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Michellekabod2:
You are innocent.

Of course Michelle, you should know that.

Michellekabod2:
astrogs and Martinez ain't better than him,they are all trolls that do nothing but sham women

False allegations. Show me where I have shamed women?

Romeo3:
I like having conversations with a girl that matches or exceeds my intelligence. It turns me on.

Okay, I get your point.

Romeo3:
Because it does. Educated girls are sexy. I think you're mixing up what you are trying to say.

SMH.

Michellekabod2:
funny you. Who is an evening newspaper?
You use the words carelessly(obviously cluelessly)

BTW am not against marrying someone 18 and above. I don't understand the wailing of ladies when they see guys marrying younger girls.

So you don't know who an evening newspapers is? Well, if you don't, I won't tell you.

McCoy662:
Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3 years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.

It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.

Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf (my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She doesn't even visit on a regular except for sex.

Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much.
My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.

I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.

You are a big fool.

Blu03:
tsk tsk tsk.

swerve swerve swerve

They are looking for premium products not evening newspapers. This should be obvious.

CAPSLOCKED:
FORGET PAYING BILLS.
FEMALE SOLDIERS WANT EQUAL PAY WITH THE MEN WHO LIVE ALL THROUGH THE YEAR IN WAR ZONES EXCHANGING BULLETS AND DAMAGING BODY PARTS, WHILE THEY (WOMEN) STAY IN THE BARRACKS GOSSIPING AND SERVING TEA.

THESE THINGS ARE FUNNY I DON'T LIKE TO GET INVOLVED.

The military part is very funny. Even the WNBA players want equal pay with the NBA players. After the American women national team won the world cup, there were talks of equal pay. Women are self-centered and want to eat their cake and have it. Little wonder they practice cafeteria equality — they pick only the equality they like.

funmisticqueen2:
@ bolded, really?


May you marry your match

It's funny how women want equality when it comes to fidelity and body count. You hear women say "he wants to marry a virgin, is he also a virgin?" and "if it is wrong for a woman to cheat, it is also wrong for a man to cheat." Women bring up equality in these aspects yet they fail to bring up equality when it comes to paying the bills.

Either you want equality all around or your get traditional and under the traditional status quo, a man can have many women while a lady cannot because a man brings in the money, leadership, and protection while a woman brings in her body and youth (that's why men go for young virgins because they want a fresh premium product); sexual exclusivity (the man is using his money to take care of his wife hence no sharing with other men); respect for the husband; and home skills (cooking, cleaning, nurturing, etc). Traditionally, as long as a man will keep performing his duties to his family, he is free to seek other women.

Kennedyiheme02, ubunja, michellekabod2, CAPSLOCKED, JONNYSPUTE, Omar09, emmaodet, healthserve,

Kachi188:
Wonderful....people are badmouthing this beast of a phone because of waterdrop notch...

Don't mind them. Xiaomi products are very good.

homealone00:
I swear, who die for Nigeria no get value for him life.

Correct guy.

Michellekabod2:
did you condemn the act as gruesome? You just derailed

I didn't make any comment but you should know that I condemn such gruesome act.

CAPSLOCKED:
MANY MALE DETAINEES/PRISONERS CAN TESTIFY THAT THESE WOMEN NEVER STOPPED MANHANDLING THEIR GENITALS DURING THEIR JAIL TIME. THEN I WONDER, WHAT IS THE CONNECTION BETWEEN POLICEWOMEN AND PEOPLE'S GENITALS?

Female are more sexually perverted that people think. In USA, Australia, and other developed countries, it is very common for female teachers to molest young boys and even get pregnant as a result. Ubunja can attest to this.

Michellekabod2:
your concern isn't that gruesome act has being carried out,your concern is "who did it"

Go and sleep.

BarrSly:
Ladies definition of a hardworking man, is a wealthy man..

So just have money and act like you’re doing something serious and putting your brain to good use and this is where your money is coming from.. I swear you’ll be called hardworking lol

Sharp guy. Ladies are looking for rich men. The money is the thing not hardwork.

maasoap:
Female police officers handle the balls in Nigeria police stations

Lol. When they wear leggings and tight skirts or when they wear those tight trousers and skirts that shows their big bum, the male officers have no choice but to simp and give them promotions. Just kidding.

funmisticqueen2:
he was never happy doing the chores. He only pretended to be for a little while. That's what I think.

If your story is true, then your friend did wrong by staying in the relationship. People need to set standards in their relationships. She should have sat the guy down and reminded him of the 50:50 plan and insisted that she will not be shortchanged and that if he fumbles from henceforth, she will leave. She fumbled by staying and tolerating him.

