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Toks2008:
Now i can see that you have a bitter soul and i will continue to pray for you.

To think what i wrote was just a joke but because you have a contrary mind set, you had to respond by using that F word which simply shows the type of background you come from.You must have a terrible upbringing to use such word. In all my years on nairaland i have never addressed anyone with that word and i hardly ever see such word used. You are indeed wasted and i pity that unfortunate man that will ever have you as his lady.

How on earth will i literally discipline you in a free world...not even in Nigeria but as i wrote,it only takes a lady with a calm and humble mind-set to catch the joke in that comment but as i wrote,i will continue to pray for you.

Mr Toks2008, please do you receive pms? I really need to ask you something important. It's also kinda urgent. If you can receive, let me know, if not, give me an alternative. Thanks.

Waiting...

cronsberg:
You this missjoy29 you are really tough to crack arent u? Ok let me try. First of all, you said you agree that the first thing we all notice on someone is the physical things, then if thats the case, what exactly is wrong in saying it to the other person? Isnt it suppose to be a compliment? Secondly u said the only thing on the guy mind was to have sex with her, then how exactly is that a bad thing? Must every toasting be for relationship purposes? Thirdly, i will really like to know why every girl seems to take offence when they notice a guy is attracted to them sexually or wants to have sex with them. Do u girls not feel sexy? So why will sexual attraction offend you females? Even if a guy approaches u the normal way, and u two get in a relationship, will u two not eventually have sex? And will u have sex without sexual attraction? If the guy is only interested in a fling which is totally normal, how do u think he should approach the girl if not the way he did? It must not always be relationship u know

I'm definitely hard to crack all right. Lol

Let's get to it... now I'm going use my self and standards to answer your questions cos I understand where you are headed to from your questions.

@your 1st question, I don't like to be sexualised by strangers. That's what I will feel if you compliment me "like that" at first sight. Again, I'm not used to that kind of remarks from the people I "attract". So it will definitely sound offensive to me.

@your 2nd question, to me, since I know I'm not a harlot or prostitute, I can't have sex with a random guy. I'm too much a demisexual for that.

@your 3rd question, oh I feel sexy alright. But that doesn't mean I will have sex with a random guy just to quench my urge. Again, will you honestly compare the sex with someone you love & connect emotionally with to the sex you have with random person? No way!
Also, must there be sex in relationships? Sex is overrated you know cos we have so cheapened it.

Finally, if he wanted a fling or just a one-time-sex, he should select someone from his existing friend list for a FWB arrangement or visit a prostitute.

PreciousBro:
Hmm I come online only to find the most Shockingly electrifying Wonder,a Follow(er) from my dearest Nwanyi oma seems to me the sore to mutual friendly feeling is starting to heal it self. That's what friendship is, at least for starters. My Joy couldn't help to shoot a fire ball at me subliminally indicating my values on friendship as inadequate. aww lol

Darling! Some of the bestest' friendship happen by a click like a switch it defies 'graduallity' or some duration period. At least that was it for me and from your countenance read by me, your responses concurred. Need I remind you sweetie that I'm a free man with full options of friendship patterns, spontaneity works. I don't just act a follower to just or a single rule of making or building friends/ship.

And at bolded again, you forgot "Making up''. As they rush in and out due to quarrelling or breaking up as you say, they also make up quickly. Proof my friendship with you isn't a quicky-fluke, you followed me even after verbally warning i shouldnt becsuse you won't. And I mentioned you after I implied I won't anymore

But truly, your values on friendship are inadequate.

@first bolded, so you got to friendship-ville before me. Will it be a crime if you wait for me? Like I said earlier, you shouldn't expect everyone to act & think as you do. That's why we are uniquely different with divergent views, opinions, experiences, etc to "spice up" the friendship.

@second bolded, I'm free too with everyone. But not everyone is my friend. Friendship is earned honey, contrary to what you posited in your earlier post. You work hard at building AND sustaining it. Except its fake or superficial which I don't do.

