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Stupedinluv:
You must be reading your bible with your anus then.

if you dont know that women have an INFERIOR status in the Bible, then i suggest you "also" start reading the Bibe with your anus , in order to educate yourself!

women cheat for the same reasons that MEN cheat

pinceprinz:
This and abortion are utter social vices. Abortion ain't better cos

but yes, of course, we should continue forcing these UNFIT/UNWILLNG mothers to have these unwanted kids, so that they can throw them in garbage bins and gutters.

halfricanadian:
I know but u condeming marriage

I too never loved marriage but as i grow i realised life journey requires some basic things

condemning marriage?! you mean condemning people who are expected to stay married at all costs, even if miserable, due to some phoney vows about unconditional love

yet people are still against abortion...

halfricanadian:
Calm down marriage is d best wen u married to sumone who gives u peace of mind

open your mind.... ANY r/ship (whether married or not) is the best when with someone who gives you peace of mind.

Iheakonye:
It seems u r talking from experience. Nxt time dont rush in2 it hu, dat is if der will b another

so because i am educated on a subject, means that i am guilty of it?! i am educated on the bible and its verses, while i aint religious. i am educated in the issues of HIV/AIDS, while i aint infected. i am also educated in the plight of gays and lesbians, while i aint gay nor lesbian. i am educated about women, while i am a man... and i am educated on stoopid people, but i surely aint one. so the fact that you believe that i need to have been married to know about the fallacy, is quite funny.

i have NEVER believed in marriage, will NEVER be foolish enough to get married, the day someone shows me the benefit of getting married then i will evaluate this madness.

@A40
i like the way you finally dodged that "Alonso's crash is the reason Vettel lost" state of mind. i am glad i was able to make you see reason on this issue. on with the others....

A) yes, that wasnt Alonso's best move but let us blame it on the McLaren car's speed, speed that was inexistant last season. so he has to get used to this faster car, lol! all the greats have had crashes.

B) YOU are the one contradicting yourself, 1st you say there was NO gap, and then you say:"Are we saying Gutierrez shoulda acted like a sitting duck and do nothing to protect his position?" so which one is it?!

C) i KNOW that Kimi is washed up, yet he finished 4th in the championship last yr, right behind Vettel. so if this has NOTHING to do with the car being "now" better, then how did this "washed up" driver finish so high in the championship? Ferrari is better today than it was in the last 2yrs that Alonso was there, FACT!!!!!

D) what an hypcorite talking about Alonso making one single error being the end of his driving career, as if "your" great never made any.
remember the Belgian GP98 when Schumacher rammed into the back of Coulthard?! are we to say that he was also a m0ronic driver that couldnt intelligently pick the right time to pull of an overtake?!

mad airline people, i guess common sense is not common.
btw did they say where the original 2pm flight was?

a permit to have a gun IN YOUR HOME, and not walking around with it

it will make ABSOLUTELY no difference, until the day the "Bible" views women as equal as men!

Iheakonye:
MRBrownJ. For better for worst till death do us path was one of d vow men took during wedding. Its better not to make a vow than to vow n not to fufill it. Every marriage has her own trials, it is when one can stand d n pass d time of those trials dat d juicy part of d marriage comes up. Most broken homes n single parent don't raise as effective children as to compare to those children from a love filled atmosphere. When i say unconditional love, I mean d one dat u don't disrespect ur wife, raise hand on her, flirt with other women in front of he, come home late @night for no reason etc. Men r logical thinkers women r emotional thinkers, if a man knows how, where n when to address his wife's fault it will go a long way 4both of dem.

bwaaaah, what a bunch of gibberish.... stop fooling yourself and let me educate you

A) the vows that people take during marriage DO come with guidelines about what you can and CANT do in marriage (its called COMMON SENSE). but if you really believe that these nonsense vows about "til death do us part" should never be broken, then let me ask you... IF YOU REALIZE AFTER MARRIAGE THAT:
- your wife is a ritualist and she sacrificed and ate your 4 young children for money ritual, would you still stay married to (and love) this demon?
- your wife is a nymphomaniac that is fukcing EVERYBODY (from gateman to driver, houseboy and the neighbours, while not forgetting all her colleagues), and DNA test shows that you are NOT the father of your 4 kids, would you still stay married to (and love) this mad woman?
- your wife (and her lover) tried to poison you, lay a curse on you, and finally try to murder you, in order to steal your wealth, would you still stay married to (and love) this criminal?

the reality about married life is that people say these vows but they dont really mean them, and the minute a spouse do fukc up, then they will get whats coming to them.

B) as much as it is best for children to be raised by 2 loving/caring parents, its much better for these same children to be raised by a single parent (or separated parents) if/when their parents are inadequately educating these kids, by beating/fighting/shouting/cursing at one another everyday. so as much as 2 is best, if they dont get along then they WONT be the right role model for these kids and they better divorce for the sake of the kids.