Your story is fake. Just say you like some equality that favours you but you don't like others. How can a man that was happy with doing 50:50 and sharing the chores suddenly have a problem with the chores? By the way, how does your story really show that 50:50 is a scam? Suppose the boyfriend was doing the chores, will you call 50:50 a scam? We can blame the boyfriend's laziness and lack of tact on the girlfriend's part for not standing her ground on refusing to the shortchanged. We cannot blame ego for the man's actions because he was willing to do the chores in the past.

Now let me ask you, suppose a couple decided to do 50:50 and every month and when it's time to pay the bills, the girlfriend, in typical female version, keeps bringing up a sob story on how she is short on money, the boyfriend then pays all while she still insist on sharing the chores, would you call 50:50 a scam because of this? Basically, you didn't need to bring up a contrived story. Just say you want a man that is rich and is taking care of you and you resent the idea of financially investing your relationship in any little way even though you like equal rights and opportunities as a man. Just concede, it's not a sin.

CAPSLOCKED:
I'M TRYING TO FIND THE CONNECTION BETWEEN THE CRIME AND THIS MAN'S PRIVATES.

O'BOY. IT'S BETTER TO BE BEHEADED BY TERRORISTS ON LIVE CAMERA THAN TO DIE LIKE THIS.

The news said a female police officer. Is it really female police officer? But women are angels, compassionate, nurturing, and more caring than men. It was really a male police officer.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. I can agree with on the issue of my wife or the nanny doing more of the washing,but anytime I'm in town,I usually do my laundries by myself. But I will start engaging him more once he clocks 4.

You can engage him but don't over engage him. Just put your mind at rest. Even without engaging him, he will outgrow that mentality. Na small pickin dey worry am. All you need to do is ensure that he learns to discipline himself to embrace a hygienic lifestyle and self-sufficiency skills. Starting gradually, do this and hammer on it when he is about 9.
— Around 9, he must learn to consistently and properly brush his teeth morning and evening by himself without and failure shall incur hot lashes of cane.
— When he is 12, he can start learning to properly sweep and tidy the whole sitting room and his room from time to time. @12, I believe he is strong enough and he can start taking responsibility for the cleanliness of his clothes and he must wash them by himself.
— By 15-16, he should start learning how to cook certain foods and clear the dishes.
As he keeps growing, you know, as a man, the responsibilities to add to ensure he is disciplined in the areas of hygiene and self-sufficiency. The joy of teaching him all these and ensuring he does these consistently is that it will become his second nature to the extent that he will start doing these without being told.

If he doesn't learn, if he can't even wash his plates and clothes, and he makes it in life, a karishika can creep into his life playing "wife material" by doing these basic things.

lucky4west:
its still early days he will out grow that mentality, same way my boy felt about cooking now he is learning, start involving him gradually ....he will come around

Exactly! I used to think cleaning the house and cooking were women's work as a little kids but I now do my cooking and cleaning.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Walahi me sef dey ask my myself. Na nature?

I used to think like that when I was a very little boy. I remember that it was inculcated into me (though I don't know where and from whom) that men work to earn money and pay the bills and do tough works while women do chores and keep the house. There was man's work and women's. With time, I knew better and acted accordingly. Maybe your son is used to seeing your wife doing the chores and washing while you provide. Don't worry, with time he will understand.

chinchonglee:
Some animal right activists will come nd say trash.

If u get chance kill any animal abeg kill the bloody bastard.
Naso dog nearly bite me for our close wen i dey try do good boy.

No vex. The dog sef dey feel Buhari's next level.

They tried, the hippopotamus is a very dangerous animal.

You missed the religion section. Go to the religion section.

Your brother needs an immediate intervention and you can help him man up but have in mind that you can't help someone that doesn't want to help himself. Give him the options: 1) quit drugs NOW, see a psychiatrist together with you, look for a job, and start contributing by doing chores if he wants to remain, or 2) Continue his lifestyle and leave the house.

You have to be serious about this before he becomes terribly damaged and becomes a terrible and costly liability.

misreal:
Wow..please reward her immensely.instead of rewarding bbn

Reward her for what exactly? Her parents are solely responsible for her not FCMB or anyone else.

lefulefu:
and the guy still remained with her after all that writting
she will cheat on him so obvious

A lot of men are heavyweight champions in the field of simphood.

Amakavula:
What sorta trash is this? Why do men insist on wasting their lives with some women? I have two brothers and I watch them like hawk, Godforbid they meet someone like her

I thought you have quit nairaland. Seems the junkies still crave their powder. Welcome back even though I don't care whether you stay on nairaland or not.

donofdons:
This is me before I learnt that selflessness doesn’t pay. Selfishness is the way.

My fellow former Mr. Nice Guy. Welcome to the club.