@third bolded, I didn't say I won't follow you or I can't. I only said you shouldn't mention me cos I won't reply. But, we have both broken that part of the "agreement". So........





















truce?

cronsberg:
before nko, what is suppose to attract him to the lady in the first place? Her personality? Her brain? Are u women even serious at all? One way or the other, every guy who toasted any girl was first attracted by her assz, or breastz, or waist as in this case, or long sexy legs etc not some superficial thing like personality and what not. Whatever the guy was attracted to on the lady, u will still call him a pervert as if it was a bad thing to be attracted to something on a woman. What do u even think guys mean when they say they are attracted to so and so girl? Do u think they mean her humour or intelligence? Stop thinking that men think the way women do cuz we are completly different in thought process

I get all what you are saying. We ALL, not just the guys are attracted by what we see physically about a person first before the other inner characters we talk about. There's no denying that. After all, there's no way I will know a good cook or a kind man or an intelligent on first sight. Well, the exception to this is if we are working together and the attraction grows not necessarily cos of what I see of the person physically but cos of those inner qualities the person possesses that I have noticed probably before realising he's also handsome.
Aside that, it's the physical first, I agree.

But I'd like to think that some things are done in excess. If he had noticed the things he noticed on her & kept it to himself, it's even better. But saying them out the way he said them, immediately and without being ashamed, proves to me that the first thing & probably ONLY thing he wants is to get down with her. Remember she was sitting in front of him, her waist beads were showing which means a part of her midback was showing. Also, not only her top was riding up but I'd also like to think that he also had a view of her buttcrack probably cos her trousers or skirt was riding down too. After seeing all these for the duration of the trip (&; probably imagining how how flesh will feel in bed when touched & everything), he came down and first thing he said to her was " I like what I saw". It's an easy & obvious give-away!

If I go to swim in a pool and I notice a particular guy with an usual big bulge in front of his trunks & I walk up to him and I jokingly say, " you are loaded. Are they real? Can I verify?" , it definitely means I want to be laid. And mind you, I must have been fantasising about how that thing will fit perfectly in me before I make that statement. And trust me, some will even be offended to tell you they know what you are after. Which was what I expected the OP to decode about the guy in the bus.

Take this, all those who I have added on my WhatsApp list & the first thing they ever said after seeing pics of me was "I love your boobs" end up being fixated ONLY (just a few, mainly) on sex! Nothing more!! Nothing less!!!

@bolded, is personality superficial? Really? How's that even possible? Which is more superficial: physical attributes or personality and inner character & beauty?

cana882:
Yea fats are solid at room temperature while oil is liquid at room temperature, so fatless oil actually exist.

They do?

What about the oil that congeals at room temperature?

ogbiwa:
Precious and Joy now now e don reach quarrel? Too easy. You guys hug and make up biko

Wow so packaged juice isn't 100% natural? Didn't know.
RoyalBlak007 you went on hiatus mate?

@bolded, don't mind us.

Yeah the quarrel was too easy. But I'm not surprised. Because, anyone who thinks building friendship is easy, then definitely, quarrelling or breaking up should be easy for the person too.

So, it's alright.

AreaFada2:
My dear since the dude saw waist beads and her portable waist, all he wanted was edible catering and browsing her web.

Inviting her to a bar was just the first phase to get her to agree. Later he noticed that the girl was very enthusiastic to see him in their conversations (calling him baby for example). He felt he had already got the girl and she'd probably come to his house. He had probably succeeded in getting other girls he'd rated classier/seemingly harder to get that way in the past. Remember OP described him in a positive way.

But he got too cocky and showed his hand too soon. Had he taken OP to a bar near his house, behaved impeccably and hyped himself some more and later that day invited her to his house, she probably would have gone with him and "we for nor hear fiam from OP".

You are so damn right!

