lhordspy:
Nothing here to see. Just a girl acting by the script, playing to the gallery . It is all part of the play.

This Chef hilda's vs Chef Dammy's brouhaha has really opened my eyes to how an average Nigerian thinks and operate as human. People, most especially the social media peeps are automatically wired to social media influencers and artistes. They cant think for themselves, they are like sheeps, gullible zombies who only likes what the influencers like, move in the direction they follow. They only appreciate and cheers on what the popular influencers and artiste like. So anything other than that, outside the validation of this 'higher humans', is condemnable and unworthy to them.

Hilda capitalised on this well. She played the game very nice. She paid big influencers and artiste for publicity before going into the cook-a-thon. They publicised and promote her to their gullible followers whose only existence in life is to reflect, to mirror their validations. So any other person outside that circle, is seen as opportunist, a fake, or as someone not worthy of been cheered or champion.

Just like the case of Chef dammy. Most of this gullible followers criticising and attacking her, see her as fake, as unworthy just because the 'higher humans'; the influencers and artiste which they worship, havent given her their validations. So the followers see nothing good in her quest for recognition. To hell with her ! They say.

Humans who cant think for themselves. Who cant make decisions for themselves unless they are being influenced. You see them with big phones, speak and type big grammar, but have the brain as small as a single grain of sand divided into four places...

it's a human thing. If you've seen the series Succession where Logan Roy was always accused of being the devil he always said he's just giving people the true reflection of their desires and what they are

Selfkontrol:
Good day Nairalanders. Pls I need some mature advice because I’ve been in a dilemma for a long time now concerning relocating abroad or staying back in Nigeria.
First of all I’m not a japa advocate. I believe if you’re doing well in Nigeria then there’s no point relocating abroad but I feel there’s so much uncertainty and I don’t know what the future holds for me in this country.

Now I’m a married man of 30 years. I will turn 31 by this September. We have no child yet but wife is preg now. I have a B.Eng in petroleum Engineering but have never worked in my life. My current business is crypto trading which I have been doing for years now. During the 2021 crypto bull run I made lot of money and acquired some properties that’s currently valued atleast 60-70m naira in total. bought my car same year and got married same year to my long time Gf, settled some family members etc . I don’t have any other investments or business aside my properties and crypto portfolio because crypto trading has taken all my time and I won’t complain because so far it has been good. Making money in dollars while in Nigeria is bliss. Even though we have been in bear season since 2022, I still make some money every now and then that’s sustainable for now until we hit another bull run which is likely to happen from next year 2024.

My fear lies here, on the long run crypto trading is not sustainable. If not for 2021 bull run I don’t think I would be in this position and even the projected bull run next year is not 100% certain

I plan on learning a programming skill which is very difficult, I tried learning it late last year but stopped along the line because it was distracting me from trading and missing some opportunities in crypto because making money is most important. Coding would probably take me a few years before I start earning even though it is sustainable long term but crypto trading can be life changing but not sustainable long term . It’s more like a gamble most times.

My plan A, is to gather enough money from now till 2025 which is the duration of the projected bull run if it happens and start investing in real estate development, Like building and selling and other businesses too but I don’t know how feasible that is in our present day Nigeria and if I don’t make my target amount, I might have to start with the available resources present.

plan B, gather some money, learn a skill then relocate to Canada with my family via study route since I don’t have any real work experience aside crypto trading but that would mean me going to study and starting afresh.

For my wife, she also has a degree in Human Resources with just nysc as working experience. She learnt wig making and installation and has been doing her online biz selling wigs etc.

Abroad folks, what are my chances abroad considering my current profile. Is it worth it coming over there to start afresh
And build? I have heard so many things how it’s hard getting a job and you have to rely on survival jobs for the first few years expecially for someone without any work experience.

