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Literature › Re: How Can I Be A Good Writer? by midnighter(f): 9:17am On Nov 18, 2019
slimiyke:
i will suggest he train himself in descriptive writing, one of the very interesting forms of writing that give one the opportunity to be more creative both in thinking and writing, but most importantly you must think outside the box because you have to see things so differently and read deeper meanings into things, also learn to build your word bank and keep journals too... Many thanks to Aunty debbie Ogunjobi a creative columnist with vanguard newspaper that wonderful woman really inspired me so much, you can imagine keeping journals of her works for almost 7years...God bless her wherever she is
What kind of descriptive writing? What do you describe?

Yes keeping a journal is very good practice...it helps you to track your development.
Literature › Re: How Can I Be A Good Writer? by midnighter(f): 9:13am On Nov 18, 2019
AmuDimpka:
I love you...writing itself is vast..is he writing for a TV, newspapers, journal, script writing or even novels. ..when he get to answer this we can advise him ! As of now I see him as confused a bit
Exactly...there are different skills required for different types of writing.

The question is not specific enough
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Election: 13 Things To Know About David Lyon by midnighter(f): 9:09am On Nov 18, 2019
Eteka1:
Does one need a PhD to know that his people need good roads, good schools, hospitals, potable water, security etc?
I have already answered that, youre just repeating yourself.
Politics › Re: Kogi Election: Fabulous KSP Shot Dead (Photos) by midnighter(f): 7:37am On Nov 18, 2019
Chai! And just like that, this handsome man is gone

Im beginning to think that these deaths are sacrifices ordained by these diabolical politicians
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Election: 13 Things To Know About David Lyon by midnighter(f): 7:16am On Nov 18, 2019
Eteka1:
If NCE is not education then why do you send your children to schools where the teachers are supposed NCE holders? You think political performance requires PhD? Wrong. Political performance requires the will to do what is right, hence all that is required is education up to secondary level.
Political performance depends on both the will to do what is right and specialist knowledge and skills, which are mostly gained from higher education.

That requirement was written with good intentions but in reality is not good for the electorate.
Crime › Re: FUTA Suspends Obalola And Others Involved In Bullying Mate by midnighter(f):
You've brought a big shame to your parents!
Literature › Re: How Can I Be A Good Writer? by midnighter(f): 6:54am On Nov 18, 2019
It depends on what kind of writing you want to do.
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Politics › Re: Bayelsa Election: 13 Things To Know About David Lyon by midnighter(f): 6:51am On Nov 18, 2019
uvie66:
is your president highly educated ?
How can you use the president to make a point? Is the president a good example of an uneducated leader?

Does the country look normal to you with him at the helm of affairshuh
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Election: 13 Things To Know About David Lyon by midnighter(f): 6:46am On Nov 18, 2019
tunjilana:
Education is not gotten simply by being in class....If he runs an organized biz successfully for years....his knowledge already spans biz administration, human resourcing, Administration.....
You have a point. But we know that being a trader and being a bureaucrat are parallel lines in this country

Education is necessary for organisation and orderliness in government
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Election: 13 Things To Know About David Lyon by midnighter(f): 6:27am On Nov 18, 2019
Flye:
You think success is about certificates?
What have the PhDs and Educated people voted in the past achieved with their certificates?

Average Nigerians always set wrong priorities.
Forget it! Even Donald Trump has a certificate...education is necessary for a sitting governor

This is not about success in general but being able to fulfil a particular role and its responsibilities
Romance › Re: Please Help Iam In A Delima... by midnighter(f): 6:15am On Nov 18, 2019
lefulefu:
the man dat will marry u will be lucky cheesy.ladies that try to maintain their appearance for their men are bae cheesy.no be dose ones wey go jus leave themselves make them blow up like hippo cheesy.
If she gains weight after childbirth or something its one thing but this seems to be a result of poor discipline.

The weight is not necessarily a problem but if he told her he doenst like it I dont see why she should get angry. If he didnt tell her and just dumped her, wouldnt she still complain huh
Romance › Re: Davido Will Not Marry Chioma. Here Is Why (pics) by midnighter(f):
Tajbol4splend:
The engagement is the most important of marriage, which they have done, the ceremony is just secondary to it.
I dont know whose culture youre talking about but it cant be Igbo, introduction is just introduction. Everything can still be cancelled without affecting anybody.

