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Traditional stool being politicized

Nigeria, who do us?

Wiseandtrue:
Even though the former governor, Dickson was nothing but an eyesore to anything leadership stands for

Diri's victory was nothing short of miracle!!!

Same as Wike, so I can understand him when he pays tribute to God and declared his State a Christian state!!!

I hope Diri does well in order not to mar Adeboye's name, an act that could make people mock God!!!

If you want to remain a successful politician in this country, there are 2 things, you must have!!!

A) God

B) Your ears to the ground!!!

Say what you know. Wike won through the people. If given another opportunity, he will still win again.

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

You are a!sincere person. You made us to understand the good and bad of the guy. Same with you unlike most posts. I will advised you to quit. God will give you a man who truly and sincerely loves you and wants you for marriage

Mimiey:
Hello Nairalanders.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, claims to want a serious relationship. Can he really be serious about being serious or he is just a play boy?

So I met this guy about two weeks ago close to my street. He calls but I hardly pick. Eventually, I picked and he asked if he could pick me after work and we hangout. I accepted. He picked me up after work last week Friday. He was quite interesting and funny, he talked freely like he had known me for years but he was really so touchy, I had barely spent 5 minutes in the car and he was already touching my shoulder and even when we were inside the bar, he tried tickling me, at a point, he put his hands close to my waist, I removed it. We both discussed if we had someone we are currently seeing, I am not seeing anyone which is the truth, he said there is an Ex but they just have sex and she has her own relationship. When he was dropping me off, he asked for a close hug, I hugged him and he wanted to pull me closer and kiss. I broke free and got down. He said I am not nice.

Well, we met again on Monday, I took just water intentionally. This time I minded the distance between us. He wanted to see again on Tuesday, I declined. Then at work yesterday, he asked to see after closing. I told him he can come briefly to my work and we can talk a bit in the car and part ways. He said he would like to host me at his house instead, I declined.

Anyway, he came, I got in and he started driving and saying, I will know his house today and besides his phone battery his low. My mood changed immediately and he tried to guilt trip me and said okay should we stop on the road and get a place to charge his phone. I then told him to continue driving to his house. He stopped on the way and got snacks. We got into his house. It was nice and neat.

Then we were watching a movie, he sat down and placed my leg on his, I was cool with this. Then he made moves to kiss and I declined and pulled away. All of a sudden, he started breathing fast, hugged me so tight and kissed me despite I kept pulling away and didn't kiss back. I am weak when it comes to my Bosom, then he got there and gave me the roughest and painful squeezing I have ever experienced. I haven't been with any man in about 7 months now, I am single and It's hard for me to do a little thing as even kissing randomly. So he got me there when he got to my bosom but it took only just few seconds to snap out. He continued panting and begging for me to reciprocate, he is so hard and hasn't felt this way in a while.

I told him I don't want this, he went in frustrated, stamping his feet, I tot he had agreed, only for him to come back naked and saying okay, he has heard no sex and "I don't want to force you", so he asked for a dry hump and wanted me to turn my back. I didn't. He still kept breathing hard, like he wont survive the next minute. Then he started begging for a Mouth Action. I declined and told him I wasn't up for that. I tried pulling, away and getting angry. He became even more aggressive, removed the hands I used to protect my chest and forced his way into my bra. It was a struggle and then back to begging till I made it clear in a thunder voice for him to stop and take me home.

Then he agreed, wore his cloths and kept complaining that I don't know what I have caused and he wont be himself. We left his house and he tried stopping at a Pharmacist and said he needs to get ibuprofen, then he didn't stop again and just continued driving.

This morning, he is apologizing and repeating the things he said when we got to his house that he wants something serious with me and he wants us to start something and want it to work out. He asked to come see me at work today but I declined. With this red flags, is there a possibility that he is truly serious like he said? Or he is just doing the usual lies to get the cookie and go away. He has a nice ride and nice house, I suspect he may have girls around him. My concern isn't all these, I just want to be with a serious man who is in for commitment and not just sex.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, can he be sincere about wanting to be serious?

Of a truth, the guy is only interested in your VG. He has other girls. Mind you, the next time you will visit his nice house, being driven in his nice car, he's likely to forced his way into your VG. After that, he might not be interested in anything serious with you again except continuous eating of your VG. And you won't be happy only entering his nice car and nice house.

After which, you will come here and inform us that he used and dump you.

Constituted authority Ajimobi. That will be from fly pan to fire for APC

It must be Ogun. The State needs change of name.

He should go ahead and commit suicide.

reynalroddy:
there is nothing God cant do..nothing he cannot change and nothing he cannot turnaround.To God be the glory.

That's why it's written in Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing shall be impossible"

Yoruba women are funny. They left the music beat and were holding the money sprayed on them. Poverty is a bastard

Hon. Emeka Ihedioha's lawyer has ruined this case

"Without even consulting my deputy ..." Haba!!!

Wait!!!! This thing I am seeing in the picture?

It's more honourable to fail than to cheat.
Why cheating to have a certificate that you might not find work to used it for?

Nigerian criminals sha!!!! Confessed but not guilty. Lol

Staro:

The only judgement that truly required a
review was the IMO ruling.

Oshiomole always feels he's smart.
Because the PDP asked for a review in IMO
he also jumped in with Bayelsa, Zamfara ...

See now, all the profits Afe Babalola has made from his
University will be used to pay fine.

