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Randy100:
It is wrong for a girl to approach a guy. It is like telling antelop to approach a lion for it to be eaten, trust me the lion won't enjoy such meal. As a guy I see myself as a hunter who must hunt the girl of my choice, subdue her and take her home. There is abnormality in a girl approaching a guy.

Sometimes the hold of arbitrary traditional rules and perspectives can be strong on the mind. You had better drop that misogynistic ego and learn to embrace the equality of both sexes. It's this same misogynistic pride that makes men feel ashamed when they are outclassed by a woman in a combat or in the game of chess. It's that same pride that makes men mildly bitter and intimidated by intelligent strong career women that are doing better than them. This nonsense must stop.

There is nothing wrong if a woman approaches you. I dare you to explain, without insulting my intelligence, why it's abnormal for a girl to approach a boy.

ubunja:
Girls can't handle rejection.

See what Potifah's wife did to Joseph

Lol. Seriously, can you speak for all girls? Don't you know some boys too can't handle rejection? Naturally, everyone, both boys and girls, appreciate the idea of feeling special. It takes maturity to be able to handle rejection.

By the way, Potifah's wife didn't exist. The bible is a book of fairytales, ridiculous garbages and falsehoods with no sound basis in reality. It's not a smart thing to use the bible to inform yourself about reality.

AmazonTopaz:
In this part of the world.It is usually men that do the toasting.
Men are encouraged to do such and if a lady approaches a guy some would claim that she is desperate or has a low self esteem which is not entirely true.

OP,I agree with you ladies should also approach guys.Signal is not enough.If you like a guy do not wait for him to tell you first you tell him be genuine to yourself. Personally,I have approached a guy before.
One of the first things I told a guy I approached was that I had feelings and was ready to mingle .

Better pickin, carry go nothing do you.

Sarang:
Nwokem mechie onu. Why do you think that it's only the guy that invested all those things you posted there?
Like men don't cheat and e no dey pain women for body. But a woman cannot flog a man nah abi can she? Lol Nigerian women needs to wisen up and start taking those bastards to court. As wear them never born the ewu wey go slap me sef

Sorry, no vex nwanyi oma. What he did was totally wrong. Hope you don calm down.

Taniaa:
Yes no one compares to job.. but what if job wasn't an actual story but fallacy? cause his kind of patience and virtue is hard to comprehend by a regular human

Dear, Job never existed. The bible writers knew that tragedy is inevitable and an imaginary all powerful god can do nothing about it. In order to bind people to their falsehood and keep people from questioning or cursing god in the event of tragedy, they invented the story of Job. So rather than question the ability of god to provide for you or question his existence in the event of great suffering, you would think god is testing you and of course, you wouldn't want to fail as a faithful servant of god and miss the double blessings . All these to keep people in check and ensure that they remain on the plantation of the mental slavery called christianity.

No matter what you are going through, keep your head high. Life doesn't always go the way we want.

"I looked stressed each time I use my brain."

habsydiamond:
Na that signal thing funny pass....when guys are not radio antenna... If u love a guy and he is not reciprocating ur love, the best is for u to express it feeling for him to know... But in our world in africa, people see ladies that express their love for guys as a prostitute which is not to be so... Ladies make Una dey follow African China song ooo....if u love anybody walk up to am and tell am u love am eh....it is no crime no crime at all.

Gbam. Correct guy.

This wrong but then, after spending money on a woman combined with the emotional investment you put in the marriage and you find her cheating. E dey pain body.

If you like a boy, go and tell him. Which one is "I am giving him signs and signals"? Is he a radio antenna? What if to him, you are just being nice and friendly? Not every boy's mindset is twisted to think that boys and girls can't be deep friends and any little nice gesture or play means one is romantically interested in the other. If you like him, go and tell him. Will he kill you? Will asking him out make your life miserable?

If boys can ask girls out, girls too can ask boys out. If Muhammad don't go to the mountain, the mountain must go to Muhammad. Don't be afraid of rejection, after all you can't always get what you want and not every boy would like you just as you don't like every boy. If you approach him and he says yes, good for you. If you approach him and he says no, life goes on and that doesn't mean you are not worth it or you are inferior to him, every boy you like cannot like you and every girl a boy likes cannot like him in return. Such is life.

