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Tunde835:
I'm just enquiring if guys can list any benefits apart from the pussy that they have attained from any female. Truth is more often than not females have come across as a liability with not much upstairs.

I'm just enquiring if ladies can list any benefits apart from financial gestures that they have attained from any male. Truth is more often than not males have come across as stressed fellows with not much upstairs. What else can a guy offer?

Westernlove:
The truth Is this generation Inherited a faulty, rotten and damaged society. So many Nigerian homes reeks of poverty of the mind and they lack morality coupled with greed, myopic mentality and reasoning. It's not stopping anytime soon. It Is what so many Nigerian men have been doing for a long time, buying women's attention with money and material things. I personally know some of them who can't even look a lady In the eye, So they will have to resort to buying all sort of gifts et all. It's too rampant here In Nigeria. So you don't expect these ladies to be contented and take you serious when someone Is already lavishing money on them coupled with a lot of pleading. That's the reason why I'm always saying, Nigeria has the Lowest of Men In the world. They think I don't know what I'm saying smhhh.

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Just like women, men also possess the capacity to offer emotional support and fulfill emotional needs, which can be considered their strength; however, it is not a universal trait. While some men lack the ability to fulfill emotional needs, they express their care and support through financial gestures and consider it their strong suit. Additionally, there are some men who excel at providing both financial support and fulfilling emotional needs. Men have distinct ways of showcasing their values to their partners, as each man has his own capacity and ability.

Nigerian men and Western men have distinct approaches. Western men often provide emotional support for their partners, and many also offer financial support. On the other hand, many Nigerian men may not be as adept or accustomed to meeting women's emotional needs. Consequently, they tend to rely on financial support as an alternative means of showing care and expressing their values to their partners.

It is unrealistic to expect any individual, regardless of gender, to be attracted to someone who is burdensome or lacks any qualities or offerings.

Though, true attraction and compatibility extend beyond surface-level qualities and involve deeper emotional connections and shared values. People are naturally drawn to others based on a range of qualities, characteristics, and interactions. These can include intelligence, sense of humor, kindness, confidence, ambition, personal preferences, compatibility, shared interests, values, personal traits, communication skills, physical chemistry, and emotional connection, among others.

When a man identifies certain qualities or characteristics in a woman that align with his preferences and perceives her as a potential partner, he may employ a range of methods to capture her interest. These methods can include pleading with her to accept him and offering significant financial gestures and gifts, all in an attempt to stand out from other men who may also be interested in her, with the ultimate goal of fostering a deeper connection.

2loadedguy:
Recently I had an encounter that made me to start thinking if demanding is a orientation mentality thing or its just inborn for Nigerian women.

Baba, since you have experienced this with all the Nigerian women you have met, you are the one with the problem. Work on yourself.

The only honour our Lord Jesus Christ refuses is the honour of hypocrites.

Matthew 15:8 - This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me.

John 5: 23, 41, 42
23 That all men should honour the Son, even as they honour the Father. He that honoureth not the Son honoureth not the Father which hath sent him.
41 I receive not honour from men.
42 But I know you, that ye have not the love of God in you.

Colossians 3:16 - Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

Ephesians 5:19 - Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;

Psalm 47:1 - O clap your hands, all ye people; shout unto God with the voice of triumph.

Psalm 149:3 - Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.

Psalm 150:4 - Praise him with the timbrel and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs.

Revelation 5:13 - And every creature which is in heaven, and on the earth, and under the earth, and such as are in the sea, and all that are in them, heard I saying, Blessing, and honour, and glory, and power, be unto him that sitteth upon the throne, and unto the Lamb for ever and ever.

Verse 23 of John 5 seems very interesting, I just read it.
John 5:23 That all men should honour the Son, even as they honour the Father. He that honoureth not the Son honoureth not the Father which hath sent him.

Kobojunkie:
So yeah, as Jesus Christ said in John 5 vs 41, He does not desire praises from humans. Religion, however, preaches that praising Jesus Christ gets Him all powered up and ready to bend God's own Law, an obvious antichrist lie.

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I am a worshipper of Christ. After studying the Bible properly, I ascertain that the God described in the Bible is undoubtedly the true and only God.

