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 Romance / Re: Are Married Men Not Right To Cheat? by livedit(f): 6:47pm On Jun 13, 2011 |
Please tell me you are kidding?  One word, N to the O = No! It is NOT right for a married man to cheat just as it's NOT right for a woman to cheat. To wrong's don't make a right. Cheating is unacceptable! I don't care what the excuse is. If you feel the need to cheat, then you don't need to be married then. Simple as that! It's morally wrong. It's an abomination and a sin to commit adultry. Livedit, through the grace of GOD will never cheat on her husband and through the grace of GOD, neither will her husband. No ifs, ands, buts or maybe's about it. Point blank NO! |
| Romance / Re: Why Are Women Always Suspicious Of Other Women? by livedit(f): 6:25pm On Jun 07, 2011 |
Not all women are like that. I am secure within my marriage and I don't have any "issues" with my husband being around other women. I know he is mine as I am his. If there is "someone" acting "inappropriate" directly towards him, then we got problems. 1 Like |
| Romance / Re: What Kind Of Men/Women Do You Attract? by livedit(f): 6:12pm On Jun 07, 2011 |
Before Livedit rededicated her life back to Christ several years, she attracted *freaks* and a few *crazies*. Probably because she use to be both.  Now, I attract older guys. Not as many anymore since I've gotten married. Maybe it's the ring on my finger? But regardless, I'm happily married and I have the man of my dreams so livedit is happy and contented.  |
| Romance / Re: Forgive & Forget by livedit(f): 5:48pm On Jun 07, 2011 |
I believe someone can truly forgive, but truly forget would be nearly if not impossible. If you repent and turn away from your wicked way, God said in His Word that he will forgive you and then forget. But asking a human to do so, I seriously doubt it. That is why Livedit is soooo thankful to her Lord God that He will remain the head of our lives and household. This is something I do not EVER want to experience. |
| Romance / Re: Men And Women: Please Know Your Role In Life by livedit(f): 10:36pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
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| Romance / Re: Any Luck Finding Your Ideal Nigerian Man Online by livedit(f): 9:29pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
Great post kokoye!  Livedit met her now husband online nearly 2yrs. ago! We met in person and hit it off great. I was blessed and believe me, I prayed diligently everyday about him as he did with me. Because I've encountered more than my fair share of "fakes", "crazies" and "losers". It takes time to find the right mate. That goes for online and offline. People are not limited to be taking advantage of or "tricked" just online. Anybody can play a role. You can find "garbage" anywhere. You just have to be careful and definitely be prayed up. There are alot of "creepies" in this world, so you have to pray to God for the guidance, patience and wisdom when seeking a life long partner. Also, you don't have to just limit yourself to online dating. You never know where "the one" can be. Only God knows. That is why you strongly need a relationship with Him. People can fool you most of the time, but you can't fool God. I believe, God does things His own way. And believe me, it's ALWAYS the best way. |
| Romance / Re: Men And Women: Please Know Your Role In Life by livedit(f): 9:02pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
"Women are playthings?" That's funny. I would pay any amount of money if someone showed me anywhere in the bible that my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ said women were created to be "playthings". Not equal, but "playthings". In addition, when does the man deserve the right to have more than one wife in the NEW Testament? If I understand my bible correctly, God joins a man and a woman together in holy matrimony into ONE spirit. When does 3 or more equal 1? Wow! Now, Livedit agrees upon being her husband's "help mate". To care for the home, cook, clean etc and the man is to be the "provider". But there are some women who won't perform their "wifely duties" simply because the man won't work so they feel why should they "cook and clean". Now, my bible says, if a man don't work, he don't eat. Let me stop, livedit about to start preaching. |
| Politics / Re: Where Do Nigerians Keep Their Money! by livedit(f): 7:46pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
D-sense: ~ LMBO! I feel you though. I just make sure to disinfect my hands after I shake hands. And like Mrs, Chima, it's always a good idea to carry antibacterial sanitizers. |
| Politics / Re: Where Do Nigerians Keep Their Money! by livedit(f): 7:32pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
