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lanrywatt:
d go back and read the post again, I never say getting married is wrong cost it seems u are scared of ramaining single for the rest of ur life, that is ur problem deal with it.. I'm single now doesn't in any way means I will not get married when the time is right but now I'm enjoying my singleness with a bottle of water... go Hang urself like I care

use what you have between your ears to understand that marriage has absolutely NOTHING to do with anything i wrote, here is a HINT on where you should have focussed...

LIFE, however you want to look at it, will always be better with someone by your side

HateU2:
Menh, u need to know how sweet it is to be single althou there are times the loneliness creeps in.

No dramas, No films, Noo cries/tears, No worried about where ur guy is, No worries if he's fvcking another girl.

And the FREEDOM.
Waoh!!!

if you always meet the wrong guys then A) you can only blame it on yourself, and B) you CANT use these no good men as a reason to be single, and instead should use the energy to find guys that would treat you (and act) RIGHT

lanrywatt:
Are u pained ni, I never said people should remain single.... It seems u are used to eating garbage

if you believe the above in bold then what is this whole BS thread about then? at least, stand for the garbage you write, and keep thinking that the childish point you brought here are relevant.

ifeajikap:
I could also bring out points and call urs pile of garbage, food for taught don't call sumbdy opinion garbage bcuz u dnt agree wit it

and you have all the right to your opinions, but i stand by mine claim that his points are CHILDISH, and a pile of garbage from an immature miserable mind, who possibly only dated miserable deluded unfit people, and believe that this is the way life goes (as if there can only be peace and quiet at home if you are single, NONSENSE!!!!).

stop using y'all miserable state of mind to date miserable unfit women, and then come here and tell us all that being single is better!

NONSENSE!!!!

that guy was extradited to the US and is in jail there. you can NEVER get a death penalty for hacking in the US, [size=14pt]EVER!!!![/size]

that guy is a modern day Robin hood, although he used a lot of the money for himself.

marvelck:
Have you ever ignored a particular good girl just cos of another girl whom you thought was an angel, only to realize later how bad and terrible she is. But by the time you realized this, the good girl you completely ignored has already been taken. Making it impossible for you to make amends. Have you as a guy been in such a situation before? Its usually painful, right? when you realize what you've lost cos of what you thought you had... Most guys are guilty of this (losing a good girl cos of a bad girl), cos of their desire for looks or sex. Yeah, sometimes such things usually happen cos of a man's preference for beauty or his love for sex, which tend to cover the eyes/mind of most guys, from seeing or knowing the difference between good... and bad.

what you wrote is complete rubbish... simply because
A) what makes you ASSUME that the 2nd gal was indeed "good", and not faking like the 1st one?
B) if the desire for good looks and sex is the issue here, then what were the criterias used to judge that the 2nd gal was actually "good"?
C) what other criterias are there (apart from beauty/sex appeal) in order to judge a stranger?!
D) are you now saying that all beautiful/sexy gals are bad?!

what a pile of garbage!!!!!
LIFE, however you want to look at it, will always be better with someone by your side to:
- care for you
- help you
- support you
- share the burden
- share the joy
- relax with
- build together
- be stronger as a unit
- give you a second opinion etc

shobam1410:
1. Never respond to your mate brashly.
2. Never hit your mate out of temper or frustration, ever.
3. Never seek to shame your spouse in public (or in private for that matter).
4. Never fight in front of your kids (or use them as leverage in a disagreement).
5. Never mention your spouse's parents or any other family member in the moment of disagreement.
6. Never dig up the past; try to stay on topic.
7. Never try to win an argument.
8. Never yell, use derogatory comments or verbally defame your spouse.
9. Never withhold physical intimacy or use sex to manipulate.
10. Never put off seeking resolution.

what kind of nonsense is the above in bold? there will always be disagreements in any union and whats important is to be UNDERSTANDING and try to resolve the issue in a MATURE and RESPECTFUL manner, but certainly not to be quiet and accept whatever BS is thrown at you.