The guy definitely needs to know that not every lady behaves the same way. What worked for A may not work for B.

I especially like the part you said @he got too cocky and showed his hand too soon. That was his undoing.

In all, considering what attracted him in the first place to the lady, I still believe the guy behaved like a sex-starved pervert.

princechurchill:
At night boys in hostel A na ghost

Lol...

princechurchill:
Eat finish and then run away

Wow!!!!!! what if they recognise you after that?

princechurchill:
Proudly ikenga i use to do arise and shine those days at sino restaurant

Please what is "arise & shine?

PS: I represent Adanma Okpara.

RoyalBlak007:
They are just writing to sell

Exactly!

PreciousBro:
How do you make friends? What or who are friends to you. I did consider you a friend, we don't have to acquaint it with some physical presence. You don't chat with strangers with so much gusto or enthusiasm. If I sensed your awkwardness lodged by my flirtatiousness then I was right. I have a great sense of perception so I can tell you haven't been truly friendly or spontaneous in our chats seeing you think of me as a stranger yet didn't have the utmost courage to relate it to me even in the most joking or friendly way possible. My dear, it speaks little of your Freewill.

As a lady that you are,I understand the undecidedness of it. But I've always liked bold ladies. Maybe we are truly strangers after all lol.
I actually related my friendly intentions with you the first time we chatted and I followed you as my first follow yet I had to sound it again that I'm your friend? Ok my nature might be such that I flirt on a low key anonymously ,so? I flirt whoever I want to but that's just what it is. Or should I have sounded I want you to be my "Nwa baby" before you know my likesness for you is beyond social media? I'm a strange being so not the average Nigerian. It's very hard to find my ilk, I at least thought we had similarities perhaps not. So sorry I follow you,sorry I chat with you, sorry I flirt with you. Sorry I'm even mentioning you.

If only you know the type of person I am, you won't be this critical....
I'm also very different from your average Nigerian girl & their mentality...just like you said.

Who mentioned physical presence? 'Cause I sure didn't. I have great friends here I haven't seen before. Not just physically only but even in pictures. We dont even know what we look like. But we have this amazing friendship & connection that is mind boggling. And I'm talking about close-to-a- year-friendship.

Do you think we got there immediately we started talking? Or is the word "gradual" not in your dictionary?

Precious, I think you were too hasty in your assertion & perception of me. And I'm not going to attempt to change that cos it's of no use to someone who has already mapped me out in his head. We are different people so you can't expect me to reason like you do especially when we don't know ourselves that much. And not only that; you shouldn't use your own views & behaviours to judge or criticise me & even insult me subtly.

So thank you for everything too.
@bolded, please stop following & chatting me up here. Stop mentioning me too cos I won't reply. Take care.

RoyalBlak007:
Caffeine-free coffee still contains caffeine.

There are many advantages and disadvantages when it comes to coffee. If your doctor recommends you to expel all substances that stimulate the nervous system, you have to remember that each caffeine-free coffee pack contains from 0.01 to 3% caffeine.

I believe this. I don't mind all these things they write on food packets or containers. They can really be misleading. One day, we will see "sugarless sugar", "fatless oil" etc. Lol.

PreciousBro:
I have every reason to be. It's baffling when you think your self a friend to someone and the person thinks otherwise especially when you and this person has had convos encapsulating durations of 2-4 months......

I'm sorry I upset you. It wasn't intentional. I just didn't think we are friends & that's the truth. After all, we just started chatting well recently (if I'm wrong, correct me).

2-4 months? Really?

PreciousBro:
It is what it is. Just flirts. However it carries cordial intentions seeing my likesness surpasses my absolute awareness of you.

Hmmmmm....nice.

PreciousBro:
@anyone hiding behind my moniker. Kindly explain that ?
If PreciousBro relates with you then it's Preciousbro not someone else.

Anyone like a troll.

@bolded....I hear you.

