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 Romance / Re: Would You Dump Your Sweety If They Got Fat? by livedit(f): 9:46pm On May 23, 2011 |
Livedit is a big woman so me dumping my husband" because he gained weight would make me a hypocrite and a liar. I grew in love with him because of who he is. Not what he can do for me, give me or not for what he looked like. I fell in love with his spirit not the vanity of his flesh because the flesh can be changed willingly or unwillingly. Up until my late 20's, I didn't like dark skinned men, big lip men, thin men or black men period. I was foolish. I didn't know that it was more to a man than what I saw with my "natural eyes." I was immature and naive and wanted to mold to what the world said that was "desirable". God showed me what a real man is and He showed my husband what a real woman was. And my size didn't play no factor in my husband choosing me. He seen livedit for who she is. And either one of us couldn't be happier and satisfied. I'm not saying, attraction isn't important in attracting a mate, but it's not everything and a body type don't make the "man" sort of speak. Everyone has a right to be with whom they want to be with and like what they want to like. That's your prerogative. But it's more to a person than just looks and if you make that vow to love that person through the good and bad then that's what you suppose to do. It's so sad to still hear so many stereo typing about "big" women/men and the conditional love placed upon their significant other. With that kind of love you better off to remain single. It's a shame. |
| Romance / Re: Leaving My Wife For Another Woman: Your Views by livedit(f): 8:07pm On May 23, 2011 |
Curse in the making. Tell me what kind of successful promising relationship you can have with an adulterer? First of all, you cheating is flat out wrong! Then on top of that to leave your wife and family for a piece of tainted "hay"? What kind of foundation do you think you can possibly build off of that with this woman? Neither you OR her can be trusted in anything? If your marriage is not working out for you, you've considered and tried other alternatives to make it work, then why not end the marriage first before venturing off into another woman's bed forsaking your own? Did this woman know you were married when you two got together? That's besides the point, I don't even know why I'm asking that. Mainly because she trying to make you decide to leave your family for her! Boy o boy, the evil ness that "man" do. To me it sounds like you are "fascinated in lust" with this woman. You've only known her a few months and she talking about "marriage"? Already  , Even as a woman myself, why would I want a married man to cheat on his wife with me and then marry me and believe he would be faithful. What will make me any different? I don't care what kind of "chemistry or connection" we have. Because I know as soon as the next "fascinating tail" come prancing by, I'll be left in the wind like his last woman. That just shows you how much respect she has for herself and her children. Why not find your own man instead of ruining another man's marriage trying to steal someone else's husband. I really don't think that lady care about you, herself or her children or she wouldn't be trying to destroy another woman's marriage. You really need to pray and think long and hard of what kind of impact this is going to make in your life and your family life. Is this woman you've known for only several months (who you really don't know) worth destroying your marriage and family? Believe me, any self respecting mature woman wouldn't be dating period nor giving a married man some ultimatum to leave his family for her. Makes you wonder why her previous marriage ended? 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance / Re: close this acct seun by livedit(f): 7:25pm On May 23, 2011 |
 Considering it's a long distant relationship, there are is somethings you just shouldn't "joke" about. Livedit wouldn't even have that. I wouldn't find no humor in that what so ever. He would have to get the ax! Depending upon how much "invested" would determine if I'd stay or go. Like someone mentioned earlier, even IF it was a "joke", that was a very disrespectful joke! I'm sure he wouldn't have appreciated a "joke" like that if the roles were reversed. So he should show the same respect. So to answer your question, it all depends. My needle is leaning more towards "toss the disrespectful insensitive loser" in the trash. |
| Romance / Re: I Need Ur Advice Pls: by livedit(f): 6:36pm On May 17, 2011 |