HARRY POTTER NONSENSE!!!

falconey:
Common mehn not before marriage, after marriage that's when you will know her true color.

yet you wanna have kids with a woman you dont trust? sleep every night next to such woman? better yet, why would you even stay with her if she becomes a different non trustworthy person after marriage?!

falconey:
Take a tour to 10 different homes and call the husbands and ask them privately do you trust your wife?

i dont see why anyone would marry a woman they dont trust... but hey, to each their own miserable lives.

ZUBY77:
One Soldier down.

And for the record, 600gm of Coca is not $720k or near it.
It's not more than $20,000

exactly!!!

if a man cant even trust his wife (let alone with his friend) then he has absolutely NO business A) being married to this woman he doesnt trust, or B) having such friend staying in his home.

Kraspo:
A woman loving you for who you are does not translate to being stingy as hell.

again, dont mix apples with oranges.
A) if a woman loves you for who you are (as a person) then whether you can help her financially or not wouldnt be an issue. FACT!
B) a man has all the RIGHTS to do what he desires with his hard earn cash. if i want to be careful with money then so be it. FACT!

The love between a man and a woman is not "Agape". It is "Eros" and it is not free. It's costs something.

MISCONCEPTION #1 love is indeed FREE
just because you are blackmailed by hungry brokeass women into buying them food/gifts etc (under the guise of fake love) does NOT mean that love cant exist unless you buy a woman food/gifts etc. such way of thinking is so deluded, thinking that through feeding/paying someone is the only way that love can blossom. i suggest you check yourself and stop chasing such low life animals.

Buying lunch for your girl does not mean you are over-paying her.

MISCONCEPTION #2 it does, if i believe that she doesnt deserve it.
- did this girl never buy her own lunch before she met me?
- does dating means that she should never pay for her own lunch again?!
- why should i even pay for lunch if i am not hungry?
- is a restaurant the only place we can meet/date?
- should money ALWAYS be spent on dates?
- should money spent on date ONLY be paid by men?!
- cant we meet at a park and walk hand in hand or sit in the grass and chat?
abeg make some bloody sense pls, instead of taking like a brainwashed child!

If you feel she does not deserve evening outings, then why did you ask her out in the first place?

MISCONCEPTION #3
there are many places i can invite a woman where i wouldnt have to spend a dime. and if i desire to spend any money, then let it be because I desire to do so, and not because of some deluded notion that a man must do it AT ALL COST during dates.

My guy, change this your mentality else your wife and children will suffer.

bwaaaaah!!!!
how can a wife suffer by doing what is RIGHT? if someone loves you then your finances are irrelevant to her love.
how can kids suffer by being educated RIGHT?

ChynoBEATS:
But this is bullshit ..... Ignorance is not an excuse ...

FACT #1: just because YOU are an expert on sex education etc, dont automatically falsely assume that everyone having unprotected sex is. in this day and age where children as young as 12yrs old are having sex, you expect them to be educated on the subject, and know all what YOU know?! nonsense!

Oh please spare me these words... As-if we'dont know what pre-cum is

refer to FACT #1:

Can you imagine ....in this generation? Oh please ..be serious... So you tryna tell me that there are some spiritual blockade in it 4em uhn.....
Mxcheew this is childishness ..

refer to FACT #1:

Uhm doctor Brown i know this but its not a justifiable reason to carry a child 4months only to throw the child away like trash.......

again, dont falsely assume that ALL women have abortion at 4 months, the majority have these abortion at much earlier stage of the pregnancy.

Oh my word .... Where's sex education.... Ignorance is not an excuse to the law mr brown ....if she was caught she'll get a jail term for such you know.....

refer to FACT #1:

Objection objection ignorance is not an excuse

refer to FACT #1:

So now having n keeping the child is a punishment shey?...please be serious.... You must be high on something

if you want to force someone to have a child AGAINST their will, then yes you want to punish them for their act, instead of trying to solve the problem at hand.