This attitude of "I am giving him signs and signals" must stop this 2019. I want to see ladies breaking tradition and making that bold step.

Cc. Martinez19.

Makydebbie, funmisticqueen and other nairaland girls, what are your take on this? Which would you prefer : giving him signs or approaching him? If you would approach him, care to drop your lines for the sake of other girls?

5thElement:
So the neighbor that got her pregnant is a woman, or a goat, or a dog?

What a colossal display of irrationality. He simply asked how is it the boyfriend's fault that the girlfriend cheated and you are here mentioning the neighbour. What is the relevance of the neighbour to his question? What irrationality . JOHNNYSPUTE simply ignored you because he knows incorrigible irrationality when he sees one.

5thElement:
if you are a moderator then you are a failure of a moderator. Seun should actually replace you. "why should we ban people just because they are against your views?..." if you cant see at least 2 to 3 violations of the rules listed on Nairaland homepage in most of his responses, then you aren't fit for that job.

Leave wetdick alone. You edited my post and insulted me thereby violating the same laws. Would you call the mods on yourself? Of course not. A man of double standards. That's how I know beta males: they run off crying to their mum or authority when they are crushed in arguments by alphas like Martinez19. Sorry for hurting you, I will bring pap in a feeding bottle in our next clash instead of beef in a plate. Seems you are not yet an alpha to take strong meat and graciously have a taste of your own medicine.

5thElement:
Anyway, the op said "BOYS get in here".

I should have known better than to post on this thread. I'll leave the BOYS to it then.

kiddies corner to wail over ex-girlfriends. lol

Lol. Strawmanning is for losers. Despite the fact that you edited my posts to insult me, you still went ahead to complain to the mods because I insulted you . In fact, I did not insult you instead I said facts about you that you didn't like. Am I going to report you to the mods for insulting me? No. As an alpha male, it takes a lot to make me cry unlike the butthurt beta that ran crying to the mod .

Hope you are okay or do Martinez19 nurse your hurting emotions and bring a handkerchief to wipe your tears?

funmisticqueen:
yes I get. He/she is a MGTOW wannabe. I agree with some of his/her points, that amakavula is MGTOW. The thing is this, no woman who knows her value will ever date or look twice at a red pill person/MGTOW. they either end up single AF and bitter or end up with an ignorant woman with low self esteem who they can play their mind games with. So I really pity these male version of feminists. Because they are using feminine wiles to augment their petulant behavior.

But she did say the truth. True love like the ones in fairy tales don't exist and if it does, usually isn't glamorous like you make it out to be. Only God loves unconditionally

MGTOW are not bitter men. The movement originated in America, Europe and other foreign countries with laws that are irrationally gynocentric when it comes to dealing with relationships and marriages. Men in those countries are choosing not to marry because women are exploiting these loopholes in the law to ruin men, let me explain by highlighting the following points :

1) If a woman accuses a man of rape or domestic violence, the man is punished and thrown in jail even if there are no evidences to support her claim. A lot of women have been caught making false rape allegations for very silly reasons which I wouldn't waste time listing. Despite this, the courts continue to convict men without evidence. There is no emotional theatrics and drama that false rape accusers haven't displayed only to be later proven to be liars and worse is that there is no punishment for these heartless false rape accusers instead they are left unpunished even if their innocent victims spent many years behind bars.

2) If a woman divorces a man, the court gives her half of what the man owns whether or not she cheated and the man is forced to pay child support. All the woman needs to do is get emotional and dramatic and she is believed. If the man does not have the means to pay, he is thrown in jail. Because of this, a lot of women are exploiting this as a business avenue as all they need do is marry a rich man and call a divorce. Even prenups are useless as judges overturn them to favour the woman. It makes no difference if it turns out that the children weren't yours, the man would still pay child support. If the man was rape by a woman and she got pregnant, he would still pay child support.

3) In places of work, once a woman accuses a man of sexual harassment for no good reason he will likely get fired. In colleges and universities, once a female student accuses a boy of rape with no evidence, the boy is expelled.