Paying of bride price is the most important. Without that, no marriage

They are planning a very large, star-studded wedding that will attract more followers/sponsors so they have to take their time.

This is a money-making operation as well as a wedding.
Romance › Re: I Have Lost My Sense Of Reasoning by midnighter(f): 10:20pm On Nov 17, 2019
Billi007:
While I disagree with your language of being rigged against the player, we at least agree on the fact that chance and luck is the game. Nobody is controlling anything. I know book makers that have ran into losses.
The rules are written in favour of the bookmaker and not the player

Im talking about large betting companies though
Romance › Re: Please Help Iam In A Delima... by midnighter(f):
BRATISLAVA:
I'm going to ignore all the talk about baseless culture because it is counterintuitive striving for the Western life that has no true culture, and yet demanding culture and condemning the easier choices available without said culture. Confused adults indeed. Are all the people out there confused because of culture? Nigeria with all it's culture is full of wicked, inconsiderate, rude, prideful, culturally dependent people who cannot think in a fair way towards others. The culture is only there to please yourselves. It has not made your society clear. A cross section of your Nigerian society will tell you if your strong culture in Nigeria is of any good, or just a baseless/mental restriction.

If he's worried about her behavior without creature comforts from her family, I did mention earlier that he should go out with the woman who he can cater to. Is she the only one in the world? must it be her? The screening process has left him with the "prideful, aggressive" woman who will bring the children to Nigeria. She will uphold "culture".

If a woman said she was choosing a husband based on the comforts of his pockets, you would call that a shallow evaluation. Because so far, that is all that we have here. He knows she's overweight, prideful, aggressive and lazy - according to his description - so what is keeping him on her? Love? Really? He said it's too late to stop, that's all!

If she's angry about him mentioning her weight and he can't live with it, must he marry her? This is why I always said he needs to reevaluate.

Long distance is fantasy at its best.
Its a fallacy to say that Western life has "no true culture". Every country inhabited by human beings has a culture. What you choose to imbibe when you get there is up to you.

You dont stop being black just because you travelled to a different country. All the people in those countries have their ancestry and traditions, why should you abandon yourshuh Besides, youre the one who first mentioned the word "baseless".

Nigeria is full of wicked people, yes. What does that have to do with what we are discussing herehuh

What does wickedness have to do with visiting your grandfather's farm, trying local delicacies, seeing TV advertisements and billboards where everybody is black, learning to dance, attending a loud, noisy Nigerian church service, riding a keke, seeing how people manage without basic amenities like electricity or water on a daily basis...seeing how other people live in a different condition from yours?

How is that a mental restriction?? Why dont you think children born abroad need to see all that?

Yes, I also said he should find somebody he can cope with...that doesnt mean he shouldnt ask questions to see if she is suitable for him. Its just a question...its good to think deeply when considering somebody for marriage.

If a lady took a mans pocket into consideration before marriage, I would call that a fair assessment. And I would weigh things up with negative signs that I was seeing. Just because he hasnt listed all that he likes about her, it doesnt make the relationship invalid.

Yes, I also said he should re-think the wedding if its too much for them.
Romance › Re: I Have Lost My Sense Of Reasoning by midnighter(f): 9:23pm On Nov 17, 2019
Billi007:
I disagree with you.

With discipline and a clear plan you follow through. You will make money from the bookies. Trust me.
Yeah, for professional gamblers or people who study odds and make intelligent choices.

This guy is already addicted, he is not acting out of logic.

But what Im telling him is that the machine is already rigged against the player. Thats how they make their money

If you sit and calculate your risk, thats a different story. Since risk and chance is the name of the game
Celebrities › Re: Grace Oyelude Celebrates Her 87th Birthday, Chidinma Aaron Visits Her (Photos) by midnighter(f): 9:22pm On Nov 17, 2019
She looked like a first lady in her outfit...some of what they put on these days is so lipsrsealed
Romance › Re: Is It Right To Pay A Girlfriend School Fees ? by midnighter(f): 9:16pm On Nov 17, 2019
You dont owe her anything but if you want to pay it out of kindness, then you can.

