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Nasri100:
The Guy no gree. The Guy noe text you. The Guy noe call you. The guy has moved on.

Mama sey she wasnt heartbroken

See how this one dey cry on top another person matter. 😂🤣🤣

bizhop01:
So what?

So go and hug transformer.

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Community dick, I totally understand your point; you have properly conducted a personal research and experimented every woman in your community. However, it is important to recognize that each community is unique and differs in its characteristics.

Merch:
Evening newspaper just dey lament

Public latrine you too dey talk.

raphemmanuel:
Just quote it this way:
When he was ready you didn't see him deem fit to take care of you after wedding (maybe financial constraint), when nigga start see some little mulla, your mind come dey, by then he maybe seeing someone else.
So this scenario teared you people apart...
That's how ladies act...

Anyway will I say you guys are not meant to stay together, you will soon get your own.

Does every breakup have to be about money? He has always been financially buoyant.

Xenry:
If you don't mind me asking, why did you both break up?

A lot happened, there is no specific cause. I simply believe it was fate. Barely four months into our relationship, he was already talking about marriage; we wanted a forever, but distance and time did not permit us. We had to pursue our personal dreams. Time played a major trick on us. When he was ready, I wasn't, and when I became available, he was busy. We grew apart; I guess we both fell out of love.

PerfectStranger:
Marry gini? Epa wey don collect him share japa

Yes, you dey correct, e don collect his share move on or where e wan throw all those fine memories wey we share. We no even share sexual something but the memories sweet die. 😂🤣🤣

zexy2030:
marry am na

I for go beg am make e marry but e don red, I don move on.

zexy2030:
weytin do fate

No mind am, e just dey do shakara sometimes.

zexy2030:
marry am na

Fate no gree

My best ex couldn't break my heart.
We didn't share the same hobbies. We didn't even enjoy the same music or movies; he used to mock my taste in movies. We couldn't pretend or form to each other, we saw through each other's flaws; we were best friends. We didn't care about relationship rules or cultural manners; we were just ourselves. We even violated grammatical rules, throwing grammatical bombs in the air without a care, but we adhered to moral standards. I remember making jokes when he was angry, and when he tried to ask me to be serious, he suddenly started laughing. With him, I felt free like a bird. I didn't even try to be my usual perfectionist self. When our relationship ended, I deeply felt his absence, but I wasn't heartbroken because we had sweet memories together, not bitter ones.

The expo is making sweet memories.
Enjoy yourself, catch cruise. Before making unnecessary sacrifices and investing your deepest emotions into a relationship, be sure he is the one.

MrBrownJay1:
thanks, focus again on the two below points i made:

The topic is how to never suffer a heartbreak as a woman, not a woman must suffer heartbreak.

If a single woman properly distinguishes between a boyfriend and a potential husband, she will never suffer heartbreak. All she needs are clear signs, not assumptions or trial and error.

Savedday2:
The truth is all our girls are now ashawo. Some do it codedly and others do it openly.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not ashawo

Community dick, I totally understand your point; you have properly conducted a personal research and experimented every woman in your community. However, it is important to recognize that each community is unique and differs in its characteristics.

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Community dick, I totally understand your point; you have properly conducted a personal research and experimented every woman in your community. However, it is important to recognize that each community is unique and differs in its characteristics.

MrBrownJay1:
my 5 Kobos....



I BEG TO DIFFER...
there is NOTHING a woman can do to stop her from having a heartbreak, women are so emotional that even talking to her the wrong way can cause a heartbreak.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
not everyone are open minded/forward about their intentions. some may not have the strength/guts to let you know, some may believe they havent got the right foundations to make their intentions known. just because some women may be desperate and foolish in such instance, doesnt me we (men) should equally be. simply have a mature discussion with him and ask him to tell you what his intentions are.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
every men are different and not all men show their love the same way... some may be reserved, many dont even know how to show love, while others may be shy to show love. just because a man may be unable to show you how much he loves you, does NOT mean he doesnt love you.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
A) there are many ways to show love, care and affection to someone, than to give them gifs
B) each and every man has the right to decide whether someone deserve a gift or not. just because a man believe a woman does NOT deserve a gift, doesnt mean that their r/ship will be a failure.
C) many women out there foolishly attach giving gift with love, while it is SO FAR from reality. if a man spent all his money taking care of his life responsibilities (and has no money left for gifts) then that does not mean that he is not a right future husband for a woman.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
deeply investing in someone that isnt your wife yet, is by far on e of the MOST FOOLISH THING A MAN CAN DO. never ever invest deeply in someone unless they have signed on the dotted line and said "i do" to be your wife for better or worse.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
what does remembering someone's bday got to do with genuinely loving someone? some people out there dont remember these things and are still genuinely in love with their woman. if a person forgets EVERYONE'S bday then this would be a sign that they are just forgetful and nothing more.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
IMHO, unless you are a virgin, a woman who has already given her body to other men, has no reason to stop you from sampling her too. if she was ok to let other men sample her, then she should be ok with her future husband to sample her too. what did these men have that she was ok with "them" to sample her but would have the audacity to stop her future husband from sampling her too? what an insult! the above would be a SERIOUS RED FLAG in my world.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
if you believe the above you just wrote, then why did you write all the other above nonsense? .if "what is meant for you will be yours" then that could well be any of the type of men you are looking down upon....aka a cheating man, a man who forgets her bdays, a man who dont buy gifts etc



I BEG TO DIFFER...
as much as self love is important, in order to find the right partner you have to be able to open up and accept people for who they are. NOBODY IS PERFECT in this world therefore, we understand that having standards is important but being stuck in your own narrow mided ways ways not understanding that life is not a computer that you can program to give you exactly what you desire (while foolishly waiting for the perfect man) is the reason why so many women end up single, lonely and bitter.