You keep talking as if it is right for her to trash a child n move on with her lifelike that.......

why shouldnt she move on with her life?! i guess you want her to be punished for her act, right?!
in the real world, if someone gets pregnant and decide that they want to abort, then that is their RIGHT/BODY, and there shoudnt even be a discussion. it is much better than forcing unfit mothers to have these unwanted babies and throw them in dustbin bags or gutter.

We've got cultures n moral values over here......

and nobody is stopping YOU from following your culture and moral values.

So ........ trashing a live being is not a mistake And thats the best thing she can think of ryt ??

again, something that hasnt got a heartbeat, brain activities, or breathing is NOT a live being. educate yourself

The society has to put their mouth in it simply because we've got Cultures n such an act of cowardness is an abomination ....

yes, you have the right to your opinion, but you have ABSOLUTELY no rights to the decision that this person takes.

So the concequences of unprotected sex shouldnt be thought of b4 having one shey?...

refer to FACT #1:

You talk as-if she's a love peddler.....

so, in your world, if someone has unprotected sex but dont want children, they can ONLY be love peddlers?!

MrBrown please be serious for once.....
Dont support this like a corrupt lawyer ...haba ...

you are the one who should use your brain instead of thinking like a brainwashed sheep, expecting everyone to live YOUR life.

Kraspo:
Rant of a stingy broke ass! If you ain't willing to spend a dime on a girl you wanna get laid with, then your tight-fistedness is inbuilt!

i am stingy and PROUD to be... i will never foolishly give money to someone or something that doesnt deserve it.
i will never pay for something that i know is overpriced, and will always bargain to get a better deal, or simply walk away. that just who i am, and therefore, giving money to a woman for NO DAMN REASON is absurd to me. why should i even pay for a woman's upkeep, is she handicapped? is she unemployed or lazy? doesnt she have a father/family? how was she getting these items before she met me?

IMHO, a man that pays a woman in order for her to stay with him, is LESS than a man, who hasnt got the right character that would have a woman love him, because of HIM.

Kraspo:
A guy can NEVER be a mugu. Because no guy can have a million naira in his account and give 500k to a girl. If I give a girl 5million naira, just know I have a 500million naira in my account. I repeat! A guy can NEVER be a mugu.

NONSENSE!!!! the minute you are tricked into giving ANY amount, then you are indeed a mugu.

falconey:


yes i am a mugu, a mugu that get laid.

the majority of mugus get laid, thats the whole reason why they give that money.

if there isnt any family member/friend ready and willing to take care of the child, then let it stay with their mother until it is of sound age to go to an orphanage. the important age old question of HOW LONG SHOULD A MOTHER BREASTFEED HER CHILD

Flexherbal:
Can't the government take care of children like that until their parents are out of prison?

isnt it what the gov is actually doing?! lol

as fine as she may be, her cochie is DAMAGED good!

Fairytales:
Will you still marry him knowing the following;
1. He can marry other wives with ease
2. He can kick you out at any opportunity he gets
3. You have no protection under the law in case he dies.

Pls men, instead of ruling out white wedding, you can do a small one if money is your consideration.

Matured advise.

as a fierce advocate of "MARRIAGE IS A SHAM", i can clearly see the fail in the above statement, and would simply ask: WHY even get married?!
if these phoney reasons above are why women desire a marriage at ALL cost then no wonder men should fear marriage (or any other contract where they may end up losers). also, whoever goes into ANY r/ship, and claim to love that person, and wanting to spend the rest of their natural life with them, then marriage (or none) shouldnt even REMOTELY come to their mind so long as they are happy together. furthermore, if cheating/leaving or death is whats in your partner's mind, then i suggest you drop that NEGATIVE person asap.

but hey, if my woman tells me the above BS reason as to why we should get married, here is what i will tell her...
1) so if a husband can fukc other women its ok, so long as he doesnt marry them?!
here is the important question: how is "marriage" gonna stop a man from doing what is obviously wrong (aka cheating on his wife legally or illegally)?!

