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Belafonte:
Who knows what demons she’s battling

Some very bad ones by the looks of things smh

Enemyofpeace:
Their childrens and grand childrens will later course them future for this useless decision. Na who no like better thing?

Better thing like??

Playing second fiddle for their entire lives and being messed up in the tabloids by spiteful reporters whilst being trapped in the palace like guinea pigs

No thanks! Lol!

She messed up the humble Fulani costume with those fantabalistical nails...yack!

thebosstrevor:
poor black men living in a shit hole country taking medicine for a wealthy white dynasty that conquered them and gave them clothing

are you more alpha than prince harry who had served in Afghanistan, whose fore fathers destroyed and colonise your land

SMH

hahaha

Belafonte:
Lol. That’s even worse. Angelina Jolie is washed up. The only men that can marry her are men that would disgust her. The kind of men she would like to marry will spit on her if she as much as smiles at them.

And she is so unique and beautiful! Mehn!

I dont know why she keeps messing up all the time smh, what a waste

maasoap:
That's what almost everyone is saying. She overreacted, the boss did too. We knew that op went far with the placing of hand on her shoulder. But the reaction was overkill

Lol the person should just be very careful because the next guy who comes may actually try to sleep with her...will you keep screaming and screaming until Madam sacks all her staff apart from you? Are you the only Househelp on the planet

The boss too should be ashamed of herself, as if nobody in her family has ever touched somebodys shoulder before. If all the men in her life are rapists we dont know anything about it, rubbish

A simple warning or suspension would have sufficed instead of all this kangaroo court conviction

Fearcom:
Been married seven years plus.


I love her.


But if given another chance, I wouldn't.

Wow...

AwkaetitiBabe:
Correct! I hope they solve d case

Me too!

purples25:
Thanks but deep inside me it just feels like i am suppressing myself. I can do that islamic art and all but i know how badly i want to do my style. Its OK, i will hopefully get to that point one day.

Okay, good luck dear

Candiesramah:
It's this your wife that will kill you. It's like once some of you men get married, you trade your sense of reasoning along the way. Just imagine the nonsense you defended. What was wrong in your mum requesting an addition in your wedding guest list? Would that your wife have rejected it if it had come from her mother? She should be happy she got a good mother-in-law willing to make things work out, else, she would have been shown what's like to have issues with mothers-in-law. I don't blame her sha, it's you I blame.

Thank you, Sorry but the girl was really stupid for that... He should have cancelled the nonsense wedding until she saw sense, tueh!

E685:
The very first issue involved our wedding planning. My wife had a very clear plan for the guest list, and my mom asked for a number of her friends to be included on the list. My wife did not want that, got immediately upset and the situation blew out of control.

Sorry but what did your wife mean by that Whats wrong with your mother bringing some of her friends to her own sons wedding?

Some girls sha

Too bad! Sorry, I need to join in reading some of the advice here because this your story get serious diastema

did I hear somebody say that their mother visits every weekend? Hahaha dem never born am well ooo

purples25:
This rule really upset me as a child because i have always been so so good at drawing. Even when i wasn't getting on very well at secondary school, one thing that kept my mates liking me was this DRAWING. Everyone since childhood said i was creative, everyone was wowed, said i could really draw. And i LOVED it, i loved to create and create images. I held back from going so far in it because of the islamic rules. I was really torn in my decision and miserable. I like to draw, i went to secular schools and i dislike to not be able to open my hair ( i almost always open it) - though i now see sense in the rule of covering. But this rule of not drawing....

But why this then? If I'm not allowed to draw, why do i have the ability, why was i allowed to have the creativity to imagine and these things artists draw are so beautiful! Same with MUSIC! I just can't understand WHY.

