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martinefu:
Whinch advice she go take now. What if her dad was a billionaire?

how is her dad being a billionaire changing anything on this subject?!

Toks2008:
Nice one..I love your argument and on this note i will say NO.

I am still single today because i am very picky and i can and will never compromise what i want in a lady especially the physical attributes cos im very very visual.

Nevertheless i can not say because i love a lady, i should now cope with her going out of shape but then if a man really loves the soul inside that body, he will not be too mad about weight gain to the extent of comparing her to her friend.

yes, but the "soul inside her" matters just as much as her physical appearance. this sounds like a bait and switch, where you meet a fine gal, and her look makes you wanna know her better. then you fall in lve with her EVERYTHING, and then they remove the "great look" and expect you to still act/feel the same way. hell NO! thats a different person and therefore all plans made must be re-evaluated. physical attraction matters... a lot.

its all about being certain about what you DONT want in a spouse. if he aint physically attracted to her now, then its just a matter of time before this union crashes.
- if he doesnt like what he sees, he wont be able to walk proudly next to her
- if he doesnt like how she looks, then he will be pi$$ed off as soon as he rolls over and she opens her mouth in the morning
- if he doesnt get turned on by her physique, then its just a matter of time before the bedroom acrobatics will be affected
- if he doesnt desire her, then chances are, he will seek for someone who is desirable
- if she cant even control her outlook now then imagine what she will look like after a few kids

as for the comparison, it is the needed boost/shock to have her take this stuff seriously.

Toks2008:
I once created a thread about this.
https://www.nairaland.com/2567000/amazing-diverse-beauty-women-photo

Excerpts:
Every woman is excellently beautiful no matter how she looks.

I believe that every man on earth will have his specification as regards how he wants his lady to look and if you are a lady reading this,im very positive that you will fit into one of these body structures and if you look closely, you will see that each of these ladies are beautiful in their own different ways.

I know some guys that will never go for a slim lady while some will prefer skinny ones.I also have a brother who will never touch slim ladies so the good news is that no matter how you look,there is a man out there who will love you just the way you are.

Don't allow any man manage you, talk down on you or make you feel second best because of your body structure and the first duty you owe yourself is loving yourself the way you are and when you try to keep fit,don't do it for any man but only do it to maintain good health.

bro, you missed the point here. her weight is not the issue, her weight CHANGE is... as we can clearly understand that the lady put on weight, as she is saying herself that "she is trying her best to work on that".

so the important question IS: if a man is attracted to a woman because of her mind/character AND physical appearance, should he continue and pretend to "still" be physically attracted to her if/when her appearance changes (to a level that is clearly unacceptable to him)?

@sas91
this man is honest about how he feels about your outlook, and you should compliment him for that.
this is the time to be fulLy honest and ask the IMPORTANT questions, not later. so COMMUNICATE and get rid of all the stuff that worries you!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcaluGLyEG0

HighIQ:
my own likes are authentic and intellectual likes and not accidental or sarcastic ones

so you mean to say there are 2 types of likes and shares?! intellectual VS accidental...

HateU2:
I know my enemies will say 'ladies lie pass guys' but that one na super story . Guys will say anything just to get down with a lady . Their 3rd leg na wahala 4 dem.

thats true, men do lie a great deal but thats because we have to adapt to the "often" FAKE creatures that we are dealing with. this creature LIES about their appearance with fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake eyebrows, fake eyes color, fake skin tone, fake nails, push up bras, butt pads, waist trainer etc.... and you expect men to tell the truth when dealing with y'all?! BLASPHEMY!!!!

let me educate you on the subject:
RULE #342: a man who is h0rny CAN/MUST/SHOULD do whatever is in his power to get in a female pants (so long as it aint against the law). to achieve that, this man has all the rights to LIE/FAKE/CON/PROMISE/CHEAT this woman until he gets into the promise land (aka her cootie cat).

masinga07:
And what's special about dat o. In less than 150 posts and under a year, I now have more dan 1000 likes. Infact my last 10 posts generated around 800 likes. All of which has no single meaning to me.