2) the point here is... do women expect to be with their husbands at all cost OR do they believe that they cant/shouldnt go back where they came from?!
1st, if someone doesnt want to be with you any longer, therefore you guys need to part ways, there is no question about it. why would anyone even want to STAY with someone who doesnt want to be with you?! 2nd, why wouldnt women go back to where they came from, if thats the only option? marriage doesnt mean "lifetime free ride", but hey, if you want to keep the house that you guys are renting then you can have the huse and make RENTAL PAYMENTS. if the house is paid for, then your name is on the deed, and therefore nobody can kick you out of your own home, that you've paid for (if you havent paid for it, then it aint yours)... so people should bring their fair shares to ANY union, and make it official by having their name on whatever they spend their hard earn money on, et voila!
here is the important question: how is "marriage" gonna stop a man from getting rid of you, if thats what he desires?!

3) NONSENSE!!!! unless a person is very stoopid, anyone can go get a WILL, and name whoever they want as the beneficiary. so name your gf, et voila
here is the important question: do you have to be married before you can get a will?!

Fmartin:
bro, d system reject d answer.

then the system is wrong, and give it a new brain.

lack of diversity (print style looks just the same)
lack of accessibility (not enough afro store, unless you go to chateau d'eau)
lack of creativity (when was the last time you saw a high end afro store?)

there is only 1 solution: go see a DENTIST!!!!

i suggest you get your priorities RIGHT and seek to better the situation for your family with that said "good" job you are seeking, instead of some BS wedding!!!

140 tonnes
1st family: 70 (+10) = 80
2nd family: 30 (+10)= 40
3rd family: 10 (+10)= 20

ok bro, lets agree to disagree... as usual, this season aint any better than all the past ones where we had our own views on many different subjects, and so long as it is a mature debate, its all good.

catch you next week for the Barhain race.

benjibabs:
MrBrownJ & pinceprinz,

Both of you should stop deceiving one another. Because aborting within 12 weeks is legal (wherever) does not make it right.

it is RIGHT by people who think like us, isnt it?!

What is the difference between the young fetus and the grown one? It is not the same baby?

lets see... an early foetus has NO heartbeat, doesnt breathe and have NO brain activities, while a baby does. if you cant see the "obvious" difference, then its all on you bro

Without the young fetus can there ever be the grown one?

is a car engine A CAR?! is a seed a flower? hell no!!!! unless you add important ingredients into the mix, a foetus/car engine/seed will remain just that!

If the young fetuses "WHO" grew up to become both of you today had ended up being sucked out of your respective mothers, would you two be here today to contribute your quota?

lucky for us then, and unlucky for the gazillions that didnt have that same chance. now, imagine if every single foetus came to term, how would the world cope?! use your brain pls.

Do you even know how dangerous abortion is at any point in the pregnancy cycle?

just as dangerous as driving a car at high speed, yet many gladly do it. let each and everyone live their lives, so long as you live yours. if you are against abortion then DONT HAVE ONE, basta.

I dare you two to watch the videos in the link below and still remain the same:

i dont care about such BS propaganda videos.

And did I mention that the first line of defense is the old fashion abstinence? and it is the only form of "protection" that is 100% guaranteed!!!

good... make sure you practice that in your life, and let others live the life they desire for themselves.

LaExpert:
A miserable life is when you have sex with different people and expose yourself to the consequences without being ready for them (STDs, Pregnancy, social embarrassment etc)...not when you abstain.
Young man, abstinence WILL WORK for you...and will save you from ALL consequences of illegitimate sex.

to me (and many other men AND women), life with abstinence is a miserable life... now here you are WRONGLY assuming that a woman who has unprotected sex automatically is a woman who has sex with different people (false!!!!!), who automatically expose herself to STDs (false again!!!!), that she automatically gives a damn about the social embarrassment (false false false!!!!), or that the sex is illegitimate (absolute nonsense!!!!)

