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Akuko. Na today?

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Maybe shes not ready for marriage yet. Some are mature at 22 while some are explorers. She doesn't hold the marriage in high esteem. Threaten her to chose between the two of you or you will leave. See her reaction. She should get her acts together na.

Lalami3232:
Lol . Oga make I advise you as a fellow man. In this life eeh, na only two things na dey involve in most cases and this same "2 things" law still apply for this ur matter, make I give you the possibilities:

1. Maybe the guy and ur wife na just normal friends wey don share alot in common, though without sex sha. The friendship don too tight sotey ur wife dey find am difficult to leave the guy.
2. The guy na ur wife one time bedmate wey still dey bust ur wife head with he sex and friendship.
So wetin u go na to talk to ur wife maturedly without any shouting or false accusation because u no get proof say dem dey do anything evil. Tell her say u no dey comfortable with the friendship cus preeq and toto matter be like bread and butter for this generation, very easy to eat.
If she still no stop, then u go leave her alone cus if u use force, she go dey dodge dey go meet the guy for back. But my number 1 advise to u be say, OGA DO DNA FOR UR CHILDREN OOOO, E GET WHY.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day my wife go born girl pikin, I go cry like who dem say na Lai Mohammed be he papa".

I know someone that has four. Another has 3. The girl child takes care of her parents more. So leave matter

prof2007:
SOURCE: https://punchng.com/cbn-confirms-n410-25-as-new-official-exchange-rate/

On papers? How about enforcement? Mtheewwwww

Mecka:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/regional/north-central/463742-ortom-to-buhari-count-benue-out-of-grazing-reserves-plan.html

They are all waking up. What some people have seen since. Slavery don tire una las las

blinking001:
Imagine a mother abandoning her own children. Women are very terrible people.

But the man can! Double standards

mrvitalis:
Ondo governor is a man ...we igbos are proud of you man

Oh wait he has an igbo wife ...no wonder

Igbo women rock!

Driggs:
In case you didn't see it well the first time, I say God in his infinite mercies will help me to punish your cousin.

You harsh oh. But explain to us your reason so that we can broaden our own perspectives. Im curious to know the angle you are speaking from. Thanks.

If its done in the east now, you guys will start castigating the igbo people. The same people spitting ESN are asking whats wrong with this. My own is that you guys should call a spade a spade no matter whose ox is gored. Hypocrites!

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Serves her right. Anumanu

zeenaman:
I would like to hear from experienced couples here. 19th of this month made it two months since I've been married, yet my wife has not conceived. I'm getting a bit worried. We have intercourse all through her ovulation, though we plan on seeing the doctor this week.

Could you render advice as well as share your experience here? How long did it take you or your wife to conceive after marriage?

Everything you people will blame her, while the issue could be from you. Maybe you guys havent tried while shes in her ovulation. She should monitor her ovulation period then you strike. Thats if you both are ok. Medically, active couples can start complaining of not being able to conceive if after one year of been together and no pregnancy. Two months is very short

Mustiboy:
I've noticed how family convergence in the sitting room is quickly going into extinction. Despite that I had a playstation and personal computer while growing up, it was deemed disrespectful to remain in the room at night while everyone was in the sitting room.

Mum would make us watch Yoruba movies with her and harness those moments to bark life lessons at us, citing the moral lessons in each movie we watched. Dad, on the other hand, would ask how school went, ask after our friends, and stuffs like that. You must go out to welcome him at the sound of his car horn.

Today, you see kids whiling away on social media with the door to their room locked, not minding the presence of their father in the house. Not even the reality shows playing in the sitting rooms interest them anymore. How then will they bond with the rest of the family?

Kids nowadays can stay in their room all day and would only come out to eat, then they go back inside.


Being together in the sitting room is a great opportunity for family bonding. Some parents even allow locked doors in their house. You can't be my child and have your door locked. That's a privacy you won't be privileged to have under my roof. You must come to the sitting room to bond with your siblings and we your parents.

What do you think guys? Is social media the sole reason for kids locking themselves up in their room these days?

Why are they all smiling as if its always calm and lovey dovey? Why are the kids not throwing temper tantrums? Abeg its fake joor. Atleast a parent should be angry that one of the kids is misbehaving, ehhe, Thats what makes it a real family. See how organised the whole settings are.

Akuko na egwu! Abi making his region proud

CSTRR:
Shut up.
Just shut up.

Stop attracting problems for your people.

