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jmoore:
The true picture is that the average Nigerian wants both gender. It is not all about looking for male.

We are 5 boys and 2 girls(twins).
My parents kept looking for a female child till the twins came.

That is it...Most family want a mix.

@Richgal, I really wonder what you wanted to hear from Nairaland

You know who he is, you went ahead to marry him..6years down, you are complaining.

What exactly do you want people to do? Condemn him like some ladies are doing up there, or praise you?

You dated a guy who enjoys being pushed and he refuses to start, isn't that a huge red flag?..Same way some men comfortably marry a woman who is just there to slay, bathe and wait for him on the bed..Only for them to realize how messed up they are when bills start coming in...

You saw the fire and comfortably allowed it to burn you...it is your cross you must carry it.

You cannot change him, he is who he is..People don't change...They only Improve to be better of or succumb to worst.

Marriage nowadays If he wins Bread, the lady must win akara(beans cake)..

If she wins Bread, the man must win Akara to strike a balance.

You have two options live with your cross, or stop pampering him.. if you do the first you are safe..

If you do the later, you are not .. The home will burn..It is like starving a slay wife of funds she feels entitled to..She will change the room temperature..

You, are already securing planB of dumping him, It will shock to know he will survive better sef..He has mastered his play games...Then you move on with single mom woes and pressure..

Your situation is terrible...You blinded yourself and walked deep deeper into the mess.

Tomek09:
Lol

Tinubu's political might in SW extends beyond Lagos.

The bullion van master in Bourdillion has a firm grip of South-West and its political future.

Sad.

It is indeed a disaster...

Two criminals...Imagine

One owns Lagos...

One tried to own Imo..

gasparpisciotta:
If Chicken egg is too costly try garden egg

Lol

Small nyash dey shake

stixxy:
Juju pass juju... Wike too rugged

You go fear when an Executioner and a norseman is a governor ..Amaechi na mugu..

He knew wike's ruggedity as a BAN...But he just dey do do anyhow..When he was a governor, wike was the bad guy behind the scene for dirty job.

LeoDeKing:
He represents Abia state.

Maybe to fill the space of credible candidates from Abia state.

Because I don't know who dem wan use as a credible candidate from Abia.

Lol...see you.

Abia has OUK, Uche ogah, Benjamin kalu...Mascot etc

Advocate500:
Any wasteful office should be scrapped, i love his speech were he made it clear that his government will be for the poor not the rich.

Rochas said same...

Hydronium:
Wow. I'm happy there are still men like you.
Other men believe you should do either of the above.
I believe that one should assess what makes his wife tick, and let her have it.

You must find a way to mix and balance the two..As a man.

Women are human..Some are super intelligent..You explore her but don't exploit her as her man.

Vinnie2000:
A Relative of mine borrowed N12000 from me. I was hoping to get my money back but this person (gender withheld) attempted to use Fake Alert to pay back!

I was so Angry and shocked because when it comes 'kabashing' and Speaking in tongue, the person comes first! I asked a friend why some religious pple cheat, he said its because they believe the Grace is sufficient for them! PLS, WHAT'S THE MEANING OF THIS SAYING?

A very wrong interpretation of that phrase bro.


First of, your cousin is a scammer..Lack of job has made many people choose the easy way with bible and fake speaking in tongues, they swindle very easy because we are in a society filled with feeble minds.

As to the phrase, one grace will overtake your 10years struggles.

Example, my friend who fixes my car, Has been living on a low with his family, One grace he found last year...Made him a multimillionaire now..His nee house will be opened before the year runs half.

Now that is grace that is sufficient enough.

Nonexisting:
Shots fired.

very serious shots o.

Frank25:
Let's gather and discuss ...., do church influences and amends one's character?,

let's share based on our knowledge

Yes...Because someone is talking and others are listening...Some one makes the rules and others follow.

Humans are influenced by what they read, hear, or watch.

It could be a negative influence or positive influence.

Bilabong:
Bia, mothers day no dey finish?

Everything that he did was great...I don't think they should be graded.

Mariangeles:
Of course, there are some that are just randomly rude, and I don’t bother replying. And I might not even remember the moniker after that day.

And there are some that are up to no good, and you just have to put them in their place, otherwise, it continues.

Haven’t you noticed that females get picked on and bullied too often on this platform by males?
And other males will just look away, instead of standing up for that female, and they’d still expect you not to react, ka I za ezigbo mmadu.
Then, when you have no choice but to defend yourself, mgbe ahu, gi awuzia…
Cowards juru nga!

I che na otu m di nga wu otu m di on a norm?
I recently saw some of my old comments on a 2019 thread, and I regretted knowing and being on nairaland.

I’d rather leave this place, than tolerate nonsense from any of them trouble makers.

It is not about being bullied as a female, In the male instinct, some use it as attention seeking...Even though it is unhealthy..

And the fact it is a faceless forum, expect any thing...But be yourself...Some females can hide under male handle to lunch missiles...Some males hide under female to behave any How as well.

Other males didn't just look away, They are minding their businesses..No sane male interferes in a male and female fight, Except the male is becoming physically aggressive...Or it is his woman, mother or sister.

Again, no sane man, I mean real man will engage in a fight with a woman...He only tell her the blunt truth and move...It is not in a place of man to keep trolling and fight a woman from a thread to another..It calls for mental evaluation at yaba left.