I BEG TO DIFFER...
many men out there will rather that their woman prove that her womb is still "functional" before they can commit. too many women out there who have played Russian roulette with their womb and/or had so many abortions that now they cant conceive. i guess to each their own.



I BEG TO DIFFER...
you can have the perfect man, in the perfect r/ship and still get dumped or heartbroken... everyone is different and instead of thinking that life/love is mathematics, just be the best version of yourself and just take it one day at a time tryng to find the right partner "for you".

Thanks for sharing your opinion on what guys wants and how a lady can patiently help a guy discover his feelings! 🤣 I cannot help but commend your intelligence, but take a closer look at the topic: it is how to never suffer a heartbreak as a woman.

How to never suffer heartbreak as a woman

1. Don't make assumptions to justify his behavior, such as assuming he is testing you, unable to express himself, or carrying emotional baggage from past heartbreaks. If he is not showcasing his love, he simply doesn't love you. A true lover will find it difficult to conceal his love. Love is like light—it is crystal clear and cannot be hidden. If you notice red flags, it's best to dump him.

2. If you have been in a relationship with a guy for six months and his true intentions remain unclear, it is best to end the relationship.

3. Avoid long-term relationships if you have been dating a guy for two years and he has not discussed the topic of marriage with you. If marriage is an important goal for you, it is better to dump him and move on.

4. Love is expressed through actions, not just words. If he doesn't demonstrate his love through his actions, this indicates that he doesn't truly love you. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son." Each guys has their own unique way of expressing love and commitment, which may include acts of service, emotional support, financial support, and spending quality time together. However, it's important to look for obvious signs that indicate their love.

i. Gifts, even if they are not expensive, can be meaningful expressions of love and care. When your partner remembers you and shows that they care by offering gestures of gifts or financial support, it can be a positive sign. While the value of the gift itself is not the most important aspect, the thought and effort behind it can reflect their feelings for you. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline a gift, but at least it was offered.

ii. Men often spend money on women they have strong feelings for or desire to marry. Financial investment can be an indicator of genuine feelings and a vision for a future together. When a person offers to deeply invest in you financially, it suggests that they have a true commitment to the relationship. Ultimately, it is your decision whether to accept or decline financial offers, but at least they were offered.

5. If he doesn't remember significant things about you, such as your birthday, and only shares sexual memories with you, it is a clear sign that he doesn't genuinely love you. He simply considers you his intimacy gadget. Dump him before he dumps you.

6. It is not necessary for you to be a virgin or to be celibate until marriage, but don't allow yourself to be treated as a mere intimacy gadget. Respect yourself, set boundaries, and establish limits. If he truly desires you so badly, he should marry you.

7. See him for who he truly is; don't sugarcoat his flaws. Take the time to study him and understand his actual character and traits.

8. Don't be afraid of losing him. What is meant for you will be yours. Speak your mind, let him know your thoughts and feelings, and make your standards clear to him.

9. Avoid jeopardizing your future out of pity for him or making choices that may ultimately harm or scar you. Keep in mind that he has not yet put a ring on your finger. Consider this: What if he doesn't eventually marry you? Remember, the commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself—emphasis on 'as yourself,' which implies that you should already love yourself. Self-love comes first.

10. Avoid getting pregnant. Having a baby with him can make it more difficult for you to move on if the relationship doesn't work out.

By following these instructions, you can save yourself from unnecessary stress. Your past relationship experiences should serve to make you a better woman, not a bitter woman. If you happen to encounter your ex at a party, you should feel comfortable enough to say hi to him.

It takes two to tango

zed7:
Hardworking housewives are the real bosses. It's not easy managing a home, a man and kids. Kudos.It's even much better when she has a side hustle.

It's better to be a housewife with a fulfilled family life than a slay queen working class lady being passed around by different bosses, becoming an old hag and regretting it later, asking if it was worth it.

Make your words accurate, do you mean unmarried working-class women are promiscuous?

If your wife were like Okonjo-Iweala or Folorunsho Alakija, wouldn't you be proud of her? Being with a successful woman doesn't diminish your masculinity. Both full-time housewives and working-class women have the potential to be faithful or unfaithful. Restricting a woman from working and confining her to the home will not prevent her from cheating if she is inclined to do so. I am aware that there are many immature individuals, including women, who express senseless opinions on the internet, but it is not wise to pass judgment on working-class women based solely on what is seen online. The majority of women, whether full-time housewives or working-class, possess the ability to efficiently manage their households and cater to their family's needs.

