₦airaland Forum

greatbrian:
He won again swthrt. The people you are pitying clearly ain't tired of the self inflicted suffering.

Hm! na dem sabi

greatbrian:
Are you serious

Yes, Im serious. Do you know that if you stay at Enugu, every day you will be hearing news of suicide from Kogi because of bad condition caused by Bello? That guy is totally useless as far as Im concerned.

So who is the governor now? Im watching Channels TV but im confused

GodCovenant:
is the man the bride? why the traditional marriage? or is this not abuse of Igbo tradition?

Thats what I was wondering. I think she is just trying to show that she has embraced her husbands culture, so she did some traditional marriage rites.

Plus I think her dress is a fusion of Asian and Igbo fashion

BRATISLAVA:
I can't believe the wasted sperm talk. Must a child come to Nigeria before it's not a waste? Kizyalex10, fine someone where you are and speak with them to know if they can agree to your demands of visiting Nigeria. How sure are you the Nigerian one will want anything to do with Nigeria after marriage? Long distance is fake, because absence makes the heart fonder. You haven't been close enough to know what you feel if it will last

Well thats why I said I dont totally agree with you (though the bolded is correct IMO)

A Nigerian child must come to Nigeria and know his roots (whether his mother is white, asian, whatever). He has a culture and an inheritance, a family. If the person doesnt come back, they are actually wasting away over there in a sense.

Life is not all 24-hour electricity, good roads and free education. Of what use is your wonderful education if you dont even know where you come from

Furthermore whether a long distance relationship will work depends on the two people involved in it...its not fair to say that it's fake.

Even people who were together for 5 years and decided to marry can still divorce in under a year if care is not taken.

The guy shouldnt rule out dating a woman in the place he is on the basis of travelling ...as long as she is interested in coming back and embracing his culture there is no problem. As both of us pointed out, there are Nigerian women who will "waste your sperm" finish if they have the chance so thats not a fair criterion.

Mood11:
See him nose like my own

Ride on my brother.
Chukwu Amadi gozie unu

and look at the little bridesmaid on the right of the 3rd picture from the last who has that same nose

Seems like that nose is a family affair lol

I am really interested in this topic...every time I ask nobody can give me an answer

Worst governor ever liveth...

Pathetic...so you dont care that your husband is embarrassing you outside

IHate9jerianss:
1.Toxic Mascu... is a fake word.I don't believe in its existence/definition.

Smh! So when a girl dares to disagree with another female moniker on here and a bunch of stupid (m)s come to tell you "see how women hate themselves, why are you fighting your fellow woman" What should we call it Toxic femininity??

rex444:
I actually have a younger friend who asks U for money and when you don't give him he turns it into an insult or fight sef...and I always talked to him to be reasonable..... asking one for money is one thing and one giving out is another

Lol. Personally I cant imagine being friends with somebody like that.

I dont owe anybody any money so anybody talking like that can just go and walk into that Bayelsa river wey dem drop camera yesterday

kizyalex10:
any child mostly born of a white women is seen as a lost sperm bro.they cant come bck to naija and still u carter for them.and i want a core african child.i love her but still want her to adhust atleast for love.i love her too

Though I dont totally agree with Bratislava, what you just wrote there is really not true

A child whether born of a white woman or not will always like to come back as long as you as the parents give the correct orientation

I have plenty of cousins with parents from the same state sef who have never been to Nigeria in their lives because their parents never bothered to bring them. And there are people in Lagos, Abuja and other major cities who say they cant go to their place and their kids still end up getting confused

If you marry a white lady who has a positive disposition towards Nigeria and not one who just wants to corner you in one suburb in New Jersey, after a while she will even begin to come back without you

If you visit Shoprite in any reasonable state on a Saturday afternoon you will see the white ladies wandering around with their kids so being white is not the problem here but correct orientation and marrying an open-minded person who embraces you and your background

What you need to remember is that the game is always biased towards the company...you will lose more than you win.

The occasional win is just to boost your ego and trick your brain.

They make money by capitalising on your faulty reasoning and convincing you that you will win if you just "try one last time...."

izzou:
I think you're taking that verse out of its context

Jesus was saying, in relation to TIME, his was shorter compared to the poor which his disciple suggested. She could still use the oil to help the poor(that will always be available), unlike him, that will be gone soon

Great

rex444:
now this is another good way to see it....my one naira is mine actually...till I wanna share ...

It's one thing to ask for money (and the person can choose whether they want to give you or not)

But what Im reading in that chat is very insulting, haba

maynation:
Can she give you 1k too?

This means she only asked you for just 1k?
You are a piece of shyt and a lifeless broke ass.

Please give me her number, she deserves an apology.


You even mentioned your fellow broke faggvts.

Ubunja??


Nairaland and her wannabe alpha males, broke deranged humans feeding on young naive smallies.

But babe, how can somebody be telling you "Oya now" on top your money

Who or what is "where is my money na"?