Thanks, man! Some people are just shallow

Eriokanmi:
The event took place not too long ago. You should remember everything naw

Very dry! Try again

tito44:
I am still amazed as to why a top General in the place of Chief of Army Staff should be flying in a old small turbo prop beechcraft 350 aircraft manufactured in the 70s. Is it that there re no modern aircrafts in NAF or NA fleet??

If the accident was indeed weather related, modern aircrafts wouldn't have just gone down like that..

In life, atimes, when something wants to happen, it will. Even the most obvious errors will go unnoticed. Thats life

Eriokanmi:
That's not the case. I suspect sabotage...have you forgotten the preceeding airforce jets crashes...the one in abuja and that of maiduguri?

Our government can't be trusted. They lie alot. You can imagine them saying the jet crashed during a heavy rain whereas, someone just said there was no heavy rain in kaduna. They'd just say something to make people think it was caused by bad weather. The plane exploded in the air... an eye witnes said so. Had the bad weather been an issue or its possible cause, the COAS would have been advised not to fly or the jet diverts its course, worst case scenario.

I don't trust this government.

I remember Arotile's case as well. How can a car reverse on a road with speed bumps mounted at intervals, now hit someone and the person would die just like that when she wasn't lying on the floor and got run over by the car? Common!

I also remember when abacha was in power and he wanted to eliminate our uncle Gen Diya his second in command then. Thank God for that brave and loyal officer who hinted General Diya of the heinous plans of abacha( may his soul rot in hell) . Abacha had sent a delegation to break the news of General Diya's mishap to family even when the plane had not been reported crashed. He sent a team to commiserate with his family shortly after take off of the plane which eventually crashed as plotted. Gen Diya had to divert his course to a hotel where he was watching his death announced on NTA.

Did he resign after that? How did he deal with the matter after the evil plot against him?

Three wise men! Lovely people

The wife's farewell is suspicious. Even after cheating, shes saying all that? Abi she was disguising her hurt. Shes like go well my boy, 'God don catch you idiot'

Speak for yourself biko. Which difficult times is worse than the one we already are in? Rubbish

Wetin com consign these people?

gentlestdude:
poor guy marrying whores all over again, take heart bro. hope your next wife will be a good wife.

She is a LovePeddler while he is the after one. She has never been married before but she is the one at fault. U people can generalize sha!

Aflix:
So Na IPOB still cause this one too Just type your rip and move ahead.

Na wa ooooo. This is really surprising to say the least

Its like you dont know that ipob gives some people orgasm here

BRATISLAVA:
You're talking to people who believe the success of marriage lies solely on the head of the wife.

Imagine how they need to be begged or promised something in return before they will do what needs to be done. Must a man be asked to do things around him? Can't he see they need to be done and just do them, rather than sitting like a prideful statue on a pole waiting till the red carpet is rolled out before he can come down from on high to do it.

They need soft words, but expect their women to jump to their rescue without batting an eyelash. Most Nigerian men are the ones who destroy marriage and make it more difficult than it needs to be with their tin god behaviors.

Many men believe in just providing for the family. Women try alot. Honestly. Its not only soft words, u need to practically beg and pet them and bend your neck where you are begging them oh.

I am actually enjoying this thread. I wonder how some low people are crying more than the bereaved. You can defer without insult. Lets enjoy the reactions biko

pyyxxaro:



Naa Uppercut with DDT e suppose give her

u go still carry her go hospital. Who lose? Better still, kill her and see what widowhood plus two kids tastes like

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

I was expecting this. Chai . But the man can watch her work to death yet its nothing. What if she breaks down? Its not as if she ordered him. This is a woman thats trying to make ends meet. Was she balancing and watching tv? Guy be considerate. Since i gave birth, i have not been frequenting my shop but hubby comes back and carries baby so that i can have a break. This is someone that left by 8 in the morning. Haba, is she a slave? She is trying for God's sake. Shes not an octopus na. Its condescending but she was choked up too. Its a matter of understanding oh. If you never marry, you need to calmdown. You go change baby dirty diapers, they will throw up on you. You will watch their poop to know their health status. Its what makes you a man.

Food is ready

Where is all these money coming from bikonu? Nigeria is broke?

PeaceJoyLove:
Paul Adefarasin has said his own. And he has said it with a clean heart. In this life, the sooner you realise you came alone, and sre leaving alone, the better for you. You dont have to let anyone define your life. All these commentators always wanting to trend shouldntske back seat..

Next topic please!

They are just making noise. I dont know why people can never respect someone's opinion. If given the opportunity, the people condemning him must have fled since

Slave trade reinvented, Nigerians. This film go sweet oh

Lol. The devil u created, has done a 360 degree turn