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lefulefu:
aghhh! ..u took quite a risk oo. U know u women are quite vulnerable when u have issues with ur second half and when a guy sees that chance and strikes..u might just fall. He must be a guy who highly respects himself. On the issue of having a very close friend when u married ..yes it can be a distraction. Imagine u with ur husband in the sitting room and he's gisting with u but u paying more attention chatting with ur male friend on whatsap.sometimes such can affect the husband in a negative way. Same with a husband having a very close female friend that he spends more close time with...such marriage is hanging over the cliffhanger.Anyway to each's its own sha.

Sexonmomma:
That idiot has no maturity whatsoever, as a matter of fact, he's a pained man who doesn't even know what his problem is. But if i meet him in reality I will beat poverty out of his body, and put sense into his empty skull. Dude talks thrash and think he can get away with it. Not in reality, and definitely not on nairaland

Kentnickole:
remind me please. so many things are going on on my mind I'm sorry

Kentnickole:
she's just assisting her mom to sell clothes and snacks

Kentnickole:
she's 19

natureem:
Most people's mind is so dirty and they tend to judge everyone else with it.
I met my best friend when I was 5, back in the early'90s and we're still friends. She's married now, I am too.
Her husband met her a complete woman, funny enough, her parents came to thank me for that cos they felt surprised based on how close we are.
Because you can't be platonic with the opposite sex doesn't mean someone else can't.

Rebuke:
Story.

goodnewscliff:
do this everytime and he will have u dicckedd!!!!!!!! A woman is a woman... A smart dude knows when to ti take over..... Women re prey and are vulnerable some times..... I pity women sometimes but they re � evil

lefulefu:
This is more like putting a goat in the same room with a fat juicy tuber of yam. Temptation is bound to happen. Now imagine a scenario wey d wife and husband get a little misunderstanding. The wife cry go the house of her close male friend. The male friend go hug her close dey pet her.small current come spark dem im com peck her of wich im come lead to deep kissing then serious nacking. Hope u can now see d scenario. Nobody is sayin u cant have a male but make him more of an arquitance than a close friend. Its better to avoid temptation.make ur husband ur close and best friend.

Nnaabros:
Oh, I read everything carefully word for word, and I understood it very well. Most of you girls just don't get it. Only a guy like me will tell you the truth about guys. Maybe then you'll understand and stop all this whining you girls do all the time.

Once a guy has had you, I mean your body and all, he no longer works hard at you anymore, unlike when he first met you and the way he struggles to make a good impression, to be the kind of guy that you'll love, to make you fall for him. There's no longer anything new or interesting about you anymore.

That's when his true character will start showing up, the lies you complained about, the double life and all. Because he's gone out to look for new adventure somewhere else and he no longer sees you as someone worth making sacrifices for.

You girls keep dating one guy after another and having sexx with all of them without any commitment. And then when they start showing you their true colors after having their fill, you decide to break up with him due to the emotional stress, and come out sounding like wise heroes.

PreciousBro:
I've moved on. That was just a clerical explanation in response to your "being taken for granted"...

See link below, specially for you.

http://o2tvseries.com/Breaking-Bad-8/index.html

PreciousBro:
I meant I am all open for the best suited person that appreciates one not that I already have a "Next one" that I'm on to lol.

Being taken for granted is a spoiled behaviour from two classes of people.
People who aren't used to certain virtues as kindness,niceness or love. Or people who are, such that they expect niceness from you even if they unreciprocate yours. The first or former scenario are people who don't value or appreciate such traits because it's strange to them so they can't value you due to their immaturity only for them to find you or someone like you when maturity hits them and they come to terms with reality. They start to go all out in search of their own vomit.

Imagine having someone you share the best chemistry with hence compatibility is assured yet they fumble due to a bad self esteem or insecurity.

Breaking Bad has 5 seasons. Get it and watch it.

