₦airaland Forum

RisenPhoenix:
I am objecting to the fact that he's grovelling before her as if she's some minor deity. So she provoked him, he reacted a little too excessively and has already over apologised for the excess. She should either get over it or move on.

And it is not a measure of self esteem to be lowering yourself to be grovelling before your fellow human.

RisenPhoenix:
The problem here seems to be comprehension. I never said she should accept his apology. I said the apologies he has made should be more than enough for her to forgive him; meaning if she's going to. Those asking him to go prostrating for her and kissing her feet so she can forgive him are asking him to debase himself and give up his self-respect. No one should be made to do that. One apology should be sufficient. If she doesn't agree, she should leave. It is not like she was entirely blameless.

BRATISLAVA:
If she was to have beaten him for questioning her whereabouts at 2AM, you would switch the narrative.

I repeat, is the level field of physical violence the same as nagging? Evaluate that. I'm not interested in how you wish to twist that. Is it level or not?

Voicing opinion has turned to bullying. Lol. You people are such domestic violence apologists.

Have you forgotten that he should be in jail if he was to split the lip of anyone? And that he would do worse to anyone who split his lip? Yet you've created level fields on unbalanced actions to justify him.

They should sign to that so that she cannot express her fundamental right to speech while he expresses his criminal "right" to battery. Evaluate the two things carefully

. I know that Nigerians have no fundamental human rights and that is why people will equate battery to nagging and see justification in doing so. Try that in the West and report on the results.

crackhaus:
In your haste to appear a genius, it eluded you so embarrassingly that the idea was never to equate similar situations, but instead to level the playing field and prevent against future occurrences brought on by cause & effect.

BRATISLAVA:
in your haste to appear a genius you are still afraid to answer: how are physical violence and screaming a level playing field ? Accept that your level field talk is pointless and stop aimlessly trying to argue out of it.

futurism:
Its common, very common. The jealousy is too much, the backbiting is too much. Some times I find it hard to believe my mum is even from there.

They speak ill of each other at the slightest opportunity. And they are very hot temper

Etinosa1234:
Ever wondered why there are family greetings in Benin and not in other tribes of Nigeria not to talk of the whole world

futurism:
Only thing I can tell you is that be thankful your family is different. Thank God for that and always pray for your uncles and aunt.

Abeg no let me dey remember some nonsense

AntiChristian:
The parable of a pig suites you! A pig fights dirty bringing its opponent into mud...

May you find the peace of mind you so desire!

No one deserves to respond to you again here!
Bye.

King44:
too much Hollywood nahin dey make some people weigh things before them take decision

24kmagic:
Thales by moonlight.

There's a difference between looking down on people and condemning what is bad.

I will always condemn prostitutes, that doesn't mean I'm looking down on her.

I know orphans who hawk pure water and other petty stuffs to make ends meet.

No be this your story go make me begin fvck ashawo, tufiakwa.

AntiChristian:
I am an illiterate just like Jesus and many other Prophets!

AntiChristian:
Go to your thread and seek your relevance! Lady Troll!

Rashduct4luv:
If you need Khutbah go to Friday prayer or attend 'Eid, etc. If you need Dawah then attend such gathering. Stop vituperating your anger online on us here!

Everyone is a troll and only you is real!
Go to the section meant for you!

Rashduct4luv:
And the name Christian was a manmade name. It was never mentioned in the entire Bible by Jesus! Maybe he forgot.

godbless120:
So if a man just lost his tempter a slap a girl makes the man being abusive? if that your point and you are my daughter then that is where u gonna... you brought a man to me telling me he want 2 marry, before that is done you might hv known the type of person he is.. So in ur useless world a girl can break bottle on a man, insult the man parent, slap the man n if the man just lost his cool, he is suddenly abusive.. Girl you are just from your pa doing that to your ma.. People like u are most likely to be abuse daily.

godbless120:
You didn't read what i wrote.. i said i will summon her and the husband over to heared from both but if the husband refuse then i will be right up there... while you were dating what was the reason? if he was abusive then n u still marry him then u are suffering from your mistake which i can try to correct..

godbless120:
Continue claiming feminist on social network and suffer..
The people that mostly suffer from domestic violence rarely speaks out in public and rarely let their parent know, but this one call her mother who pick her son for war in alaska... why? the world women is that men are always wrong when its come to issues with a woman.
I have seen when a girl shouted thief on her bf and the folish guys that response beat the guy before she realize the guy was already been set on fire. Abusive man is abusive man. while dating you were suppose to know the person in and out and not sex upon sex.

godbless120:
If i knew you were a female i would hv argue with you.
Chelsea female coach on sunday blame liverpool for their female team home stadium for being so poor when infact the stadium is a leangue one team stadium which is higher in football pyramid than the female league in standard. Loud.

godbless120:
She call by 2am, you can't possibly go there by that time, the best is to advice her to avoid the husband as much as possible till in the morning which i will call her home with the husband knowledge and also the the if the husband refuse to come and won't let her come then i know that her life is at risk..
jumping up to my inlaw house in the morning and them telling him to stay away from them so they can take their daughter means the nxt times issues come up they might even come with weapon.

Bros take it or leave it, no responsible parent will go their inlaw house to take back the daughter base on ordinary quarrel (first time)..
I still sense motive in that action. last reply.

dannyla:
I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

godbless120:
So if your daughter call you in midnight that her husband beat her while coming home by 2am and as a good father/parents, the next morning you are heading to the husband house and take your daughter home?
Action speak louder than words and in this case the mother and brother action speaks so loud...

godbless120:
Op say she just slap her not beat her and i said assuming what op say is the truth..
If my daughter leave her husband hers then she is in for it from me. but if issues persist and she got beaten regularly then i will get involve and if the man doesn't refrain from it then i will remove my daughter from such marraige.. She was the one that brought the man home and while dating she should have known that treat in a man.

It would be stupid for me to just go to my inlaw house and withdraw my daughter just for a small misunderstanding.
The girl could hv leave her husband home and return to her parent without the mother and brother going over to the husband home preparing for a fight.

godbless120:
Why did the mother going the next day with his son to take the daughter from her husband house if there is nothing else.

godbless120:
Since she didn't call the inlaw to talk to them, then is something fishy about them..
A well train family would never go to their inlaw house and take their daughter and if you found urself in such situation my guy run.

godbless120:
Judging 4rm what he said and reply, if i could listen to the girl version then the advice could hv been differ.
If the mother of the girl can go to her inlaw house and take her daughter without inviting the couple to advice them on marraige issue and how to solve it said it all.
The advice was base on the post and it was suppose 4 d gug to judge if his conscience is clear.

godbless120:
You said that if... my post was that if the guy to was telling us the truth and if that was the first time then the girl, the mother and the brother acted on a plan... if you were coming back home by 2 am and a good and well train wife will wait till morning and approach the man. No one will come bck by dat time and the first thing you receive is nagging from your wife and ur effort to calm her down was not succesful n won't loss ur cool... thats if op was telling the truth.

omoharry:
..I understand the black bird and the believes system attached to them but these are two colorful furry cats ..anyway this Nigeria

1Sharon:
Yes but the problem is that Nigerians have harmed ppl over those superstitious beliefs.

That's the problem.

godbless120:
Bros to be frank let her go and it was their plan and they only use that slap to carry it out. if she was from a good home no parent would hv gone to their inlaw home and withdraw their daughter from her husband home.
Give her time and if they don't bring her back and apologies as neccessary get a divorce and even God will bear you witness.
Every understanding between a man and wife should be settle between them first and if it prolong then that is when either parents be involve to give out advice.