I really don’t like joining the bandwagon cos everyone seems to be leaving, I love to weigh my options and hate taking unnecessary risk that might lead to regrets, at the same time don’t want to regret not leaving since I’m still young and have the opportunity that’s why I’m here asking these questions to learn from experienced and matured family men home and abroad the action they would take. We learn everyday,

For my unborn kids, if everything checks out, my plan is to give birth to them in either Canada or US for the passport and raise them in Nigeria and when they are grown, send them to study there and that is only if I’m not relocating. And if I’m relocating, what are the in-demand skills and professions I have to take since it’s clear I might be going to school because I hate survival jobs. What is your advice pls.
Mature advice pls. Thank you 🙏
@justwise @Disguy

You can practically do B and have A too.
You seem to be doing well financially. Why not register your businesses or get someone to run your investments for you and send returns there to you. You would guarantee money from here while you gone man. That you will be guaranteed to give your kids the best of both worlds. A great life there and enough money to back it trust me one major fuckup people make there is that they leave without any viable source of income coming in forgetting the system there you can't cheat on it to get free except you have financial backing. Today Nigeria is getting ran by men who have extensive links over there as well as back home. Do this bro and I swear in 15 years time you'll be on your Yacht and remembering these advice from millstone
Money dey this country o! Invest well, carry your wife there which would be cheaper right now than having multiple kids. Then you can do those investments and still give your kids multiple passport. Think Bro don't want you to regret ooo

By the time these guys are done destroying our image kpata kpata eh....

ahnie:
So guys,I embarked on another eventful trip to ugbolu market in Delta state,which is a rural market to buy tubers of yam again,but to be honest with you they re very pricey.

It's seems like these villagers has wisened up more than us that resides in the city.
The prices of commodities has skyrocketed,I pity the common man.

One major problems I encountered was the monetary exchange,as I didn't go with cash,and majority of the villagers wants cash,I told the lady to pls allow me make transfer to her acct,she pointed a POS lady to me who's charges were high.

Hello, can I please get your mail? Recently on a trip to benue was gifted over fourty(40) tubers of yam and considering selling some. Is there anyway we can talk about ways that I can sell some cause I'm expecting more and would want to sell the ones I have already

Igbo women sha...

Moments like this are why I thank God for providing my sisters with supportive husbands o cause eh omo some men I nor dey understand. If it's first child i for understand but she has other kids and she's expected to still run the home and do house chores o. either he get grudge against you or he don't regard you. If for anything pray you marry a partner that has empathy

This Op just made me remember Papi Joe. Papi joe is a bricklayer with one wife and 11 children and they all stay in uncompleted houses, not one is trained in school properly. Papi joe will do concrete work all day and use the proceeds to do nairabet and eat food. Papi Joe can leave a good job because of food whereas hungry wan kill am. Don't be like Papi Joe mr man, go back out there and hustle

mostly the parents are to blame

Nice2023:
Abuja is a place meant for descent people and seriously, agbero can't survive here.

I came to this town in 2007 as an IT student and returned after my NYSC in 2010. Man,this town is fantastic with good road and cheapest food ever. I am a family man of 3chidren.

With that budget,u will need to first of all rent a two bedroom or three depending on ur choice area then find other things u can do to survive.

One thing is very sure here,if u are a hardworking person,in 5years u will see how successful u will be.


U can hit me up in case of any assistance of any sort...if u are igbo,yoruba or hausa or any tribe..I can drive u round for free just to make u feel welcome.

Good luck to u.

Hello bro. I can see your willingness to assist well I'm not moving with my family I'm trying to set up a business in Abuja and I need someone who knows the city well and where i can get my targeted clients. will it be cool if i can mail you and then we communicate further? Regards

I won't advise you to sell the car to an innocent man. My last two cars were naija used and i saw shege. Better turn that car to a cab now

Chidi2022:
Which needs? Inside face me i slap you... I don't think the man is a bad man...one thing i can say about him, is that , he is putting his foot down against what he doesn't like...And i don't see anything bad in it... Because the man said , had it been that she hates his friends and family before the marriage, he won't have married her.. So why change after the marriage...

that's my own issue with it, why change after marriage. maybe the marriage was what she wanted sha, the mrs tittle so now she can bring out her rotten behavior like most of them do after you wife them

Chidi2022:
LMAO... Just dey play... Sometimes life is not Nollywood....Man wey don already marry second wife...