XhosaNostra:
I love the last paragraph. Best wishes for the future. And please invite me to the wedding

Nnaabros:
You two should keep crying about your heart breaks and woes to each other. There's no perfect guy anywhere. It takes understanding, effort, sacrifice, and communication from both party to make any relationship work. Until you learn that, any relationship you enter will keep ending same way

And reduce the rate and speed with which you jump to bed with a guy. It makes him lose respect for you and be more willing to let you go if you want. Because he feels he has already had his fill of you. A man who really wants you in his life will be ready to work for it and make sacrifices to be with you. But when sexx has become a regular feature, what else is there for him to expect from you? He has seen and gotten everything already, and is willing to leave what's left of you for another guy to continue

XhosaNostra:
I'm done. Finish. Maybe that was the lesson I was supposed to learn after all, to stop obsessing about men I'm a relationship addict at heart. I've had crushes on boys since pre-school & my 1st "heartbreak" happened around that time too, so I'm good lol. Whether love happens or not, I will do just fine. They say each of us have both male & female energies within. Maybe I'm at the point were mine are aligned because I'm indifferent to love. I'm content in just being. My focus right now is to make sure I have a comfortable future, even if it's with a litter of kittens
But my current state of being at peace with the world concerns me a little bit. I felt like this in the year leading to meeting Mr Wrong. I can't help but to worry that something earth shattering is just around the corner. I hope it's not unpleasant because I can't take another love TKO.

So what are your plans going forward as far as life is concerned?

XhosaNostra:
The bolded hits closer to home. Mind blowing. Maybe that is the purpose of these relationships. It was never about fairytales, but to make "us" fix some of our detrimental behaviors. To learn how to put ourselves 1st or to love without expectations/clinginess. Because as soon as you get off the rollercoaster, you look inwards & start to put in place the necessary boundaries. Very soul cleansing as awful as the experience is.

I can relate to everything you wrote. I'm sure the right person is out there. After such an ordeal, one deserves a heavenly hug lol. But I guess God works on his own timetable. When the time is right, all the puzzle pieces will fall into place & perhaps there will finally be clarity as to why things went the way they did. I swear, the experience makes you philosophical & shìt lol. You start seeking & craving for deeper, meaningful interactions. I've since cut off many people from my life. No more wasting precious time on dead-end relationships with self-serving people.

XhosaNostra:
OK, I get it. Well, if staying friends works, then I commend you. I wouldn't be able to do it in fear of relapsing.

Yeah, it's the most terrible experience everrrr. It's interesting that you saw it coming, I didn't. The only thing I felt when I 1st saw him was that there was more to him than what he was letting on. I felt he was hiding secrets & I was right. I asked the relevant questions & later on he admitted that my line of questioning scared him at the time because it felt like I "was looking through his soul". So when the skeletons started tumbling out of the closet & it was time for him to face the music, his only answer was he lied to me on the 1st day because he didn't wanna lose me. It didn't make sense to me because he barely knew me. But alas, I forgave some of those things eventually & we started a new chapter. Very out of character for me. My mistake was to forgive because after that, my storybook romance turned into a living nightmare. Breaking up & making up became a theme of our relationship that even my closest friends couldn't keep up. To top it off, they all hated him lol. They thought I didn't deserve the shìt from someone who was, according to them, "beneath me". It went on longer than it should have, TBH. We were prisoners of the relationship because there were times where we agreed to let each other go, but we did it the wrong way. We'd have sex to say goodbye But still, I don't think sex was the thing that kept us coming back for more bruises. It was the magic, for the lack of better words. It just felt meant to be. Even holding hands felt right. Our hands fitted perfectly It sounds so laughable now, but it was that mesmerizing. He even had a glow around him like a saint! I honestly don't know what kind of powers that were at play when we were together, but they sure knew how to set the mood right. It was like what I imagine manic must feel like. I'd laugh & the laughter felt like it didn't come from me because I was high on being around him. Wow. Never again!

May you guys find your happily ever after. I hope your friend is not as damaged as mine is. "My friend" was very uncomfortable with expressing himself. He was dead scared of emotional situations. He was the type that chose to avoid issues by running/hiding, while I on the other hand, I am a very confrontational person. I thrive in emotional honesty & facing things head on. So it was frustrating dealing with that. Oil & water, really. Doomed to fail from day one.

PreciousBro:
Unlike my old self when I had all the raging hormones courtesy my inexperience and naivety due to youngness,I had the patience for stup!d girls. Not anymore. It's her loss. I'm over it and over her. On to the next.

