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Ladies..
They friendzone goodboys and date badboys..
No lady can friendzone me cos i am a mixture of both

All these ladies coming here to encourage her to move on because she was in an abusive relationship eh.
Didnt you read when she said that he was truly ready to change.
Didnt you read when she said that she contributed to his abusive tendencies.
Truly women are their biggest problems..

BolaAdenekan:
I remember when we first met, she would stay at my house for days, she would sleep with her makeup on and her wigs. I was even thinking that maybe she had a skin condition, why is this girl always wearing makeup. It wasn’t until after 5 months that I saw her natural face. I thought maybe she would outgrow this childish nature, but it seems to be getting worse. This is not the way to live.

the reason is, she had people she trusted tell her she is ugly and she believed them.the only way to correct it is to continually tell her how beautiful she is and how proud you are to have her.
Appreciate her body, her shape her beauty, in the morning, in the afternoon and in the night.
You will see changes in her behaviour in two years.

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Oluromantic:
Are you just typing for posting sake or you're 19 yourself. This is no way possible.

My opinion: if her husband is mature enough, he would have to be patient with her till the maturity comes. Afterall Omotola's hubby endured it, same with kanu nwakwo.

However its a 50:50 risk, she may get mature after 10 yrs, then her husband would start enjoying a transformed mature wife. Or it could be the other way round ...that since the essence of being groomable is to see a good man to marry which she already has on a platter of gold so what's the need for change, she's already in the marriage and there's nothing the man can do anymore, he'll endure it like that forever,

Her thoughts would be... "afterall shebi he saw me with his open eyes before he married me... mtchewwww. I am the way I am. Im not changing for any man, rubbish, change ko, change ni, after 2 children..abeg."

The worst is that she may begin to get eye-opened to serious romantic adventure which she didn't have the opportunity to experience before marriage. Her husband may not be able to handle that too. If he reacts, he'll be blamed for marrying a teenager with his open eyes. It's really a complex issue. So I suggest she waits till mid 20s before she hops in.

i am not 19 sir.inasmuch as the majority of 19yr olds are immatured for marriage, we cant just write her off.

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Yes oh

Yes.if she is mentally matured enough.

The name of that animal is covid 19...

danduchi:
You all don't know what God has done for you all oo.
One time, many years ago, I traveled to calabar to go see this girl. She picked me from the parked and we got to her one bedroom apartment, nice and cozy. I baff, wear singlet and boxer, crossed leg on the table changing TV channels.
2 secs my girl received a call, followed by a knock on the door. It was very obvious he paid for the apartment from the look on his face. My girl just said 'I'm sorry Dan'.
I got dressed, this guy and my girl dropped me off at the park. I reached PH by almost 11pm.
So Me go calabar to just go baff, I can't still believe it.

hahahahahaahah

lovecares34:
what defamation. they know what they are doing. I have complained many times but just discovered that they are truly mischievous and scammers. many people who trade with them know it.

believe me, hotforex is better than many other brokers oh..
I know what i am saying.

They could sue you for defamation oh..

As bad as this write up looks.but there is a whole lot of truth in it.argue with your phone

Make me sef book space

baldman:
Dear Poster,

It is not quite clear why you posted this, but I will take it that you just wanted to rant, and perhaps scout for comments to justify your gross irresponsibilities. Luckily for you, your post will attract some hard truths from the good men and women in this community, and I am hoping you will look beyond the abuses and just learn as people objectively tell you the truths about yourself which you have failed to acknowledge. As I already hinted, you are a grossly irresponsible married man, and in all honesty, I doubt if you could be a good father in the real sense of the word. You come home late, you drink, you chastise your wife in the presence of your house girl and children, you do everything to pull her down, and you indeed tried to convince us that this very real woman is some retard that you did the favour of marriage. I want you to imagine the scenario in your home as you painted in your post, and transform it into a Nollywood movie, how will you judge your own character? You are definitely not the victim, your wife is the victim. She married a man that is self-absorbed, and needed a mumu wife. You loved the fact that she deferred to you and you had to provide leadership in all aspects, but that became a burden in marriage and you became irritable because of it. The truth is that when you marry a woman, you marry the whole package that she represents, and your responsibility is to build her up, first with your mouth, then with your action, patient guardians, and also by providing support. I am sure having the house maid has helped greatly to ameliorate some of her incompetences. Your responsibility is to help her, build her up, and for God sake, be faithful to her. Your woman is a rarity, you have been jobless, irresponsible, unfaithful, unaccountable and your judgments have been poor, honestly, you made some money and you just paid up your debt and start accruing afresh, what happened to using some or all of that money to start something? Most of your wife's behaviours are in reaction to your unfaithfulness and illicit affairs. It is your wife that we should be begging not to dissolve you, that woman will do well without you and the risk of STDS which you represent. You have been breaking her heart with all those chats that you think you are having for fun. Did you expect her to be falling in love with you, or be recovering from her alleged madness while you are doing those things? My words may be harsh but imagine your wife is your daughter and all you have said is coming from a son in law?
I agree with you that it is likely that the kind of life you are leading may be responsible for your ill-luck and I want to implore you to retrace your step, move closer to God, love your wife as christ loves the church as implored by the bible, and begin to live a decent life. You also need to change your friends immediately; they can get girls and hotels for you, they can buy beer for you, they can give you some occasional bail out, but they cannot help with money for you to start something constructive, they are no good friends. If you continue the way you are leading your life, that 'useless' woman will one day realize that she can live without you.

you deserve a kiss sir..

GraGra247:
That woman is a total senseless idiot. You have to make her see her error and if she refuses to change send her back to her father's house and get you a brand new girl very young and fresh blood.

op please ignore this child

Iamundisputed:
Keep spreading hate against older women. What you don't know is that they are the ones who truly appreciate marriage... They've seen it all and appreciate a man better.

i sincerely agree with you.
The older women understands what it takes to keep and satisfy a man.not this youngy that will be forming rubish.

Lol.

Acmepreneur:
Thanks, lol, its not possible.

walk away from the relationship Asap

When a man is truly serious with a woman.he sees the future, and makes plans for the future.but when he doesnt want to hear about the future, aunty you are on your own.and please, dont try to trap him with belle oh.

When we say life is spiritual.people will be playing around and calling us names.even if this story is a lie, stuffs like this are happening everyday.
Guy if this story is true, then you need serious prayers.

He came to my house when i was eating.instead of waiting for me to call him to join me, he ran and held my hand, stoped me from eating the food and finished it.

Very true, and every lady knows this.
But it is still not a yardstick to disrespect a woman.
No one should quote me oh, its just an opinion.

Chi59:
Why people still take the risk of proposing publicly beats me. Do you even know if that person loves you well enough or is even psychologically ready to marry you at that point in time?
Any man that attempts this with me is asking for trouble. I don't like drama.

yes ma.i deeply agree with.a man ought to be very sure that his woman is ready to marry him doibg a public proposal.
Personally, i think public proposal is just a show off.

So your definition of an interesting relationshio, is the one where they have sex regularly.so there is no other interesting thing to do besides having sex?

Sisijetue:
What you want to do is in your mind already... don’t ask us just do it

lol..you got it right sis.

Make i book soace

If not for corruption.bokoharam would have been a thing of the past.

Their father

I like where this thread is headed

Kia...
I once took this particular medicine, and i coudnt sleep afterwards because all my body began to itch...
The truth is, i'd rather take it again than die of covid-19.