D-sense: Yes D-sense! Several years ago, I use to be a cashier part-time, and I've seen money that look like somebody just got done wiping themselves with it. At the end of my shift, I would immediately wash my hands. I wouldn't touch no part of my face. And I keep wipes in my car to clean my steering wheel and stuff too. But I'd look at people count, put the money in their mouth, I be like, yikes! I just think to myself, so many germs just brewing in their mouth. Mrs.Chima: I know that's right. Nothing like fresh crisp money versus dingy dirty damp money. It all spends the same, of course. But new money is always good. |
| Politics / Re: Where Do Nigerians Keep Their Money! by livedit(f): 7:04pm On Jun 03, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: Like they say Mrs. Chima, you don't know WHERE that money been at. I cringe when I see people pull out their money and lick their finger to count it. |
| Romance / Re: Falling In Love With A Guy That Has Body Odour And Mouth Odour-how To Cope. by livedit(f): 10:32pm On May 31, 2011 |
It's never easy when you have to tell a love one that you find their breath and/or body "offensive". You've been given some good suggestions on what he can do to help rectify his problem areas. As hard as it may be, you must tell him. But like kokoye and the other's said, do it with love, kindness and compassion. It's true his feelings maybe hurt, but at least you care enough about him to tell him. This will only improve your connection and relationship with him. If he get's angry/mad, then let him. He needs to know. I'm sure it's going to come to a day when you will want to snuggle/kiss, and what a mood killer it would be to have to encounter his issues in "3D". On a good note, other than "cosmetics", you said he seems like a great guy so that's always a plus. The rest you can work with! Good luck! |
| Romance / Re: She Showed No Appreciation. by livedit(f): 9:09pm On May 31, 2011 |
Considering we don't know the full basis of your relationship, that's not nice and inconsiderate on her part for being unappreciative of you helping her. You didn't have to give her anything. I think you ought to let her know (tactfully) how you feel. That's alot of money to give someone and then they act like that. She has a family, she is NOT your wife yet, therefore, you are not responsible for her. With her behaving this way, I can understand why you would be hesistant about helping her any time soon in the future. I would be too. |
| Romance / Re: Why Women Don't Like Taking A Dump In Their New Bf's Home: Vote by livedit(f): 8:30pm On May 31, 2011 |
aloy/emeka: Why would a person want to do all that? Especially if it's a "code red". Don't matter what a person eat's, what goes in, is going to come out. It's natural. But having to leave, fight traffic, find a parking spot (or catch a bus if they don't have a car), run in and try to find a rest room at the same time hoping it's not occupied, just for what again?? I'm thinking, how would their partner feel, if the roles were reversed? i've never experienced this issue. But I guess there are women and even men who may go to that extreme. |
| Romance / Re: How Can I Keep My Girlfriend Forever? by livedit(f): 7:39pm On May 31, 2011 |
There is NOTHING you can do to keep her forever. Everyone has a choice in life. And at ANY given time, she may choose to "walk". If it was meant to be, then it will be. There is no amount of money, cars, gifts or anything like that that will make a person stay with you forever. If they did because of these things, why would you want someone like that in your life anyway? Wouldn't you want someone to be real and love you back not the "things" you give them? All you can do is keep God first, stay true to yourself by being faithful, honest, caring etc and treat her good. IF she decides to leave, then that IS her choice. |
| Romance / Re: How to overcome a broken heart? by livedit(f): 6:57pm On May 31, 2011 |
Ms. Potato: I am happy for you and I truly hope you two are able to work out the "differences" this time around. Because we all would truly hate to hear that it didn't work out once again and you are back to square one. Whatever the "issue(s) were, please deal with those now before trying to proceed ahead in this relationship. Because whatever "it" is, the problems are still there and the last thing you want to hit another "road block" ahead. Before your message above, my comment was to stop ALL contact with him. Anybody dealing with a break-up (broken-heart) the last thing you need is to keep contact with that person. All you're doing is pro-longing the inevitable and the longer you hang-on, the worse it's going to get. It's better to just cut ALL ties completely. No texting, phone calls, letters nothing. If it is over, then it is over. Allow yourself time to mourn this person first. You can't put a time frame on when someone will be "over" that person. It's impossible! Not if you had genuine feelings for that person. Everyone is different and deal with their pain differently. All we could offer anyone who is experiencing a broken-heart is to allow TIME. How much time? As much as it takes. You can't rush anything like that. |