Although God created us in His own image, we do not possess the same nature and abilities as God. Let's reduce our pride and understand that it is impossible for we the creatures to constrain our creator to a box and use our human understanding to predict His nature and ways. His nature is supernatural and His ways are mysterious to the limited human minds.

To us, a day may be just 24 hours, but in the eyes of God, a day is like a thousand years.

To us, husbands and wives may appear as two separate individuals but in the eyes of God, they are considered as one entity.

To us, God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit may appear as three distinct persons, but in reality, they are one.

His supremacy, power, and knowledge is far beyond our limited human understanding because our finite human minds are not capable of comprehending the extent of His sovereignty.

Oxfordgrade:
I keep wondering why many people who escape one form of danger or the other, will quick to say "thank you Jesus!" instead of thank you God. Even in their music, they shower much praises to Jesus more than God his father. My point is, who deserve much praise between God and Jesus?

I hope the verses I listed below will give you a better understanding of who Jesus is and why we worship Him.

Genesis 1:26 — And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

John 1:1-3 —
1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
2 The same was in the beginning with God.
3 All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.

John 1:14 — And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.

Psalm 110:1 — The Lord said unto my Lord, Sit thou at my right hand, until I make thine enemies thy footstool.

Mark 12:36 — For David himself said by the Holy Ghost, The Lord said to my Lord, Sit thou on my right hand, till I make thine enemies thy footstool.

John 10:30 — I and the Father are one.

John 14:6–7 —
6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
7 If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him.

John 14:11— Believe me that I am in the Father, and the Father in me: or else believe me for the very works' sake.

John 17:11— And now I am no more in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep through thine own name those whom thou hast given me, that they may be one, as we are.

Matthew 28:19 — Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost.

Matthew 2:1-2 —
1 Now when Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judaea in the days of Herod the king, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem,
2 Saying, Where is he that is born King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in the east, and are come to worship him.

Revelation 1:17-18 —
17 And when I saw him, I fell at his feet as dead. And he laid his right hand upon me, saying unto me, Fear not; I am the first and the last:
18 I am he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive for evermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death.

Jashub:
God is Jesus , and Jesus is God. So honoring the Son is the same as honoring the Father.

Well said

A person's personality is not necessarily determined by their tribe. I remember when an Igbo guy once told me that if a Yoruba woman's wrapper is thrown into the river, all the fish in the river will die. It wasn't his fault; people often assume that I'm Igbo. I didn't comment on it and just changed the subject.

Weeks later, during a conversation with him, my best friend (who is an Igbo lady), and two of my colleagues, he found out that I am Yoruba. After that day's conversation led to my best friend mentioning that I'm Yoruba, the guy started acting awkward and uncomfortable around me. One day, I confronted him and explained that he hadn't insulted me directly, and it would be unreasonable for me to be angry. I also acknowledged that I'm not a saint and that there are times when I judge people based on their tribes.

GreatVocalist:
A woman raised her hands and slapped an elderly woman, and you're justifying it?

If she had calmed down and gently walked away, then filed for a divorce the next day, it would have been better.

I don't agree with what the bride did. Her reaction shows that she lacks manners and self-control. However, the truth is that some mother-in-laws deserve such daughter-in-laws. The woman met her match, mother-in-laws like this only know how to take advantage of their humble and respectful daughter-in-laws. Was it necessary for the mother-in-law to slap the bride? What has slap ever solved?

Majesty7:
Deluded soul. Things are done step by step. The loan is a very good development. The government that did the student loan and also made the FX flexible (I know that got your empty skull confused). These are policies coupled with the ones that will still be put in place that will make business easy thereby creating many job opportunities.

You want many job openings and I am telling you that this is the right step to take. Many things will fall into place and many job openings will start springing up.

I am old enough to give birth to your father; you uncultured kid

🤣 70 years old man. Pele o ancestor.

Majesty7:
You wrote rubbish. Everything is step by step. The floating of the currency will see more companies back to business. More policies are still coming. Everything is step by step. Relax or just shut up

See this peppered rat o. This one has gone off point. What do you know we are talking about? Your type can never read and comprehend, yet your hands are always itching you to comment.

Offpoint1:
Lol, you're outrightly evading your religion argument because you're too scared to offend God, so you keep lying to yourself when the truth is glaring.