MrBrownJay1:
sadly the issue is bigger than just housewives.... i blame AFRICAN SOCIETY/CULTURE for that.
too many women out there are getting married out of pressure to be called Mrs at any cost, thus they accept any kind of nonsense under the moon (before marriage). thus after a while they get tired&bored of such houswewife lifestyle but its too late.

i cant blame these low self esteem insecure men who want to lock up their wife at any cost after marriage, and have to lay the sole blame on African SOCIETY/CULTURE for that (coupled with religious/peer pressure)

some yeye people out there are desperate to get married at any cost, and they dont even know why and/or how to have a successful marriage.

You are right, some full-time housewives never wanted to be in that role; they had their own dreams and aspirations prior to marriage, but they were compelled to give them up after getting married.

Oboys12:
Everybody now write jagons on Nairaland.

Note when you drink don't type, when you type don't drink

🤣😂 Bitter leaf cry more.

fixitbyjal:
What's in the nonsense that's incomprehensible
I comprehended it well
How can you say the number 2 citizen be given a slap cus he offers to give you anything using his left hand

So I repeat there's no sense in your topic

Don't bother trying; your brain cannot comprehend it.

fixitbyjal:
You thought you made a point
OBVIOUSLY you made no point and sense

Just because your brain couldn't comprehend what I wrote doesn't mean it doesn't make sense.

If someone offers you something with their left hand, you can politely ask them to use their right hand if you believe it is considered taboo. It is important to note that this behavior might not be intentional on their part, as they could be left-handed. Sometimes, left-handed individuals subconsciously give something with their left hand because it is their dominant hand and the hand they are accustomed to using. Engaging in a confrontation or resorting to physical violence, such as slapping, is illogical and makes no sense. It is more sensible to address the situation calmly and respectfully.

Some men ask their wives to become full-time housewives after marriage. However, if you are not interested in being a full-time housewife, it is important to emphasize this to your partner before marriage. This is one of the factors that create problems in a marriage.

shineeye1:
You are miserably wrong! Virginity of any mature and exposed lady is a profound trait of character. It is in fact the bedrock of marital relationship and by extension of society. The blindness to this fact is the bane of modern westernized societies. A person who grew to physical maturity , overcoming all temptations to violate self is most likely a stable and reliable life partner.

Anyone can be a virgin. You don't have to be talented or studious to be one; it's not as challenging as studying for a math exam. Once you are motivated, you will gain the ability to say no to sex. Each virgin has their own motivations. Some are simply influenced by the perceived physical benefits that preachers and relationship speakers often emphasize. Stop deceiving yourself—virginity itself is neither a character nor a trait. Although a lady with good character and traits may be influenced by those qualities to maintain her virginity, virginity cannot influence a virgin to develop good character or traits.

Do you actually think it is wise for a guy to borrow money solely for the purpose of marrying a virgin?

Awesome01:
I'm interested dearie. I've been searching a long time for a virgiin to marry.

I'm ready to use my house to take the 15m loan to pay the bride price. But to proof that you are a virgin as you publicly claim.

Kindly display the said commodity (VIRGINITY) openly,and publicly to show transparency. So I can be sure of what I'm buying. Sorry, I've been scammed so many times. I need to see it to believe it. Contact me through my DM pls.

The decision to preserve one's virginity is often rooted in religious beliefs. Virginity is a personal attribute, it does not hold any economic value. From a business perspective, it is nonsensical to assign a monetary worth to virginity. It does not contribute any tangible value to a relationship, it does not strengthen or enhance a relationship and it is not even a trait or a character.

thesicilian:
Each family has its own peculiarities.
My father never knew my favourite this, favourite that but that didn't stop us from loving each other to pieces. In short, some of my best memories of him are times when we would just sit together watching TV, not talking.

I don't mean people hate their fathers. I am just explaining why people are closer to their mothers and give them more attention.

Samantha124:
I'm close to my dad... Growing up, sometimes him and I would go shopping together and the funniest part would be when he would attempt to style my hair..

I'm sure if you ask him those questions, he'd get them all correct because he was very much involved in my life.

Glad to know, I am sure your lovely father will not be among those complaining because by now you must have gladly given him all the love and attention he deserves.

I just came across a post where the OP was frustrated because children divert their love and attention to their mothers when they are older.

Some fathers are strangers to their children.
Any father who can answer these questions deserves extra, extra, extra love and attention:
- What is your children's favourite food?
- What are your children's hobbies?
- What is your children's favourite colour?
- What are your children's worst foods?

How close are you to your children?
How many times have you seen your children eating and asked for a spoon or a bite of their food or snack?
Can your children even walk up to you and take a spoon or a bite of your food or snack?
How many times have you complimented your children's clothes?
Can you collect the number of times you have told your children to go and meet their mummy when they come to you for help?

If you are the go and meet your mummy type of daddy, you might end up regretting it. Give them enough attention now so that they can give you attention in the future. They don't really know you; you are like a stranger to them. They are yearning for your love and attention now. Now is the time.

A relationship is not formed in a day, reduce the excessive barriers between you and your children, before they become older and it becomes harder to form a relationship.