| Romance / Re: After 5 Yrs Of Relationship She Starts Giving Me Excuses by livedit(f): 4:38pm On May 31, 2011 |
After 5yrs., she's still not ready to settle down? Sounds to me that you two are not on the same page and/or compatible. Are you okay with just "dating"? If not, you may want to consider ending this relationship and moving on to someone whom is seeking a long term committed relationship. |
| Romance / Re: Men Cooking For Women! by livedit(f): 4:29pm On May 27, 2011 |
@ Mrs, Chima! (a burned piece of chicken), You crack me up girl! OMG! I don't think a guy who cooks for his woman is "girlie". I think that is awesome and manly that he is able to "burn" in the kitchen too! My husband cooks for me at least several times a week. Set the table and wash dishes afterwards and I do the same for him. I think it is great! I think the effort alone to even attempt to cook for his wife is sexy and a complete turn on. Especially if you are man that rarely cooks. I think that is an honor, even if he couldn't cook that he is trying to please his woman. Because so many men are raised at that the man brings home the bacon and the woman is to cook it. What's wrong with taking turns? So bottomline, as long as he is cooking for the right reason. Not just to get "lucky" either, but because he genuinely wants to please his date or woman. That in itself is very attractive. And because of that, his "good intentions" won't go un-noticed. |
| Romance / Re: Just Teasing by livedit(f): 3:24pm On May 27, 2011 |
I completely agree with MRBROWNJAY. This is a clear cut case of FWB (friends with benefits). I must say, you better be careful and try not to spend so much time with this girl. Because more often than not, eventually "feelings" will start surfacing up and mainly it will be the woman who start developing these "feelings". |
| Romance / Re: How Do I Handle My Girlfriend's Best Friend. by livedit(f): 10:01pm On May 26, 2011 |
I think you need to sit your "girlfriend" down and discuss how you feel about her best friend butting into your relationship. Just let her know gently and without drama that although you appreciate everything her friend has done, but you would really appreciate if your relationship be kept private between the two of you without any outer interference. You want to be "presentable" without coming off like an "asterisk" since they are bestfriends. This may become a little sticky, but this is something that needs to be addressed. You may have to also accept the fact that you addressing this could affect your relationship. Her friend needs to mind her own business and tend to her own relationship. If you don't feel comfortable expressing to her what her butting in is doing to your relationship. Then I suggest you talking to your friend to ask him to speak with his woman about her trying to "run things" in you and your girlfriend's relationship. What kind of relationship will you two have when you have an consistant "outer sider" all up in your "mix". This relationship won't last long if this girl isn't dealt with now. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Who Is A True Frnd by livedit(f): 8:36pm On May 26, 2011 |
I feel a true friend is someone who will have your back by being faithful, loving and loyal to you. A true friend is someone you can trust and rely on in your time of distress or to share in your happiness. Someone you can talk to or just have someone to listen when you need an lending ear. Someone who will be themselves by being honest with you to tell you the truth rather if it's good or bad. A true friend is someone whom you can be comfortable with to express who you are without putting up a front or a facade. A true friend is someone who can accept the good AND the bad in you. A true friend is someone who won't be quick to judge you or be jealous of you when things are going good in your life. I'll end it there because livedit could go on and on. |
| Romance / Re: He's Not Convinced I Love Him. by livedit(f): 11:58pm On May 25, 2011 |
