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clueless woman who should have kept quiet, instead of talking nonsense!

rapist are sick in their HEAD not body, and removing their dikc wont stop them having these evil impulses and/or raping these kids with fingers/dild0

Theresa would be my mum and i would be her DAUGHTER (since son isnt an option)

Purpletee:
Ladies is it right to send your nude pictures to your boyfriend?

there is nothing wrong in the act so long as you cant be identified.

justmenoni:
Bros leave the long epistle what's the point in raising a family when you're not married to the other person? It's like living in a house without contract, working without contract or living illegally in a civilized environment.. Please stop preaching what's not right....

as we all know its sunday, pls keep your gibberish to your place of worship, and next time use COMMON SENSE when trying to make a valid point in this discussion. get your facts right, just because you religious beliefs turned you into a brainwashed sheep, doesnt makes us equal.

Yeah not everyone will get married but if you have the means to do so why not? Not getting married means both parties are not committed to the union and cheating as well as other attrocities (abortion, free movement, freewill et.al) is openly allowed..

bwaaaah. you are indeed lacking basic knowledge, so pls let me educate you (once and for all):
- dont assume the whole world gives a DAMN about your religious beliefs
- many desire NOT to get married, as a "choice", just accept that and be merry with YOUR brainwashed sheep life.
- if you believe that the only valid commitment to a union is marriage then you are truly clueless on this issue.
- not being married and cheating are 2 different things. married people are gladly cheating all over the world. pls turn on your brain instead of writing rubbish online!
- as we arent brainwashed sheep, there is nothing wrong with abortion/free movement or free will... so long as it aint against the law.

Davido, Adenuga's son and alot of others(maybe you're one) are having these issues with the baby mama's cos there ain't a legal contract..

its called COMMON SENSE... if a couple didnt require a marriage "contract" to willingly have unprotected sex, then i am safe to say that they dont require one when the lady gets pregnant and/or have issues about that said child.

Bro what you believe is your opinion and what I believe is my opinion and I still stand by it if it's not marriage then it ain't marriage..I don't and won't ever support child out of wedlock, ur kind of family arrangement etc.. If anyone have the will and power let them go for marriage and they should be married in the legal context and not all these family introductions or other illegal arrangements

thanks, so go on your merry way and live your life, and next time you hear about unmarried parent's issues then MIND YOUR OWN RIGHTEOUS LIFE, instead of trying to enforce your narrow minded views on a thread about people who obviously didnt give a damn about your views when they had unprotected sex, nor when the lady got pregnant, and certainly not now when they are having issues.

9t9jacobs:
Are you now encouraging fornication & adultery. If you are not married and with a child..what do you call the baby?? BASTARD ofcourse! Biko you MUST marry to startup a family. I wonder your own definition of a family, man and baby mama?? Pls get behind us!

again, stop writing rubbish online. was King solomon a fornicator/adulterer with his own baby mamas?! you have the right to believe that the definition of family is whatever you wish, thats your life. MY definition of "family" is in my previous post, i am not gonna repeat myself.
actually, parents with child is a GREAT family unit.

Simplymeah:
This line of thought is the major problem of the '21st century generation'. What happened to setting up a home to foster a good family? So many things have gone wrong...

so, you now need to be married to set up a home and foster for your partner and child?! BWAAAAAAH!

brothas and sistas, sorry for my late reply...

justmenoni:
Oh yeah well just to advise u just incase you're single..don't stay in such an agreed relationship.. If it's not marriage then it's not marriage

yeah it is NOT marriage, because marriage is one thing and a family is another... pls dont confuse the two and believe that a man and a woman NEED to be married to have a family.

duality:
Screeches.. .... What is 21st century in what you just said.that the institution of marriage is being bastardized?.that the family structure is being wonglly redefined? That we no longer want to live right and do the right thing at all times? that humanity is being degraded and souls and conscience suppressed to satisfy evil or the Godlessness that we want entrenched in every areas of human life?
please bros, don't support what is wrong no matter how popular.

bro, the 21st century is the fact that we dont live any longer by rules made back in the days, and instead we go by rules adapted to the era we live in. how is the institution of marriage being bastardized when there is no marriage here?! abeg make some sense pls! the standards of the family structure are different from a person to another. if your holy book teaches you that you must be married in order to call yourself a family then fair enough, but dont assume that we all go by these rules. these are YOUR rules, dont try to impose them on the rest of the world.

what has this got to do with living/doing right or wrong? absolutely nothing... educate yourself on the holy book you swear by in order to understand that many GREAT men of the bible had concubines and ample "families" with women they were NOT married to. if it was ok back then (and wasnt viewed as sin/degrading/evil by God), then i see no reason why any of you should make a big deal out of it today.... think of me as another King Solomon, lol.

