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Large number of unemployed and unproductive youths is our nations biggest burden. Get them engaged and you’ll have fewer people online throwing jabs. At least they’ll only do this after a fruitful day.

I’ll cut ties with anyone who tries to inflict mark on my kids. This is the only reason he took his kids away. They are his kids, get married and have yours. You can’t love them more than their dad. Face your life son.

If your real mom is alive and wanted to see you, she would have kept a tab on you. She would have tracked you down and met with you somehow.

Suing your dad is not right. You might end up loosing mom and dad. No guarantee he’s going to tell you the truth.

You dad did not pay your mom’s dowry alone. Connect with your village people and find out people who went with your dad.

Search your dads room when he travels, you’ll find a clue.

Don’t let this thing bother you so much. You’ll get all the info you need. Be patient.

Success comes from the capacity to take pain

This is your training ground

Your reward after serving your brother and getting settled would include knowledge wisdom to live and relate with women.

Don’t cut your training short for the full reward.

God bless you

Things I have never done and will never do God helping me.

Gambling: more like putting money on something I don’t have control over. Just like forex trade. Learned forex when I was about 20, was only trying the demo. My friend went into it full time, wasted his money and those of people who gave him money to invest.

Drinking alcohol: never tasted that shit in my life. First, it has little health benefits. You could become an alcoholic. You’ll have friends who’ll use alcohol to try to cool of or stay up something. It eventually becomes a habit.

Smoking:

Clubbing:

Well a whole lot.

To get yourself off this hook in your jaw. You’ll need to learn the hard way. Maybe doing a short time in a police cell or just talk to your pastor, let him help you. You need a responsible father figure who can guide and discipline you from now.

You might just be entertaining an angel

bukatyne:
Re-marriage is much more honorable than becoming a beggar for sex

The shame, disgrace, accusations and counter accusations.

Remarriage affects children more. Age is a factor too.

If it was my wife, that day you’ll join your ancestors.

generationz:
Do you guys still quarrel?

We don’t
Everything disappeared the moment we realized God wants us together. The disagreements were mere hiding of affection and a few things about Christian growth. Sometimes she just get a revelation about things I have cautioned her against.

If you miss heaven you’ll cry

Give your life to Jesus

Gods will most time don’t always look it. Sometimes not attractive, be it Marriage or career. Might just be exactly what you don’t like. But then, that’s what’s best for you.

Like I said, it won’t appeal to you from the beginning. That’s when we go back and pray again. In fact, the dream you have about the second person is self explanatory. She’s not for you. Her leaving might be after ruining your life. So, don’t even consider her.

If you don’t believe in what pastors have said, then seek the face of God yourself. Somehow, if the first girl wasn’t for you, there’s a chance you’ll have a dream about it.

This particular point of your life is very vital. It’s sometimes different if you don’t get leading from above. But if you get, and ignore, I’m tell you right now, it’ll end in tears.

My fiancée wasn’t my friend, we always argue about something I feel she’s not doing right. So, I didn’t like her that much. But one day God spoke and I was like, ‘this girl’? But before that, she blocked me on WhatsApp for like 3 months. So I had no reason to even have her as a friend.

Today, I’m trying to understand what I wasn’t ok with before now. We even prayed together about it, and both had similar revelations. At some point, she got confused and still went to pray, then God showed her what the future would look like. I knew she was the one when we were about to pray but couldn’t believe it.

Go to God for answers. Fast if necessary, just get it right. Your wife might not look it today.

If he meets the woman of his dream, he'll marry her without blinking. He doesn't like you enough to spend the rest of his life with you.

Marvieduke:
Sincerely MTN is provoking me at the moment.

Use NTEL

These days, you should know who gets married to your daughter. Besides, this event will explain the young man's mission. If he makes it right, that means he's a man and really serious.

I haven't seen the proof he asked for her number?

There are things a true born again Christian can't do. Taking your life lands you in hell seconds after. And then the lake of fire. The sweet thing about Jesus is that, in your weak moment, His Spirit will be speaking to you, guiding you, showing you things through dreams and the scripture that will keep you hoping until you are blessed.