1) a woman can have unprotected sex as a virgin (or with the 1st man who ever has sex with her) and still get pregnant, and she would still have the right to want an abortion (if thats what she decides)
2) many couples have tests to make sure that they are STD free, before they decide to have unprotected sex.
3) again, just because someone doesnt want to have a kid, doesnt mean it is for social embarrassment. there are many women out there who just DONT want children (ask Oprah)
4) a wife being pregnant by her husband, but not wanting any more children, could want an abortion, and the sex wouldnt be illegitimate, would it?!

i am sure abstinence will work for me or anyone else, but we DONT want it, and this is our decision.... accept it.

Forced abortion or not, women who abort face the same risk! They risk losing their lives and their fertility!

as i have told you earlier, people having abortion know the consequences of their act, and STILL go ahead and abort. so why dont you care about your abstaining life, and let them worry about theirs?
btw driving a car face the risks of dying in deadly accident, yet i dont see you abstaining from driving. having a home face the risks of being attacked by armed robbers, does that stop you from having a home?! there are risks everywhere in life, and each and everyone of us are aware of this, but this certainly wont stop us from living the lives we desire for ourselves.
if she was a prostitute and wanted to abort her customer's child, she would still have that right... whether you like what she does or not.

So, which world is unreal? The one you're in?
For your information, legality doesn't translate to morality.
LGBT is a crime here in Nigeria...and it is completely Legal in some other countries.

sadly, you AND I believe that what this evil woman did is a crime by law, FACT!!!
while you believe that abortion is a crime, while the majority of the world DOESNT, FACT again!!!

Now it has moved from consensual sex to rape.

i am just giving you plausible reasons as to why people (even YOU) would selfishly accept abortion AND/OR plausible reason why this deranged women threw that baby in the dustbin... but hey, i am waiting for your answer.

A40:
A-40 doesn't dodge from nothing. The fact still remains Alonso's crash dropped Vettel's chances by half especially with more than half of the race yet to be decided. Without them flags odds are Vettel would have gone on to win the race. You can debate the extent but to claim it had no influence in the outcome of the winer is a bold faced lie

how can anyone's chances be dropped by half when the man was still P1 and lapping faster than both Mercs, at restart?! get real, and accept this as SOLELY their mistake.

We all know that Captain Obvious which begs the question why didn't you just accept Alonso read the situation poorly and stop this great driver megedefegede you have chatting ad nauseum. That crash was not an instance of great driving

guilty as charged

If I ask you to show where I used the words 'NO GAP' now you would start doing acrobatics and gymnastics like someone who Magun side effects dey worry. Look at that crash again and tell me what Guti did wrong

come on bro, we aint gonna play on words... no gap, or as you wrote:"a non existent window", is exactly the same thing.... which i did call a gap in my reply, which is a similar thing (and you didnt have a problem with that)

Explain why Alonso himself admitted he could not see past Gutierrez's rear? How does protecting your position contradict me? Unless you expected Guti to act like a sitting duck and let King Alonso through. Not like it would be the first time he's had such expectations

the point IS/WAS if there was no existing window, then why protect any "position"? keeping the racing line would normally do the trick, if there is no gap (aka window)

You seem to be allergic to paying attention to details. Se ko si?
I never said the car is not better. This is visible even to the blind. I said their resurgence and the McLaren demise is not completely unconnected to Alonso's waning ability

you are saying that Alonso had anything to do with Ferrari poor showing, while i am telling you that it is bollocks and only the "car" is to be blamed. Schumacher at his prime couldnt have done any better than what Alonso did.

as for how you can claim that Alonso's abilities are lessening, since he has been the better driver at Mc Laren, and managing a shiit car for the past year... is a mystery to me.

Secondly Kimi did not challenge for the top like you erroneously claimed

IMHO, finishing 4th in the overall standing, behind only his teammate, shows that YES he was indeed challenging at the top (aka Mercs)... unless you saw anyone else finishing in the overall championship between the Mercs and Ferrari?

Yes! Schumacher has made many boneheaded mistakes. And even intentional ojoro, the incident where he rammed into Villeneuve I think and got disqualified the rest of the year. The difference is I admit! Not chat long winded megedefegede on why other drivers don't understand Alonso's 'genius'

when Schumacher did all the boneheaded mistakes that you mentioned above, i doubt you believed that "the mighty had fallen"... did you?