David Lyon may be too broke to assist them with such huge amount

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Bro, I am not holding brief for any of them. But let me tell you that's not money for Afe Babalola and Wole Olanipekun. They are billionaires. In fact, they are among the first three richest lawyers in Nigeria

Architectben34:
Is she in anyway related to Peter?

Lol... That's Her Excellency, Justice Mary Peter Odili

I kept saying it that David Lyon and APC should forget about the case and begin to prepare ahead of 2023.

That's if the incumbent Governor will be stupid not to make Bayelsans to see and benefit the dividend of miracle.

Handsomejok:
Before marrying my wife, my business was moving well. I had an appliances big shop with full of things. I made a lots of money monthly and was able to pay all my bills and take care of my single mother and siblings without fail.

Bbut since we got married, just two months and 5 days after our marriage, my shop caught fire. I have lost almost everything only managed to save some few things, had to pay for all the damages to my landlord (the shop owner ) I’m still owning him money and I’m now renting a small shop but things are not working.

I have so much debts to pay to so many people including my previous shop landlord, can’t afford a 3 square meals, can’t afford to pay house rent, can’t afford to pay my shop rent and we have moved to my parents house.

My wife is pregnant and due in April, we haven’t bought anything for the baby. I wish never met her in my life cos she has completely destroyed my life and I have nothing left. She is evil. Haven’t confronted her cos of her condition, don’t want to add more stress to her and am waiting for her to put to bed then I will confront her and chase her away. I will keep the baby with me so she can go with her child she had before we met. I just hate her so much and I want nothing to do with her anymore.

Please what do you suggest I do?

How do you know that your wife is a witch?

What is really wrong with Bayelsa politicians with forgery?

kantin:
Indeed, there are good people with a good heart in this country. People who do good not to be compensated, but because it is the right thing to do.

Around 5pm today, Friday 21st of February 2020, in Aguda-Ogba area, Ikeja, Orekupolati Street precisely. A certain painter was dropping from his car, moving some luggages into his house, while doing that, unknowing to him, a small purse containing 200 thousand naira ( 200 pieces of 1,000naira denominations ) and was already at the entrance of his house when the "shoe maker" called him and said "oga your purse don fall down"

according to an eye witness.

The painter looked back with surprise and quickly dropped his luggages to collect the purse from the Hausa man. It was then he ( the painter ) explained that he just received the money from a client who wants to paint his house and the money was meant for upront payment for paint and workmanship.

He then removed #5,000 from the money and in appreciation offered it to the shoe maker. It was a big surprise when the Hausa man rejected the compensation and responded saying "I do am for Allah". The owner of the money tried his best in persuading him to accept his little way of showing appreciation but it was all in vain. Then the shoe maker left.

Everyone who witnessed it was in awe.

A lot of people would have argued that such a thing can not happen, but then, everyone is not the same.

There are good people everywhere, maybe rare, but the fact is they exist.

Be one of the rare good people.

I don't mind buying new keke for him to drive on hire purchase if he will agree

Very commendable. Media houses in Abeokuta should take it up from here.

Perfecttouchade:
Justice I pray...the guy was gruesomely murdered by the Sars

My brother, justice against Nigerian police doesn't come by us saying "justice". Public and media have to scream daily for the justice to prevail, like the case of Chima. Rivers State PPRO, Nnamdi Omoni had to retract his earlier submission which wasn't true.

Perfecttouchade:
I will be glad if Justice is served on this case...kolade's death is still another case ,we all av forgotten so soon...another guy in Sagamu ..

The way Late Chima's case is going, I am convinced justice will prevail. I pray media hoses like wazobiia FM continue the good work.

God bless Wazobia FM for the justice that seems to be on the way for Late Chima and Ikokwu 4

Nigerian police are good at twisting stories to their advantage. That's how Rivers State PPRO, DSP Nnamdi Omoni twisted that late Chima died of sugar. After which it was confirmed that there was no autopsy conducted on the body of Chima.

But come to think of it, why is Bayelsans this greedy. Three incumbent senators as they were before supreme Court judgement going for Governor and deputy governors in the state. Are there no other people in the state?

News like this will draw the attention of the "boys" to Gombe

I like Falana for one thing like one of my Profs do tell us those days during our PhD classes. "If you want to be relevant, after obtaining PhD, where something is convincingly correct and the generality of the people in a conference agree that it is correct, take a different stand on the issue and be bold to tell them that it s wrong. With that, they will leave the conference but they will never forget you"

I couldn't stop laughing on "Jobless lesson teacher" The adjective ehn

Davidflight:
You must have a German Residency Permit and your course must last at least 1 year. You can bring your wife along. However, it is important you go and establish first. Familiarize yourself with the terrain, get a job, rent an apartment and settle. Afterward, you can invite your wife.

Needless to add that your Court Marriage certificate is sacrosanct for your wife's visa application.

Good luck.

To whom it may concern:

Obiasogu David (Davidflight) is a Professional Content Marketer vast in Travel, Freelancing and Career.

Very true. Same approach my friend adopted. His MSc was two years. He's still there with his wife and his boys. He completed his MSc that was sponsored by PTDF last year but waiting for residency permit which he said was to be issued this month but the authority asked him to give them three more months. Meanwhile, him and wifey are undergoing intensive language classes. His wife and children were denied Visa at first application. I wouldn't know why.

However, the issue of securing a job, he said it's not easy. In terms of job, he said there's abundance. However, to even secure washing of plates, one must need language certification. And it's more challenging for an average Nigerian in his field to be employed there given the low technical know-how in Nigeria relative to Germany.

Our country is finished. Thieves ruling us