Gosh! Thats terrible, sorry

But you can still draw some other things, Islamic art is very nice

ambassadorgozie:
a big one for dat,
dats why i don't want to further d case

Lol! Dont mind them dear! Next time take the temperature of the situation so that your actions wont be misunderstood. Try not to force yourself on people, not everybody responds well to touch from a stranger

I dont know what happened to the magical words "Oga no touch me abeg"

The lawyer woman is not serious at all

Neoteny:
There's no point you arguing about so apparent a case of murder.

I presented you with a perfect template of Occam's Razor, rather than disputing it with logical reasoning you're letting your hormones do all the thinking for you.

Tell me in what possible reality would someone who died violently after a fight with a close partner, who happened to be the last person to see the deceased alive, be construed as a case of suicide. Or one where the prime suspect should not be regarded as a suspect.

Thankfully the detectives that'd handle this murder are not myopic, hormonally-unbalanced kludges.

....And now he's reverting to misogyny because he's so frustrated that he cant force me to accept his weak hypotheses. How boring

Anyway I know now not to answer your mention next time. Anybody who doesnt agree with you has a hormone problem, noted! And this is what makes you a good judge of "detectives" right? Pathetic

Seriously, bye!

I dont see how a lawyer can say that she can either call police for you or sack you. Has she never heard of suspension before?

How did she just conclude that you intended raping the woman just like that Cant she give you a formal warning?

She already wanted to sack you before bro, this story is not making sense.

That means everybody in the country should be sacked when accused

Which kind lawyer be dat What happened to "innocent until proven guilty"

Anyway youve already told us that she was a politician before, na so dem dey do...thats the most rubbish "court ruling" I have read...the woman is fantastically corrupt

Neoteny:
There's a need to enlighten people who make poor deductions

Have a good day yourself

Youre the one who is making poor deductions; if only you could admit this rather than argue over nothing.

I wish you'd take time and enlighten yourself instead of insisting that everybody must condemn people over half-stories, just because you feel the need to do so.

By the way, its you who would make an absolutely abysmal detective. Learn how to think laterally! All youre writing here is too circular to warrant any real consideration.

The most obvious solution isnt always the correct one; thats all everybody on the thread was trying to say yet youve taken it upon yourself to keep quoting me arguing in circles and out of point and repeating spurious and weak presuppositions of guilt when there is no need.

Bye!

Neoteny:
You'd make a terrible detective, so thank heavens you ain't one or you'd bungle all your cases.

Your misplaced affront at the suspicion of the male partner is quite suspect in its own right, because the circumstances do not in any way preclude his being a prime suspect on this most apparent murder.

You use weasel words to say "how do i know her state of mind" when you yourself cannot claim knowing her own state of mind to have the mental calm to cook dinner, then fling herself over the balcony to painful and probably slow death. Where's any reason to suspect mental distress? Do mentally distressed people thinking of violent suicide find time to do something as deliberate and methodical as cook dinner?

This is a case of Occam's Razor: "the scenario that requires the least amount of assumption is usually correct".

1. A dead body is found dead in a violent way

2. The deceased had a fight with the last person to see her alive, who also happened to be her live-in partner

Any detective worth his salt will immediately suspect foul play.

Youve ended up repeating yourself and making more assumptions which dont hold water.

Theres really no need for this, have a good day bro

Neoteny:
You're arguing from a position of poor logic.

If a person is found dead the first thing is to:

1. Question the last person to see them alive

2. Look for the circumstances around the death

3. Determine if it's suicide or murder

4. Look for motive for murder

5. Take into custody the most likely suspect

Youre the one arguing from a place of poor logic.

You brought up suicide in your original comment, claiming that it doesnt add up, and I answered you that it does, with reasons. You now brought "automatically" from nowhere. Did I advocate for anybody "automatically concluding" that it was a suicide or did I only answer what you wrote?

You are mistaken in "automatically concluding" that "logically", he would rush to go and check the corpse. Do you know the man? How do you know what he would "logically" do? Do you know how difficult it is to look at a smashed up corpse Maybe you have become too desensitised by Nairaland *Graphic Image* to understand how painful it would be to entertain the possibility that your relative could be the one.

