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Themellowone:
Quite profound.

Happy New Year

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[quote author=MariaLavina post=74002176][/quote]Happy New Year

@OP

Don't allow anyone to demonize you. There's nothing wrong with your action. May God grant you your heart's desire.

Foremost, any relationship that requires either voluntary slavery (continual self-sacrifices) or outright servility to sustain and maintain isn't a healthy one, and ought to be do away with. Yet, selflessness and thoughtfulness between the parties that have been involved in a relationship are the core values that make a relationship healthy. Take to conscientiousness - willpower (self dominion) is a right, not privilege. No one knows where the shoe pinches, but s/he who wears it.

@OP

What's your definition of "wasting of time?"

If you can't trust/have no absolute trust in a woman you have called a wife (and vice versa), I wonder why you're still living with her/sharing closeness with her.

This checklist means nothing. The most important thing is for one (both of the genders individually) to strive to achieve self-realization before talking about marriage. One who has achieved self-realization doesn't need any long protocol and long dating to identify his/her special one, especially with the help of an online platform like this. Personally, I know that one month - starting from the day one volitionally and conscientiously decide to marry - is long enough to use propose and wed a lady.

Commitment phobia is a sickness though.

It's a one day ceremony and strictly for ceremonial purpose. They won't consummate the marriage.

Themellowone:
Quite profound.

Thank you.

Yours is a case of emotional numbness - you being indifferent/unemotional about Christmas and some other festivals isn't an issue (some of us are like that too). You being strifeful is what makes your case abnormal and the solution to it lies in your hands. If you're truly not comfortable with the situation - some people in same situation may find it convenient, their choice - follow the following steps:

- Revert to your default settings. After achieving this feat you'll be in a carefree state. . . enjoy its bliss. But avoid making it your permanent abode (it's a very comfortable place to be), actually your inability to transmute will automatically turn you to a sociopath (I say avoid it) - fortunately, the world needs more altruistic and conscientious people. Be fair to the world.

- Now define yourself (your new self) - I'll advise you to take to good and no nonsense personality option. By so doing you'll automatically become an altruistic and conscientious person as I mentioned above.

- To achieve all of the above, you need a serene environment and personal home to live in alone (or to live with people with harmless attitude) - this doesn't mean that you should alienate yourself from the world. Avoidance of toxic people remains constant - just strive to detoxify yourself first.

Should you follow this lead and inculcate it as your anima, believe you me that the happiness and benefits you in particular and people around you (sane and sound ones) in general will begin to experience, this place will not be able to contain them if I begin to enumerate them.

However, failure to do the needful will lead you into a full state of psychotic in the near future.

Health and personal advancement solution service is very expensive to afford, but here I've given it to you free of charge.

Lol. See how myopic and malevolent people are disparaging and mocking Otedola - conceit will always remain God's gift to small-minded people. He's taking a wise decision because starting from 2019, the downstream sector of the oil industry will no longer be a goldmine in the country. His divestment decision has nothing to do with neither hard times nor poor government policies.

He's truly a shrewd businessman.

pocohantas:
Lollllllll

As bad as being hypocritically disingenuous is, tactlessness isn't an option in this situation. Diplomacy will always be gold.

Hey! I don't want to hear long story when I come for my Christmas rice. Compliments of the season, Milady.

@OP

Your choice of words though, you're so tactless. Anyway, I understand your plight. What you need to do is apply the act of cutting contact without burning bridges. Example, you can create a third-avenue (either real or imaginary) personal time and other resources consuming project. . . With this in place you've solved the problem up to 99 percent.

MariaLavina:
This is why you are one of my favourite.
Gimme small sense nah. You just pack everything for yourself.

Forget this your deflection tactics because it won't stop me from coming to eat Christmas rice for your house. Of course, I'll come with my lesson note.

Compliments of the season.

Difference vs Better. The difference between Nigerian women and White women is simply color - neither is superior nor inferior to the other. Meanwhile, goodness is an individual thing, therefore, a Black or White woman who's good, is good. And one who's bad, is bad. So, White women aren't better than Nigerian women.

Any Nigerian man who has told you that White women are automatically better than Nigerian women is either joking, myopic or hasn't crossed the shores of Nigeria.

He should quickly adopt 3-4-2-1 formation to save his job. He has the players to use perfect it.

Balderdash. Love isn't a scam. Truth is that, one can't recognize that which s/he can't give.

GrammarNazi1:
...attributes...depict...

Lol. Foremost, I'm not averse to correction. . . . I'm a knowledge seeker. Besides, perfection is of the Most High. And I tend to be more informal than formal when making a contribution on a forum like this.

That said, there's nothing wrong with this sentence (in my context) "The many positive attributes you listed up there depict a calm girl." It's Subject-Verb Agreement compliance.

Truly I made a mistake. Peace out.