Nollywood ke? who dey reason those clowns. oh except that. Personally I don't trust women. she might just be there cause either the guy is meeting her needs rn or she definitely has her intentions

owo soup and starch garnished with perriwinkle and tiko

Zonefree:

The man is a true alpha. God bless him abundantly.

He's only deceiving himself. Madam never get what she wants. Let two of them relocate out of the country first whether e go fit do hum yeye alpha male

Chidi2022:
The day i feared this man, was the day, he told her openly that instead of his to stop being friends with any of his friends... he would rather divorce her... i shock ..walai....Ever since she came back, she even dey knee down greet..
The man said his main annoyance was that, she meet all thise his friends when they were dating, she will even cook for them without complains.. but immediately he married her, she frowns when ever they are around to the extent, they will be uncomfortable and that thier wives don't treat him that way...

Lol
make anything do that man say he is god forbid crippled he go see shege. Just because your snake coils when you warn it doesn't mean one day it will not swallow you when it is big enough. Let she get what she wants he will see premium shege

This OP na premium mumu o! I know your type. The hypocritical reserved saints who enjoy attention without considering the consequences. Not only did you put the name of the city but the specific office locations, the car she drives and some private details here. what if someone you did not even know but knows either of the party shows this to either of them. The job you seem scared of loosing you go loose am o. Ewu zombie. I stopped taking gist to nairaland when I realized people I didn't even realize visit the site have silent accounts here and you will never know. El Rufai fit dey here self just dey catch cruise and this made it to the front page and na the kind gist many people if not all visitors and users will open. Omo you nor wise o, self reserve in real life but ewu online.

Fineman2:
The first one is Chicago USA

Second is Melbourne Australia

Third is Toronto Canada

Fourth is Calgary Canada

Those saying Nigeria should build cities like this should wake up to reality. Most of these cities owe such magnificent structures they have to big construction companies and real estate investors. The Nigeria real estate investors one do not have the ability to even build one of that and secondly if the government ever attempts to build such structures there would be nothing left to maintain it.

RTID:
“Men are afraid of successful women”

I wonder why men allowed this lie to go unchallenged for so long.

That is, they deceived so many women to believe that a man will see a woman making ground breaking achievements in her industry and be afraid of her success, instead he will go and chase one broke, unemployed and uninspiring woman.

Which successful woman in this world is single because men are afraid of her?

Watch women claim now that they know someone, not them oh. Someone.

I can tell you for free that a woman will buy Toyota Big for nothing and starts talking down on men that don’t have cars, becomes unnecessary rude to everyone around her and when people avoid her, she’ll say it’s because she’s successful.

No one is avoiding you because you are successful, they are avoiding you because of your bad attitude. There are women that are more successful than you that are happily married.

Why your own dey different?

Men are not afraid of successful women. Men are afraid of women with bad attitude, successful or not.

Fact! Fatos! As a man I can't marry a liabilty nor a lazy person. It will even be a thing of pride that my woman has accomplished so much in her career. It's not the career that is intimidating, it's the bad manners

Goalnaldo:
They are addictive. I lost my virginity there. I keep count too, although mine is just 16. I havent patronise them since this year. Yesterday, i went to see the house i intend to rent and the girls i saw gave ashewo vibes. I becamep sceptical. A part of me wants to end that lifestyle but my canal man is urging for sex, after all like they say body no be firewood.

I relate too. I was 16 when I met a guy on 2go after talking for days he said he wanted to link me up with a babe to Bleep me well only for him to take me to a brothel. That was also the first time I had like a proper sex, my first we were both virgins and was terrified after i saw blood. Didn't patronize them for years and when I returned 3/4 years later it became addictive again. Op count dey learn where I dey guy. But thankfully I've been careful however I've been working on stopping it. It brings untold calamity man. I've seen men loose their marriages and family cause of this but blame someone or something else. Truth is there are thousands if not millions of men out there that continues to patronize prostitutes and many of them will only do it a handful of times and escape the consequences while some of them this would be their doom. Maturity should also be applied, sometimes the body can be too strong and it's okay to use them once in a while especially when single but if you continue using them in a relationship or marriage i guarantee you that you will loose that committed relationship. Get a girlfriend or friend with benefit.

