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Mintayo: 15 ways to know if you're ready for Marriage:

(1). If you believe that you must always have the last say in an argument,you are not ready for marriage.

Mintayo: (2). If you don't like anyone invading your space,you are not ready.

Mintayo: (3). If you're a lady,and you don't cook or don't like to,your marriage is not likely to be easy or funny.

Mintayo: (4). If you always say things exactly how they come to your mind not caring who is hurt,your marriage is likely to crash.

You have never met my mother.. OR my wife. These two women dont know how to mince words..

If it looks like shiit, smells like shiit then best believe that they will tell you that it is 'SHIIT' and theywouldnt even try to rebrand it and call it 'feaces'.

Mintayo: (5). If you believe you are who you are and no one can change that,you're not ready.

Mintayo: (6). If you think about others when you've fully sorted yourself out,you're not ready.

Hahahaaa... Well. How can you solve other peoples problems when you havent solved yours.

Mintayo: (7). If you are so good about holding a grudge and you will only let go when you feel like,stay unmarried.

Mintayo: (8.). If you're a man and you are not engaged in ventures or a process in time that can financially take care of your immediate family and beyond,you need to give yourself a few more years to be ready.

Mintayo: (9). If as a man,you're easily swayed and pressurized to do things against your wish,you are not ready for marriage.

[b]If your spouse cant make you do things against your wish, then you people shouldnt be married.. I'm serious..

Thats why its very important that you find the right person for you because if that marriage is based on true love and affection, your spouses would most times have the power to sway your solid decision. I remember how I got to school abroad. My father had said NO!! My mother just told me to leave the matter up to her.. Today, all my siblings are abroad schooling (the last ones are still in secondary school sef) ...

Thats the power of a partner..

Mintayo: (10). If you believe that women at best should be good in bed and kitchen affairs only,you will end up having a bitter and subdued wife;stay away.

Mintayo: (11). If your mind can't conceive the thought of having a more successful wife,even if it is temporary,then you have little growing up to do.

Mintayo: (12). If you have no confidence in your capability and your future,you have no business taking someone else with you.

Mintayo: (13). If as a man,you don't have a mentor or leader you follow,listen or defer to,you're not going to be able to lead your family.

Mintayo: (14). If you can't have wedding ceremony within a budget you can personally afford,give yourself more time. Who says you can't have 20 guests or less at your wedding? Cut your coat according to your cloth and take responsibility. As a man, you can define how small or large you want your wedding ceremony to be and be able to handle it.

Mintayo: (15). If you have anger problem such that you can destroy things when you are angry, get a therapist to help you in managing it. Otherwise engage God's help for the change you seek. With anger issues,you're a disaster waiting to explode.
Marriage is an investment, what you put into it is what comes out of it!

Abokis Last Advice:: What I have always told people is that no two marriages are the same..

I once told my mother to her face that if I were married to her, I would beat her almost everyday. Guess what, my father has never once hit her ever before. I guess this has to do with their personalities. My father is the cool, quiet, calm type.. My mum is the hot tempered, quick anger, yell and shout type.. So the more she yells, the calmer my dad is.

My wife is a little like my mum.. She gets angry, picks up vases and smashes them, cries, yells and has even once grabbed my shirt.. Funny! I have never hit her before. I simply get angry, hold a grudge that can last for weeks|months.. Until she comes and apologises or we just simply move on.

I personally feel the most important thing in Marriage is finding the right partner.. The right partner being someone you can live and spend the rest of your life with. Someone who you can live with through thick and thin. Someone who if they slip tomorrow and fall on the floor, disfiguring their face, you can still look at them in their scarred face and smile. Someone who makes you better than you are. Basically, the person that appeals to you.. Your perfect match may not be another persons perfect match. The perfect partner sef doesnt have to be a good cook, or a Havard school graduate, or the most romantic, or God-fearing and whatever else you read in all these marriage books and DVDs.. There is no such thing as the perfect time to be married.. You can never be fully prepared for marriage. There is no perfect manual for marriage. Some marriages if put on T.V will look as fvcked up as shiit, but between the couple, they are in heaven, and thats what matters.

P.S:: I am not even 30years old sef and I'm married.. Till tomorrow, I still cant believe I got married at the stage in life where my mates are still balling. I have never been able to answer myself as to why I married so early in life as a guy!

Nuff said from Mr. Aboki aka Mr. Romantic Aboki.. ...

lertee: It is fashion and it will be rock by boys definitely not men

I wonder how they are able to fit their package into those trousers..


Even with baggy jeans sef, I still have issues zipping up..

youngalex: my close friend with a secured job(earning #1.1m per annum),just started working last year is currently contemplating getting married but his family is kicking against it especially the mum who feels there are many family responsibilities(siblings in Uni,renovating the house in the village,opening a shop for mum etc) that needs to be taken care of ,he needs my advice so am throwing the issue to the house if u were in his shoes what will u do?