| I'm not too sure how to answer this with the limited information provided? What kind of situation or event that occured that brought about this issue of him not believing you love him? Has he always been this insecure? Did he just start saying you don't love him out the blue? This subject could go either way. Have you tried asking him HIS definition of what LOVE is?? Do you feel he loves you? I'm not the one into trying to "convince" anybody about my feelings for them. Either they know, or they don't. They will know by my actions. Love IS an action word. If you know in your heart that you love this guy and prove it everytime you are with him then it's nothing you can do to convince him. He will continue to believe what he wants to believe. To me, the more you try, the more desperate and "fake" it's going to appear. Have you tried sitting down quietly and maturely and discussing why he feel this way? It could be he feels a need is not being met. Or, maybe feeling down on his luck or depressed about something, don't even have to necessarily have to do with you as to why he feels "unloved". It could be something simple or it could be that he is "playing you" by running some kind of guilt trip for his own selfish reason. We don't know. Obviously, this is really bothering you and something you need to get down to the root of before it fester out into other parts of your relationship. |
| Romance / Re: What Shld I Do? by livedit(f): 11:22pm On May 25, 2011 |
Sadly, that IS apart of life and it happens one time or another to the rest of us. I know you are heartbroken and feel used and betrayed but in due time (ONLY) if you allow it, it shall pass. It may not seem or feel like it now, but it will. Believe it or not, you ARE much better off without this cheater/liar in your life. You need someone positive and who can add to your life, not take away from it. This is a horrific thing anybody has to go through in their life, but just like the rest of us, you just have to chop this up to a lesson well learned of trusting and choosing more carefully whom you let be apart of your life. There is no need to hold unforgiveness and bitterness against this guy. I'm not saying you don't deserve to be angry, because you have every right to. Be angry, but sin not. Unforgiveness is a terrible terrible thing to hold on to and that's something you definitely don't want pending you down in your life. Because when you do, it's ONLY hurting YOU not HIM. He is not even worth it. He has moved on with his life. And the best revenge you can do at this point is forgive him and her, and release them then move on with your life. What future can they possibly have with a foundation built on lies and cheating?? Just pray and ask God to help you and bring someone whom will be faithful, loyal and honest. Don't let this man continue to have any more power over you than he already has. You will never be able to move on to bigger and better things in your life holding on to *garbage*. |
| Romance / Re: A Question Solely For Women : by livedit(f): 10:45pm On May 25, 2011 |
Advocator: You are hilarious. Never heard that line before. Because when do "gold" go looking for the miner? When does a "fish" go fishing for a "fisherman"? Why would I need to do that? It was written like that for a reason. Alot people have gotten away from the Word of God and doing it "their way" and then to later on down the line to have problems or wonder why this and that isn't working out or why this and that is happening in their relationship. The Word of God is Truth/Life and that's what livedit will continue to live by. |
| Romance / Re: A Question Solely For Women : by livedit(f): 10:18pm On May 25, 2011 |
Livedit is traditional. With that being said, no, I will not propose to a man. I'm a firm believer in the bible, and the bible says: "A man that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing". A man is considered the "hunter", "the leader" and "the head". The woman is the prize. Some may not agree with livedit. But that's bible and what I believe. There are some women who would prefer to be the "hunter" instead. That's on them. Who am I to judge? |
| Romance / Re: Why Women Don't Like Taking A Dump In Their New Bf's Home: Vote by livedit(f): 10:03pm On May 25, 2011 |
For alot of women, they just may feel it's unlady like to be taking a "wicked dump" (or the old back in the day saying #2) at their significant other's house. To be honest, I don't feel comfortable using the restroom in any place that's not my home. But if it's an "code red" emergency, then I will use it. I carry wipes and body spray with me most of the time just in case I have to do #2. Like Mrs. Chima said, it's not healthy to hold it in. Then "mistakes" can happen or most definitely you going to be haunted with "gas". So it's best to just go ahead, roll your sleeves up, and go blow the bathroom up. It IS a natural bodily function and unfortunately, there is no *cure* for it. If the guy have a problem with it, then maybe you not with mortal guy. |
| Romance / Re: Should Women Change Their Phone Numbers After Marriage? by livedit(f): 9:47pm On May 25, 2011 |
Not unless it's absolutely necessary. Being newly married myself (9 weeks), I didn't change my phone number or delete any of my social networking websites. When I decided to move on with my life from them, I cut loose all "exes" and "unhealthy" relationships so I can start a new life. Eventually, they didn't remember my phone number nor do I remember theres. There would be no reason to keep in contact with them since I have no "ties" to them. If a person is dealing with an "unstable" person who can't let go or what have you, then the person may just have to take the necessary precautions to keep the "undesirables" out of their life. |
