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eazzzy1:
I do not see it as an overkill because if it happens again and he retaliates, she will get her parents involved and they won’t believe she slapped first. It doesn’t have to be her parents, maybe her sibling, but it’s good to have a trusted third party bear witness.

Mindfulness:
Really? Where? I didn't know you can take someone to court for calling you names. All NLanders will spend Christmas in jail if that is so.

crackhaus:
Knowledge of this fact is exactly why women who are devilishly manipulative take advantage of men by being verbally abusive, and then cry foul when they get their teeth kicked in.

Nothing worse than a manipulative woman, Belial has nothing on her.

crackhaus:
I assume you already know I'm not the one who ought to read all of this because it's exactly what I have been all about here.

DON'T PROVOKE, it's quite simple really if everyone took their heads out of their arsés. But alas, I'm not holding my breath for this miracle to happen.

crackhaus:
Apparently, it's perfectly okay to return violence for violence but very bad to use violence as a response to verbal abuse.

The logic behind this is, you are only permitted to control yourself & set a good example in the latter, but with the former it's fair game - destroy the bítch if possible.

Also, the courts will definitely jail the person responding in the latter scenario, but will encourage the spouses to kiss and make up in the other scenario...assuming one of them is still alive.

Sterope:
That is why I said her parents are wicked. I am surprised she doesn't have siblings that can call out their BS. If they have any iota of respect for their child, they would settle this issue amicably without making their child feel sad and alone

Sterope:
So because she is not submissive, she should be not be allowed to earn an income.

He could as well flog her like his child to remove that unsubmissive spirit.

This is the first madness. Their child is just two. If someone can make this kinda of demoralising decision over another adult. She should sit tight, she is in for a very long ride.

May God not give us wicked parents!

eazzzy1:
Good for you for not reacting violently. Now warn her sternly never to repeat what she did to you ever again, also report her to her folks and let them know the next time it happens you would retaliate.

If you do not do this, your wife will hit you whenever you have a misunderstanding, we make acceptable what ever we condone. i must commend you again for not reacting violently, you are a better guy than most of us. If you do not handle it now she will soon start slapping you in presence of visitors and outsiders.

Success02:
When I asked her for the spare key, she asked me with frown face "why do you want the key?" I replied why are u asking me? She said she has the right to ask and I told her what right, she just grabbed my shirt and d rest is slap

Mindfulness:

cococandy:
The basis of my reasoning is that rarely do people who act high handedly towards others get worn over by begging and all that stuff.

Most likely it will fuel his ego and reinforce the idea to him that he is the one who gets to decide what she does with her life.

She doesn’t necessarily have to point a gun at him and state “I have to start working today or something bad happens “

But when she gets serious, he will know. And it won’t be the begging him that will convince him.

Elina123:
Accept whatever e tells u and any one u don't like u bring it up with care and love not raising voices and quarrelling it makes the man feels u can't be controlled. The more u make him feel that the more he wants to do things to controlled u and make u obey everything he says.

cococandy:
It is actually her right to work if she wants to.

He agreed in the beginning and does not need to be begged now.
If it’s a deal breaker for her. Then he’s the person who needs to adjust his thinking in this situation.

Unless she’s not serious about working.

AreaFada2:
Well, I don't know. I only hear of how Nigerians complain about medical/healthcare people. Even hear on NL. I was not educated in 9ja and I do not work in 9ja.
In a place like UK, any little thing can earn you a disciplinary hearing by GMC or NMC for nurse or HPC for other allied.

You know many things we do are just to fulfil all righteousness. Not taken to heart. Just like the rigged elections since 1999 that ewe call democracy.

Back to the beginning of our chat. Parents want their kids to have a bright career and economic future. So they see gainful employment as the most likely way to do so. I cannot blame them. But modern parents should be more flexible.

Of course many people do jobs they didn't want to and end up being very good and pleasant to colleagues and customers. Like the many engineers, doctors, architects, biologists, surveyors, historians, geographers and others working in banks.

bukatyne:
Ever heard of Nigerian brand of Christianity?

bukatyne:
Maybe he felt neglected because his mother was a single mom and does not want his child to feel that neglect too.

Saintmary:
a la destiny confiscation
smh

AreaFada2:
Most likely, But most schools do not offer it anyway.