Souljeezy:
nigga wtf!!! Wakeup... Cos two people train a kid bore out of wedlock doesnt make em a family.

educate me smart brotha... if an unmarried couple have a kid and raise that child together in a wonderful household filled with love, care and affection... wouldnt they A) be a family and B) be exactly the same as a married couple (apart from that piece of paper)?

Henon:
21st century, define family?

a man and a woman living together as ONE (whether married or not)

blexy3:
so u really think this baby mama stuff is a form of civilization & a welcome idea....... Better have a re-think.

there are many unmarried couples having a family living happily ever after, just like there is a great deal of married couples who divorce. the fact that you believe that it can only be "your" way or the highway, is the reason why so many deluded people are failing miserably at this marriage of a thing. it takes a HELL more than just a piece of paper to call anyone a family. if a couple have a shared commitment to their relationship/household, living together in harmony, loving and caring for one another, then dont get it twisted, this IS a family.

Quakertellicus1:
You see....the thing about marriage is that it is a contract., signed by witnesses, in which the man (sorry, we live in a patriachial socieity)....promises to take care of the woman and her children. So that years later...when things go south.....the man won't turn around and say that '''This woman is not my wife, these children are not my children''(And forget DNA....).
You are saying we do not need marriage for family.We do....not because of prudery, but because human beings are very very untrustworthy.So long as there is no signed contract...people can lose their rights. And children would be affected in the crossfire.

So...until humanity's end there is always going to be marriage...so that rights are protected.

and if i draw such contract in front of a lawyer then that contract wont be valid because...? if "you" believe that such contract MUST be a marriage contract then fair enough... in my world, a will, non marital agreement or simply a mutual agreement that benefit each of them rightfully, will do. if you believe that a marriage contract is more valid than the above i mentioned then i suggest you visit a lawyer asap and educate yourself on the issue.

dapsonlou:
You must be a baby daddy or a baby mama. Yes you are supposed to be married before having kids. 21st century have nothing to do with you not being responsible.

responsibility has ABSOLUTELY nothing to with being married, as there are many irresponsible clueless donkeys getting married everyday, and foolishly divorcing thereafter (or stay married in a miserable union). if you need the definition of "being responsible" then i can give it to you, but i am 110% certain that being married aint part of that definition.

SirAweezy:
So co-habiting is the norm of 21 century? God-forbid! My generations will never be a party to it.. there is no sense of belonging in co-habiting.

I had a fair share of what is called proper family while growing up and even all my extended families does too. We were grounded with marriage and family values .... I am not saying we are perfect... but please baby mama, baby daddy is not the best and still can't be the best.

However I definitely know not everyone will get married... but if you want to have a baby please do it well... do it with the values that comes with it.

co-habiting is a VALID option in the 21st century, yes! you have all the rights to be against it, but you have absolutely no rights to dictate what others desire for their lives. the values needed to be a caring partner/parent has nothing to do with marriage.
here is a clue: live your life the best you can and respectfully let others live theirs... so long as it aint against the law.

mbhs139:
Hey!!!! God!!! It's really end time o! So, people need not get married in the 21st Century before they start a family!? Aye ti ba'je. I once over heard some young girls saying they would like to be single parents, I tot that was the highest of it. OK o!

just because your idea of a family isnt the same as another DOESNT make yours any more rightful than theirs. if you believe that there cannot be a family without marriage then make sure YOU get married before starting one (the important word is in bold)... but dont try to enforce your views on others.

again: there are many great men (in the bible you all follow) that had children/families with concubines that they were NOT married to, and there was absolutely [b]NOTHING WRONG with such act. so if you are gonna judge this issue with a religious mindset then you either take that holy book for ALL its worth or nothing... but dont "only" take from it what fits your selfish agenda.[/b]

Afrok:
U don't expect less from baby mamas and baby daddies when they have no plans of starting a family together. That's their business, dem get money to throway.

get your facts right... they did have plan to start a family together, just without being married. if you believe that you MUST be married to start a family then i suggest you quickly wake up and start living in the 21st century.

Fmartin:
Hmm.. What's up nairalanders...

I hav really heard much about d joystick. Nw lets talk abt d pvssy.


It will be really good if one can suggest a way to acertain the size of a woman's pvssy by looking at her while she's still on cloths.


