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Nothing wrong with a husband carrying a mere women's bag

For goodness sake, a bag is just a bag,

For those saying a man should not carry a woman's bag What's the big deal, suppose the bag is kept in a nylon paper and given to hubby, he will still carry it,

Why do we Place value to meaningless stuff, carrying a bag is carrying a bag irregardless of the kind of bag or whoever owns the bag.

Most mother in laws are there sons keepers. If that was her biological daughters husband carrying the bag you would not have heard the fuse, instead you would hear how good he is.

As long as you leave under their house you have to follow their rules

Most brother in laws have problems taking care of another man in their house

HIDDENSECRECY:
Since you are married to him, you can gradually suggest clothing's for him to wear. He has mouth odor, you can get mouth wash for him or try to ensure he brushes his teeth after eating.

I suggest you start looking at the solutions rather than dwelling on the problem. Because the more you thunk of these problems you only get bitter depressed,sad,confused,feel like quarreling everyday.

Maybe he is the stubborn kind that will never accept change,
I dated someone that use to refuse to apply deodorant/ he reaked of heavy man sweat, I bought him deodorants as gifts, he never touched them, besides he was lazy among other vices, am glad I ran for my life.

Acidosis:
ahahahahahaha

Your hubby is s e xy

Acidosis you always sound like a man of the qualities mentioned here.

rolled:
Man when nor won spend nor dey look woman
Run for your life
That's how I thought I could change my hubby
Now am depressed,sad,confused,quarrel everyday
My own even get serious mouth odor join
To buy clothes for himself na problem
Imagine someone dey wear green shoe and pink shirt
I don die
Everyday I dey pity my life

Tell as about this your husband na!

oluafam:
Please is it right for a grown-up(40+) man to sleep on the same bed with his sister(30+) even when there is extra bed in an unoccupied room. For me it's disgusting. What do you think?

Even teenage siblings of opposite sex cannot sleep on one bed.

She should travel to see your uncle WHO invited her first, then go to your brothers from Chicago

But Kenyans are we winning the techno though, most Nigerians have left lol

Show me where she admitted sleeping with the father

Damn this fake wannabe bloggers with fictitious tales

Jeloma:
Speaking of weird phobias, I'm terrified of walking under trees, especially at night because I think a snake will suddenly drop on me.
This has been since when I was a child, and that fear has refused to go away.

I just developed phobia for stairway escalators after years of using them ,in all major airports am running looking for lifts/ escalators because am afraid my clothing, shoe will be tangled by stairway making me fall and embarrassed.

drmikeadams:
My sweet heart go first me shower come begin do make up,I go bath dress cum begin wait ..Walai I leave am comot like two times..e cum advice her self....which kind yeye make up women dey do set..very annoying..

It takes time to look gorgeous.

My father in law does this all the time

He takes his two wives to a wedding

Then when he wants to leave he speds off without living this women money to travel back lol( just because the women want to gist and such)
But he is in his seventies

damiso:
Na wa o

But why do plenty of these 'U.K' gals fall out with their 'best friends ' and start disgracing themselves all over social media naa?

they probably brought their village crass with them
A leopard does not change its spots only location

oluafam:
If u know you want to meet up with oga and that u can't do without ur make-up, please start preparing 4hrs before time especially if you have kids.

If above option won't work, just have ur bath, wear ur clothes, gather ur gele and make-up kit and finish up in the car's back sit. yeah I do that some times. My husband can't even stand that wait. The way he will describe that make-up of yours will leave u feeling down.

The thing is too annoying . Some lady I live with will bath by 8am and by 11am she's still before the mirror. Enter her room and you will think she is about to attend some mmomiri (marine) meeting-orisirisi colours and brushes.

Maybe the man was trying to avoid paying fine for lateness.

He would have gone to get her himself, at least that will enable him to know the stage she is. Sorry madam.

And this is another woman supporting a devious man, end time indeed

Evil man indeed,
He should have gotten the lady up early
Help her get ready, then come out with her

Or maybe call to say he is leaving then turn back to come back to pick her.

Evil man indeed
The woman should work hard get her own car

Classless beeches

Tanzanians nothing to write home about,

mosjames:
Kenyans are only good runners because they run out of ideas, music aint their way

Nigerians have already left for home, looks like Kenya is winning.

Kenyans killing it, you cannot deny that they have talented artistes.

bulunton:
Who has suggestions on causes of recurring abortions in 7th week of pregnancy and how to avoid it.

The term is miscarriages not abortion

One of my friends had 4 miscarriages and just had her first baby this year at 39,

This is what they discovered INCOMPETENT CERVIX her cervix was too thin to hold a baby to term


They stitched her cervix in a process called cervical cerclage and she just delivered her son.