4) Many men are beginning to wake up to the gold digging and double standard of women. They claim that they are equal to men and what a man can do a woman can do better yet they want men to take care of their financial needs. Why won't they go and work to be independent if they are as good as men as they claim? Check out my last topic to see the characteristics of these vile women.

Given what I have listed, why won't men go their own way? Why won't men refuse to marry? Get your facts right before you start bashing the MGTOW crew or are you trying to brand them frustrated and broke to demonise MGTOW and promote pussy loving simps? Let men be the ones to decide what makes them real men not women. Besides, MGTOW consists of all sorts of men both rich and poor; smart and dull; educated and uneducated etc.


#Martinez19

If you like a boy, go and tell him. Which one is "I am giving him signals and signs"? Is he a radio antenna? What if to him, you are just being nice and friendly? Not every boys mentality is twisted to think that boys and girls can't be deep friends and any little nice gesture or play means one is romantically interested in the other. If you like him, go and tell him. Will he kill you? Will asking him out make you life miserable?

If boys can ask girls out, girls too can ask boys out. If Muhammad don't go mountain, the mountain must go to Muhammad. Don't be afraid of rejection, after all you can't always get what you want and not every boy would like you just as you don't like every boy. If you approach him and he says you, good for you. If you approach him and he says no, life goes on and that doesn't mean you have no worth it or you are inferior to him, every boy you like cannot you and every girl a boy likes cannot like him in return. Such is life.

This attitude of "I am giving him signals and signs" must stop this 2019.

Cc. Martinez19.

Evangkatsoulis:
Why all your nairaland screenshots dey color yellow? Na screen problem?

No. I edited the pictures.

Food. I have already stopped that but I stopped it late this year.

alexistaiwo:
If I say make you see end of the year 2018 and skip 2019 to rejoin the rest of the world in 2038, people will say that I am wicked.

If Chelsea had all these players combined with a good coach, then nah epl and ucl(most likely) back-to-back but my Mourinho and Conte were there to spoil it all.

Too bad Mourinho came to Man Utd.

#GGMU

alexistaiwo:
Though I like Hazard as a player, I think I have had enough of his always talking about Real Madrid.

If he wants to leave, let him leave at a good price.



We used to have Lampard, Terry, Drogba and Mata.
These are world class players and they left, Chelsea didn't collapse, did it?



I blame Mourinho for selling Sallah and De Bruyne.

Lack of other world class players in the present squad is why we were where we were where we wear where we were.

Sallah, De Bruyne, Schurrle, David Luiz(then) and Diego Costa departures sweet me die as a Man utd fan. I thank Mourinho and Conte for this madness.

Chelsea must not have these players combined with Hazard and William. Wetin? Una wan win treble back-to-back?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Hmm. It even has a name. How did you get by?

Luckily, It left on it's own before I started tackling it. It lasted 3 months. Things that are supposed to thrill you don't and you are just numb by events. Even if you are a shit packer on the streets and everyone you know sees you, shame no go catch you.

Abegi . Women are free to dress as they want. It's their right. If their clothes are too tempting, look away or waka commot. Don't blame women for your moral failings and lack of self control.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

Anhedonia?! I had this last year.

budaatum:
Consider Contra Bibliolatreia II -the Septuagint by PastorAIO. Note the various sources (biases) for the current texts.

Don't think I disrespectfully backed out of our conversation. I am extremely busy and would reply today or tomorrow. Merry Christmas.

ekanx27:
procrastination, unnecessary spending on girls who do not appreciate..............

You have finally woken up.

Gboy101:
Mine is beer. I need to stop it abruptly as its suckling away my finance and resource management.

and the only way that can happen is to replaced it with serious girlfriend that would be at my side all the time and at all time. I'm seriously depressed.

Lol. Having a spouse doesn't stop addiction, self-determination and discipline are the keys.

Gboy101:
Mine is beer. I need to stop it abruptly as its suckling away my finance and resource management.

and the only way that can happen is to replaced it with serious girlfriend that would be at my side all the time and at all time. I'm seriously depressed.