But forget anything relationship because shes not stable and she's just trying to hustle her way up through life since her family cant help her. You cant count on her
Romance › Re: I'm In Trouble. by midnighter(f): 8:55pm On Nov 17, 2019
Phenomenal16:
....av u seen her?
Tell / beg ur father to wait till u r 30 at least ...
Insist...let him see reasons...
Marriage shouldn't be done in a hurry
If u don't want to die before ur time
As in, I dont understand. 27 is not old, especially for a man huh Why is his dad on his case
Romance › Re: Please Help Iam In A Delima... by midnighter(f):
BRATISLAVA:
I don't sense love, but trying to fit conditions. He's not talked about her charactg from a pregnanc
Nah, I mean come back occasionally to visit and know his place/people. Of course the person doesnt need to live anywhere he doesnt want to live. But they at least need to see where they come from.

You left Nigeria in the first place because the country is dysfunctional. You didnt leave because there is something inherently wrong with the people who live there. If not for destiny, you also would have been suffering Nigerian condition so I dont see what is so difficult about coming back once in a while. You have a root, you must come back and see it for yourself or you will grow into a confused adult.

This especially important for black people. Especially black boys! They are bombarded daily with the message that they are totally useless...they need to see the other aspect of their life..their position in the world.

Its actually a baseless mental restriction and a sign of inferiority complex and timidity to starve your kids of cultural education just because you believe that you have "escaped" from your stupid country. A truly enlightened person would make all the effort to inculcate their origin into their kids.

Natasha Akpoti is on Channels tv fighting INEC right now, her mother is a white lady yet she has the guts and empowerment to contest for Kogi state governorship. If her father had avoided Nigeria believing that it was too "dysfunctional", where would she behuh

I dont know what OP has in mind...I am not necessarily advocating for moving permanently back to Nigeria with the wife and kids...I just meant that they should at least visit.

For the long distance relationship, all that stuff you are saying is just a condition of being in that kind of relationship. People who stay together in the same place all the time also face their own problems...people who are in normal relationships still fake and cover up their imperfections. Dont we see threads about that on here every day??

People meet thousands of people in their office, the eatery, the road, wherever and still mess up So thats not particular to long distance relationships. Whether the relationship works or not depends on how patient the couple is and how much they are willing to adjust as they get to know each other.

He says she is prideful and fat because he has observed behaviour that has led him to believe that she is prideful and fat! How is that a disconnecthuh Are you saying that she wouldnt be fat if he were by her side 24/7? And the problem isnt that shes fat, the problem is that she refuses to do anything about it.

He pointed out that she is not too free with herself because she is already well taken care of, unlike some hungry/gullible girls who will throw all their morals out of the window for shawarma and coke. I dont see anything wrong with that observation, in fact it was a smart one.

His question was, what would she be like if she didnt have all that anymore? If he is not able to provide the lifestyle she is used to, how will it affect the relationship? Again, this is a perfectly reasonable question!

Love is important but its also important to have certain standards for what you want in a spouse and what you can and cannot tolerate. Love is just the initial primer. You still have to be realistic about whether you can actually cope with the person.

She hasnt attacked his weight, maybe she doesnt have a problem with fat guys...thats her business. Moreover, he said that he was trying to reduce his weight.

He is telling her that her weight is a problem for him, instead of her to work on herself she is getting angry, does that make sense to you huh Being overweight is not something you can argue for since its not beneficial.
Romance › Re: I'm In Trouble. by midnighter(f): 8:38pm On Nov 17, 2019
healthserve:
Thanks. Thats soothing cheesy
smiley
Family › Re: Is This Normal? by midnighter(f):
Romance › Re: Ladies Kick Against Their Kids Taking Up Their Husband’s Name In Marriage by midnighter(f): 8:10pm On Nov 17, 2019
Mizwisdom:
See reasoning, those few places I mentioned did it kill the kids or are they recording more marriage failures than those under patriarchal system? let me make my point clear to you as it seems you don't understand me, whether a child answers his/her mother's or father's surname doesn't affect his wellbeing, it's simply used to boost the ego of the spouse with an upper hand due to culture.
Pablo Picasso took on his mother's maiden surname, it didn't affect his progress in life negatively. All laws made are based on ego, that's my initial point.
The thing is that for things to be orderly, somebody has to be under somebody else. The law is made based on maintaining order, and ego also plays some part.

I guess historically men were more powerful than women which is why the child "belonged" to him
Family › Re: Is This Normal? by midnighter(f): 8:01pm On Nov 17, 2019
Jadeobee:
Only one of his close friend is married. Yes we (the wife and I ) relate but we are not the best of friends, we don’t have to be best buddies because our husband are friends. I personally just don’t like following him to meet his friends unless I have to.
I understand, you shouldnt feel forced to fake friendship with people just because you have been thrown together by circumstance.