The question should have been, If you can match me? lol GOT is one of the top five all time best series and you only set eyes on it the last quarter of last year to the first of this year?

Lemme recommend the second best series, formerly the best of all time. Watch "Breaking Bad" and thank me later. Although it's done. There are no sequels anymore and yes the first 1-7 episodes or in fact,probably the first two seasons might be tedious to you and tire you out but sit back and wear your cloak of patience,you'll love it.

By the way, what is your favourite(s) genre of movie?

XhosaNostra:
WOW. Everything you said mirrored my experience to a T.

There was a time where I also begged God to take away my feelings for the person & the taunts that came with it. I used to see his name everywhere & his name is not that popular in my part of the world. But I still saw it everywhere. It was like something out there wanted me to suffer lol. I'd cry because I was so tired of being tormented by memories of someone I so desperately wanted to forget. I also felt him. I knew when he was thinking about me etc. Even now, I know he's still looking for me. I know that he looks for me in the people he dates But what use is it if the relationship feels like it's doomed not to work? It's pointless. You just have to let go & focus on yourself. Personally, I don't ever want to experience something like that again. It makes you feel like you're crazy. And the sadness is unbearable. I never thought I'd ever recover from it, but here I am today able to compare notes with other people, without being overwhelmed by grief. Years ago I would have cried just reminiscing about it. It's been a long journey.

Yesterday, for the 1st time in my life, I actually looked him up on Facebook & I found him. I felt an interesting range of emotions because I haven't seen him in a long time, plus he looks older now. Anyway, I left it at that. I don't want to be his friend or have him in my life in any way, shape or form because I feel I'd be putting the progress that I have made in jeopardy. It'd undo my healing & I can't go through another round of that lol.

I'm curious though, why are you still friends with your ex? Isn't it holding you back ?

XhosaNostra:
LMAO @ removing the battery.

Yes, I still have a soft spot for him but I would never get back with him again. The whole thing was tiring, plus he was living a double life. I haven't seen or spoken to him in YEARS. Don't wanna be caught in that spider's web again. Saw him in passing about 4 years ago & hid so he wouldn't see me. Yeesh.

PreciousBro:
Yea Darling. I knew I could get a companion in you. You are officially my go-to-pillow. You command solace effortlessly. I'm swept by you nurturing being.

She's obviously a wrong person,or should I say she's just passing through the many stages of immaturity before she hits the ceiling of maturity. Maybe then she'd appreciate me. Just a lil bit.

I await Game of Thrones,Viking.

PreciousBro:
Suits 8, episodes 1-4 are out. Get on board already.

You should see Power, you'll believe a Ghost can eat food without a transparent Tommy unlike Casper the friendly one, James St. Patrick isnt friendly.

Good advise. Nothing I wouldn't handle,I guess I liked her more than I over-rated her. She prefers the orgasm she gets from the euphoric feeling of being desired and turning me down than the obvious one under a sheet. #She'sAvainQueen

XhosaNostra:
Wow. So relatable. Do you get the feeling that the relationship itself has a life of its own? I don't know how else to put it. But its very compulsive. Like you have no control. When I was with the guy we fought often because being together was suffocating & yet we couldn't be apart. During the thousands of times we broke up, each time felt excruciatingly painful. We couldn't be together but we couldn't be apart, if that makes sense. It was like being on a leash or having a magnet. I hated & loved every moment of it. I never wanna experience something like that again. It's madness.

gentlegenius:
Yea...
I might not be too serious with virginity status, but I am very serious with age and academic status. I have strong personal reasons for making this choice.

gentlegenius:
I disagree with you on Age, virginity and education status.
On age, I can't marry a lady older than 21...
On virginity, if all men don't care, I seriously care...
On education, I can't marry a lady that graduated from any higher institution.
Though I am a graduate, but O level is OK for me... Don't ask me why, but those are my choice.

PreciousBro:
Designated Survivor? Lol I discontinued it at Season's 2, not that I don't like it but there are too many of em I prioritize over DS right now.

Oh Love, I'm definitely a Tvseries Fan. I'm currently on Power,Suits etc.

My heart is a Love. Very precious,but this girl wants to turn it to a diamond carved spade simply because I love easy. Oh well, tough love.

Ishilove:
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Eketem:
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Fukafuka:
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