Lol. Having a spouse doesn't stop addiction, self-determination and discipline are the key.

budaatum:
The Bible was written in Greek actually, Greek that is not written anymore for that matter, and translated from languages no one speaks anymore, so it probably is as difficult as calculus considering all the various contradictions therein and the numerous ways in which it can be taken.

Your bias is really getting the better of you, just look at what you wrote. Haha! Let's assume that no one speaks Greek anymore. It doesn't change the fact that the first English bible, precisely the King James Version, was released in the 17th century(1611AD) when people spoke Greek and you can't tell me that there was not a polyglot or linguist skilled, at least, in both English and Greek. In fact the people(scholars), commissioned by King James, that translated the bible from Greek to English were such people and they clearly communicated the meaning of the Greek scriptures in English so that even if people don't speak Greek today or speak a different Greek today, the meaning of the old Greek scriptures are clearly communicated. So I don't see how the crooked move of reinterpretation, metaphorical and allegorical explanations are due to the bible's original language and I don't see the complexity you are talking about.

Besides, Greek is the official language of Greece with 99% of people speaking it as at today. So Greek is still spoken, written and languages are being translated into Greek. Besides, don't try to create complexity where there is none. If a book contradicts itself, it means it's flawed --- shikena. Complexity arises from a book of contradiction when you insists that it has some hidden truths in it and you try, by all means, to see that truth and unification despite obvious contradictions. Let's assume that Sherlock Holmes novels were originally written in Greek, if it were translated to English and people read it, they wouldn't be divided on what the novels say but when it comes to the bible, dishonest christians are fighting for their feelings and convenience rather than admit that the bible is flawed. I insist that if people read the bible honestly and thoroughly, they would all agree and be accurate on the true meaning of the bible. Haba!

Finally, don't ever place the bible in the same level of difficulty as my dear advanced calculus. Greeks would struggle with advanced calculus in Greek than with a story book in Greek. How would it now be for non-Greeks? Stop it!

Are you suggesting that taking parts of the Bible as metaphor is because it is "convenient and makes one feel better" and such a view is "faulty", "ignorant and dishonest"?

Exactly! That's the origin of the reinterpretation, metaphorical and allegorical explanations of the bible. For example before the evidences came out for the theory of evolution or any theory on the origin of man, the Catholic Church, Catholics and other christians conveniently and confidently believed the story of creation in the book of genesis. It was easy to do because it was unchallenged by science at that time and therefore convenient to believe. When the evidences came out, many Christians, especially Catholics and their church, all of a sudden, changed their view because it was not convenient to deny the fact of evolution that they knew and rather than admit that the bible is wrong and led them astray, they reinterpretated the book of Genesis to be a metaphor that indeed supports evolution --- how dishonest and convenient seeking. They were after their feelings and convenience and it made them feel better that the bible is true and agrees with facts.

Take a look at the reinterpretation of the rastafari doctrines after their supposed immortal leader, Emperor Haile Selassie, died and you will know where the motivation of such crooked moves of reinterpretation, metaphorical and allegorical explanations come from. Similar unbiblical explanations that have the same purpose are "heaven helps those who help themselves," "God will not heal anyone since he has provided modern medicine," "God won't come down from heaven to help anyone," "God is not a magician," etc.

Well, I beg to differ, but observe two "atheists who have read the bible", disagreeing on what the bible says, in contradiction to your earlier statement that atheists agree! I wonder if you think I am the "ignorant and dishonest" one here, Martinez19.

No! Big No. Disagreement due to ignorance of scripture is different from disagreement due to reinterpretation and perspectives of scripture. Atheists, who has read the bible thoroughly and honestly(obviously), all agree on what the bible says.

Cc. Martinez19

MuttleyLaff:
Oh dear. You've been banned from posting here by the frisky antispam bot Martinez19
PS like a phoenix bird that rises from the ashes of fire is Martinez39

Lol. Logic can't prevail for some. The so called bot did not ban me until now.

Goshen360:
Just as I thought....u can't debate this argument.