The last person to see her alive is the boyfriend, because he was already home when the body was found.

This doesnt make any sense. The fact that he was the last person to see her alive has nothing to do with him being at home when they found the body. Those 2 pieces of information have nothing to do with each other. So many things could have happened before he came back so nobody knows anything until they approximate the time of death and compare it with his story.

You determined that the 2nd thing to do when somebody is found dead is to "look for the circumstances around the death". Circumstances include prior events, environment, concurrent timelines, context, etc. You indict the man for failing to mention signs of struggle or disturbance but dont accord the police with the same responsibility. Are they not supposed to do a forensic analysis of the whole thing too, as experts?

You again obviously have no idea of psychology if you can "automatically conclude" that just because she was composed enough to cook and didnt show outward signs of distress, it could never be a suicide. Why does every suicide have to follow your own dramatic opinion of "telltale signs"? Even if they appear to be sane in public, some people can be very impulsive and unstable so all you wrote there is irrelevant.

Is it suicide or murder they should be looking for or cause of death that would indicate suicide or murder? You havent bothered to mention strangulation/suffocation signs, torn clothes or whether they scraped the mans fingernails and found her DNA. All you said was "acting suspicious" which is just a hunch. It was normal for him to be taken into custody and questioned without necessarily thinking he was the one that did it.

I dont even understand what the whole argument is for because most of what both of us are saying is just conjecture that can never be proved nor disproved until we receive more information. Who was arguing that the place is not a crime scene or that he shouldnt be taken in as a suspect? I only objected to the sensationalist headline which was not necessary IMHO, so I dont see what all this is for.

CANDYDADDY:
Steve Harvey is a tv personality,comedian,how's his influence,initiatives and fvcking collaborations aid in curbing the widespread of malaria in Nigeria?


And the last time i checked,we have not being battling with the infections in the long

what a misplaced priority

well since he got married to this girl and her mother,they have been advising him WRONGLY

We are seriously battling malaria o, dont be deceived

A media personality championing the cause is a great stratagem due to the celebrity culture we live in in this present age. The exposure from this will be very beneficial

I dont have a high opinion of Ned and Regina but nothing wrong with their action here. Its a very intelligent move

kazy1979:
Thanks for your response. Walimot means gathering to celebrate. The difference between aqd Nikah and the walimat Nikah is that the former is the joining the 2 parties together witness by the families not necessarily need outsiders. It can be low key while the latter is the ceremony where u eat and dine. Most people consider it has 1 event.
The op should have explain it to this level so people will understand it better.
Thanks

Okay, I see what you were driving at. If people dont understand the difference then they may get confused

Rashduct4luv:
Irresponsible men will always make use of loose and unwise ladies! The punishment is not only served on the men. The women too suffers from the stigmatization! If one man dumps a baby as you said...then other ladies would learn from this.

An elder that falls in a pit should teach others a lesson.

Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well.

Well its not only stupid women who fall prey to irresponsible guys but I see your point.

Thank you for giving me a reasonable answer which is all I wanted aside from all these non-entities who keep quoting me nonsense mtchew

Jazakallah Khaira Sir

freecocoa:
Na wa o! That dude definitely pushed her, otherwise why would he refuse to check the corpse?

Denial... you can imagine how painful it could be...maybe he refused to accept that the corpse may be her

Neoteny:
It says "allegedly".

He's a prime suspect, more so given they quarreled, unless it's proven conclusively she committed suicide.

I don't believe someone who's suicidal would deliberately cook for him given they'd just fought, then walk to the balcony and just jump off. Doesn't add up.

It wasnt "alleged" anywhere that he threw her off. He has only been arrested as a common-sense measure because he was the last person to see her.

So that kind of headline was quite unnecessary.

It makes perfect sense that she may cook for him before throwing herself off because some people like to make others feel guilty or have particular behaviours or rituals they need to carry out.