But at the same time, its good to be open to making connections with others since his friends are very important to him. I only asked because of the way you sounded in your previous post
Christianity Etc › Re: What Did Jesus Mean By "The Poor Will Always Be Among You"? by midnighter(f): 7:55pm On Nov 17, 2019
ruffDiamond:
Judas was right TBH ..only he was too greedy to the point of being a fuccking SELLOUT (reason why I hate greedy folk and wary of them)
He had a point but everything is not about money. The lady was making a sacrifice and he was just seeing the money aspect of it

Its that money-conscious attitude that led to his later downfall
Family › Re: 7 Tips To Avoid Unnecessary Add-on During Marriage by midnighter(f): 7:50pm On Nov 17, 2019
ireneidiva:
Late night eating does not cause weight gain. Eating healthy meals at whatever time cannot make you gain weight. You people will just hear something and not bother to research.
It doesnt add to weight gain directly but it still messes up your metabolism and puts you at risk of certain diseases.

Ideally you should have done with food some hours before you want to sleep
Romance › Re: I'm In Trouble. by midnighter(f): 7:43pm On Nov 17, 2019
healthserve:
Careful
Blackmail is the new sensation with social media. Once they can't hold debates/discussions smear campaign go start before you know trouble everywhere. I'm completely erasing myself off social media permanently.
Sorry about it, sir.
Family › Re: Attracted To Brother-in-law? by midnighter(f): 7:37pm On Nov 17, 2019
2008! Im sure she has gotten over it by now cool
Family › Re: Is This Normal? by midnighter(f):
Jadeobee:
He runs his “business” from home, but I work we are not in each other’s face 24 hours. During weekends when we’re supposed to be together he will branch to see his friends. Or in the evenings on weekdays, he will go and visit them for a few hours till late. Let’s get out on a date , he will start doing behaving somehow or suggest we just stay at home and watch a film knowing I’m not a film person. If it’s to go out with friends now, he is all up for it. If not that then he is on the phone with family members talking about one thing or the other. I'm just fed up
Wow, sorry.

So what activities do you guys have in common? Where did you used to hang out in the courtship days...?

Have you asked him if he has any issue with you at all? At the very least, he feels cooped up at home, at worst, it sounds like he's trying to avoid you

Or he's finding it difficult to adjust to married life and its responsibilities

The fundamental question is, was he like that before...? And did you follow him to visit those guys when you people were dating? I mean why havent you bonded with a few of their wives or girlfriends (this is not an accustation btw, Im just asking). Im surprised that youre talking about listening to them yarn football...are there no women to talk to in those friends houseshuh

If he was like this and now hes refusing to adjust, its one thing, If he started all of it now, its another.

It sounds like he is somebody who needs a lot of talk, gist, noise. Especially when he keeps calling all his family members to talk about nothing in particular. And somebody up there said something about woman-wrapper, that is true for some guys. They dont want to lose themselves because of "one woman".

He is being irresponsible sha, he should go home and face his wife...
Romance › Re: Man Weds Two Women On Same Day In Delta by midnighter(f): 6:20pm On Nov 17, 2019
Hei! Isoko wado!
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Governorship Election Official Results 2019 Announcement (Live Updates) by midnighter(f): 5:56pm On Nov 17, 2019
Hahaha grin The man said "I am from University of Benin" and one idiot said "No, from the University of INEC"
Politics › Re: Bayelsa Governorship Election Official Results 2019 Announcement (Live Updates) by midnighter(f): 5:46pm On Nov 17, 2019
Theboss100:
As a PDP Man, i know the two states are for APC. I support that of my neigbouring state BAYELSA. Reason is PDP Under Dickson av failed. As for Kogi, that lazy youth of a governor have rigged himself in through INEC collabo. I just pity KOGI People. Suffering 2.0 loading. Bello u dnt deserve a 2nd term u kw it. Well, karma i kw will bite back in the future. That's all i av to say abt the useless elections under APC. BUT I WILL NEVER VOTE 4 ANYBODY AGAIN UNTIL ELECTRONIC VOTING IS PUT IN USE.
Back to Nigeria match.
Lol! People just voted a monster back into office youre there saying karma! They are their own karma, shekina!

What a terrible country

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