PreciousBro:
Lol you even had to embolden the stranger. Like I'm supposed to get the memo that I'm still just a stranger. OK. If that's what or how you still see me. I'll resort to being one.

You upset.

PreciousBro:
I thought I'd have passed the stranger status. Sometimes friends don't even know each other's last names.

You are right. I had one like that for close to 2 years. How we got to the level of friendship we got to without my knowing basic things about him still beats me cos it's so unlike me.

Anyway, I'd like to think we are a bit more than strangers. But you know na, anyone could be hiding behind your moniker. Don't you think so?

PreciousBro:
Sad. I always thought my flirting might have some undertone of rudeness to you albeit you always make it seem like you like it hence sluggishly flow along but i sense it a lot. You ain't used to being flirted with huh darling?

I'm not used to being flirted with like that by a stranger.

PreciousBro:
@ MissJoy29
What's the P Lovely one. You're taking my Joy away ignoring me is it because I mentioned "bedroom" ? You know,I've always laid a mutuality friendly ground establishment between us and hoped you'd be open to me. At least be free to speak your mind. Does my flirtatiousness deliver uneasiness to you? Plesae tell me.

I'm sorry dear I didn't see your other mention. I'm not ignoring you.

And yes, @bolded, I feel uneasy about it sometimes. Especially when it leaves nothing to the imagination.

Good morning. Did you sleep well?

PreciousBro:
We'll be grinding pepper and onion. Or isn't that what they do in the bedroom?

Do you know I didn't see this until now?

generationz:
are you saying a man shouldn't take care of his wife because he is afraid she will cheat on him or leave him? shhh

the first responsibility of a man is to take care of his family whether his wife is working or not .
While the first responsibility of a woman is to take care of her home whether she is working or not

how the both of them then choose to go about it is theirs business. Everyone of them knows their limit and the nonsense they can take

As for me I would never let a man open a business for me only to push all the family responsibility on my head ... so what is he then contributing...

what happens if the business crashes tommorow? will he take up the family responsibility again?

A woman already goes through a lot with child birth ,home care, taking care of the kids and a 9-5 job or full time business . this your suggestion is the number cause of stress on women then when the woman is looking worn out he will start looking for side chick.


I will have you know sir, that poverty is much more likely to lead a woman to cheat on her husband than abundance. come to slums and see married women who hawk their wears branching into another mans house for a quicky to feed her kids.

Well done ma!
You have said it all. Nothing more to add.

PreciousBro:
lol see question o. Can't I enter the kitchen again. Is it only in the bed room me and you will play lmao

Did I hear you say "bedroom"?
What are we going to be doing there?

PreciousBro:
Which food will you make for me now ?

What are you doing here?

Thanks for the info, epecially about the nuts. I have learnt.

delugajackson:
She sure is an unrepentant, thirsty little b.itch with no single iota of shame.

I always tell guys that "NOBODY can take your WOMAN, they can only take your HOE."

So deep, true & spot on @bolded!

That's why most times I don't blame the person that was left or was cheated on. I blame the one that left or cheated. They are almost always at fault!

ImaIma1:
The guys on this forum expect that ones you are married, you severe every friendships with guys and talk to only ladies

It's not that easy.

Besides, ladies can still mislead a married woman. The most important thing is to know the kind of friends you one keeps.

koropon:
lol...how are you...longest time

I'm fine thank you. You?
Using an alternate account?

koropon:
sighted you somewhere else just now

Stalker....

Tallesty1:
Women...... They cannot marry a guy that is living with his mother but they can date a man that is living with his wife. SMH.







I don't understand what that 3K is for sha, nah for subscription?

Deep @bolded...

flames01:
It isn't about having male friends; it's about getting too close to them

Thank you. There should be boundaries.

Druss:
No to platonic male or female friends post marriage. One thing will lead to another. One can still have friends but it is much complicated post-marriage than pre-marriage

So so true. Spot on!