls today are more mature physically than they were ages ago
So your theory of 6 year old women in the time of Mohammed is completely false.

Madam, pls leave all these empty islamist barrells that are running in a circle. The supposed happy infant brides have suddenly woken up. Thank God Otapiapia is available and cheap , now a tool used by "happy" infant wives to settle scores. Mischievous custom.

PassingShot: Even many western countries legally allow girls younger than 14 to marry. All that is required is the consent of a parent or guardian. So, from that context you cannot fault this practice since the consent of the parents were involved too.

And to say that she wouldn't have killed him if she went into it willingly is too bogus and not correct. We have seen many marriages of adults even in the south that ended in tragic just like this one. Only that in those ones we don't talk about age of the victim or the murderer since that is not always a factor.

My point is that she could still have killed him even if she was 35 years who chose to marry the man for many other reasons.

Myopia at work. You are at a great pain defending an abominable practice that has started backfiring. Okay go ahead and take your own infant wife and get poisoned too. Mchewwee

Doclight: hmmmmm!

I've been reading through all the posts posted here, and i'm perplexed.

Hmmmm, although i believe the present scholars are somewhat down, but i strongly believe that their achitect is from the exams body.

I can confidently tell you that in nigeria, hot-brains are not welcomed, but system-brains.

The exam bodies takes delight to cause mass failure so as not to loose customers, this can be seen in subjects like maths, eng, lit, phys, chem, and sometimes econs
These they do, knowing that phys is a very important subject for any aspiring science student, lit and econs for art and social science students respectively.

For example in 2013, there was a failure epidemic in lit and phys. Many a candidates got below a "c" grade, thereby keeping them stranded. In jamb, obviousivity is prevalent.

What i'm saying in conclusion is that exam bodies should desease from exam-ill-practices, then students would be serious.

Thanks

Read your last paragraph and tell me if your hypothesis above is correct or not. Our youth.should endeavour to create a good future for themselves today. If you imagine how much parents spend on school fees these days yet with such abysmal output, you just cringe.

Kanwulia: I nor hate Naija men o!
I hate the way they treat womlen and children!
Look at this rat deeeeeek in this story that tried to phock one widow because of 800 Naira?
Na so una lives be.
Personal experience ke. . . .I go kill the man first ke! Try moi!
I have none. . . the reason I boil with anger when I read SORDID stories like these!
Na your level be dat o!

Mellow down for wetin?
Sorry I can't. . . . No apologies!

You have made no useful contribution to this discourse. Are you naturally a nuisance? Hm

chinolization: Taaa gbafuo from here! Who dash you Anambra citizen? Imagine a daft claiming Anambra!

You have your ghost here not only your people but I am a living witness here, serious work is currently ongoing and your frustration cannot affect our speed. I will get pix soon to shame you devil..

ENEMIES of progress who think we will stop on the way, we ain't stopping! We will keep leading the pack in all ramifications of development!


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Guy tell them. We do not increase, we multiply developments.

BizBloke: [color=#000033]If I see someone wearing same outfit as I am, I feel somehow and the next time, I probably won't put that particular outfit on. I may get another one. Actually, due to this, I over-think what I buy - from t-shirts, trousers, footwear, headgear, wristwatch, etc: technically, this has upgraded me to sucking at shopping; I could spend hours making a choice. And yes, I like designing everything I wear, in order not to 'catch' someone else doing same.[/color]

Are you a crossdresser? Hm

QuiverBox: I just find it absurd, how people come to Nairaland, register new Monikers just to post a Problem about their Lifes.

I am sure the OP is an existing Registered Nairalander Before 31st of July. But she decided to Register a New Moniker for the sole purpose of Posting about what her Husband did.

If you can't post your problem with your existing Moniker don't register a new moniker to post it. Registering a new Moniker means that you doubt your INTERGRITY and YOUR ATTITUTE.

As if that is not enough, you know are telly Us that the issue is petty, we are only hearing from your own side, your hubby is not her to tell us what really transpired. Obviously deep within you, you know the issue is not petty, if it were you would have stated the issue explitcily.

Nairaland is not a Congregation of Witches , Wizards and Spirits, if you can't tell us honestly what you did to your Husband, keep your problem to yourself.

#OVER AND OUT

When an experienced/responsible woman speaks on issue of relationship, it sheds real light.
Sister, you too much.

DrGroove: I don't know why women still expect much from men of nowadays.Once a man is nice enough to marry you,don't expect even good morning from him again.if he doesn't say happy birthday, will u die?Marriage is for society respect,not for a man to be telling u happy birthday n giving bday gifts.If u have a job,cant u buy any gift for urself?Stop creating a big deal out of nothing. You apologised so ignore whatever reaction he is creating. Save ur emotions for ur kids.Emotions mean nothing to men.

Speaks like a wife in a troubled marriage.

mstik: LOL. I say insensitive because she apologised and he still is not talking to her-even on her birthday! And you know how important birthdays are to us women lol Anyway, marriage is not a bed of roses and he should know that forgiveness is an important aspect in marriage.

Madam judge, do you care to know what the OP did to her husband that elicited such grave reaction? I also hope that the word sorry has the same effect on you as you expected it to have on the OP's hubby irrespective of the gravity of offence.

doctokwus: Anything less dan Buhari on d APC presidential ticket wud b handing GEj d presidency on a platter.
Apc must leverage on d popularity of buhari in d north,he is d only one who can garner enough votes to neutralize all those inflated votes gej wud garner frm d SE and SS.
All these talk of Kwankwaso or Atiku is suicidal.Atiku on a gud day maynot even win d apc for his state,sayless d nation.Beyond Kano,Kwankwaso wud b roundly defeated by d Federal might and d power of incumbency.

Thw way he ganeered northern votes for his party in 2011. Or was he less popular in the last polls?

BluIvy: Show genuine empathy or just shut it! These are the kinds of Christians that give Christianity a bad name. judgmental and crude.

Madam just shut up and forget about this your fake empathy. Your freedom fighters are really liberating you guys from southern bondage, huh?. All the people that sympathised with boko haram at their formative stage plus their relations must get their full pay. Karma is a biatch!

Wale112: 1500 Year Old Bible Claims Jesus Christ Was Not Crucified




https://www.nairaland.com/1831520/1500-year-old-bible-claims

Muslims and name calling. Is this the subject matter? BTW Christianity is over 2000 years and you are publishing a1500 years old document contradicting what was written 500 years earlier by life witnesses. How foolish!

karidad: Do nt say what u don't know

Confirm from your Islamic historians or Imam. You can also google them especially "The battle of Toures" for more insight. These are historical facts and not attack.

Emessy: Shut Up Igbo smoking man

Civil war carver search through this civil war pics of Igbo land maybe you will find your father and mother

A joke taken too far.

kudoxs: . I am there by choice and by the grace of Almighty Allah. you are funny o, who will kill me if I leave? Very funny, it seems a lot of people don't know about Islam, its a pity the religion is being judged based on the activities of some miscreants in the North.

If you leave, they will kill you o. Ask that Sudanese woman that was sentenced to death recently.