You evaded the questions I asked you of the boss and employees. What was the logical reason of sending those pissed up employees who planned to kill you to your children house instead of prison? Please answer.

Telling me Eve wasn't deceived by lucifer is an outright lies to evade my question.

I'm debating and seeking information at the same time, no point running away from defending your faith or opinion.

What I want you to know is simple "The universe runs the way its creator wants it to run"

Lol, defend my religion. I am serving the living God of Heaven. God is all-powerful, I don't have to defend my religion or God, my role as a believer is to uphold and spread His teachings and values. The Bible does not instruct believers to defend their faith with meaningless arguments, but rather encourages them to live according to their faith and avoid engaging in fruitless debates or arguments that can lead to division and misunderstanding (Titus 3:9).

Were those wicked or 'pissed up' employees actually living with the new employees like you assumed? The answers you seek are in my previous comment, but you won't see it because you have hardened your heart. I can only put you in my prayers. I pray that God Almighty opens your heart to understanding.

Do have a nice day!

Offpoint1:
Dude you're simply going around the corner, either your to scared to answer the question or you're deceiving yourself.

The fall of lucifer happens before the fall of Adam's...

Your employees messed up, not only messed up, they planned your assassination and you find out... The best line of action is to sack them and get them arrested and lock up.... You don't send them to go and live in the house you build for your children... You don't send someone who planned to kill you and take over your company to go and live with your children. NO LOGIC EXPLANATION FOR THAT.

If God knew the end of the world before the beginning, then there's no way you're going to twist this story with freewill or whatever... Everything happening he knew already and allows it, nothing that happens that wasn't part of his plans... If you said there's something that wasn't part of his plan, then you're simply admitting he doesn't know the end before the beginning... Everything happening took him by surprise.

There's no way to twist biblical stories without painting God black in the real sense.

The Bible states that the serpent deceived Adam and Eve. However, it does not state that satan ever visited or resided in the Garden of Eden. The serpent that deceived Adam and Eve was just a serpent, it was not satan. It is believed that satan influenced or proposed the serpent to carry out his deception and it is commonly understood that the serpent was just used as a tool by satan to deceive Adam and Eve.

Does robotic engineers ask their robots how they wish they were created? Some robotic engineer even created robots that have the ability to take actions and make choices and can be used for various tasks, these robots are called intelligent robots. Most creators have their own customized design. God created us just the way He wanted to create us. He did not create human beings like robots, He created human beings with free will, allowing them to make our own choices and decisions. By placing the tree of knowledge of good and evil in the Garden of Eden and permitting that they get deceived, God gave Adam and Eve a choice to obey or disobey Him. Without this choice, Adam and Eve would have been essentially like robots, predetermined to do only what God had intended for them.

I have observed that you seem more interested in debating rather than seeking information. Therefore, I will not answer further questions as it may not yield any meaningful results. I pray that the God of truth will help you to see the light.

Offpoint1:
So according to your narrative, if the staff of my company are planning coup against me or planning to kill me and I find out, the best punishment I can give to them is to SENT THEM to my house to live with my children right?
There's no logical explanation to that bro.

The earth is running as the creator wanted it, if you have the power to prevent robbery in your house as a father... Will you use it or wait for them to visit your home and do whatever damage they want... then punish you children for that?

Please answers those questions....

God supposedly knows the END before the BEGINNING, so he knew dawn well WHAT WILL BE.

Remember assertions are according to the biblical stories

Just as we are creatures of God, angels are also God's creatures, and thus we both represent the employees in my previous comment. Both humans and angels were sent out of God's sight after they sinned, but God came to the world to rescue us. To whom much is given much, much is expected. God made angels higher than human beings by granting them more power and understanding. God expected perfection from them, but the devil and other fallen angels not only wished to be equal with God, but also wanted to overthrow Him.

To better illustrate my point, suppose both your higher and lower rank employees were involved in the coup. If the higher rank staffs were still very proud and not sober but the lower rank staffs were not proud or stubborn and they were sober, ready to admit their fault and seek forgiveness because they were simply influenced and deceived by the higher rank staffs. They were never interested in overthrowing you but rather wanted to move up the ranks.

