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Romance › Re: A Lady Is Four Months Pregnant For Me And She's Hiding It From Me. by midnighter(f):
Baldwretch:
You said it is not right o, and then he doesn't have to. Are you saying he doesn't have to do what is right?
Yeah, he doesn't. What is your definition of "right"?

Marrying somebody you dislike because she is pregnant? Then when he comes back here for advice, we will still castigate him for bowing to pressure when his heart wasn't in the marriage from the beginning.

It's more important for him to take care of the baby and for them to be functioning parents than for him to marry her.

If we had more details we could urge him to marry her, make the child legitimate and make it a traditional African Christian/Muslim family, but from the way he's sounding, that wouldn't be fruitful. He doesn't like her and she has already cheated on him before

It's not an ideal situation and I don't advocate for giving birth to kids out of wedlock, but I am more concerned for the welfare of that baby.
Romance › Re: A Lady Is Four Months Pregnant For Me And She's Hiding It From Me. by midnighter(f): 11:20pm On Nov 24, 2019
SenecaTheYonger:
Does always contain sperm cells or sometimes containing sperm cell? Does it mean precum is all you need to inpregnent a girl? What's the essence of cuming inside then?
Sometimes precum mixes with cum and takes some sperm cells

Remember you only need one sperm to make it
Romance › Re: A Lady Is Four Months Pregnant For Me And She's Hiding It From Me. by midnighter(f): 11:18pm On Nov 24, 2019
Baldwretch:
Is it good thing if the lady's family do not pressure him to marry her? Is it right? Is he going to leave her for other unmarried fellows?
Lol. It's not really right o, but he doesn't have to marry her if he doesn't want to. That's the message I was trying to put across
Romance › Re: These Caribbeans Hate Africans by midnighter(f): 10:34pm On Nov 24, 2019
greatermeme:
I'm surprise you keyed into that cheap lie!
Interesting
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 10:32pm On Nov 24, 2019
greatbrian:
One last thing, what z ur take on it and do you believe in it
I think its an unfair cultural practice that doesn't have a place in today's society. Especially as its not the fault of today's generation what their ancestor might have done hundreds of years back.

And plus we are supposed to be Christians, this kind of thing is supposed to be struck off our agenda as "old things have passed away".

But at the same time, to an extent it was a form of traditional law enforcement for our ancestors.

At least the threat of messing up your lineage was enough to keep some bad elements in check. Now that everybody is no longer afraid you can see that people have taken it as licence to commit atrocities without reproach.

I'm not sure if I believe in it because it's not practised in my place so I don't have any experience of it. But we do have some osu in the next town who come to perform some traditional rites according to the deity they were dedicated to.
Romance › Re: These Caribbeans Hate Africans by midnighter(f): 10:00pm On Nov 24, 2019
greatermeme:
your username assigned to somebody else? Just imagine!
I don't get, is that not possible?
Family › Re: Why Is The Paternal Family So Disliked? by midnighter(f): 9:37pm On Nov 24, 2019
Jarrow:
Lol... interesting stuff is that one person's paternal family is most times, another's maternal family.
That's just what I was thinking. Its weird right
Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Threatened To Leak My Sex Tape With A Guy Online!!! by midnighter(f): 9:05pm On Nov 24, 2019
sinceraconcept:
You are a student but get bleeped at school anyhow by boyfriend while your parents struggle to raise your school fees. This is the reason why guys don't love or value many girls again in Nigeria because valueless wayward girls have made us believe decent ones aren't decent too. the way Bollywood actors run after their love and show so much love to them in movies isn't in Nigeria again, how would I even marry a girl I've bleeped anyhow or someone else has bleeped anyhow before? I've got standard. Such girls can never be trusted again cos they would definitely cheat with driver, Hartman and husband's friends.These are the major causes of divorce and broken home in Nigeria today, when a man marries a wayward woman that has turned to housewife(abileko) even before getting married. I would rather Bleep your type anyhow, dump you after using you when it's time to get married and marry a young virgin girl fresh out of secondary school or higher institution
What are you talking about, how does sleeping with somebody in a relationship make her wayward? So is the guy she is sleeping with not wayward also? How can two people in a committed relationship be waywardhuh

If you knew you had nothing reasonable to say why did you bother commenting
Romance › Re: Why Do White People Smell Like Unwashed Smelling Vagina by midnighter(f): 8:48pm On Nov 24, 2019
Clinghton:
The weather is freezing cold the don't bath regularly, using the hot water can be expensive.
It used to be customary for them to only take their bath once a week. In their old movies you will hear them say to their children "come, you're going to take your bath today".