Plus the man said that they argued in his shop, he came back to meet his food and she was nowhere to be found. What if a third person was in the house? What if she was already dead/killed before the person threw her to the ground? They have to establish what time the man came back and how long the woman had been dead

This kind of case needs serious detective work sha; I hope those police are up to the task

mejai:
The first wife is not enjoying the best of life. In fact she is suffering. The man blocked the kids from reaching out to her until recently, the kids started acting on their own.

She lives somewhere at okomaiko, Lagos.
The man doesn't give a damn about her.

But I don't know the reason from the man's angle.

Wow! Sorry for her...I wonder why things end up like this...see this babe now enjoying her sweat...nawa o

Being a woman in this world is like starting a race with your legs tied together...hmmm...

Akpan107:
I will gladly answer any questions the Muslims will bring, though, they don't normally answer questions if I asked them.

Damn! Where do you normally get all these

DexterousOne:
Monogamy however is ideal, and is learned behaviour

Thank you! Why is this so difficult for people to understand

advocatejare:
After Christ died for the sin of humanity on the cross, that brought an end to animal sacrifice as prescribed by the laws of Moses, same way all the ceremonial washings became unimportant because purity of heart and living a sinless life is what is required of you as a Christian, washing your head and body doesn't cleanse you from sins, the evil that comes out of your heart that you exhibit as evil deeds are what defiles you and the solution is repentance not repeated ceremonial washings. Like I said, if you are truly a Christian you would know all these.

If you don't, then you don't understand what Christianity means.

Thank you.

Ritual cleansing was only an illustration sent by God to show us that it keeping physically clean is not the point, because no matter how clean the Israelites kept, they kept failing God over and over.

Just like animal sacrifice, dietary restrictions and other aspects of Old Testament law were only temporary measures to hold everything until Jesus' purpose could be fulfilled. All of those things were images and illustrations to help us connect with the main thing

How can you argue with a Christian by using Judaism Wetin cosign us They are even proving us right by bringing out old laws that have been cancelled and comparing them with things they still practice in the present-day which we could then argue are totally unnecessary!

Every time a Christianity debate comes up, they will ignorantly grab random verses from Leviticus and Deuteronomy and paste them here thinking that they are making a point, when really they are saying absolutely nothing!

Lol! Whoever wrote that irresponsible headline is a serious idiot!! Hope you wont mind when somebody writes the same thing about you at your sad moment

kazy1979:
Oga, I know it is Sunnah no argument about that. What am saying is that pregnancy before Nikah (marriage) is allowed or not allowed depends on whether u are talking about Akidu Nikah or before walimat Nikah.
Nikah is in 2 parts which they can choose to do one, both at separate time or both together.
Pregnancy before Akidu Nikah is not allowed but allowed before walimot Nikah.

I think everybody assumed we were talking about the ceremony that takes place in the mosque and not the Walima. When you use the word "Nikah" that's generally what it means

What could make it confusing is that the OP was talking about the aqd nikah and the picture he posted was showing a Walima

Rashduct4luv:
The sense it makes is in punishing the adulterous father for his sins!

And preventing those who wants to follow the same path!

Yes, you have a point there.

But won't it also encourage irresponsible men to use and dump since the baby can never answer his name?

Ehibiggirl:
Domestic violence is looming. she can’t even show him this Nairalander story she created for fear of the beast in him the one capable of hitting her sister(a woman) she knows he would throw her out like a piece dirty overused rag. She is living with him in fear where no love can exist, how does one person put their self in so much bondage?

Thank you! If the guy can never dump her why can't she explain what she's doing in his house?

Somebody politely advised her to remove the shame from her head and get him to buy her father a small drink, she wanted to tear the womans head from her body. Is she afraid the guy will refuse to marry her or what

What kind of guy collaborates with you against your own sister? Somebody here wrote that the way you present your family to him is the way he will take you and they were totally correct.

Even if your sister is a mental case can't you shield it from the guy and jejelly collect your school fees instead of all this drama