symbian123: My apologies for misinterpreting your post about being in a relationship with the first gal. 5years of this. Just imagine where you would be in 5years. You don't need to be dealing with a "girl" who expresses how she really feels through "other" people. Stand up and be a woman about your feelings. Please don't waste anymore of your time with EITHER of these women. It's true, you can't get those 5years back, but you can take control of your life and start living from now. It's way too many earthly women in this earth to be sitting here wasting on them. Time don't stop for no one. Move on with your life and let the "dead weight" go. |
| Romance / Re: I Need Ur Advice Pls: by livedit(f): 6:20pm On May 17, 2011 |
You've been dating a girl for 5yrs. whom you get to see once a year and you are "chatting" with another girl, who IS involved in another relationship who is "chatting" with you. If you are capable of being faithful and staying in a long distant relationship with the girl you've known 5yrs by accepting the fact of seeing her once out of year, then stick with her and let that other girl go. But if you feel that's something you can't manage or deal with or want at this time, then you need to cut your loses with ole girl and move on with your life. Maybe some day down the line or in the future, you two may hook up again and become a legitmate couple. I truly don't think it's a good idea to be messing around with someone else's woman. IF, she is in a committed relationship, but still trying to have her fun on the side shows you what type of woman you are dealing with and what you will also have to put up with. Who cares how "sweet and caring" she is. The fact remains, she's a liar and a cheater. So all that's, an "act". If she decides to call it quits with the guy and kick it with you, then that's a different story but she already told you she cares about her "man" and going to stay with him. Do you feel you are only worth someones second best? Or possibly in her case, third or fourth? I seriously think you need to take the time to figure out who you are and what you exactly want out of a relationship before forging ahead with anyone at this time. To me, it just sounds like you are just "settling" for anything that's out there. Believe it or not, there are some single, sweet, honest and caring beautiful women out there who will be faithful to you and treat you good and spend time with you. You really don't have to "settle" for this kind of relationship(s). So much more to life than this. |
| Romance / Re: Is It Compulsory by livedit(f): 5:38pm On May 17, 2011 |
Not necessarily. IF, they speak, then of course, out of common courtesy, I would speak back. But far as speaking to everyone he speaks too, it's not your duty too. I would politely smile at them and THEN if they say, hello, how are you, then I would say it back. Just because you are a "couple" doesn't mean you have to lose yourself completely. A smile should be sufficient and if you want to speak, then speak if not, then don't. I love my husband to death, Lord knows I would do nearly anything for that man, but when we are out and he greet people and talking to them. I don't trip over my foot trying to run and greet them. Now if my husband introduces me or whomever he speaks with introduce themselves to me, then livedit greets back. Other than that, a genuine pearle white smile is okay enough. |
| Romance / Re: Help! My Ex Said I Must Marry Her Or Have A three,some Wedding. by livedit(f): 5:22pm On May 17, 2011 |
This lady is full of it. Like the other's said, I would take what she said with a "grain of salt". How you go MAKE somebody marry you. I'm sure your now, financee ain't having that anyway. Tell her to get lost again. She only pretending to care because she see's you have moved on with your life and about to marry someone else. If it comes down to it, (which I seriously doubt), I'd have to take security measures to make sure she don't try to ruin your wedding day. Don't let this "drama" ruin your special moment. She's not worth it in the least. |
| Romance / Re: Should I Just Cut My Losses And Move On? by livedit(f): 9:58pm On May 16, 2011 |
| I think you should just move on with your life. You two only known each other for a couple of months and it seems you have way more of yourself (than him) invested into this "relationship". At this point, I wouldn't contact him anymore. You've already apologized and expressed your interest in him so the guy already knows how you feel about him. You continue to contact him, you will *appear* desperate/clingly. I would just let go. If he contacts you before he leaves, fine. If not, fine. It's not the end of the world. You really don't know this guy and the way he's been acting up until this point, he wasn't so "invested" to let you get to know him. I'm not trying to be mean or harsh. But it appears this guy isn't /wasn't wrapped into you as you were with him. His actions spells it out loud and clear. Even though he "says" he understand what you did with his friend, I'm sure that didn't win you any brownie points with him either. But regardless, you two were NOT in a