Generally to avoid suicide, think about the people that love you and how they'll feel. Visit the prison and hospital and see how people are fighting to have what you are enjoying, life and health. Visit the motherless baby homes and let little kids inspire you. These things will keep you going for a long time. Only Jesus in you can keep you in the hollow of His hands forever.

As a Christian, if you ever suffer, you know there's something the Lord is putting together for you plus the accumulating interest. Thus is the deal for most Christians. How was Joseph able to put up smile in prison? The spirit of God in the life of man!

AngelicBeing:
Chai, Look at the useless response from his so called lawyers, the Onyeama guy is a joker, America is not a country to joke with especially when it comes to falsification of documents, the guy is a goner

And you are?

soulchild1:
I can only talk for myself - I will never run away from a guy, just because I discovered he has a child.
Why? Because he might not have choosen to have a child out there with somebody else. Sometimes things happen. He could have been married and it didnt work out. So if I want to accept him and love him truly, it means I have to regard this child also as a child of mine. The child didnt ask in the first place to be born and grow up with her parents being separated, so all those actions are hurting the child and they definitely dont deserve it to suffer from things they have not caused. A partner has to be for me the backbone of the other and if it is not like that, your boyfriend or husband will not develop or maintain the interest of caring for his child and I just think the child deserves his father/her mother to care and cater for them, so I dont want to be the one to discourage my boyfriend/my husband in that.

The only reason that can make me run away from a guy that has a child, is when I discover, pregnating a woman or wife is for him like a game and he doesnt give a f**** about his children, then I will not go further, because I can already assume that I might not make difference with me, perhaps.

You have a good heart

NaijaRoyalty:
What happened in Kogi state is not election but a day light robbery .

Bello killed and maimed to hold to power .

Bello does not control the military and police

seunmsg:
Congratulations to Gov. Yahaya Bello. Hopefully, he wil use the second chance giving to him by the good people of Kogi State to correct all the mistakes of his first term and build an indelible legacy of achievements at the end of his second term.

I'm ashamed on your behalf

Guestuser:
Pdp supporters before Election be like ;
No amount of rigging will make Yahaya Bello win.
After election, they be like;
Yahaya Bello won because he rigged massively .
Una go dy alright las las

Anyone who supports evil must reap evil forever

Alzirida:
APC will sweep Otuoke clean.

I don't see PDP getting 10% of vote casted

How can a blind person see?

ZombieTERROR:
Nothing will stop me from saying the truth...

Lai Muhammad is a serial looter and a liar ..


Buhari rubber stamp Senate should give us death by firing squad for corrupt politicians if truly Buhari was serious about fighting corruption...like its done in China..

But No... We are just fooling ourselves
Rubbish

With a monetised judiciary? They'll just execute Sowore and anyone who isn't for them.

It's simply an expensive way to drain every good thing in you, leaving you with chaff. He only needs less than 2 minutes to achieve that goal. Now you can only be useful to the slim broke guys....

Set up a business. A good business over time will buy you lots of houses and cars. Transport business isn't very nice. With time you'll start putting back the money you realised from it.

Now you can see the clear difference between a pastor's daughter and a radical. You have a wife with godly virtues, who felt lonely and fell into your arms. She might be a gift from God to you. The other lady won't even give you these options your wife have you. She'll kill you before you even shout to save her from getting depressed.

I think God is using this whole situation to take you back on to your wife. Her parents might be praying for her, she might as well be praying for God to touch your heart. God knows how to correct stubborn people. He just gives you a situation that will complicate your life and you'll start appreciating what you already have.

I understand you feel you don't love your wife now, but trust me, your wife is the kind of woman any loving man would want to marry. I don't doubt the gifts of your gf and her ability to inspire you to great heights. But, people like that can help you rise and singlehandedly destroy you and anyone around you. She's not calmn. People like that don't think while dealing with you. They can comeback to their senses when your blood is flowing on the streets of Jezreel�.

Let this situation draw you close to God. Go back to your wife and mend things with her. Ensure she forgives you even if she doesn't want you anymore. Your gf is just checking on you to know if you are making an effort to leave your wife. She'll do more damage if you give her negative feedback�. Cut off every tie with her.