AreaFada2:
Well we are all pragmatic to an extent, but in healthcare it shouldn't be the over-riding factor. Because by the time you find out that you're not fulfilled in it, you might have put in 10 years of training and education already. Too late to leave it. So you soldier on doing the bare mininum, while enjoying the prestige and rewards. People are different sha.

So why do you there's this impression in 9ja that healthcare staff are mostly wicked and heartless? Can poor working conditions and our culture of rudeness when in a prestigious position alone explain it?

Cousin9999:
However, if you're willing to be a nurse, consider becoming a physician assistant. There's a fair amount of overlap, but PAs make more money. They also have a growing role as healthcare restructures internationally.

AreaFada2:
Nope! Maybe the obsolete machines still in use in some parts of 9ja. You screen yourself properly from radiation. Radioactivity is measured in the areas around work to check for risk.

Depends on what you do, you might be mostly using ultra-sound machines even. Virtally no harm.

IDERAWOLE:
Remember the purpose of his write up here. Convincing his parents to support his dreams! Definitely, it's not having passion for being around and teaching young people that I called pedestrian, surely not. If you're a parent, you'll surely want something more concrete than this as the reason for going into academics than nursing.

Hope I'm clear!

AreaFada2:
This is a typical African parents' way of seeing things. I had a prof who when she was a student took a break from medical school to do what is called an intercalated BSc degree year in Anatomy. She enjoyed Anatomy so much that she never returned to complete her MBBChir. She went on to do PhD in Anatomy and became a foremost anatomist in a major European country respected internationally. She edited the world's most famous anatomy textbook. The first and only woman to do so till now. She was head of anatomy in my university and a delight to med students.

In the name of pragmatism we often stifle the talents and dreams of our children. Fela Kuti, Chinua Achebe and Chimamanda Adichie were asked by their families to study medicine. Achebe & Adichie actually started medical school. Would they have achieved as much as doctors? Probably not.

If you do Psychology, you can become a clinical psychologist after clinical training and passing the accreditation exam. Psychiatry is increasingly called Psychological Medicine to reduce the stigma. So there are opportunities in the right countries abroad.

If you are on the intellectual side than practical side, nursing may not be fun. You have to be dedicated, compassionate and caring. Not all nice people have these qualities to a high level. Remember how we all complain about wicked nurses and heartless doctors in 9ja. Many have no business in such caring professions BUT went in for better prospects or family pressure.

Healthcare is a calling. Something one should choose after looking at oneself in the mirror thoroughly. Not something to do out of pragmatism or under pressure.

As a nurse in the West, will you feel fulfilled dealing with a drunk guy in A&E at 3 am on Christmas morning? Finally getting him to sleep off his drunken state with saliva and other bodily fluids soiling his clothes? Or a homeless person brought in to A&E one cold winter night with a festering sore in his leg, and even with a face mask over your nose you still cannot breathe?

I for one liked those challenges and more. the opportunities to do much good are immense. But not everyone does. Some just couldn't wait to get out of the hospital to take even lesser paid jobs. After long years of education and training.

Have you considered radiography? It's less stress and if you pursue higher studies you might enjoy lecturing with it. Reason with your parents.

Las las if you must do nursing, do higher degrees too. But usually you will still have clinical commitments an honorary lecturer just like docs.

brainhgeek:
As a nurse, you don't have to job-hunt for long. You can even get a job anywhere in the world more readily than a psychologist.
However, if a zoologist or someone without proper formal education can become the president of a Nation, who says anything you study can't make you successful? God is the key

merryossai:
psychology is a social science course, scientific to an extent, but its not regarded as such because its built mainly on observations n statistics without necessary scientific backing.

Macauley07:
I love being around young people, and being in a university setting as a lecturer gives me that privilege to teach, mentor and guide them and at the same time work on my self. I think I'll find fulfilment as an academic.

IDERAWOLE:
You also sound a bit pedestrian on your reason for choosing academics, apart from teaching and being around young people, what else are your dreams for those young people and your nation?

Jewessgratitude:
Nursing should be a personal choice as it entails a lot.
If you can't stand the sight of blood, sores, if you have photophobia, dont go into nursing cos it will just be a waste as you're not going to be able to work with it.

merryossai:
Am surprised no one have asked where his strength really lies, science(nursing) or psychology (act)? its better to work on your strength than your weakness. Remember, its better to be a great psychologist helping people living fine, than a poor nurse who will jeopardize human life.