As a good boss, you would be more likely to forgive the lower rank staffs since they were not the masterminds and did not act out of malice. You might decide to place them on probation and allow them to prove their loyalty before bringing them back into your company. However, the higher rank staff who masterminded the coup and acted out of pride and malice would be held to a higher level of accountability and would require a more severe punishment.

It is true that God knows the end from the beginning, but He has given us different options and designed the end for each option, just as the North, South, West, and East have different designed destinations. We were created with the ability to make moral choices, but we are not robots and we have the power to refuse to do what is right.

Offpoint1:
The bible is full of nonsense, it's has nothing to do with "God" words. That book is men literature, nothing in it was inspired by God.

In fact the book continuously paint God black.


If heaven is a perfect place, then why the hell did war broke out in a supposely perfect place?

How did evil gets to heaven and possessed Satan to rebel? Where did that evil came from since we claim devil is the father of all evil?

How the hell would you sent supreme being to mortals and expect mortals to defeat them? Why not chain them in heaven?
How do you have the power to prevent everything but you let them happened and you ended up burning your own creation for your own mistakes?

I believe in the existence of creator, but the biblical stories ain't God's word.

Everything was so peaceful in the beginning. God created everything with love and showed love to all His creatures. He loved His angels and human beings so much that He gave them freewill, power, and authority. He did not create them like robots; He gave them the freedom to make decisions. However, upon all the love and kindness He showed to us some angels and humans rebelled against Him and tried to use the freedom and power He gave against Him.

God made man a little lower than the angels and crowned Him with glory and honour. He gave man freewill to make decisions and authority over plants and animals. Plants and animals are far below us, they don't have freewill, authority or power. Humans had everything they needed. Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden, enjoying it all. It is hard to understand why they wanted to be equal with God. Why is man so wicked, greedy and covetous?

Liking this to yourself, if you have a company and you happen to be a nice boss and you find out your employees are trying to kill you and take away your company, won't you punish them severely? Would you smile with them, hug them or ask them to go in peace? In fact, God is so loving and kind that He pardoned us for such a rebellious act and still sent His son to rescue us.

God is not to be blamed, our actions led us to this point. Human beings are inherently wicked; they are just so wicked on their own. Don't you think we are the problem? Is it God that is inventing all the wickedness in the world today? Now that God has left us to ourselves, what are we doing to ourselves?

IkeIgboNiile:
One of the culture shock i got during my service year was people handing me things with their left hand even the kids. I really found it offensive.

I'm not supporting her slapping you but i understand it maybe reflex action.

If it was reflex action that led to the slap, it means she has a wrong mentality and that mentality has to be changed.

Do you know how much effort we left-handed people put in just to respect you people's view? I have to be at alert anytime I want to give something to someone because I have to move the thing from my left-hand to my right-hand. We go through that much just to respect your views, what will stop you from respecting our rights? We are full human beings, not half-humans.

I will not intentionally give something to someone with my left-hand, not because I accept their views but because I have learnt to also respect other people's views. People need to stop violating our rights as equal humans.

Please sign this petition

https://www.change.org/p/stop-the-maltreatment-of-left-handed-people-in-nigeria

It is a petition to stop the maltreatment of left-handed people in Nigeria

Left-handed people are facing maltreatment in the society due to societal beliefs and misconceptions. I recently shared my experience on nairaland. My bf's mum slapped me because I used my left-hand to give her something.

https://www.change.org/p/stop-the-maltreatment-of-left-handed-people-in-nigeria

It is a petition to stop the maltreatment of left-handed people in Nigeria

Left-handed people are facing maltreatment in the society due to societal beliefs and misconceptions. I recently shared my experience on nairaland. My bf's mum slapped me because I used my left-hand to give her something.

Rayban25:
That you've lost your own virginity dosent mean you should be bitter towards ladies that are still pure

Bitter olosho.

Public penis. So you don't see anything wrong with the Op emphasizing on purity and virginity alone and preaching it to only ladies? List the importance of virginity to the society and in marriage. There are several laws in the Bible. Virginity is not righteousness.

By the way, I'm still a virgin but I'm yet to see any physical benefit of virginity.

jeromestarks:
To those who have missed me, I appreciate you.
Seun and his boys banned me because I preach about virginity and purity.

They want me to advice you to marry a girl who has been fvcked and mounted by many men.
They want me to advice you to marry a woman above 23 (a second hand girl whose value has greatly depreciated).

