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atiku4President:
That's insubordination if either you or your would- be wife is a member of the Church. Even if none of you are, you think the house of God is a place to do a thing like that without the consent of the man overseeing the affairs of the Church. What kind of a generation are we and how do human beings reason these days? How do you see it that you are engaging a sister in a Church where the pastor is not aware of the relationship? You think a Church is a social gathering? Tomorrow if anything happens to the relationship/marriage (but God forbid) social media will say you even got engaged before the Pastor. My friend, humble yourself and appreciate the pastor saved the image of the Church.

iykeklef:
mugu..ode!!

Myhusband:
I served in the same anambra and all these your acknowledgement is quite funny


modified

way of life

Anambra Nnewi people are exposed due to their people being the most travelled in East but their love for money is second to none. when it comes to money, human live had zero value to them


Anambra people believe in make it young and die Rich. their interest for money made them to involve in series of ritualism to look for money, if I'm lying non Igbo that served there can burst my lies, you can hardly see obituaries of old people in Anambra, Nnewi most esp (obituaries aged from 40 below) and when you listen to what causes these death you just shake your head


do I need to talk about N20 poison that can seized your legs, I got a job at Nnewi after service but I've to pick race when a man that was working in bank leg was poison with this stuff


their ladies

they're so pretty but you would never want to invite them at home, the fear of HIV and a Lady that might have been killed alive (a story of a corper that invited one and she died on spot the guy couldn't complete his service and was compel to be jail for offence he's innocent of)

just tell their ladies you're in abroad or you've container on the sea, na yakata dem go fall for you, some might even dash you money ignorantly


Philanthropic life

corpers that served there can testify projects carried out there always meet a serious setback because the rich men they always seek assistance from do turned them down

what surprise me more is their rich men, I mean those with big and exotic cars who bring kegs to fetch to buy water outside


only Igbo like them understand that you must not envy big houses at that end because the source my scare you. I met a Yoruba who called himself herbalist there, I stylishly asked him what brought him to Nnewi and he said don't you know Igbo like ritual a lot, that was prompt is relocation

Enmity

many of their kinsmen can't even go/visit village because of their pull them down syndrome that had become their habit at that end. I have a corper friend who always change to mufti whenever she's travelling from CDs just because of this wickedness of this people. the only Igbo that might relate well with you are those that have stepped out of their village and east to west, south or north, you see those that live in the village don't mess with them or else you're a goner, person wey dey used their own for suya, how much less non relative ?


marital life


if you want to marry Anambra lady, don't make a mistake to settle with the one in the village, you will regret your life. you can choose from those that live all their life out of east even among themselves in that Anambra there is always discrimination when it comes to marriage

I'm sure this is not news that some Igbo who aren't from IMO always runaway from mbaise girls, why this happened till date elude my common sense because their reason is not enough to justify such dumb rejection

Myhusband:
I served in the same anambra and all these your acknowledgement is quite funny


modified

way of life

Anambra Nnewi people are exposed due to their people being the most travelled in East but their love for money is second to none. when it comes to money, human live had zero value to them


Anambra people believe in make it young and die Rich. their interest for money made them to involve in series of ritualism to look for money, if I'm lying non Igbo that served there can burst my lies, you can hardly see obituaries of old people in Anambra, Nnewi most esp (obituaries aged from 40 below) and when you listen to what causes these death you just shake your head


do I need to talk about N20 poison that can seized your legs, I got a job at Nnewi after service but I've to pick race when a man that was working in bank leg was poison with this stuff


their ladies

they're so pretty but you would never want to invite them at home, the fear of HIV and a Lady that might have been killed alive (a story of a corper that invited one and she died on spot the guy couldn't complete his service and was compel to be jail for offence he's innocent of)

just tell their ladies you're in abroad or you've container on the sea, na yakata dem go fall for you, some might even dash you money ignorantly


Philanthropic life

corpers that served there can testify projects carried out there always meet a serious setback because the rich men they always seek assistance from do turned them down

what surprise me more is their rich men, I mean those with big and exotic cars who bring kegs to fetch to buy water outside


only Igbo like them understand that you must not envy big houses at that end because the source my scare you. I met a Yoruba who called himself herbalist there, I stylishly asked him what brought him to Nnewi and he said don't you know Igbo like ritual a lot, that was prompt is relocation