Stop mixing up a calm girl with a shy one. The many positive attributes you listed up there depict a calm girl. On the contrary there's nothing good about a shy girl - show me a shy girl and I will point to you a timorous, mischievous and hypocritically disingenuous girl. In fact, an aggressive girl is better than a shy one.

Calm girls are gold. A calm girl is naturally reserved, however, she's neither timorous, shallow, hypocritical, disingenuous nor conceited. She's intelligent, confident, selfless and conscientious.

omoobaadeNGR:
Another olodo. What is occupation, what is profession? Does he make money from law now?

Bumpkin! Keep on basking on the euphoria of your ignorance, because it's obvious you're not willing to learn. It's always futile to show light to small-minded people like you.

Peace out.

omoobaadeNGR:
Olodo. You're a lawyer by training, not by profession. I think you're an actor by profession because I think I've seen you on screen a few times.

It's a pity that these (actors) are some people's role models...Nigeria is a mess.

Teacher, don't teach me nonsense. He didn't make any mistake. He's a lawyer by profession and an actor by occupation.

MariaLavina:

I'm all gratitude.

She's a typical termagant that identifies with feminism. Self-dominion and egalitarianism don't mean absence of conscientiousness.

That's what termagants - not feminists - want, whether or not they identify with feminism.

If you have the ability to differentiate men (people) who are victims of their own small-mindedness from a natural emotionally weak person, you will understand that, in truth, women are emotionally weaker than men. Truth is that even the most emotionally strong human being who is conceited will surely "cry murder" when subtly giving a dose of his/her own medicine by a hypocritically disingenuous person.

When a conceited person (most men belong here) meets with a hypocritically disingenuous person (most women belong here) the end result is bitterness and victim mentality. The latter never lose to the former, irrespective of gender of the persons involved.

Wherever you see a wo/man exhibiting bitterness and victim mentality, know that the person has been consumed by his/her own self-conceit, with or without greed - such a person never believe that s/he can be outdone (cleverly or insincerely). Conceit remains God's gift to small-minded people.

Meanwhile, a true/natural emotional weak person - women (true women) remain emotionally weaker than men, because naturally they are selfless and meek - do not express her emotional weakness through bitterness and victim mentality. When such a woman lose, whether due to natural cause or otherwise, she loses honorably and calmly.

Humble and servile, yes. Loyal, no. Neither richness nor poverty can ever make a treacherous person to be loyal. Loyalty as a product of class - aristocracy - has no price. . . If you aren't an upright person you can never be loyal to anybody no matter the condition.

MissR69:
i don't even know what good lordko see in you. i trust my source

I've always known that prophets and prophetesses full this forum. . . Na to form collabo church go sure pass now, with me as the treasurer-general.

Meanwhile, I hope your trusted source equally informed you that, due to my abhorrence for white and traditional weddings, we have mutually agreed to do registry wedding only (special apologies to my submissive pocohantas for denying you right of having a feel of these kinds of weddings which you cherished so much). We shall communicate the special date to you privately, because we are both security conscious and unconventional.

Religion of any kind and its propagators will always remain object and vehicles of subjugation, respectively. Just like anything that's of small-mindedness, when around one, it's always either one's dominion, dignity or sanity - of course, when served in equal and/or opposite proportions they cry murder. To them it's expediency over principle.

A typical small-minded person. It's always about self and interest - rationality isn't an option.

I don't hold brief for PMB though.

solasoulmusic:
No I was right you said something along the line about limiting communication for your sanity your fears apply to that too a crazy ex to you doesn’t mean all your exes are crazy there’s always a pattern to behavior it’s from your perspective your viewing things there are people that aim to drive women nuts it’s sometimes not the big picture there are actions and there are reactions be with someone who doesn’t control communication is my point the mountain won’t move you have to climb

I think the best thing about love is it’s free

You're either a termagant or bumpkin, or both. Because I don't see any correlation between my submission and any imaginary ex you had in mind in your delusional state. . . Not even when I stated clearly that, I don't subscribe to "saying goodbye."

Setting boundaries, which I'm in favor of, can be towards any person(s), be they business partners, close relations or friends - irrespective of their genders - whom one considered toxic.

On your statement "the best thing about love is it's free" it's obvious that among other of your shortcomings, you don't know what is altruism.

Hey! Look for your ilk elsewhere, because I don't join issue with small-minded people like you.

solasoulmusic:
In some cases it’s your defense mechanism that prevents you from tolerance we expect people to tolerate the worst from us and forgive us on the fly for things we won’t do to other people we are seeking favors from.

We worship people with words but destroy them with deeds

Most people aren’t what they say they are your not strong because you knock someone down your strong because when you’ve been knocked down you took the fall and rose again

How many men can let their daughters date a man like them without first objecting

Looks is nice but are you good for the soul or just the night .....is where relationships die

Obviously, you mentioned the wrong person.