₦airaland Forum

mykali:
kogi state with its dubious politicians. no matter who wins. . .the place never changes.

End of Discussion

Ojo Maduekwe again?
can't his old man just retire and go play with his grand kids?
How can you go from being a mister for foreign affairs to being an ambassador?
Is there no hnour and shame amongst these thieves?

Anyim is the wrong person to be testing that bread.
the man should be on a fruits and veggies only diet.

Today is World AIDS day.

HARRIET MCLEA | 01 December, 2011 01:25
http://www.timeslive.co.za/specialreports/hivaids/2011/12/01/don-t-tell-anyone-your-mother-gave-you-hiv

[b]Two teenagers sip on strawberry milkshakes at Johannesburg's Southgate Mall.
She wears a brown sling-bag across her black Guess T-shirt, over skinny jeans and sandals.

Earphones dangle from the neck of his green Guess T-shirt, covering an 18-year-old body honed by chest-pressing 10kg weights.

Few people know that the two were born HIV-positive.

"It's not nice. I have to lie to my friends because they don't know my status. All my friends don't know; only my grandmother and my aunt," says Nelly, also 18.

She finished school last year and is looking for a bursary to study social work through Unisa.

Thabang's mates are becoming suspicious, having noticed his regular clinic visits. They say: "Every Thursday, every three months, you go to the doctor."

It worries him.

"They want to know what is wrong. I tell them I'm having flu."

Both Nelly and Thabang were born in 1993 to HIV-positive mothers at a time when there were no programmes for the prevention of mother-to-child infection.

Nelly was 12 years old when she began taking medication - she did not know why. One morning, as she prepared for school, her grandmother told her that she was HIV-positive: "This is the secret of your life; don't tell anybody," the grandmother said.

That day she could not concentrate in class.

"Where did I get this? How did it get into my body?" she thought. Maybe she had been violated in her sleep.

"When I got home I asked my grandmother where I got this and she said it was from my mother."

Life changed overnight.

"I was a person who liked to go out with friends, but now I don't do sleep-overs," she said.

At 7am and 7pm every day, Nelly has to take her antiretrovirals. She has to lie to her friends about why she has to be home by 7pm to take her medication.

"We're having girl's gossips and chats, but my grandmother has to call me," she said.

The worst part is that she doesn't know how to tell her 21-year-old boyfriend.

"He doesn't know about my status. I feel guilty sometimes. He asks me [if we can Be Intimate] but I always say I'm not ready," she says.

Thabang's face brightens as he speaks of his 17-year-old girlfriend, who is "such a nice lady".

They have been dating for over a year and "just chill in the streets or at the park". But there is one thing they don't discuss.

"We don't talk about HIV. I haven't disclosed it to her and I don't know how she feels about HIV."

Dating is easier for him than for Nelly because men initiate sex, he said.

"I tell her I'm not ready, we are still at school and I'm not ready to be a father because there's a possibility that the condom will burst."

For Nelly, keeping the secret is "very difficult".

"We can't just tell anybody our status," she said.

Thabang has overheard neighbours saying: "Don't worry, she will die soon", while gossiping about someone who is HIV-positive.

Neither is ready to deal with the stigma.

"They'll say I'm a NaughtyWoman; I was sleeping around. They won't understand I got it from my mother."

Nelly has battled to forgive her mother, who died when she was 10.

"All these years, I was holding grudges. Why didn't they protect me? My younger sister is negative. I was feeling like I could kill myself because maybe my mother didn't like me. I was wishing my mother could come back so I could kill her," she said.

But Nelly forgave her mother earlier this year. She wrote her a letter.

"I told her I have many questions. I still want to know how she got the virus. But I have forgiven her. That letter has calmed my soul. I feel free now that I have forgiven her."

Now, when Nelly looks at herself in the mirror, she sees a "healthy girl with a nice body".

"Sometimes I think this virus is not there in my body, that it's under my feet and I'm going on top of it. I see myself with a good weight, with a good height and everything is fine."

All names have been changed[/b]

I remember a girl asking me my genotype on a 1st date.

Atiku should please give it a rest.
It seems his only means of relevance in recent times is his quarrel with OBJ.
In saner climes folks like him would be wearing orange jumper suits.
he should just go and enjoy his loot in peace and leave us alone.

saintneo:
I think this should be political and sports as well.

I am really saddened by this news. When Newcastle was in debt, some Nigerian mob were available for rescue. Yet we find it very difficult to rescue our own. Take a look at the debt 160million Naira (€744,954), this by far less than what a club in the EPL will pay to sign a single player.