Nice of you to keep in touch with your dad even though he doesn't deserve it. That shows you are wise.

The person who receives your bride price and who who will eventually walk you down the aisle isn't as important as the person you see as a father. Bride price is paid once in a lifetime. If I were you, I'll go on my knees and plead with my uncle to let your biological dad have his way. Make sure he understands that he's the only father and family you have, but you don't want your dad to see him and his people as enemy.

A father's curse can ruin your life forever. Unfortunately, even if you don't believe it. Make your dad feel like you really love him until your marriage is concluded. Then say goodbye.

Your ex wife isn't your problem right now. I understand you feel lonely and desperately need someone to encourage you, hear your story, chat with you and plan life with. But think about it, it's difficult to wait for someone that long. Women need love and care, not just sexual satisfaction like men. Let her go.

If you are a Christian, take this time to rebuild your Christian life and get closer to God. Get to that point where you can experience God's presence so you can easily get divine leading. Go to church always and spend time in prayer. Be in the company of true Christians and find something doing. If you can, make God a promise that you can keep if he blesses you. Pick up from anything genuine however little.

Forgiveness is very vital for you now. Forgive your life and let her be. Tell her you have forgiven her and bless her. Let your daughter be with her. Get yourself back first before having a dependant with you. You can spend time with her weekends. Forgiveness will open heavens door to you because you'll find God's forgiveness.

Plan out what you hope to achieve in the nearest future and start working on it. Focus or concentrate your energy on one particular thing. In the process of developing yourself and growing gradually, you might get betrayed, looked down on or rejected. It's part of the process. Keep going and never look back. You have a great life ahead of you. Focus on that. May God restore all your wasted years.

UjuJoan2:
I don't quite agree @bukatyne.

I think people are a mix of nurture and influence. There's no greater influence than the norms of the society you live in. You have to live in Nigeria to fully understand this.

Even women who are brought up to be strong and independent sometimes get pressured into making certain decisions, just to look 'good'.

For you it's clear, you have a choice. For some it's not that straightforward.

I have daughters and I preach self esteem to them, but I worry about the environment they are being raised. Imagine a teacher telling them that Men grow up to become Doctors and women grow up to become Nurses. This teacher is grooming them already for a life of servitude to men, irrespective of what they are truly capable of.

I honestly think it's a hopeless situation.

Take your kids to a good school. Work hard and practice what you preach

UjuJoan2:
Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

You are are simply a frustrated women. After six years in marriage, anyone should be pained and frustrated, but not channeled towards their partner. She must be a wonderful woman and God will give her children. Don't let frustration kill you.

This is the time you need God's direction. Maybe God is passing a message to you. Go to a quiet place over the weekend and wait on God. Wait until He speaks to you or give you a leading. Go to a place where you can spend quality time without distraction for 24 hours and beyond. Take what you receive as you final decision.

I know someone who was lead to someone, but because he didn't see so much love and acceptance from this lady from the beginning, he asked God for another person. The second person arrived and it was all fun and sex. She took in and marriage happened in less than 4 months. His wife fought his siblings on the same day they wedded. He went broke and both of them started suffering. Her family couldn't even support. They termed the guy lazy and mean.

He's tried divorcing her but she'll always emotionally hold him down. They have 3 kids so it's even more difficult. She brings him problems every now and then. They don't have peace. Most importantly, she doesn't love God like him.

Good things most times don't seem like it from the beginning. Someone can be nice to you to get you. Most ladies who don't seem to fall at your feet from the get go a great women. They'll spend the rest of their lives proving that to you. Secondly, what gives us peace and blessings don't usually look attractive.

Getting a divorce isn't straight forward when kids are involved. Stop everything now. Better loose your job and disappear for a while than go through with it. You are not very young to be experimenting marriage. Save up the 200k and return it back to her. They can keep whatever they have bought and use it when she finds another man.

A stitch in time saves nine

Obedience is better than sacrifice

You can't give peace in the midst of war

You can't give peace if you lack peace

In what word can you describe Nigeria