C) men dont suddenly turn against their spouse (and vice versa) for no damn reason, some of these spouse sometimes become a different person after marriage, and thus are acting in an unthinkable manner, demand for the impossible, expect the unimaginable, and even, do the unforgivable. so, the person before marriage may NOT be who you settle with and there is no other way but to divorce, if she is doing what you are fully against.

all of this depends on WHY that person got married at the 1st place

Iheakonye:
Loving ur wife uncondtionally is d greatest thing u can do for ur children as dis affect their moral values of life which in turn affect d society in which dey live n d world at large. As a father, d way u treat ur wife determines d way ur son will treat his own wife n also give ur daughter d view of d type of man dey will settle down with in d future. Liking it or nt fathers pass down unto der children what is embedded in dem. Statistically, children with gud moral behaviour n dat also do well in schools r those dat live in a home where love is d order of d day, if d relationship btw d father n dat of d mother is bad, it only means dat d father to children relationship will also b bad, which will in turn affect d children mindset of life. It is also observe dat most men dat don't av gud relationships with their parents also don't av gud relationship with der children n der children too is also likely not to av gud relationship with der children. FATHERHOOD is 4 men dat knows d importance of legacy not for those that just want to b called daddy. LOVE ur WIFE, LOVE ur CHILdDREN u av influenced d society n d world at large. Other means of changing d world can also b contributed.

may i ask: how would loving her unconditionally help the children?
if the r/ship is bad then let the parent sort the issue out maturely or move their separate ways... and let the kid understand the reason WHY it is bad, instead of being in a r/ship that may be DISRESPECTFUL/DISHONEST to you or your union, in the name of "love".
also, just because a r/ship is bad, does NOT mean the father/son relationship will suffer, far from it, so long as you are fully HONEST with your kids about what is happening. better to have a separated parents that have a great r/ship with their kids, instead of miserable married parent poisoning children's mind by accepting what aint right, in the name of "love".

Marxxx:
wow you really have it all figured out....

it works for ME, now care to finally answer my question: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference in anybody's life?

Pyrrho:
OP, did the man leave the church without breasts?

abeg help me ask these people how this person was "delivered", and/or why no miracles happened then?! lol

this is no different than https://www.nairaland.com/2329348/shocking-pics-man-woman-breast

funarosho:
how to show her Dat I'm for real

what about BEING REAL?! if you supposedly care for her then showing her that you actually care should come naturally.

- spending quality time with her
- taking an interest in what she does
- listening to her
- understanding her
- guiding her
- helping her (other than with money)
- go out of your way to be with her

if the only way a man can show care/affection is by handing money to a gal, then thats not love, thats a biatch/trick giving money to whoever is PIMPING his desperate aaass

Youngpo413:
The truth is even if she do all these, the guy will still dump her, he is tired and looking for a way to bail... True true, one man's meat is another man's poison cos personally I love them FAT.

so what you are saying is that, if you are dating a fat woman, and she suddenly start to get slim, you will continue in this union without saying a thing?

@OILOFGLADNESS
so you actually believe that because of "love" we men become zombies and can never be HONEST again to our partners?!
honesty is one of the foundation of love and expecting someone to be fake and pretend that all is good, is NOT love. yes that man should help in the pursuit of slimmer figure but that doesnt change the fact that he MUST tell her what time it is, and what the consequences will be if she doesnt succeed. also there are criterias/reasons why we do fall in love, and when these criterias aint met any longer then the union must be re-evaluated. yes, we (men) know that women would rather that we love them unconditionally, but that is just in Disney fairy tales. everything that changes in your partner (or the r/ship you guys have) must warrant a re-evaluation.

also there are laws/threats made by partners in marriage all the time, example: i dont want you to work, i want the house cleaned and dinner ready as i enter the house, i dont want you to talk to stranger, you cant have any contact with your ex or former life, etc, and if the partner ACCEPT these sometimes crazy laws, then they have to abide by them. a woman cant say "ok" to her husband and then come on NL to biatch about these laws. she should have said NO (like an adult) in her partner's face, and suffer whatever consequences came with such action.

as for the comparison, we are ALL guilty of it. we dont mind when women compare our jobs/cars/house/wealth etc to that of the neighbours or whoever.

next time, get some damn HEALTH INSURANCE

falconey:

No you must spend.

jaykaylegend:
you wanna show her you care and you don't wanna spend? impossicant

younghartz:
you must spend o!!! Its really important

so you guys believe that the only way to show care to a woman, is with money?! how sad!
i guess, if you ever run out of money, your r/ship is over, right?

Marxxx:
You know a lot of people think bcause their income is on the low side or because they do not have a good job that is why they are not married .But I believe that is entirely not true. I want people to really think about it consciously and know the main reason why they are still single

and these people wouldnt be wrong, would they? remember i told you that these people marry to get that deluded status of "i am finally HAPPY"... well, part of the flaunting process is to have the biggest wedding possible, and invite EVERYONE so that they can now confirm their "happiness" status, and flaunt it even more. and sadly, these wedding receptions, traditional weddings etc COST MONEY. the majority refuse to just have a quiet civil marriage, the whole world needs to hear about their weddings (and they even have printed gifts to remind everyone in their own home, after the wedding). many have NO money yet, and subsequently will indebt themselves for that charade which bring them ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, apart from the flaunting of their new status.
to those who have the money for it, so be it, but let us have a minute of silence for our fallen comrades who have been blackmailed by their spouse into borrowing the cash, thus starting married life in debts.

its a self esteem thing, and a person who is secure about his r/ship/status, does NOT need to flaunt it to the world. i dont need people to confirm that i am happy, i KNOW i am. i was already happy while single, and a common law union is just an added bonus.

have you ever asked yourself why every time Nigerian women hear about someone getting married, their first answer is "how lucky she is"?!
the gal could marrying a monster, for all they know...