Not everyone walking on the street is healthy, not everyone behind the keyboard is mentally fit..

Again,there are individually differences, people view a common problem from different perspective and will definitely comment in a way that might get you reeled up...

Example, in thread i frowned at two virgins marrying, a lady came directly to let OP see my comment as rubbish and her advise stands..Even you came to condemn it as well because it doesnt align with yours..

If I am not confident and understanding, I would have changed it for you and her ..
So looking at this example, all men are not same...Some men will not take that...Infact They will attack and make you and that lady feel reduced.

And likely it will not end there...

And I have noticed it is just few ladies get attacked by such men.

The ladies that get attacked, and the yeye guys that attack women on all thread should just go and work on themselves..

Going back to your old post, you used to have that married woman vibe with maybe one or two kids ..But, how you have allowed yourself to be influenced negatively by ndi Ara juru ebe a is a full course that must be studied

Normally I will look away in this issue, but as long as it is you involved, I am concerned..

Be yourself here, have fun, meet good and great people here, don't tolerate rubbish from anyone.
But, don't drag it too long.

Illuminatiship:
That guy that called needs to be arrested tortured so he can confess what happened...

The guy that called is her boy friend...10pm normal call time for boy/girl friend at that age...

The problem is her calls outside alerted the person who raped her.

First person to be attested is security within that area.

The person she was on phone must show up with panicks...otherwise he is the second suspect...But, if he is coming from a distance it will be his saving grace.

Then, the sister should check if their was any guy disturbing her and she haď complained either in the past or present.

Mariangeles:
Almost the same thing with me. Apart from you and a few people I relate with on a regular here, the others are just random.

Why I took notice of that guy was the day he twisted one of my comments with his wicked heart, and vomited all sorts of rubbish.
So, every time I came across his comments by chance, I noticed that it was the same pattern.
Then today, I decided to go through his posts, and I realized the kind of person he is.

Some times you ignore, mana ya karia you have the permission to were oku wuzuo onye owu ahu...

Some will use your words to get under your skin which is normal here...Grow thicker skin biko..

It's becoming somehow..mgbe o wula they get on your nerves easily....Work on that..Don't allow it all the time.

Mariangeles:
Hapuga onye ahu!

Just go through his posts, I ga a ghota udi mmadu o wu.
O nwere ajo obi ebe umu nwaanyi no.
You noticed how he twisted my comment with his twisted devious heart?

There is a way I follow here, Only you and seun that I go to read comments..


Any other person is randomly mentioned and conversation starts...

I don't keep tabs..

Mariangeles:
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Shut up!

A man with a wicked heart like yours can never expect any good thing from anyone one, much less from a female.

O kwa i chotala okwu?

Ka m lewe unu ka cinema..

Mariangeles:
A chogbuola onwe’m n’okwu!

Ngwa e wela iwe.

Good you know...

Mariangeles:
It was more of he didn’t take offense from the K reply.
Op wu cool guy.

I hula gi!

A wukwala nwaanyi na a choputa fault na okwu nwanne ma o wu enyi Di ya gwara Di ya o...

By so doing, you create problem where it isn't in existence.

Mariangeles:
That guy was using scope to mock the guy.

Lol...Some comments here are from experience atimes.

I noticed people are open here, because of the incognito status of here..If not it will always be sugar coated lies all through...Ashi ocha!.

Mariangeles:
Some of you people just hate it when some men are not promiscuous as you expect them to be.
Do you think everyone regard sex the same way?

Not because a man is open and blunt with sex talks, it will now equate to him being promiscuous..

For your information, the silent ones are the ones eating everything under skirt and you won't hear pim! Holy nweje things...Scientific ways.

Men know themselves...

Ladies enjoy men who tell them lies and sweet talk them with what they want to hear...

Then she will be smiling like woman wey visit her in-law house for the first time .

Mariangeles:
Elee ke wu K?
O nwere ihe ojoo no na ihe o kwuru?

O kwa i biala ugbu a...

Zukwanuike!

That was an innocent k...

As you can see, I responded to his m
Next question na..

illicit:
Bring ur girlfriend(s) home

Ara!

Hydronium:
Speaking of leading the home as a man, do you insist on what you want? Or you confer together and come to a consensus?

Their is no way I can insist on what I want in almost every situation...But some things are not negotiable...

Things like religion, beliefs because we must be on same page for the spiritual direction of the family...

But some other critical decision, we put heads together for ideas..Even though an alpha, I don't like dominating/forcing my woman...I have realized you enjoy some ladies most when you guarantee them a little freedom and a mind of their own..

More like you sit back, and position her for the moves atimes...Some of them are go getters...Just like in a game of chess.

abobote:
USA are always ready for any eventuality,
Kudos

For a country that has witnessed several assassination of it's president..They learnt the hard way...24/7 ready for Any thing .

Hydronium:
Indeed, I have several live examples around me of those who got married as virgins and have a good sex life
Good advice too

K

Mariangeles:
I shi nini?

Mma m si, Nwaanyi otele ukwu ga ama ihe o mere onwe ya mgbe oso suru

delgroveng:
Which one kpumirin takers do

Oxlade

Iyaebe:
What mouth can not say does not exist, you'll cheat and you know it,abeg let's stop deceiving ourselves

Story...

Cheating is a deal breaker for me...So why will I break my own rules...

Remove the cheat cheat talk from your mindset o, so you can acess your man well well.