committed relationship so you ARE free to date or "kiss" whomever you want to kiss. I'm pretty sure your not the only "tree" he has been climbing up. I know you really like this guy and it may seem close to impossible forgetting about him and moving on with your life. But I think you should treat him as if he never existed. Meaning try going out with other men. Try not to limit yourself to just one guy in dating. Get out and meet other people. That way, you won't get so emotionally "attached" into one person. If you are the type who can only date one person at a time, then make sure or try harder not to wrap your life around the other person. Nothing will turn a guy off faster if he meets are girl who makes him her life by acting like she don't have a life of her own. |
| Romance / Re: Men And Thongs? by livedit(f): 9:00pm On May 16, 2011 |
BABE!: Hi Babe! I answered your question and then gave my unsolicited comment as well.  I'm sorry, I should've left my answer to this:"@poster ~ [s]like someone mentioned earlier, depends on the taste of that individual rather or not they will sport some "thongs". [/s] Quite frankly, I really don't care for them. I like those tight boxer-like briefs. Especially if you have the "buns" to pull them off. I think those really look sexy on men. But that's livedit's opinion. " |
| Crime / Re: He Was Jailed For 2 Years Because Of Her. Now She Said She Cant Wait For Him. by livedit(f): 6:53pm On May 16, 2011 |
Wow! That shows some people's gratitude for trying to help! How long of a jail term did your friend get for "stabbing this guy"? |
| Romance / Re: Men And Thongs? by livedit(f): 6:48pm On May 16, 2011 |
@ 190 ~ you be killing me with those pictures. That looked more like a "woman's" thong than a "man's" thong.@poster ~ like someone mentioned earlier, depends on the taste of that individual rather or not they will sport some "thongs". Quite frankly, I really don't care for them. I like those tight boxer-like briefs. Especially if you have the "buns" to pull them off.  I think those really look sexy on men. But that's livedit's opinion. I always thought people should wear something that is comfortable, but at the same time "edible" and sexy that suits your body. I try to think along the lines of, what if something happens and you are in a "accident" and you have on a pair of thongs like 190 poster earlier? I wouldn't mean any harm, but I'd be cracking up! |
| Romance / Re: Will You Attend Ur X-bf Wedding If Invited by livedit(f): 5:53pm On May 12, 2011 |
Hotie Tima: Hello Hotie Tima! Question for you, what would be the point when it's all said and done? The end result is he will still marry the other woman because she has his heart (which means she has him) so the "hottest" outfit would be irrelevant and pointless. When the ceremony is over, he will forget all about you and go home to start a new life with his new wife and where will that leave you? I say, why waste your time, money and energy on him when you can use that towards someone "rewarding" or "fruitful"? |
| Romance / Re: What Kind Of Relationship Would U Prefer To Maintain With Your Ex? by livedit(f): 5:27pm On May 12, 2011 |
Honestly, I don't think it's a good idea to try and remain "friends" UNLESS, like Rokiatu said, a child is involved. I think by trying to remain "friends", sooner or later, one or both will start to develop old "feelings" again and if the other person don't reciprocate, the other person will only be hurt in the end, again. Then too depending on the cause of why the relationship ended could cause old feelings to rise to the surface rather good or bad. Quite frankly, it's not even worth it. You can be "cordial" with one another, but far as trying to be "buddy ole pals", ummm, no. I think you are only fooling yourself. Keep it 100. |
| Romance / Re: I NEED HER NOW by livedit(f): 6:53pm On May 11, 2011 |
It's her every right if she doesn't want to go out with you. Just because the two of you are friends don't make her inadmissible of turning down your offer. She may not be interested in a romantic relationship with you. That's just something you're going to have to accept and get over. I'm sure there's many other women where you live whom would love to go out with you. You asked her, she said no. Let it go and move on. |
| Romance / Re: Shopping For Love! by livedit(f): 6:43pm On May 11, 2011 |
Finding the "right" person takes time and patience. It's been only 3 months since your relationship ended, so depending upon how "deep and long" your relationship lasted/was, it takes time heal and be able to completely move on. You stated you've been searching a "couple of days" and you almost already to throw in the towel You've only split up 3 months ago and maybe you need to try slowing your roll and enjoying life by rediscovering yourself. Don't be so quick to judge the women you meet. Try taking sometime to date and get to know them. If you're not "feeling it" with your current girl, then maybe it is time to move on. But just make sure you let her know so that their won't be any room for misinterpretation that you two are getting back together. With that being said, just pray and have faith and a little more patience and you'll soon find your "Juliette". |