bro, the below quote got you 500+ likes?! BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!

masinga07:
APC the party of rogues

@HighIQ
what do you think... should he also mention that in his job interviews?

this nonsense can only be FAKE!!!!

the 3rd guy on the right has been confirmed as NOT having any part to do with the bombing.

there was no other way to act, he did what NEEDED to be done!

its called EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

HighIQ:
see you. If I go for a Job interview. I can highlight it among my achievements. And with that I can get a job. Having over 1000 likes in less than 350 posts on a forum like nairaland can be a sign of great intellect and working capability and highiq of an employee. Seun no be so?

really bro?! you actually believe that your NL likes and shares are an achievement that can be highlighted on a job interview?!

take these L&S for what they truly are.... a confirmation that people are of the same opinion as you, nothing more.

you will be surprised to see how many likes and shares a comedian like MrCork gets.

kenonze:
Every marriage is bound to have challenges, How u go about overcoming them matters.
There are situations worse than this that couples resolves and move on.
My life and joy is more important that those distractions.

so your "life and joy" is to stay married AT ALL COST, even to a demon who has absolutely No respect for you or your family?!
i guess, to each their own misery!

they had a black man running the white house for 2 terms, so it is normal that this DONKEY gets elected now

anyone gullible enough to believe such news must have the brain of a DONKEY!!!!!

this is news out of worldnewsdailyreport website which is a FAKE news website.

if anyone think that not being in the top5 should be a reason to let your kids go play with your Nigerian neighbour (or any other neighbour) then you best wake the hell up!

there are pedos EVERYWHERE!

nice marketing trick!

ANYONE should be able to defend themselves and their properties (whether rich or poor), so gun for all would be better

Joy1706:
What business dealings? Can you just get your head out of your azz and say things as they are

the business dealings that the husband claims he was having with his ex, for his brotha... but hey, if you can see something different in your crystal ball, then pls come share it with us all.

Saronna:
I want u to stop typing for once and just think how you would feel if u were In her shoes , would u let ur wife be on phone all night laughing and giggling with her ex ?! OBVIOUSLY NOT!

i am not an insecure person, but if it would eve bother me, then i would sit her down and we would have a mature discussion until the issue is resolved, and both are satisfied with the outcome.

she has every right to be jealous of her that's his "EX" someone he used to love once!

yes, she has every right to be jealous (to each their own low self esteem) but to expect her husband to walk away from a business he may have heavily invested in (physically/financially), without having a PROPER MATURE discussion on the issue, is certainly not the way to go.

First of all why even keep any contacts of ur ex once u decided to tie the knot with someone,

again, to each their own low self esteem, but i dont think anyone should suddenly erase their past simply because they are getting married. there is nothing wrong with keeping friends with your exes (if thats what you wish), but you certainly have NO business marrying a man if you cant trust him with such petty stuff.

no one said about disregarding anyone's opinion or view but in this matter I will ask why ? Why even keep in contact with ur ex no matter what the reason?

so if his ex had linked to ministers and ogas at the top, who could greatly benefit his business etc.... you do believe he should delete her contact because he is getting married to a woman who isnt comfortable with their now friendship?! ahahahahahahahah very funny!

U should be smart enough to know it's not healthy for ur relationship. like thats ur ex and iam ur wife if I don't feel comfortable u contacting her but u still do then I have every right to feel they way the OP does! It's unfair and hypocritacy !!!

again, YES you have the right to feel however you wanna feel about their now friendship, but expecting him to disregard his business dealings because of an immature wife, is ridiculous! without having a mature discussion on the issue, there is no way this man should change anything about his business dealings (and possibly lose his investment). wifey should grow up and act RIGHT, instead of acting like a child. if these guys cant sit down and have a mature discussion, where both can put their views across, and come to a MATURE understanding/solution, then they have no business being married together!

ifex370:
A. its the belief system in the society we both live in

pls rephrase that too: it is the belief in your head!
just because men are desperate for toto and therefore they are accepting to be blackmailed by these broke aass and hungry babes, shouldnt be a reason to believe that this is the way that life goes. men are s brainwashed that they even believe that they need to jump through hoops to impress women who do not even RESPECT THEM, and instead only respect what they can offer them. what a pity!