Now this is in US, find out about this in your location, thank me later.

Try mid west states if you want a place with almost no Nigerians

MissyB3 time to close this thread and restart a new one, so we don't have to go through 300 pages to find what we want
Tjskii's

raumdeuter:
^^ Did she calculate how much on free rent, free food, the car she drove and all the gifts she received from being the wife to return it back?

The child was for both of them and she had equal rights over the child not like she is a baby sitter or a surrogate

The judge calculated all that and awarded the woman accordingingly. Judges abroad award women for giving up careers to take care of homes.
Carrying multiple pregnancies, while getting ill frequently, tiredness. Loosing shape attaining stretch marks, all for giving man a family. Then taking care of family's every need, also comes to considerations.

Yes, she can attend any church she wants to.

Nigeria should follow suit.

Onegai:
Personal choice. I'm at home right now with a baby, but now that she's 6 months, I've started putting out feelers to connect back to work. It's not really the money per se (we're doing okay) but I would like to keep busy and work on some projects of mine.

I know a lot of people say you can balance work and family, yeah but it's hard and one must suffer for the other (no-one is gonna pay you N500, 000 monthly and not demand your time at work). I heard of a lawyer who came home nightly to see her child tucked in bed for 2 days and on the 3rd, hubby locked the gates that morning. Child had been sick for the past 2 days but Nanny had been taking care of it and mum came home too tired to check. So all she would do was ask Nanny and Dad "is baby okay? " and peek into his room. Her husband got mad at the 3rd day and said she wouldn't leave the house till she ascertained for herself how her child was doing.

I've seen far too many parents chasing money to care for their kids. Here's the truth, in Nigeria you need money for healthcare but that's it. There's a price point for all other things (schooling, extracurricular etc). Those parents aren't chasing money for their kids, they're chasing money for themselves.

Nigeria is a tough place and it has taken the gentleness and kindness out of most Nigerians. I know so many well-educated couples abroad who the wife is now Suzy-Homemaker by choice and they're delighted but their counterparts in Nigeria would never dream of being a SAHM (because menfolk here will show her pepper). I'm not trying to bash, it's just the reality of what we saw our mothers go through: helpless to stop anything or any decision by any male in their family, powerless when he died because his family swooped in and they watched their kids become tenants in their father's house, begging for school fees.

One of my cousins tried being a SAHM, the day her husband decided to take a marital squabble to the next level, kicked his car and travelled to another state, leaving wife, 2 kids and entire household penniless and having to call her siblings to loan her N5, 000 to feed everyone, she wept in humiliation and swore that she was never going to do this again. Now sometimes she's too busy to be there 100% for her children and her husband dare not complain (he's very remorseful now that he's reaping the bitter fruit of an immature decision).

Go to the New Mothers thread in Health section, it seems almost weekly someone comes begging for help and advice on how to raise funds and do business and it's not that money is tight, it's usually that the man in their lives are using the fact that they have no financial standing to deal. with them (imagine having to submit a list and dutifully stand by someone's chair, whilst he childishly ignores you and watches tv. All because you want to buy diapers for your child).

Do I want to be a SAHM? Mostly. But I'm married to a Nigerian man and whilst he seems decent, trustworthy and loving, I'm too afraid to risk it. Too many horror stories and experiences.

The reason I always roll my eyes at all these threads preaching at women is that, if people were really serious about fixing Marriage, they'd talk to men. I'm yet to see how fixing any organizations starts from the followers (wife and children), not from the leaders (husband). But here we are.

You are always so on point, bless your heart
I'm stay at home now too, I took my son to a daycare next day I found a daycare worker dragging a toddler by the arms, your guess is as good as mine I took my baby back home immediately never ever to go back to daycare
I'm married to a wonderful man and I have access to all funds, my mom is coming to stay with us, so I for sure will be running back to work because my kids are in trustworthy care.
Sometimes as women we make the ultimate sacrifice, nobody want to ever be in this position.

Alubosa:
You can use Ringo to call naija... Download the app. It's superb

Ringo is expensive for me that is.

PresVA:
Must you stay at home to take care of kids? So those kids whose mums work ain't well taken care of?

There are jobs that give good work-life balance..

In this economic hardship, someone will stay at ahome doing nothing. . What if something happens to your husband's source of income?

You can have the best of both worlds, it is very possible
I personally just calculated how much it cost to put three kids in childcare (for those abroad)
To make a decision

Maybe he is tired of the marriage and seeking a way out by building conspiracies( to marry a Nigerian
Just be on the look out, men are funny when they want to barge out

MrOlai:
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=a23_1450944183

She was sentenced to 46 years in prison. However, people are protesting that she should be hanged!

I hate watching sad happenings, can you tell us what happened?