Even if it's just N10 that's very disrespectful

If I were him I would just block the person until she comes to her senses...people should have respect when requesting for something.

That girl doesn't have manners at all

Lol the lady was dancing a cool step Hml!

Tell her if she doesnt lose the weight you arent marrying her again and see what she does. Neglecting health or physical appearance is a valid reason for breaking up with somebody...For her to get angry when you point it out is rubbish unless you said it in a rude or disrespectful way

Since you yourself do exercise you can encourage her by whatsapping each other at the gym, telling each other what you ate today, checking your weight together and stuff like that.

As for the money aspect you have to trust her. You wont know if she will change with less money until you get less money!

And theres nothing like "gone too far for me to back out"...you can cancel the wedding at any time if youre not comfortable with the relationship..dont marry anybody out of obligation or pity

sweetiliciouz:
even with the camera his brother might not trust him ,devil has a way of playing his cards ,his elder brother might end up having a thought of why every lady he engages goes for his kid bro .
I think the op should bring in a male friend to stay with him for some time or if he has a younger sister he should beg her to be stay with him

Well, using a camera is still better than going to accuse somebody with no evidence, when you have already been caught committing the same crime before.

Yeah he should still find his way out of that place and give the brother some space. At least even if he ends up engaging a succubus, OP's hand will not be in it.

In a higher institution...spits

Starz825:
it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell without coming on the platform)

Wow! Thank God you were the first to comment because this post was excellent. You really got down to the root of the problem

Angelawhite:
Best advise. She might even accuse him of rape if not well handled and having a bad record already worsens the situation.

I’d advise you not to confront her. She will accuse you of rape or start poisoning your brother’s mind.

If you must tell your brother, tell him after you’ve left the house. Maybe after a week of staying away from her, compose a very compelling and emotional message, telling your brother why u left the house. Tell him, you appreciate his love towards you even though you betrayed him. Tell him you left the house solely because you don’t want to blow up this second chance.

As for your mum. Do not tell her. You know women, they can blow things out of proportion and might ask your brother to send you away.

I was thinking of advising him not to tell his mum and just keeping it between them but the thing is that this is a serious problem, he has been implicated in this kind of thing before and he needs to report this to a witness. There are actually 2 issues here:

1. The guys past sex addiction
2. The brothers inability to pick decent girls as partners

At least if he gets to the rest of his family with evidence, they will see that he has not been entirely to blame all this while and he will improve his standing in their eyes.

involving a 3rd party like his sister or mother is important for the future because it keeps everybody accountable for their actions.

SmellingAnus:
what if the problem is actually you... I have so...

so you named yourself smelling anus to scare all of us away

greatbrian:
What do you do for a living by the way? U seem like one Dow to earth lady

what do you think I do?

One flew over the cuckoos nest is about the goings-on in a psychiatric ward in 1960s America. Its a classic

Theres also the catcher in the rye and the great gatsby

vincentus16:
and that of using phone recorder .

Yes

RemyDropShadow:
yeah dearie.
Will def do that. I'm happy all of a sudden. Lol.
Feels like a thief is about to get caught .

Lol, a thief indeed

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks dear.
I'm getting a lot of options now and my spirit is uplifted once again. Good decision I made to bring it on here.

You're welcome, good luck

RemyDropShadow:
Can't agree more.
Which is why I told him i wanted to go home but truth be told, he likes having me around. We've been a team for years and all his friends adore me. The job he said he is trying to lock down for me is the major reason i can't leave. Said he needs me close and I'm also supposed to start the process of traveling to Canada next year (toefl and all that) so at least I could leave by end of 2021. He is having none of it.
With all the inputs I have gotten on here, I've been able to make up my mind that I'm gonna get my mum and sister involved. Thanks to everyone.

Wait! Did you see what somebody wrote up there about a camera? It was a great idea.

You should gather some evidence since you have had problems in this area before and it seems like the girl will start lying

greatbrian:
I have. Have even read 4 more of his book.


The dead father's club

Reason to stay alive

The humans.


He writes fine though I feel.......

What about One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest?

SendAbroad:
Op , why all the fuss...simply tell your brother to install discreet CCTV in your room or entrance to your room or in the seating room. Problem solved.

Brilliant...in fact let him buy a small camera himself and then confront his brother with the evidence later. I hope OP follows this, it will eliminate the "my word against hers" scenario

If you go and confront that chick, 1 of two things could happen:

1. She respects herself and starts acting normal

2. She gets offended, starts treating you maliciously and turns your brother against you

The solution is to move back to your house, sorry. Or move to someplace

Some ladies ehn...I dont understand

greatbrian:
Intact you are just too brilliant . Preserving is the world charming. And for the records am done with MY COMMAND by Olusegun obasanjo. Any book you wanna recommend?

Have you read "How to Stop Time" by Matt Haig? Very interesting