B. Girls have always been gold diggers right from the time of eve

back in the days, rich men offered fancy gifts to women and marry these women, while poor men offered very little and STILL married great women. thats because men were valued because of their CHARACTER 1st, and the mney was just a cherry on the cake. now, these broke deluded women have flipped the script on men, and now value wealth before they can value character. BLASPHEMY!!!!

and since when we (men) have decided that we should bow to these broke and begging desperate women and lose the respect that we DESERVE from a partner?! who will these criminals beg if all men say NO to their nonsense?! will they fukc and marry donkeys then?

C. its not law its becoming more serious these days tho, cos of end time things

so what you are saying is that, in today's dating, its better to be a mumu and "pay" to pretend to be happy with someone (who only cares about what you can offer her)?

D. He isn't ooo.. except through the special intervention of GODs power cry

such statement show us the depth of men's brainwash... so sad, the devil is hard at work here!!!!
pls bro,never mix God with the act of the devil. many poor people are gladly getting married all over the world, and this has nothing to do with God, and all to do with doing what is RIGHT.

ooops forgot E

E. ermm , my religion didnt really say anything about that sha.. it laid emphasis on virtuous women and righteousness... both of which are becoming increasingly difficult to find

so do you think that a woman is virtuous/righteous if she expects you to have money before she can value you as a mate? does your religion teaches you that the value of a man is in his wealth? or better yet, does it teaches you that a poor man is not worthy of getting married?
how can you meet a virtuous/righteous woman when you are running after prostitutes and jezebels who value MONEY?

you, sir, are a lost sheep serving equally lost Jezebels who are worshipping money and the devil!

A40:
Yes you can if it previously undid all the hardwork the guy in the lead previously did especially when the guys right behind you are blessed with an obviously FASTER car. You wouldn't say this if it were Alonso involved

bwaaaaaah! you are talking as if the crash threw Vettel at the back of the field or suddenly made his car redundant?! the man was P1, before the crash with a 4sec advantage on Rosberg, and lapping FASTER than both Mercs.... after the restart, Vettel was STILL P1 and was STILL lapping faster than the Mercs, till the end of the race (bare a handful of laps where one of the Mercs would lap faster).
the race data does NOT lie, stop being bias and writing obvious clouded stuff on NL!

RECAP: Vettel was in front before and after the crash, was lapping faster than the Mercs, and still managed to finish 3rd... and you have the audacity to blame Alonso who crashed on lap 17 out of 57?! Baba Ijebu come here this NONSENSE o!!!!

Prior to that crash Vettel was a lock to win. Fact

...and after the crash, Vettel was STILL on lock to win had he made the right tyre choice, FACT!

You have gone from SWERVE to SLIGHTLY MOVE. Wunderbar! We are making progress

swerve, slight move, 360turn... call it what you want so long as you've seen what i am talking about.

Are we saying Gutierrez shoulda acted like a sitting duck and do nothing to protect his position?
Better tell your boy to stop playing tete with his life F1 is dangerous enough as it is

if there was no gap, as you wrongly claimed earlier then why should he have to swerve/slightly move to to cover his position?!
the reality is that if Gut hadnt made that move then Alonso would have probably overtaken him

1)Alonso tried to make that pass while in a slipstream and couldn't even see beyond Gutierrez rear. That was extremely reckless and unnecessary
2) He pumped his brakes far too late and nearly brought calamity upon himself
He almost got KILLED and definitely would have if he tried this move in the Senna/Prost era hell even in the Schummie/Hakkinen period

fair enough

You of all people should know that the drivers have a role in the improvement of a car. Whether its working with the engineers or simply giving them helpful feedback that makes their job easier

of course but if the car aint shiit then there is so much a driver can do before they have to accept that this car AINT competitive enough.