There is a myth that, the size of a woman's mouth is equivalent to the size of the pvssy.

And also, that men who ar slim, who hv flat bum bum has a big joystick.


Is that for real?

Ladies and gentlemen over to you.

Lets share our views/eperience.

if a man is confident about his dikc game/size, he wouldnt care about a woman's coochie depth beforehand. let it be a pleasant surprise and, you are digging between her legs, you will have a confirmation of such depth.

Religion and Politics.... the amount of brainwashed sheep there is amazing.

PushPlay:
Chai!

This your rules ehn, I have to save it just in case.

bro, even if the babe doesnt sign the contract but if you make it clear to her, then thats a verbal contract and she cant lose her damn mind after a few months

2sexyus:
Nigeria can never be great. Quote me anywhere. You can dream on if you like. People are already planning on stocking the Yuan even before it arrives, just like they did to the dollar

what makes you think that the rate of the dollar/Euro etc wont fluctuate just as much as the Yuan?!

Ribena02:
What % can u boast on considering ur present relationship reaching an expected end ? I mean Marriage

marriage has never been the aim for me, HAPPINESS always is/was...

halfricanadian:
He wud tell u he is not happy with his mistake

3 different women 3 different kids 3 different generations 3 different up bringing 3 different families 3 different step relatives 3 different perception bou life etc

One father nd u tink only u can handle all dose pressures listed nd many more?
smh for u

dont assume that he sees his children or baby mamas as "mistakes"? you just have to feel the love in your kids eyes to understand that it could NEVER be a mistake. yeah baby mama hustle may not be ideal but thats called LIFE.

pressure?! why do you think there is even pressure? treat it as an extended family, et voila! the hardest part is to try to get everyone under the same roof during Xmas, but life was never meant to be a walk in the park anyway.
its all about having the right rules in place to make sure everyone is on the same respectful page

so you didnt even fukc that old woman yet expect millions abi?! if you're gonna be a wh0re, and expect to be paid royally, then at least ACT LIKE ONE, and fukc that mama properly and make her cuum a few times

the rules are the RULES... you cant jump from a FWB r/ship to a lve r/ship just like that.
next time, study carefully what you get into, and get one of the following:

when people are saying men must TEST DRIVE their women before marriage, you probably wouldnt listen... now you are stuck with this inadequate one. HAPPY MARRIED LIFE!

obviously their marketing campaign is working, now they are talking about their brand all the way to Nigeria.

AccidentalGenius:
Most Nigerian girls always have secret desires or thoughts.. But tend to keep these thoughts to themselves or privately fulfill them Simply because they want to look classy or good to outsiders or they believe they will go to hell. Honey, you will go to hell, but not for this mm?. Learn to express yourselves people. Life is all about expressions, feelings and what not.

Cc: mynd44 Lalasticlala

the answer could be that they cant really express their "sometimes" deluded desires/thoughts due to....
A) their UNREALISTIC beliefs that they are all that... aka unsexy donkey looking gal, with no manners or class expecting to be treated like a princess, just because thats how Genevieve etc are treated.

B) their FAILED golddigging state of mind that puts money before love and attraction... aka deluded women who would turn down a struggling man who lives with his motha, but who will gladly sleep with a generous man who lives with his wife.

C) their DESPERATE need to be pampered at all costs... even ungrateful women now think they deserve to be pampered. its a man job to respect women and, if they desire, pamper them, but such woman must FIRST give such man a reason to do so.

D) their LACK of making any sense... aka a woman who has absolutely nothing to offer a man, yet expects to be treated as equal.

abeg, the list for women is endless... but lets not fool ourselves, the Nigerian man is equally emotionally damaged... aka their worship for money above all, their selfish/hypocrite relationship towards religion, and lets not forget about their deluded belief that cheating is an African heritage. actually, on paper they (Nigerian men and women) are a match made in heaven!

sadly, many people still fall for these cheap tricks

schumastic:
i wish we can see one on one and have this convo..meanwhile from your definition i see where you are actually coming from and my reason why i still stand on my ground...

its ok to have difference of opinion

like you said up there about finding that person that would make you experience ''true love'' is hard and to me, the chance is 1% cus of the sacrifices required by both party to make it stand the test of time..another thing i will like to draw your attention is the fact that is not a one sided thing meaning both have to give it their all, not where one party is giving his or her all and the other is not. Also in this current world we are in, if we leave sentiment and face the realities in life, we would understand more about the true love itself..

the above to me is a cheap way to give up while blaming it all on whatever unrelated issues, instead of keeping searching for that one and only. even if the chances were 0.001%, you still have a duty towards "yourself", to seek for that person who will take your life from good to FANTASTIC, that person that will make you discover the best ever version of yourself. yes, its "possible" to live the rest of your life without true love, but what is the point of living, if you aint remotely hoping to WIN?

if you ask a person to describe the person he or she would want to spend the rest of their life with, they would come up with a list and image of what they want that person to look like and possess in characters and possessions.meanwhile, they forget the fact that such a person may not want them as the someone who they would like to spend the rest of their life with as well..

but there is that special someone out there, and unless you keep being open minded and aiming for her, you may never find her.