Do the Nigerian mob look like NGOs to you?
What profit is there to be made from shooting stars?
Do you know what the turnover of Newcastle united is in a season?
it share of the sky tv revenue?
shirt sponsorship?
naming rights to St. James Stadium?

you want to compare Newcastle united as a money making entity and shooting stars. is that a joke?
guy, stop that rough play o!

Sagamite:
Exactly what I was thinking, I was just being a bit more subtle than you. That was why I put it as questions that direct people to the thought.

If he was suffering from depression,none of those would have mattered.
If he was not depressed it might be one of those you alluded to but if it is depression then he could have all the world and still be in a sad dark place in his heart that would make him think that taking his life is the most rational step.

There is only one Gary Speed!!!

My thoughts and prayers are with his family. I can only imagine their pain and lacerated hearts. May God grant them strength.
My thoughts and prayers are also with the OP. Her genuine love and friendship for this guy warms my heart and gives me hope in humanity. To believe they never met in the flesh makes it even more impressing. She has persisted in her friendship with this lad even in dead. Proof that even death's sting is not as powerful as often imagined.

Kx:
Our football is a product of the society/economy.
Everything is in shambles, why should football be an exception?

it seems you were a fly on the wall while my cousin and i were having this conversation last nite.
This was my exact argument.

Anyway, the reason why i think most Nigerians expect something different is bacause football is the masses game. It is a game that does not know tribalism or ethnicity. it is a game the poor can enjoy without being oppressed by the rich. for these reasons and more, we are willing to suspend logic and expect miracles.

dread247:
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Why would you want a South African citizenship for your child?
anyway, it is not even possible unless you or/and your wife are already SA citizens.
Outside of the passport issue which is ruled out, what exactly is your reason for wanting to go give birth in SA?

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livapul86:
@ Oga Mbulela: your write-up was indeed insightful. I have definitely learnt something about depression. But my response wasn't to take a swing at Gary or to sound disgusting, it was merely to clutch at whatever logical reason that would necessitate Suicide.

I feel you my brother.
my post has been slightly modified.
sorry for the slightly harsh tone.

livapul86:
RIP, Gary Speed. But the bigger question to be asked is WHY? As Sagamite rightly pointed out his achievements, its sickening to begin to understand why he would commit suicide. Life, seriously dey tire me at the moment(just financial) but if i can somehow make half of what he has made so far, Suicide would be the farthest thing from my mind. My theory is, maybe he was a closeted man-lover and was about to be outed by his partner.

,i wish to draw your attention to this tribute. I echo every word of it and you need to realise that depression is not about dissatisfaction with ones accumulation or achievement, it is a disease that afflicts irrespective of all that.


[b]If anything, I think the lesson that should be taken from this is that depression shouldn't be seen as disease contracted in response to things 'not being right', but as a disease affecting your thought process, irrespective of your reality.

Treatment for depression is not a case of putting right those things making you depressed, it's about learning to think differently about the things making you depressed. I didn't seek treatment for a long time as I believed the factors making me depressed were tangible problems which I simply had to fix. It wasn't until I started to receive treatment that I became aware of how I'd been stuck in a self-destructive depressive cycle for years.

The solution wasn't the fixing of the problems per se, it was the fixing of the thought processes which led to my depression. I have since been fortunate enough to resolve many of the issues I considered at the time to be the cause of my depression, but through education I am now aware that the actual cause of my depression was depression itself. While this leaves the door open for it to return, irrespective of circumstance, I am at least well armed, forewarned and prepared. [/b]

sleekcm:
Speed wasn't skillful as a player but he had a great engine. It's a sad loss to Wales and the football sphere; he could have ended up becoming a[b] top top [/b] manager. To Gary: go well!

Are you Jamie Redknapp?

Tributes don't get better than this;

RIP Gary Speed
When I heard the tragic news yesterday, I was in shock, sadness, disbelief but also in awe of a man who was the perfect role model. A model pro, hard working, skilful, modest, good looking, never arrogant, I could go on, and on, and on even more. When somebody in the public eye passes away, we can sometime be found guilty of passing over their mistakes in life and their deficiencies but with Gary Speed, there were no deficiencies, he was universally liked and admired.

He played for Leeds but Man U fans respected him, he played for Everton and was respected by Liverpool, same for Newcastle and Sunderland, he was Welsh but the English loved him. If there is anybody you could aspire to be like, anybody to model yourself on, you need look no further than Gary Speed, a true legend in every sense of the word and a real gentleman to boot. Nobody is perfect but Gary Speed wasn't far off.

Sagamite:
He has 2 kids.

He has 10 times more money than 99% will ever make in their lifetime.

He has one of the top jobs in the world for his profession.

He has a reputation that is highly respected.

What can be so worrying in life that he feels the need to kill himself?

Was he about to lose one or more of the above?

you will not understand. I also pray you never do.