You are also entitled to your opinion but I don't buy the fact that McLaren Honda's decline and Ferrari's simultaneous resurgence have nothing to do with Alonslow's waning abilities as a driver

here is a simple clue:
A) if Alonso's abilities as a driver had anything to do with Ferrari's dreadful car back then, then Kimi (with his "supposedly" better abilities) would have won races then, and not only when Alonso left. the fact that both Ferrari drivers were losing then, and suddenly both are challenging at the top now, clearly points towards the CAR being the reason for such resurgence, not drivers abilities.

B) how can you blame Alonso's abilities for the poor performance of this new partnership between Mc Laren and Honda? is Button qualifying higher than Alonso, and lapping faster each and every races? sadly, it aint the case as we clearly see every weekend Alonso "outdriving/outqualifying" his teammate. Alonso is one of the best drivers out there today, stuck in a shiitty car.

A40:
The best ever F1 driver is still alive last time I checked and we are all hoping he recovers too
I do not subscribe to taking unnecessary risks. Stepping into a car that moves at over 300km/h every week is risk enough and if one must push the limits do it with some goddamn sense
Whatever accolade is not worth dying before one's time. That was a very silly move by Alonso, he needs to regard his life a bit more

again, IMHO Senna will always remain the best ever F1 driver of all times, and Schumacher is right there somewhere behind, along with a few others. you can take all the precautions you desire and still crash, because there will always be a foolish driver in front of you making a slight move "trying to protect his position", not understanding the way great drivers think.

as much as i see nothing wrong in going down a clean cut woman, this protein BS is a damn fake lie!

A40:
Lol at least he didn't damn near get himself killed like some people we know

the best ever F1 driver killed himself while pushing his car to its limits, thats the price sometimes these greats have to pay.

ifex370:
on the contrary, broke guys should not date... 4 u blast me.. am a guy

you are entitled to your opinion bro, but let me ask you a few questions, if i may:
A) if you think that broke guys shouldnt date, shouldnt you have the same views for broke women... or do you actually think that we men must always serve women in this area?!

B) if only comfortable and rich guys can date then dont you think that this is the reason why all these broke gals settle for runz business? there wouldnt be enough comfortable/rich men in their age group to satisfy all their needs.

C) since when did the law of dating changed, and now the gift is more important than the kind gesture itself?

D) if a man remain broke all his life, does this mean that he is NOT entitled to ever meet a woman?

E) is this how the religion you worship tells you to act/think? which one is that if i may ask?!

Saronna:
Very funny! I believe that's what I said 'mutual respect, understanding and communication ' but if none of this works on him then it can't be helped can it? Like the ops husband whome u seem to be defending, she talked to him and said how it made her feel abt the situation (COMMUNICATION )and waiting for months just so that he might finally tell her abt the"bussines" he's doing during midnights tells you that she is (UNDERSTANDING ) and for the fact that he isn't shows you that he is DISRESPECTFULL AND CARELESS abt her feelings and one can only take so much! Idk how in the name of god she's enduring his crap!!

no no no sista, you "say" mutual respect while expecting your feelings and self to be put 1st. how can that ever be mutual respect? mutual respect is NOT about disregarding someone's views/opinions and expecting ONLY yours to be followed, it is 1st about having an understanding and 2nd communicate maturely so 3rd you guys can come to a solution that fits the BOTH of you (important word here is in bold).

as for the OP, you must not know what COMMUNICATING means. just because you tell someone that you have issues with their actions, doesnt mean they automatically have to accommodate you. 1st you have a mature discussion (back and forth) that can last a while until BOTH come to a SOLUTION. such can often take times. how can you assume that the man isnt understanding because he hasnt changed, and that means it is a lack of respect? would taking the calls in private change anything about how she "feels", really? would hiding make matters better? come on!!!!
this lady simply want her husband to STOP contacting his ex (whatever the cost), and this is the beef here, nothing else... if this ex was a doctor doing life threatening surgery on her husband's parents, she would still act the same jealous/selfish way.

if you think that the OP has made a clear case as to why her husband should stop having any contact with his ex, then no wonder there is such a gap between men and women when it comes to problem solving

A40:
Dude even an event in lap 1 could turn a race on its head never mind lap 17. They took a gamble albeit a naive one but Seb was nevertheless cruising at that point

yeah... but you wouldnt blame the loss of that same race (who still had 37+ laps to go, while you still were in P1 at restart) on the guy who crashed.