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Abeg bro what is the situation of things rn bro

libertyfather:
Simple get someone to do her job, let her come her usual come eat and go, no fight no enemy she remains ur mother...but one thing about woman accusing the kids of hating them like their father....fear dem i repeat fear dem, they usually frustrate the man life and wants the kids to be supporting their evil deed

This is the best advice o. Do otherwise and you would have lit a match you will forever regret

One of the reason women are very dramatic towards their kids is because they know deep down say this one na me get am lol. My mom and I can fight eh, after when I'm down or something BP go dey high anyhow. My sisters self told me that when it comes to the two of us them nor dey put mouth lol

snthesis:


hmmm, i'm thinking of going through her phone, something is not right

This man you just wan use your hand scatter your marriage o! You be listening to the devil here. Oga go home to your wife and make her feel like a woman again. What do you people even enjoy when your affairs are public? Tried that shit and it leads to no solution. Oga you're playing with fire here

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

One of the negative effects of a woman marrying young and locking her feminity all in the name of being a good wife and raising a family. When the time comes and that tamed beast wants to be free, it will come at the expense of everything you both have hypocritically built. Sit her down and have a open heart conversation and do not hold back. Two things or rather three things might happen. One; You both embrace these changes she seeks and have a mad ride for the next 5-10 years. Two; You subdue her once again and she pretends to be happy only to live a double life or end up depressed (this will not end well for you) and Three; You both go your separate ways because you are two different people.

kingofthenorth:
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NoToPile:


Arrh I asked the same question @ first bolded, there is a very dangerous trend of irresponsible guys of marriagable age these days. It's not even about how much or how little they earn, it's about the terrible mindset.

Ladies should shine their eyes.

These generation of mothers should raise their sons well oo else a very major disaster is looming in the future.

Too much wailing and whining arrh.

I swear. They nag about women this, women that whereas they've completed ignored that most of the reason why they're so many damaged girls today is because we have failed fathers, men who ran away or stayed back and became a burden, ignored their responsibility and left their daughters at the street to be raised only for them to be doing worse than the men of old. It's very funny tbh

Seeing my boss' face

Hello,
I have been meaning to start a rice processing venture however one of my major challenge is the actual price of the rice milling machine. The more I inquire the more confusing prices I get. So please nairalanders, especially those with experiences in the sector what is the price of a standard rice milling machine, I need options and if you could also educate me on the pros and cons I will be much obliged

But isn't it supposed to be so? I mean what crop of husbands are we raising for goodness sake. Who else dey follow you yansh your wife? The day you walked to the altar and met her kinsmen swearing to shoulder her responsibility and whatever life the two of you bear you think it would come easy? Yes nag about the society and economy but don't you dare (most of the stupid bastards commenting on your post anyways) nag or embarass your wife in a public forum. Didn't you see the kind of person she was that she wasn't being supportive enough or understanding enough but still went ahead with it? Please if you can't continue kindly do the needful and let us know we have one less irresponsible husband in the society to worry about

LordReed:


Yeah. There has to be a balance. I don't condone spoiling a child, once I start observing spoilt behaviour in my children I make sure I warn them and steer them away from such behaviour. And sometimes that steering involves a lil spanking.

I subscribe to this. I have always wanted daughters and even though I hope to spoil them silly they are lines I wouldn't want them to dare cross not because I'm holier than thou but because I know what it's like going down that road and how hard it is to find redemption

LordReed:


What I see is most people beat out of frustration not correction or love.

Exactly. You come home frustrated with your own life and challenges and then beat the child for being a child. I saw a post from a guy who beat his 9 year old son for going to their neighbour's house to play with other kids and e dey proud talk am after sowing seeds of division within his household. These crop of kids we are raising now I don't think we know the ticking time bomb we are sitting on. The one that don't want to flog the child are already raising spoilt brats while the ones when dey beat wan kill the pikin in the name of discipline