Enmity

many of their kinsmen can't even go/visit village because of their pull them down syndrome that had become their habit at that end. I have a corper friend who always change to mufti whenever she's travelling from CDs just because of this wickedness of this people. the only Igbo that might relate well with you are those that have stepped out of their village and east to west, south or north, you see those that live in the village don't mess with them or else you're a goner, person wey dey used their own for suya, how much less non relative ?


marital life


if you want to marry Anambra lady, don't make a mistake to settle with the one in the village, you will regret your life. you can choose from those that live all their life out of east even among themselves in that Anambra there is always discrimination when it comes to marriage

I'm sure this is not news that some Igbo who aren't from IMO always runaway from mbaise girls, why this happened till date elude my common sense because their reason is not enough to justify such dumb rejection

Snowale:
when we say no sex before marriage, they will abuse Islam, when we say marry young if you love each other and you have the means, they will say Islam preaches rubbish, some will say sex is different from marriage, now they will have to give birth to an SS child out of wedlock, still get married and the sin would be on their head forever. when the children finds out, they will hate their parents for it. Meanwhile, it is a 1/4 probability, I have an uncle like that, gave birth to just 2, luckily the two are AS.

reccy:
Dis one wan trend small..... If you like rename am like 50 times, we the progressive are not shaking at all. We are for pmb.... We love him and we will vote for him more and more....

pfadom:
[s]Why should the FG, when the SE state governments have not shown commitments except for Anambra Gov[/s].

EngrMarve:
Well I don't do girlfriend, does she need your forgiveness since you are not married to her? You are fornicating with someone's daughter and the dad is forgiving you, why don't you forgive her?

I do wife.
If she cheats I forgive her, that is love.

Danzakidakura:
they should have cut off his prick. If you [s]know how wicked does vigilantes can be mostly those ones in SE terrorising innocent people but if they see army vuuuuum[/s]

ElonEmpire:
I met this girl online, we happen to come from same LGA, We got talking and later became friends.

Months later she complained about having accommodation Issue. Now, me am hardly around because of the nature of my job so I felt is OK letting her go stay there at least to keep my apartment warm and clean.

Though this is not the first time am doing that,
For over 5 years now it has been people staying in my house because in a year I don't even sleep more than 2 months in my house.

The last person that stayed there was also a lady the few times I go home during her stay we are OK, more like brother and sister. In fact neighbors actually thought we were.

Now come this new girl I don't know her before, infact she has spent like 6 months in my house before I went back.

During those times she was catching feelings for
me weda she is serious about it or not I don't know but I told her point blank that I'm into a serious relationship and she should maintain her boundary when ever I come back.

Months later i travelled and see her in person..
To say that she is beautiful is understatement, she is definition of beauty. She is irresistable.

I have traveled couple of time after the first time and each of this time I try so hard to maintain my dignity, self respect and not to misbehave.
We sleep on same bed, though i have decide to be sleeping on the floor or another room. She changes in my presence.

I'm seriously going crazy right now about this girl..
Infact I see my self getting Jealous about the guy she is seeing recently.

I don't know how to hand the situation, I can't afford to misbehave because, 1st she call me brother.

2ndly considering the circumstance that brought her to my house I can't afford to misbehave because am this one person who don't like taking advantage of women.

And lastly I can't cheat on my girl.
But I can't ask her to leave because for now she have no where to go.

Please how do I handle the situation?!

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

MiVida:
wait well.

partnerbizn4:
Hypocritical society.

They tell a young girl to keep her unwanted pregnancy.

Yet they scold their brother for wanting to marry her later, saying she is loose.

CrimeKsmart:
I can predict your tribe with the kind of hate you carry about Islam up and down. Yoruba Christians dnt behave like this only the igbo Christians make this kind of submission.

Why can't you just love your Christianity instead of trying by all means to dent the image of other people's religion.

If Islam encourages killing and slaughtering of other people who do not practice Islam, then Christians can never be found where Muslims are the majority.

Sometimes you just need your brain to process some lies/propaganda before you swallow it

itsme01:



wrong bet, and lost all is major stakes and political relivance.. never be fooled by the [s]likes and shares on nairaland and twitter[/s] number of ballot papers in the ballot box

Truly Buhari showed [s]his evil and badluck wishers that he is a very furtunate man[/s] mastery of rigging to all.