| Romance / Re: Will You Attend Ur X-bf Wedding If Invited by livedit(f): 5:37pm On May 11, 2011 |
Let me make sure I read this right, you've two just seperated or "broken-up" only a few weeks and he is getting married already?? Not months or years, but weeks?? What's wrong with this picture? I would think after being newly broken-up like that, are you truly over each other like that? This new spouse maybe a potential rebound in that case. If that was me, nope! Good riddance. What he does and who he is with is no longer my business. So why should I care. I'd wish him well and leave it at that. |
| Romance / Re: Dis Can Telephone Call. by livedit(f): 4:58pm On May 11, 2011 |
| Sounds kinda creepy, weird and spookey to me. I think I'd have to just hang up. |
| Romance / Re: Why Does He Just Disappear ? by livedit(f): 4:09pm On May 11, 2011 |
Has he done this to her more than once? If so, he playing games and he is not serious about reconciling with her. It's true, things do come up and sometimes even unexpectedly. But at least show the other person the common decency respect to let them know if you can't make it or not. The fact that he doesn't say anything for his MIA's, says alot about him. He is inconsiderate, disrespectful, unreliable and rude. It don't take more than a few seconds to call/text someone to let them know what's up. One of the most common low down thing someone could do to someone is stand them up and never apologize for it or nothing. I feel, if you have a lot going on in your life or whatever have, then let it be known and stop making arrangements to meet when you know you have no intention on hooking up with this person. If he calls, I would tell him to get lost. But that's just my opinion about it. |
| Romance / Re: Can Adore A Girl That Knows Nothing About Music? by livedit(f): 8:12pm On May 10, 2011 |
Sounds like you have a deep passion for music and with that being said, maybe you need to move on to find someone else who shares that same passion. For some people, that may not be an issue if your partner don't share all of the same passions or as deep as their own. But if music is something you live for, like many of us and she is not open to experiencing new things in life and stepping "outside the box", then maybe it was for the best you two breaking up. Obviously, you two weren't compatible. At least in that area. But it's nothing wrong with loving music. I adore music and even though my husband don't share all the same taste in music as I do, we do share many. And that is what helps make our marriage/relationship work. |
| Romance / Re: Advice Me Now by livedit(f): 7:56pm On May 10, 2011 |
I agree with the suggestion of Validator. Why not date someone your own age/matured and stop wasting your time trying to sleep with underage girls. Key word, GIRLS, not WOMEN. If you feel that you are unable to "control" yourself, then maybe you need to try another line of work. These are young hormonal immature girls with a lot of growing and maturing to do to be trying to take seriously. Believe me, before long I'm sure next it will be the young guy at the mall, the puberty stricken pizza delivery guy behind the register or better yet the young guy at the arcade will soon be their next "love interest" and you will be surely forgotten and apart of their past. Why waste the time? |
| Romance / Re: Kissing On First Date by livedit(f): 7:31pm On May 10, 2011 |
A simple kiss like a quick tap on the cheek or lips yes. Deep tongue action or tonsil hockey kissing no. But that's my personal opinion. Then to it depends on the connection we have and how long we been "talking". |
| Romance / Re: Handing Over Your Pay by livedit(f): 7:22pm On May 10, 2011 |
It depends on the circumstances. For instance, with our wedding, yes, he handed me all the money he had to handle as with certain things, he don't know about. I account for every penny I spend and so does he. It's a matter of what is at hand to determine who will handle the money at that time. |
| Romance / Re: Ladies, How Would You Want Your Wedding To Be? by livedit(f): 7:00pm On May 10, 2011 |
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| Romance / Re: Ladies, How Would You Want Your Wedding To Be? by livedit(f): 6:42pm On May 10, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: LMBO! Mrs.Chima you are a fool! OMG! I've gotten prayer wishes on my facebook page by his friends/family though. Juanita Bynum? Dropping it like it's hot? Lol Back in the day livedit could get down. Not anymore. Lol I did okay. |