''sadly many african brothas cant trust a person fully enough to remotely fall in love with anyone.'' to me is not the africa brothers ish but a general issue and not only brothers but sisters as well cus often times they must have trust someone in one way or another but got disappointed at the end.. reason they find it hard to trust..a friend once told me ''IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO'' and i agree with him.

A) disappointments in love are a learning process and shouldnt be used as a reason to stop believing in love.

B) the above in bold is such a cheap, lazy, coward way to look at love, because i doubt you ever stopped seeking to be rich, simply because you had a few obstacles, so why act differently with love?!
if a man remotely hope to find true love then he MUST open up to his partner so that she can know/understand/feel/read and possibly love his true self. the only way to achieve that is if/when they both stop treating each other as an enemy, and instead as allies who will have your best interest at heart. when the time is right, you MUST open up and let your partner into your MIND/SOUL/SPIRIT/THOUGHTS and also be fully honest about your FEARS/FUTURE/HOPES/DREAMS.
you can NEVER find true love if you dont... and therefore, this is the reason why many brothas and sistas dont. how can anyone think they can find true love with a "stranger"?! makes no damn sense.

true love and trust go hand in hand but if you ask a person can you trust the person you are dating? you will get mixed answers but deep within those that say yes, you will notice an atom of doubt in them...

trust must be earned, but if you cant ever trust someone that has never given you a reason NOT to, then the problem is YOU, and true love there will never be until you fix yourself... because you are emotionally damaged good!

Psalms 118:8 - It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.
Micah 7:5 - Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.

here are other verses for you to consider:
1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

either A) your f0replay game is very very weak or B) your gal is a selfish cuumer (aka women who get turned off from sex as soon as "they" cuum)

preach on sista!

NOBODY with proper acting skills should ever pay to be in any movie... thats the way around! and anyone asking a skilled actor to pay to go to a casting is a SCAMMER. this is no better than a scam!

when whores all over the world are charging 200€ to FUKC all night, this washed up one want 250€ just to talk to her irrelevant self via chat, BWAAAAAAAH! who would even hear about her if it wasnt for her sluttish nekkid trick to try to stay relevant in the media?l washed up wannabe Kim K!

calabardick:
... am sure by now castration should be the penalty of child abusers.... thunder strike this ugly bat ime

castration wont help anything. remember, these people are sick in their HEAD, so a castrated man would still have evil fantasies to abuse children... and even though his body wouldnt be responding, he would get the same evil pleasure by abusing kids with his fingers or d1ldos etc.
a slow and very painful death is what these monsters deserve

chriskosherbal:
I wasn't generalising or enforcing, I was only suggesting to couples, something that can be of help and add the needed spark, that has eluded that home.

which is exactly what i was also doing, while suggesting why your points might not be so beneficial to couples.

chriskosherbal:
I think that's a personal opinion.

yes it is, just as much as what you wrote in your initial post.

you gave her all the attention she was hoping to get when you forwarded her attention seeking BS post on NL (not forgetting to keep her name in the pic). she wants to attract 1000s of desperate guys hoping to try their luck with her imaginary hoeish attitude
well done, you did your part just as planned.

2mins is all the time they can talk , then simply interrupt them and say:"sorry, as much as cooking is great, i am feeling left out here... so (while pointing at this guy), bro, can you pls talk about this the next time you guys meet, and let me enjoy the little valuable time i have left with this gorgeous lady?"

these qualities are childish and EVERY man need to be offended if these are the criteria used by women to value men.

i was hoping to see qualities such as HONEST, INTELLIGENT, HARDWORKING, TRUSTWORTHY, RESPECTFUL, MORAL, MATURE, RESPONSIBLE, CLASS, INTEGRITY, CARING, UNDERSTANDING, MANNERS, etc.... believe me, if your man has all the above yet is dirty and cant cook, he is a KEEPER!!!!