Again, I completely agree with you you the Mexicans shouldn't swing in or jump the fence etc into the USA BUT....BUT....BUT....u r not listening to my argument of legal terms here....that is,

When you hear "ILLEGAL" immigrants, it means BOTH those who came LEGALLY by visa and had overstayed or didn't go back AND THOSE Mexicans who swimmed or jumped in.....they are BOTH NOW ILLEGAL by LAW.

What do you do to them? Send them all back?

Yes, you send them back. It's the best decision objectively. Shikena.

johnydon22:
So, anybody that has no consciousness is not human then? Just an unconscious cleavage of cells?

A comatose man is not human then.

To get this straight, Human is a stage not s state of being?

Doesn't this imply that developmental complexity connotes something can be more human than the other. LIke: A human adult is more human than a human baby since a human adult is not a baby.

So, there is a point when a human was not human?

What specie is an embryo?

Consciousness does not define human life.

Doesn't this imply you never intended for a human based argument which is the fundamental premise on which abortion can be morally abhorred.


Therefore; fucck biology. Osheeey

You are simply misunderstanding me. Look for the meaning of my statements and their logical and scientific implications because I can't state everything. A comatose man is still human because he beyond the stage of development of the heart. I mentioned that development of the heart, no consciousness and feelings, as the only necessary condition to classify as human because a man who is asleep is not conscious of his surroundings but he is well beyond the stage of development of the heart.

Haba! I never spoke on the nature of a human being instead I gave a condition to classify what's inside the womb as human, so which one is To get this straight, Human is a stage not s state of being? a condition for something to become classified as X is not necessarily the same as the nature of X.

Once an embryo is at the stage of the development of the heart, the embryo remains human and cannot grow to become more human. Growth is different from biological evolution.

I never said consciousness defines life. A man asleep and a man in coma are unconscious of their surroundings yet they satisfy the condition I gave so they are human and alive. It's immoral to kill them.

Isn't biological classification all about grouping into kingdoms, phylum,..., genus & specie? I am not doing that. Already it's clear what specie the embryo we are talking about is or does the abortion issue also worry about the abortion of dogs and rabbits? My classification is based on if it's human or not.

Maybe you don't get what I mean by human. Technically, all non-dead cells in a human body are alive but you can't classify a bunch of kidney cells as human in the same way you can't classify a bunch of cleavage of embryonic cells as human. I used the word to refer to a much more collective... erm, you know

Apina:
You see why I said you are a slowpoke, her question gave room for further questions which was the reason I decided to come up with a middle ground answer to quell it. Relativism in interpretation as I pointed out simply puts to bed the sectarian questions which would have arisen should I have given a specific answer since God was the basis of the question in the first place.

STFU jare. She simply typed that she didn't understand the bible verse you gave. Mteww.

AryEmber:
This is not about my religion. You don't seem to get the point, YOU claim something to be a FACT. I'm telling you it's your belief or should I say it's YOUR fact since you can't prove it, it's not my responsibility to prove to you that God exist because I didn't claim it's everyone's fact but my own belief. And as for my child, I won't have to tell him that Hindu gods do not exist because he'll be smart enough to know that it's stupid for a god to divide himself to millions of gods . I will teach him to worship Allah cause he's the most merciful and our God.

I said it's a fact and I gave you assignment to see for yourself so as determine if it's true or not. All I am saying is that how are you sure your beliefs are true? Is there no way to test them?

@bold
Does a God dividing himself into millions of gods means he doesn't exist? Besides, you have no proof that the gods of other religions, Hindu inclusive, don't exist, why don't you join them?

Apina:
The same way I believe you don't have a brain until the day we get to open your skull and check . Existence does not rely on proof just as a fish swimming in the sea right now, has its burden of proof laid down on your acknowledgement of you seeing it swim for it to exist as such

For over 500 years, the human body has been dissected and repeatedly studied and consistent features have been outrightly identified and the brain along side the heart, lungs, liver, kidneys etc. is one of those features. Anti-malaria, painkillers and other drugs won't work if anatomy(the scientific field) weren't true. Besides, we have seen fishes swim but has anyone seen god or demonstrated his supposed raw power to your seeing? Try again .