| Romance / Re: Why Do Babes Fall So Cheaply To Guys Over The Internet /facebook by livedit(f): 6:08pm On May 10, 2011 |
You don't need to publish anything to disgrace her because in reality, she has already disgraced herself because she has been caught. She has disgraced herself offering MouthAction to men she don't even know. She is the one who is making a fool out of herself. Why not be the mature adult and confront her about all this? As long as you continue to play "the game", she will continue to lie and being a hypocrite. It's so sad that she talked all the smack about fidelity and "family life" then to falsely misrepresent herself. I think you ought to tell her face to face and stop prolonging the inevitable. "Exposing" her to everyone on a social network not only will make her look bad, but you will also for a number a reasons. She's not even worth it. You truly see's what she's about and she's not someone you would want to settle down and start a family with. Stop wasting time, pull the rug out from her game, let her go (if decide not to work it out with her) and move on to someone with marriage potential. |
| Romance / Re: Men/boys, Would You Allow Another Man/boy Take Your Woman/girl To An Event? by livedit(f): 4:47pm On May 10, 2011 |
@MzDark- I LOVE that movie and that's my favorite scene.It is true, it's very few people Livedit completely trust. But even still, you can't just go around trusting everyone. I trust my husband and my husband trust me. But people can be tempted and you can never say never. Some people will have their own agendas although what you meant was to be innocent they could influence to evil. Jesus was tempted by Satan. However, Jesus was the only one who IS perfect and never sinned and incapable of sinning. That is why He was sent here. Because "MAN" is not perfect and we were born in sin. Maybe you're right. It could be a bit of "paranoia" on either or both parts in the mix. But it's better to be safe than sorry. Especially if you know what kind of bag the other person is coming from. (friend) I remember a story with Mrs.Eve and her husband friends who would hit on her (you) . I truly doubt your husband would allow one of them to take you to an event. I'm sure he trusts his wife (you) completely. But people can be unpredictable at times and I don't know how many times I've heard incidents happening and people to say, no, I never expected that. Just be careful whom you let in your life. Family/friends, everyone is capable of betrayal I don't care who they are. But like you said, that's a risk you have to take. But be wise in the choices you make. |
| Romance / Re: What Do You Think? by livedit(f): 4:18pm On May 10, 2011 |
I think regardless of how a person looks or what they are wearing rather it be male/female, that do not give anybody the right to disrespect them. Although, it maybe true, most people will judge you on how you "present" yourself, and depending upon the morals of that individual that person just may get those "cat calls" and/or insulted if they do not respond back to them. Frankly, it's nothing wrong with "admiring" the "view", but be respectful and tactful about it. In this day in age, not everyone feel comfortable and/or "safe" with a stranger yelling out "cat calls" or approaching them. Just like you have a freedom to speak, you also have a freedom not to speak. So insulting someone does not give anyone the justification simply because this person don't "react" how you want them to. Like someone mentioned earlier, if this intendent was non-responsive, then let it go and move on. There are zillions more people in this world, so why waste your time and energy on this one person. I've had men say "F-you then , " simply because I didn't stop or respond back. I don't know you and if it's one thing I can't stand is: " A girl, let me talk to you". Just a complete turn off. I've had compliments thrown from men and I just smile and keep walking or doing what I'm doing. Those with common sense get the point and move on. Simple as that. You can't "win" someone over by "cursing" them or being disrespectful. |
| Romance / Re: Ladies, How Would You Want Your Wedding To Be? by livedit(f): 10:30pm On May 09, 2011 |
BABE!: Hello Babe!  Oh okay. Thank you for explaining! I thought maybe it was customary to do that. Thank you so much!  |
| Romance / Re: Ladies, How Would You Want Your Wedding To Be? by livedit(f): 10:26pm On May 09, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: Yes. I'm like this isn't no strip club. But my husband said it was apart of his culture. We got money and gifts too. But I was curious to ask if you or anyone else on here gotten money tossed on them while dancing. You so silly Mrs. Chima! A prayer card? What the? , Creepy looks? I know that had to make you feel awkward. No likey, |
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