And it's recommended not to bathe every day because of the chemicals inside all those soaps. They remove natural oils from the skin

Of course that's not workable here because of the weather. But they recommend just bathing once a week and washing up in the sink every other day
Romance › Re: These Caribbeans Hate Africans by midnighter(f): 8:19pm On Nov 24, 2019
ednited:
Not all Ethiopians are like that. Not all of us.
Lol no problem dear, there are both good and bad in every country
Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Threatened To Leak My Sex Tape With A Guy Online!!! by midnighter(f): 8:14pm On Nov 24, 2019
patobiora1979:
Walk into any police station and ask for human rights department.you don't have to pay any money...and if you can't still get help then send a mail to (patrickpeters654@gmail.com)you need to be careful next time who you go out with
As in,where were all the "clique" when she was being manhandled by a strangerhuh

The point of going out with a group is so that you can all look out for each other. How does she know the guy didn't put something in her drink?

People can make useless friends sha...
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 7:53pm On Nov 24, 2019
Boyooosa:
Anyway, I'm not aware of any exists in my place but I think, it's nothing to worry about..
I think it should be considered as orginal sin as in the case of Adam and Eve, the one we are made to believe we inherited before Jesus Christ or Muhammad came around, so prayer as suggested will help and the larger part of my heart says, it doesn't have anything to do with the o.o and his family's life.
Thanks for the elightenment tho.
It doesn't exist in my place either. Yes it's original sin from ancestors.

It has to do with his life because it may affect his own marriage in future if he becomes an osu because of his sister
Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Threatened To Leak My Sex Tape With A Guy Online!!! by midnighter(f): 7:45pm On Nov 24, 2019
Officialgarri:
I kept checking each pages to look for anyone who will make this kind of comment.
You are the only one with sense on this thread asides me grin

According to the story she said 'it was rape but made it look like it wasn't '.
If she was screaming or struggling we would know it was rape, but she apparently gave her consent
but calls it rape cos the tape is out somewhere


She later then went ahead to state that "she cheated on him" grin.

If one must lie, you must be ready to lie to the very end
I think she should just play up the sex tape aspect and leave the rape thing for now because the issue of consent is dicey, plus she didn't even report in the morning when she was sober but just decided to charge it to the game and leave it.

She should leave the rape stuff for now and concentrate on the breach of privacy so that the authorities won't start insulting her and missing her point

1. A girl drinking alcohol and getting so drunk that she can't tell where she is
2. Attending a (wild?) party
3. Illicit sex

That stuff can get you insulted in a developed country not to talk of Nigeria where nobody cares.
Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Threatened To Leak My Sex Tape With A Guy Online!!! by midnighter(f): 7:38pm On Nov 24, 2019
HacheNoire:
How much is human life

He will still always use it to blackmail you

Meet contacts, His life you can take for less than 150k and silence him for life

Dont just leave traces.

Even Nairaland you posted it on is a trace already.
shocked what...

Baba you took it to another level now, haba
Culture › Re: Tiv "Mamiwater" Masquerade of Benue State by midnighter(op): 6:28pm On Nov 24, 2019
OruExpress:
Hope you find a way not to take offense. I'm not from benue and don't know the name, but I believe I said something valuable and you should be able to consider it without being personally offended.
Well since you didn't actually address the topic in the OP I thought you were being deliberately antagonistic. Thank you for your input anyway
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 5:43pm On Nov 24, 2019
dangoteinlaw:
lmao so the ppl who married them outside the community did something awful happen to them grin grin
I haven't heard of anything like that but maybe it has happened and that's what everybody is afraid of
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Jeremiah Omoto: Lady Sees Her Menstruation In Enugu 6 Years After by midnighter(f): 5:36pm On Nov 24, 2019
Ifesinachi22:
No be small thing bro. I've seen three girls like that wayback on campus.

