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Tomcorp:
Brotherhood Code of Observation;
2. Don't marry her if she doesn't have a job or business. as much as anyone can be jobless, if they are actively seeking for work and/or tried and fail in thieir own business, then that shouldnt dismiss them automatically. whats importnat here is THEIR CHARACTER:

3. Don't marry her if she loves extravagant lifestyle. if a woman has the job/income/business that can afford her the extravagant lifestyle, then why should this be a bad thing?
aint you the one who claimed that if she doesnt have a job/business she is no good? so now if she has a job/business and spend lavishly on what she desires, its also bad?

4. Don't marry her if she likes to go out alot. isnt it through going out a lot that you met her? what about if she now wants to go out a lot WITH YOU?

5. Don't marry her if she is from a poor background. Their parents sees them as saviors that will uplift their family from poverty, and she will bank on you to do that.90% of Nigerians women come from poor background... just saying

6. Don't marry her if her mother is a divorcee or baby mama. what does the sin of her mother got to do with her? does the above also stand for SONS of these women? lets not be hypocrites here.

10. Don't marry her if she doesn't know how to make money but wants to squander yours. unless a man allows a woman to squander his money, there is no way a woman could do it.

12. Don't marry her if she keeps too many friends. so being friendly is a problem today? or is it your insecure mind talking? a beautiful happy friendly person would probably have a lot of friends, what is so wrong with that?

Sapasenator:
https://www.nairaland.com/8035527/please-what-should#129201430
This is a follow up to thread above and I just wanted to add more flesh and bring to the family discussion section.
Quick summary, the op had a good job offer and and the husband wanted her to reject a good job offer out of his own senses of insecurities.
Like I commented, as a woman your career is everything, I am not advising that you neglect your husband but just to give a heads up and how to order important priorities in your life.
If you get your career wrong as a woman, you will most likely be unhappy the rest of your life.
Your career is more important, than husband, children, family, church, mosques, religion and every other thing else.
A successful career gives you control over and a big in life.
Do not give up a good career because of your husband or family and a career does not mean an anyhow job, it means that job that has a great potential to make you blow and very successful in life.
You will know it when you land that job. If you do not have the job yet, carefully select a course of study that will guarantee and very good career.
With a good career and money, respect will come, better men will take notice of you.

jasent:
Yes I was sending the money because she asked. Yes I expected a positive response from her because I wrongly assumed that her request from me was her way of giving me greenlight. I know better now

crisubanijunior:
…so is he supposed to be the one training another person’s future wife with urgent 5k? Atleast if they were dating, he might incidentally forge ahead with marriage plans since he had known her for a while. With that, spending anything on her is justified because he knows its a wise investment. No be to dey throway money for something that has gone south already.

jasent:
Thanks. But I was not looking at buying her affection though.

jasent:
Lol. Wives don't respect their husbands?

cutecommend:
If you love a girl so much, can you sponsor her in higher institution?

labake1:
I got a job after 3 years of searching and the salary is higher than my husband's salary in fact it comes with an official car. Although my husband doesn't have a car yet. After telling him about the offer, he told me that I should reject the job because he won't allow his wife to get richer than him.

What should I do?

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