Haaaahahahaa..

I just cant stop laughing long enough to type a sensible response..

Khodry: D least experience i saw dier was 7yrs, please is there no entry level position? because even some of dis positions a well granded entry level applicant will perform well?

Like seriously!!!

I hope you do not consider yourself to be one of the 'well GRANDED entry level applicants you were talking about.

pato station: This my guy, I will call JJ was an Okada Rider in Lagos until recently when the Fashola Administration banned (or should I say restricted) the Okada business in most parts of the state. Mr. JJ who has many mouths to feed made a smart move (at least so he thought) by obtaining a loan from a Micro Finance Bank to buy a brand new Keke Marwa. With that, he felt that his future and the future of his transport business is guaranteed. But he was mistaken. Weeks after purchasing the Keke, the government again wielded the big stick by once again "restricting" the Keke use in the state. JJ was confused and did not know what to do.

Before long, he got a helping hand from well-wishers in his church to buy a Tokumbo Toyota Camry car for use as "kabu-kabu" He registered the car and got a new plate number and started business. Within one week, members of the Lagos state "Task Force" got him arrested for picking passengers along the road, in an unauthorized bus-stop. They slammed a penalty of N100,000 on him and when he could not pay up, they quickly arranged a Mobile Court and convicted him. before you could say Jack Robinson, they have shipped him to Badagry for imprisonment. All this happened on Friday, 6th of September, 2013.

Dear Nairalanders, what help is open to this guy before he rots in jail.

acidosis™:
ooh... a simple looking lady..

Despite the wealth, she still respect the dress code associated with her religion
I love this..

A moral lesson for me and for ALL...


This is exactly what my so called Nigerian 'Christians' call "Deeper Life Pauper"

I pity the mentality of the middle class, average and the struggling Nigerian..

Some will even acquire a tokubo camry and then tell you, "there is no God" kai africa..!

I need to ponder on this....

Whats the correlation between God and Camry?!

deols: what does that mean?

gbosaa: Rubbish...Ihejirika isnt thinking..

defence industries corp...Kaduna

Nig. defence academy.....kaduna

Command n staff college..jaji

Aviation sch...............Zaria


...5 star hotel for military men to infect coal city babes with 5 star herpes,syphilis and hiv..Enugu.

Otolo gbagbukwaa ndi army there.

Hahahahahahahaaaaaaa Ochi ato gbue la'm o!!


Okwu gi ku oto ka amu keni ekeni..







Post so funny, Aboki had to speak Igbo..

Ibi da kwa ndi Army ..

Paschal007: ok no pictures. but I would love ask the sheikhs if the 72 virgins story is true.

someone pass that question along when next they appear. And don't forget to record it.

Salam

deols: alaikal Islam

I was talking of posts above yours.

dsaynt: OLYMPUS HAS FALLEN wins hands down. WHD was a bit too comical to be serious..all that driving around in the white house grounds etc. Jamie Foxx didn't potray the president well. On the other hand Olympus has fallen was action packed! The attack on the white house and the motive was more realistic than WHD. The way they infiltrated the white house in WHD was too simplistic. The only grouse I have with Olympus Has Fallen is the fact that the S.Korean president was allowed into the bunker. Real life....that would never have happened...maybe only him but not his details...nevers!

deols: and of course, you did not see the part where Muslims condemned it to be non Islamic?


It is not a Muslim holy ghost. It is the devil at work.

Skii: Mehn, I just had to chime in on this one

In my opinion, olympus has fallen only just slightly edges white house down.

One of my favourite parts in OHF was when it appeared like they were gonna shoot that lady secretary of state in the back when they ordered her to walk, before Gerald Butler popped out and took their attention.

In WHD, the girl waving the flag, though emotional (whipping up most of y'all sentimemts), highly unrealistic! Plus Obama would never say "get ur hands of my Jordans"!

But all the same, both movies were great though

ajasa4link: nonsense!!!....the universities in ur country are grounded for months now and u still find time to travel some underdeveloped country...mtchewww.. and to think he is a PhD holder..

Uyi Iredia: Apparently, something that vexes you.



As far as I know, the law allows for 18 year old to marry without parental consent, albeit parental consent is advised even by the law, that's what should be upheld.



I see. So who's more mature between a Dangote and Yerima. In all respects. Or between an Aregbesola and an Akala. Or between a Jordin Sparks and Miley Cyrus. You judge. They are within the same age group I suppose.



That girls below 18 could (not should) marry.



Did you miss the part I mentioned mental and physical maturity of which sexual maturity is a subset.



You are quite right.