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itsme01:



wrong bet, and lost all is major stakes and political relivance.. never be fooled by the [s]likes and shares on nairaland and twitter[/s] number of ballot papers in the ballot box

Truly Buhari showed [s]his evil and badluck wishers that he is a very furtunate man[/s] mastery of rigging to all.


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voltron14:
Was he thinking or was God speaking?

sassysure:
Lots of skin infection flying around and mostly guys.

When they don't proper hygiene serious

U wear boxer 2 days straight yet u open mouth to say girls smell. They hardly groom.their body.

The average naija body is a breeding ground because of the humidity. When we do clean up, we use only soap and water. Sometimes only water. Is that one clean up?

Germs breed mostly in the kitchen and bathroom. And on the body, ur boxers, bushy private parts etc.

Guy, meet a dermatologist. A simple culture will show what's wrong with u and adequate treatment administered.

MissGhosted:
You are a born animal. Your daughers will be raped by dogs like their papa.

Ladylite:

How are you 23 but thinking like 13? Grow up man.
Get your brain out of your deeq and live for more.


Life, love and relationships are more than sex.


Why focus on what can not last for long. Focus on being great and successful to a point that it's the ladies who will beg you for sex.


Improve your worth and stop think mindless chatter. Life is sweeter than sex.

You are still living with someone, and you are not even rich yet you are thinking about it.

2SWT:
For real?

I seriously pity the girl allowed a guy who thinks like you to deflower her.

If you think she's cheating why not talk about it with her instead of asking total strangers?

ev4real:
You have no right to slap any female personality. It doesn't make sense. You could have gotten your answer without slapping her. Learn to control your anger going forward. Sorry for the heart break.

MissGhosted:
mad man. If you know me, you will be careful. Shuu. Go an Bleep your mama dry toto

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.
I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...
I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab.
We did things together.
We were in love and had sex when we feel like it.
We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...
I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends,I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual.
During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred.
I didn't know their was a video recording of the act.
When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...
When my guy find out that I cheated on him he was furious.
I denied it initially but when he show me the sex clip I admit it but defend myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual.
I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to.
He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...
He show up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online.
I beg him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time.
That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him.
That I will regret the day I met him.
That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...
He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.
What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

CreepyBlackpool:
Give me your contact, I can help you move on

gurujoe:
God bless Innoson Nwa nnewi
God bless me Nwa nsukka

Jossyroyal1:



You have a point OP

When people generalises, it only shows how lowly and unintelligent they are in terms of reasoning. How can a sane mind say “Women have nothing to offer in a relationship other than sex” just because of the hate for the opposite sex?
By such generalization, you have stupidly included your mom, aunties, sisters and other female folks in your life into the bracket of sexual objects.

Go to most homes, you will realise it's women that's shouldering financial, moral responsibilities, and overseeing the well being of the family except you think relationship is limited to boyfriend and girlfriend. Marriage is a relationship also. There are bulk of women out there achieving great stuffs that everybody in your generation combine cannot achieve now or in generations to come.

Well, congratulations to all those who said women has nothing to offer than sex. Except your sisters, mom, aunties are hermaphrodites

Thatssobeyonce:
Yeah thts possible too
But what ur missing is Trust
For every relationship to work out there must be trust
Nd ion knw if you've had a bad experience before but not every lady is a slay queen or sexualises herself
Real women think about their respect and reputation first.
And u seem insecure nd karma is real bcox u can't sleep wit over a hundred ladies nd expect to marry a Virgin dear
Virgins deserve virgins
Thank you!

omoharry:
if all the women u have come across are stupid with have nothing to offer, then it means u are either too broke to go for the intelligent and independent ladies or you are just as stupid as the ladies you usually date.You only attract your kind.This is why there is room for dating in order to determine if the lady is someone u can start a relationship with or not .Well what do u broke guys do these days ?u ask a girl out for a Mr Biggs date, then the next thing is "when are u coming to my house "..then after several random sex , u come to naira land and rant of how useless Nigerian women are.Thesame women that are wives to so many men , they support their husband both financially and emotionally without announcing to the world about their deed some are even bread winners .women like ur mother that went through so many sacrifice to raise u up.Are u saying ur mother and sister ,cousin and aunties are all stupid with nothing to offer?remember they were young ladies before they became women of substance .Pls stop abusing all Nigerian women .we have the good the bad and the urgly among them.