LaExpert:
I can ASSURE you that you won't die from abstinence.
Abstinence works for EVERYONE...or would you tell me of someone that was harmed for abstaining?

if abstinence works for you then so be it, you can indulge in it as much as you want, but dont expect everyone to live such miserable life, just because thats what you have chosen for yourself and people around you.

As regards the bold, before you attack me; do you really think a sane person will also think;
Taking the life of a baby and putting the mother at the risk of losing her life and all the post abortion dangers...and also leaving the mother in an physical, emotional and psychological trauma is better than safely delivering a baby (saving the mother's life) and putting the baby in public thereby giving him a 'little' chance at life.

what you wrote above only matters to people who are "forced" into having an abortion. just as much as i am telling you that it is WRONG to force a woman to have a baby, it is equally wrong to force her to have an abortion. let HER look at all the options available to her, and decide what she wants for herself, her life and her body. but i repeat, if she does NOT want that pregnancy to go to term, she has all the rights to take whatever measures in order to terminate it.

Something is definitely with you if you believe the former is better...but like I said before, if abortion isn't worse, then they are the same.

you do know throwing a live baby in the trash is a CRIME, while having an abortion isnt (in the real world), right?!
if a father rapes his teenage daughter, would you still want that demon child to be born?
if armed robbers raped your wife, would you still want that evil child to be born?!

faites:
If this girl had sold this baby to a childless couple, people here would still castigate and call her wicked.

just because there are many childless couples dying to have a child shouldnt be a reason to force these unfit mothers to have these unwanted babies. let these childless couples go to the many orphanages all over Nigeria, and adopt one of the unwanted kids there... or better yet, let them adopt one of them kids begging at street corners. no need for women to add any more unwanted kids to these lot.

LaExpert:
Yes, people are against abortion.
Abstinence is better...it doesn't harm anyone.

Abortion is actually 'worse' than what the lady did...or maybe the same.

if abstinence is what works FOR YOU, then by all mean abstain from sex, and let others deal with this issue the best they see fit.
if you believe that aborting a foetus that aint got an active brain, nor a heartbeat or even breathing is worst than throwing a live newborn in the dustbin/gutter to let it die, then something is seriously wrong with you.

ChynoBEATS:
You talk as-if we made them have unprotected sex..

having unprotected sex is just 1 of the reason why people can get pregnant, there are also accidents such as broken condoms, failed contraceptive measures etc... or simply a wrong assumption that they aint in their ovulating period. is that a crime?!

You talk as-if she doesnt know the result of such typa sex

as much as having unprotected sex CAN result in a woman being pregnant, it is NOT always the 100% outcome. also many wrongly believe that pulling out can result in them NOT being pregnant.

You talk as-if she's not aware of what pregnancy is

not all women believe they can get pregnant while having unprotected sex. also, pregnancy is what "may" happen when having unprotected sex during a woman's ovulating period (focus on the word MAY).

You talk as-if she has no idea of how to be a mother

if you actually believe that anyone having unprotected sex is automatically an expert on motherhood, then you best wake up. many ignorant people having unprotected sex these days... let us not punish them by forcing them to solve their problem by making another mistake.

you talk as-if she's never had someone to cater for her when she was an infant

if you believe that this is only what is needed for a new mother to care emotionally/physically and financially for a newborn child, then no wonder you dont understand the problem here.

Is it the societies fault or her's?

being pregnant will ALWAYS be her fault, but then she should be allowed to decide how to fix this problem, the best SHE sees fit... it sure shouldnt be society to put their mouth in her business and decide what she can or cant do. let her make that ultimate decision.

Since she knows she cant cater for such why go through the process of making one at the 1st place??

having children is NOT the only reason why people have unprotected sex, get real bro!

oluwabond:
there is notin wrong with her leg(s) bro. I will upload her videos on youtube later so dat u can see it

bro, i aint no expert but i know damn well that a gsd's leg shouldnt look like that when lying