Marxxx:
well you have a point. But I want you to look inwards now...search your heart deeply; why are you not married?

as i stated earlier, i dont NEED to... the important question should be: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference to what we already have.

Marxxx:
But you know in a relationship sacrifices are being made. Let say the lady in context had to leave her job and settle with you. After some years you guys were no longer compatible how will she get her part of the fortune realised when both of you were still together. How can she get proper compensation. This can go the other way too so how will you make claims if you are not properly married....? How does she claim your property when something bad happens.......? have done all the hidden calculations?

with prenups and what not, if a man really doesnt want to leave anything to his partner, then he can... (whether married or not). any man unmarried CAN/SHOULD sign a contract with his common law spouse to make sure that all their properties are protected. this contract covers only property that they acquired before they met their partner, and doesnt bind people to stay together.

the REAL problem here is that, sadly, in Africa marriage is a do or die issue, and the REAL focus has been lost. you have:
A) parents wanting to marry their offsprings, in order to cash in on the bride price, would groom them from an early age, telling them that the ONLY aim in life is marriage. so even miserable women (who have absolutely nothing valuable to offer a man) would seek for marriage and price themselves like a gem, due to that African way of thinking. women are no more human beings, they are valuable live stocks!

B) also, there is such a big social/religious/family/peer pressure for people to get married because marriage = happiness in their mind. today, people in Nigeria dont seek for marriage because they found someone that they love and want to spend the rest of their natural life with, they seek for marriage as a STATUS.... the "i am finally happy" status, and they will gladly flaunt it, even if miserable in their false union.

Marxxx:
lol...your are funny. The Law does not recognise your union with a girlfriend. I do not live in sydney. It was an off job. But seriously do you believe in having a girlfriend only? How many responsible Nigerian ladies will subscribe to that?....

my aim is not to satisfy the "law", my aim is to satisfy ME. i will only do what is beneficial to me.
here is a clue: why should i need a piece of paper to confirm something that i feel in my heart?! if i love someone then my ACTIONS towards her will seal/confirm that, not a piece of paper. i will even go further and say that this piece of paper is detrimental to ANY r/ship, because it binds you to a person.... and many miserable people who dont love their partner anymore (and want out), still stick to that miserable union due to that damn piece of paper.

btw such woman is not only a gf, she turns into my wife, just like married people... just without the piece of paper

watts75:
Then who is targeting ISIS? surely not the West, because I can't still understand how only 1 month of Air strikes brought down Saddam Hussein government during the Gulf War and 2yrs of America plus NATO air strikes have done nothing on ISIS.

everything that happened in Irak was a FAILURE and the root/reason why terrorism is spreading so easily all over the world today.

they cant bomb people for years, telling them that this is the only way for peace, and expect these same people not to seek for peace the same way. this demon was created by the west.

if my mother gets as happy as this lady then i can only bless the activity

funarosho:
Please how can I show a lady I just met dt I truly care abt her. Aside spending for her ooo. Pls it's really important

what do you actually mean by you "care" about her?!

Marxxx:
"Why are you not married"? That was the first question my colleague asked me when he came to pay a visit at the hotel in sydney. "I checked your profile I was surprised you are still single". I thought that was all but when I resumed next day the senior partner who was the team head asked same question. I thought it was only in Nigeria marriage was a big issue but these guys ain't smiling. It was like being a senior manager and yet single was a taboo. Whenever I retire to my desk I always see series of phone digits written in scrap papers placed on my desk. The first time I called one of the lines it was a white lady spewing thrash about romance someone I didn't even know. The attitude I got from the team was not too great because of my marital status. The females from the support department didn't help either. The compliments I got from them was . When my team attended a pool party for networking I didn't get any attention at the party. Simply because everyone at the party came with his or her spouse and they did not find it convenient holding a conversation with a single black dude...I thank God the job is over and am back to my father land...

So apart from money or other financial hitches...If you are single and above 28 why are you not married. Honest/sincere opinions.

the simple answer would be: why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free
in today's society, living with someone that you aint married to is "normal", and therefore, there is no reason to be stressed if unmarried.
i think the issue with you was that you were SINGLE, and as much as there is nothing wrong with it, having a gf isnt "that" difficult.... especially as a black man in Sydney.

goodmorning40:
Tell them u have HIV that way they would want to remain just friends

unless they are HIV+ themselves.

if "doing bad thing" is mentionned then it can only be WRONG!

sooooo thats why Empire had that gay twist... i was also wondering how that actor could act as a gay man without vomiting after each scene, go figure!

@Juhan
next time a guy seek for a friendship with you, 1st ask them WHY, and patiently wait for the answer.