As for the crash that was clearly Alonso's fault. He tried to squeeze through a non existent window and almost got himself killed in the process. You are about the only one I've seen on webspace pin the crash on Gutierrez which is poignant because he is notorious for getting into crashes

Gutierez did slightly move left where the gap was, and expecting a racing driver not to aim for an opening is the reason why we have 2 sets of drivers out there. a great driver sees and take such opportunity, thats what makes them UNIQUE. Alonso was faster, the car handled better, the brakes were right, so why wouldnt he go for the gap?!

check the video below, A) there is a CLEAR gap to overtake and B) we can clearly see Gutierrez car slightly move to his left at the 27-29sec mark.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vT17vWFkl_w

Alonso is washed up and that is the inconvenient truth. We saw his last two years at Ferrari and the instant recovery they've made since he left. Lets see who would be willing to take that high maintenance diva at 36

you are entitled to your opinion, but the only reason Ferrari is better today is because they simply got their shiit together and built a BETTER car than when Alonso was with them. insinuating that his departure from Ferrari has anything to do with why they are suddenly recovering is PREPOSTEROUS!

NiRfreak:
Rule no.1....find out what she likes before buying her a gift.

i guess thats the #1 rule in the mumu bible....

RULE #1: buy whatever you can afford and believe she deserves, nothing more/less.

thats what happened when you date broke, begging and desperate for money women.

Saronna:
You talk rubbish as if you know me! Iam sorry but you seem someone whose pained by a woman who chose not to be walked over and suffer evrytin u do because ur the man and she's just a "woman"!! U seem like on of these men who are taught at young age that they're superior nd therefore can treat women anyway they like!! Ur the kind of MEN who expect ur wife to still wash ur dirty underwear after u just cheated nd feel guilt free!

again, read carefully what i wrote as it isnt about men vs women (or even cheating) but mostly about respect/communication/understanding in any union. all this issue was NEVER about someone being superior than the other, but all about COMMUNICATION.

as for wifey washing my dirty underwear, how hard is it to throw an underwear in the washing machine?! please!

bwaaaaaaaaah! no comment.

Saronna:
Don't worry about my husband. I will make sure I marry someone who will put me first as I would and definitely have mutual respect!

women like yourself who think that THEY can overreact to whatever they desire, and expect their husbands to be quiet and accept whatever nonsense you throw at them, are simply dreamers.

[b]here is the reality of life (take note):
- most men would accept all your childish act before marriage, but will put you right in your place when you guys are a few months/yrs into that marriage, unless you guys COMMUNICATE beforehand.

- if ever your future husband foolishly puts you 1st, it will only last until you guys have kids, and then THEY will be 1st... and therefore any business dealings will be needed to improve their wellbeings (whether you like it or not)

- the "mumu" that you describe here on NL (as your "perfect" man), and that you dream of marrying, is NOT a man... he is a muppet that hasnt got a backbone, and who everyone will use and abuse (starting from you).

- COMMUNICATION is the only stepping stone to possibly settle any issue in marriage.

- Women like you who talk about mutual respect, yet dont have a clue about the meaning, is the reason why so many marriages are failing these days. how can there be ANY mutual respect if you expect your husband to DISREGARD his business dealings, DISREGARD his own feelings, STOP being himself, so that he can accommodate YOU (and your feelings) 1st. mutual respect should have you respect him as a man and whatever he choses to do, instead of trying to force him to be who YOU desire him to be. i mean, who are you kidding?! if both your feelings are respect equally, why yours should be 1st?

- we men rarely give a damn about y'all feelings because we all know that you women are emotionally driven creatures, and overreact most times (especially during that time of the month).
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