They want me to advice to overlook a girl who has opened her pvssy for many men before you.

They want me to advice you to forgive a woman who cheated on you.


Remember, girls are a copy of their mothers. Do not marry a woman who has given her best (virginity) to another man. Just fvck her and let her go when you find a virgin woman.

Virginity preacher, what is the importance of virginity in the society and in marriage?

gfon:
I for like make you try am with me ooo. Unto say you be God?? What if it was a mistake...You never jam pesin wey go beat you mercilessly

Like do you get

Rrchrd:
That is what happen when you girls like going for flesh soft dude that can spend on you not knowing her mother is a pumpous disciplinarian & her so is a mummy boy.

That is how people jump into conclusion. When I have a business that is bringing me money, why do I need my bf's money? Educate yourself, not all relationship is about money.

djon78:
You know the funny thing about life
These type of women may not be highly resourceful
But they give good vibes in marriage

There are two women I know on a personal level like this type of Lady

They ended up marrying grade one hustling type of men that ended up becoming extremely wealthy

But they give there husband's stability
They are submissive and have raised there children very well

From my own understanding

Hustling, very goal oriented kind of men most times marry these kind of women
It works well for both
They are submissive and gives a man peace

Hustling types of women most times end up with lay back kind of Men
They push the men to become successful
Although some of these kind of women sometimes if not well handled may break the marriage if they feel the Man can't be changed

A close relative of mine is an example of this kind of hustling woman.
She pushed her husband till the man became very successful and they are living well


God and nature has created each kind of man for another kind of woman.
The problems we have in marriages is most times people don't marry the type of person destined for them or some will marry and will not be satisfied believing that the one outside is better

A lot of times we Christians deceive ourselves. Isaac saw Rebecca and liked her, God did not force her on him. The best thing to do is look for someone that is compatible with you and take the person to God in prayer. Virgins have to learn to put their virginity aside and bring something meaningful to the table. I am also a virgin but I don't wear it on my forehead.

I don't have a problem with ladies deciding to be full housewives but they should look for someone that appreciate them as a motivator and not a contributor. Someone that wants to eat bean will not appreciate rice even if you convince him to eat rice. Op wants someone that is resourceful, why advice him to marry someone that is not?

CaptainRogers:
Her behaviour towards you is too bad. If you foresee more trouble in the future, I advise you too quit. What she should have done is to reject it and give you the look that will tell you to change it to your right hand

By the way, You are beautiful

Thank you.

Typing:
I will take Panadol on ya head, since you brought ya private life to a public forum like this.

Oya take it and go and sleep.

Typing:
See ya life. A 27 year old lady who want to marry a 23 years old Boy. Is already disrespecting her mother in-law to be. No wonder the Woman tear you hot slap. Only God knows weting that little Boy dey pass through for ya hand.

Mr therapist did my bf cry to you. Please, focus on your own relationship and stop taking panadol for another person headache.

Shedrack777:
i don't know you from adam, but if you try giving something with left hand, i'll sure woze you even if you're my mate. that's an insult

See this one o. If I use my left-hand beat, you go just pass out.

Runnerzz:
It's obvious the woman has no respect for her son. My mom will not dare do that. Instead she will verbally correct u and if u refuse to learn she might have to let me know. How can u just slap a grown woman? If the op's father slaps her son for wtv reasons she definitely would not be happy with it. Probably she never liked u for her son and even at that it's disrespectful and a slap to the son too

You might be right. My bf and I want to get married soon. Maybe his mother doesn't want me to be her daughter-in-law anymore and is just trying to pull a fast one on me. She might be concerned about the age difference between me and my bf and be pretending not to care. I am twenty-seven years old and my bf is twenty-three. The day she discovered my age, she just acted surprised and told me I don't look my age. She did not show any signs that indicated she was concerned about our age difference.

Abolodje:
If it were me I would’ve stabbed your neck on God.

Lol. Brother Bernard, you even call God on top. Na your type dey full prison.

Typing:
As for me, I rather marry a prostitute than to marry a left handed Girl. Who uses her left hand with pride like you do. I know some left handed people who are making effort to use their right hand when dealing with other people. I can manage those type, but not your type.

That why I only deal with mature men.