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papa ejima:
@mbulela, the onus is not on anyone to prove your story false but the onus is on you to prove that your story is true which you have not done so far. Wednesdays are the most crowded days in Silverbird Port Harcourt and it is expected that if such an incidence occurred, some one in this forum could have witnessed it and collaborated your story. You have not made any clarification as to whether the said incidence occurred outside the premises or inside the premises. You keep referring other posters to the said victim when you could have just posted a link from any news medium to substantiate your claim. There is no way, all the whole news media will blackout an incidence of that magnitude.

your ignorance is alarming.
what warped link are you looking for?
I know the victim. you want me to pick her picture with a hole in her chest?
do you know how much violent crime happen in Nigeria and never find there way to the media?
If every violent crime ws carried by the media,you think there will be anything else in the papers?
guy/gal, i am not here no convince you on anything as i am not in a court of law. I simply posted to draw attention to the increasing spate of violent crime in PH.
Keep waiting for a link to substantiate my post.

2kurupt:
@Logical. Spot on! Nigeria is still safer than most countries the world over, the Nigerians who travel out & suddenly feel that we all here are 419ers, suicide bombers & kidnappers are just plain silly. These crimes are not peculiar or worst in our country
@OP stop spreading rumours, get your facts right before posting trash on the internet

obinna 222:
Hello everyone, the story is false. I visit this place everyday and there has been no incident as such.

I wonder why people go about carrying false information.

Poster, please always clarify your information before you start broadcasting

Not everyone trades in lies,either online or in the real world.
Check my history here.
Go to UPTH and find the girl. May be your doubting tendencies will be sorted.
The fact that you go to Silverbird everyday does not prove anything.
The crux of the matter is that security in PH is getting bad again.
I just spoke to one of the consultants who saw her.
I am sure you don't want me to divulge details of her medical records here?

obinna 222:
Hello everyone, the story is false. I visit this place everyday and there has been no incident as such.

I wonder why people go about carrying false information.

Poster, please always clarify your information before you start broadcasting

What proof do you want?
how can you just conclude that it is false.
I await your response.

[quote author=Mr_TA link=topic=716327.msg9629166#msg9629166 date=1322214851]So because Anderson heard Cleverly is out till Christmas, he broke his own knee so he'll be out till Feb now abi? [/quote]Aas much as i dislike Aanderson, i think this is the end of his Manchester Journey.
God knows how much weight he would have gained when he returns in Feb?
it would take months to lose.

dayokanu:
Ask the best team in Manchester wetin dem eye see for Munich in the hands of Super Mario Gomez

the same Bayern that Dortmund beat?

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=810974.msg9628504#msg9628504 date=1322206767]Plz post an article make I show this woman wey no go let me rest about visiting Naija this summer.
No be me go stp on that soil, well ateast when "breathing and living" is no longer a crime.[/quote]many people have been returning home and only have good tales to share.
Many people would not leave elsewhere but South Africa and there are those who have been robbed on their only visit there.
It is all in God's hands.
Come home and enjoy yourself.
At least it is only a visit.

Carshopper:
pls get facts rite, 2 days ago wld b wednesday, i ws at silverbird ph @ abt dat time, saw a 9.30 movie n every time ws normal

It could have happened before the 8pm movie or after it. they could have been shot outside the viewing halls or inside.
that everything seemed normal is no proof that nothing happened.
The fact according to the victims is that they were there to watch a 8pm movie.
Do you want me to give you the girl's name and the hospital where she presently is, so you can go and interview her?
I am more worried aboutthe growing spat of violence in PH.
these are the ones we getto hear about.what of those we do not hear of?
I know 2 persons who have been kidnapped in PH in the last few months.
several persons trailed from the bank in recent weeks.
it was not this bad last year.
Amaechi needs to step up his game security wise.

otokx:
Are you sure of this?

I am sure of this.

^^^
i get the same shivers with online shopping anywhere in the world.

the robbers wore masks.

Demdem:
was the raid at night or during the day? when exactly please?

they went to watch 8pm movie few days back.

Kalahari Nigeria has closed due to poor patronage.

there is a new online store that i am seems to hold a lot of promise in my view.
I am watching to see how it progresses. the owners seem to be doing everything right.
upscalecollections.com

Dis Guy:
Average income c

onsiderably low internet penetration

poor customer service

poor infrastructure/postage services

ridiculously expensive some everyday items

lack of trust

traditional shopping channels

electrophobia

very good list.
On a related note, Kalahari closed its Nigerian operation few weeks back. They said it had no possibility of turning a profit in the near future. It had some of the best customer service i have experienced in Nigeria and the postal service was reliable. it was just unfortunate that most of its products were books.considering the fact that Nigerians are poor readers their failure made sense.