| Romance / Re: Help Me by livedit(f): 9:27pm On May 25, 2011 |
Zhedoga:  Please forgive me, but I don't understand your post. |
| Romance / Re: What Can Girls Offer In A Relationship? by livedit(f): 9:22pm On May 25, 2011 |
Mrs, Chima: Hey hey Mrs. Chima girl!  And you know it! |
| Romance / Re: What Can Girls Offer In A Relationship? by livedit(f): 9:04pm On May 25, 2011 |
"Girls" wouldn't have much to offer since they are not "women" yet. Most real "women" have alot to offer a man. Since women were made to be a real man help mate. I never went into any relationship thinking selfishly of what's in it for me. A relationship, should be mutual giving/receiving unselfishly. I am a very independent woman. And through the love, grace and mercy of God who can and have held her own down so I don't need a "man" to take care of me. When I sought a partner, it was for just that, a "partnership". Someone to spend the rest of my life with, to be each other's back bone, a companion, someone who I can share and show my love to. I don't alway's seek my "reward" with my mate. I look to God because he has and is my "rewarder" and know's how to take care of His child. If you find yourself dealing with "girls" who always seek "compensation" for any "good" they do or not holding up their "side" of the relationship, then maybe you should stop dating "girls" and upgrade to a "woman". |
| Romance / Re: I Don't Know How To Tell Her That My Pastor Said We Should Stop The Relationshi by livedit(f): 11:57pm On May 23, 2011 |
Being a Christian and loving the Lord as much as I do I know that when I pray and I do mean diligently (not once or twice, but diligently) seek Him every day. He will answer my prayer. Just because your Pastor proclaimed God told him no doesn't mean it was God who told him that. No disrespect to the men of God, but I do NOT let any "man" who walk this earth and who is capable of "missing" it just like I can to determine my life. Just like when your pastor prayed and he claimed God spoke to him, then God will do the same thing for you. If God hasn't told you what this pastor said, then that is NOT from God. God do not need to use another "vessel" to speak to His child. Are you fasting and praying each day? Are you staying in His word? What do you feel deep down in your spirit? When you prayed for a mate, is this person who you prayed for? God will send someone or even several people to "confirm" what He has told YOU already. But as I say again, if God hasn't said so. Then you wait on the Lord. Just because he is a pastor doesn't make him not human and unacceptable to mistakes. What does your significant other say about this? Has she been told that you aren't the one? It's sad to say that some pastors don't want people to get married or sometimes feel they should be the one who choose your spouse. Just read the book of 1st and 2nd Timothy. |
| Romance / Re: Girls, What Part Of A Men's Body Attract You? by livedit(f): 11:09pm On May 23, 2011 |
I love everything about a man. But if I had to choose what "stands out" most is a fresh clean cut guy. I absolutely love the edged up goat-t that connects along the chin up to the hair line on a man. I think that is so sexy. I don't know if that has a name. Besides that, the "cuts" on the waste line. |
| Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Is Nice To Me,i Love Her But Im Beginning To See Us Nt Compatible. by livedit(f): 10:51pm On May 23, 2011 |
I'm kinda in agreement with deniyor's comment. It took 5yrs. for you to realize she wasn't your "type"? Wow, ending this is not going to be pretty. You've been "dating" this young lady since she was a teenager so either way you go about it explaining it, she's going to be heartbroken. You two have quite a history together and you will have to understand if you decide to break things off with her that it's going to draw suspcions of your true feelings and motive of getting with her in the first place. It'll take some time, but it'll all past. She's still young and have some growing and maturing to do. She sounds like a good woman, so I'm sure she will bounce back on her feet if not sooner, than later.But at the same time, no one have to remain in a unhappy non-compatible relationship just because of the kind things someone has done for you. But I would strongly advise, before you do anything, make sure you think long and hard about this. Which ever way you decide, DO NOT waver back and forth no matter what the outcome is. STICK to your guns. Last thing someone needs is their heart toyed with. |
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