I wonder why the menses choose to embarrass girls only during exam period. You can never see it like that except during exam period.
Because they are stressed it will show when it's not supposed to
Romance › Re: These Caribbeans Hate Africans by midnighter(f): 5:32pm On Nov 24, 2019
Offpoint:
Get your lawyers read, we've got a casetongue
cheesy
Romance › Re: Why You Should Consider Marrying Asian Ladies. by midnighter(f): 5:26pm On Nov 24, 2019
To be honest, replying that guy is futile because he had an exceptionally bad experience with Nigerian women that he wrote about on his profile

I'm sure he could argue about this until the day of judgment
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Jeremiah Omoto: Lady Sees Her Menstruation In Enugu 6 Years After by midnighter(f): 5:20pm On Nov 24, 2019
There was a service I attended where somebody started vomiting their demons out onto the ground

I have nothing against miracles but some of these churches go too far
Family › Re: God will come through for me by midnighter(f): 5:03pm On Nov 24, 2019
Pinkie2018:
She just doesn't want me to end up like her, "divorced" because she married a "mummy's boy". The house issue was because my father never had a house of his own when they were married so they stayed in his family house with his siblings and mother who made my mums life a living hell of which they eventually drove her off.
To be honest her reasoning is okay, I have a relative who also lived in their family house with a bunch of sisters and it was a disaster.

She's trying to help but I understand how you would get frustrated
Romance › Re: Must Single Guys Fork Sef? by midnighter(f): 4:51pm On Nov 24, 2019
herakles:
it would be the same for ladies if they were not hypocritical. You like sex but pretend as if you don't do it
Whenever a female opens up about sex they use it to shame her so everybody has no choice but to keep shtum!

It's you people who are hypocrites and not us.
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f):
Boyooosa:
Thank you, so if u intend to cleanse the CURSE or undo/lift the ban before marriage, how do they go about it?
That's the point of the thread, you can't remove it.

The stain is on your lineage for eternity, that's why OP is getting worried.

Personally I think to offset the implications (if there are any), the person can be prayerful about it so that the spirit the land doesn't come up to bite them.

But I don't honestly think anything happens except that your family name becomes tainted and you are not able to undertake certain traditional rites
Romance › Re: A Lady Is Four Months Pregnant For Me And She's Hiding It From Me. by midnighter(f): 1:41pm On Nov 24, 2019
Ojizy1:
History of infidelity
Okay. But did you forgive her?

Why continue with her, sleeping with her and buying her stuff if you were no longer Interested? That's a mixed signal isn't it?

You can break up with her and tell her you'll still take care of the baby. I hope your family won't pressure you to marry her?
Romance › Re: A Lady Is Four Months Pregnant For Me And She's Hiding It From Me. by midnighter(f):
Why not just come out with it...you wanted her to abort it right?
Ojizy1:
She came forth telling me she's pregnant with hospital report and her body is already changing!!!
After 4months why now?
Why don't you see her as your life partner? Any particular reason?
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 1:16pm On Nov 24, 2019
ChristineC:
but these so-called non osus get married to African Americans all over here, the same people captured in war and are "descendants of slaves". Funny people full Africa mehn cry
Lol. Interesting right

But those ones are more like foreigners since their ancestry can't be traced. A slave in one man's land can be king in another. A traditional ruler here can still travel to America and be working as maiguard
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 1:02pm On Nov 24, 2019
greatbrian:
Midnighter, please educate me what makes this OSU people so special?
They were convicted of crimes and dedicated to the gods or they were captured as slaves during wars.

According to tradition you can't marry or accept any traditional rites being carried out by a descendant of an osu or you and your own family will also become osu

It's officially been outlawed but still practiced, especially in imo state
Romance › Re: My Sister Is About To Marry An Osu Man, About To Commit A Serious Taboo by midnighter(f): 12:54pm On Nov 24, 2019
dangoteinlaw:
Help me understand something, if no one in ibo land associates with the so called osu then how did they procreate this current linage?
They marry amongst themselves

Or they go and marry outside of their community where it's not practiced or where people don't know them
Romance › Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by midnighter(f): 12:48pm On Nov 24, 2019
Lamanii22:
As in eh... The situation should be called "tangled"....
Lol abi
Romance › Re: Why Do White People Smell Like Unwashed Smelling Vagina by midnighter(f): 12:47pm On Nov 24, 2019
Lonelypacifist6:
I actually don't like the smell of garlic, I keep my distance from anyone who eats it raw.
Yes, it's a horrible smell.

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