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Mariangeles:
Owu nani mummy?



There are still some men that no how good their wives treat them, they'll still look outside.

Lol...But it is truth na?..


Mmmhhh!!! I still think, there is a gap the woman is not bridging...nobody is perfect..No mata how good a woman/man can be, something must be missing.
The ability of the other partner to overlook that missing thing is the sacrifice one will make to stabilize the relationship/marriage.

Mariangeles:
The lady does not love him. At least not as much as he does, and that is the truth.

When your woman loves you, she gets anxious if she doesn't hear from you the time she normally does, and then the next thing would be to call you.

100%...Period!

Cc Ekehpraise come and hear it directly from a woman.

Small thing marriage, even when relationship is still having the strength of crackers biscuit.

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

First of all, she is a daughter to you people..

Secondly, every child must be under a parents.


Lastly, that child must abide by your rules and regulations...Even if it warrants being strict.

EkehPraise:
Honestly I am not trying to sound like a broken record though I'm hurting badly because I don't know how to feel, but this my babe that I've been dating for the past 2 years hardly calls me. Times without number we have talked about it and she promised to improve but that has not been the case.

We have discussed marriage plans and also introduced each other to our families hoping to give it a go ahead come 2022 by God's grace which I know she will be happy to settle with me but two days ago during my break time from work I checked my phone and as usual was about calling her then it occurred to me that this is what I do everyday from good morning to goodnight no calls from her except I call or chat first so I decided not to call or chat yet till now nothing from her.

She has been online on whatsapp, I am sure she calls other people. I have made up my mind not to call or write to her first and if she doesn't reach out to me then I will just bone and move on gently.

With this poor communication, how did manage to ffw the mariage talks?

Guys guys learnnnn...First of all, even she is still studying, as far as she is deep into you, she go even borrow airtime to always hear your voice...

Even when she is online, the moment she sight you, immediately she ignores others just to chat you..Dude, these things are easy na...

When a lady is not into you, it is the opposite, even you will become an irritant...

Anyway, call her and have a one on one, I mean heart to heart talk with her...Be attentive to spot the problems and handwriting on the wall...Better you quit on time, than spending wedding money, to be alone for the rest of life.

Mood11:

You are dating her but she's not dating you.
Read the handwriting Bro,
Your babe has another boo.
Move on. If you eventually marry her you will be so alone and unhappy.

Take 100 naira buy Handkerchief you will need it when you see how effortlessly she will move on like you don't exist.

Truer words...

Bitter truth.

EkehPraise:
Honestly I am not trying to sound like a broken record though I'm hurting badly because I don't know how to feel, but this my babe that I've been dating for the past 2 years hardly calls me. Times without number we have talked about it and she promised to improve but that has not been the case.

We have discussed marriage plans and also introduced each other to our families hoping to give it a go ahead come 2022 by God's grace which I know she will be happy to settle with me but two days ago during my break time from work I checked my phone and as usual was about calling her then it occurred to me that this is what I do everyday from good morning to goodnight no calls from her except I call or chat first so I decided not to call or chat yet till now nothing from her.

She has been online on whatsapp, I am sure she calls other people. I have made up my mind not to call or write to her first and if she doesn't reach out to me then I will just bone and move on gently.

Lol..
Cc Mariangeles bia lekwa ihe ahu gwara gi ugbu a..
Women don't know little sacrifices like this, men cherish it..

Men love to be cared and pampered as well.

Mariangeles:
Very territorial. And quite possessive too.
For me, it is all or nothing. In or out.

I know

If you are equally ready to give all..Then there is no problem with being who you are...O wunu udi gi, ka ndi di ha na akpo mummy as pet name.

You know, most women aren't aware men love to be pampered as well...Though society made us to be the rock, so most guys pretend in that aspect.

In life, you do unto others, as you would expect them to do unto you..okwa o nor na bible?

advanceDNA:
I’m not perfect... so I don’t judge people on how they choose to sin...

But what’s annoying me is How you people place so much value on women that everyone sleeps with?

If you catch your girl friend cheating, you call her a b!tch and say she belong to the streets because u can’t imagine another man drilling the girl you are drilling...

so, I don’t get how you find a greater b!tch more appealing to the extent of paying more than 1000 naira to drill a hole hundreds of other pen!s have drilled and with the risk of std....

Some men get serious issue...

Having sex with ashawo... dirty...

PlayMaker14:
You see that nose piercing? I forbid it.

One man's meat, another man's poison.

Goalnaldo:
me and my goons once went to a Catholic Church to test our toasting skills. Chai guys! shy me didn't still chyke

Funny days growing up was more fun.

Mariangeles:
Nobody is considering the woman that is there already.
I cannot do to a person what I cannot tolerate.

Is not true...The first is the first...

The ones that followed up, are the ones to be worried.

Lol...You are very territorial..I ga hu ekwe ekwe o.

You simply have to be all and all for your man..I think men consider polygamy, when the woman can't be there for him..

Toks2008:
E don land.

Nairaland female toddlers, teenagers and under 30s please just read and learn.. No need to comment

you sef sabi press neck. Lmao

Mariangeles:
Polygamy advocate.

gi na toks..

He is absolutely right on this one though...

Most modern day women hate polygamy..why?

YourWriter:
In reference to the post which I made last two weeks https://www.nairaland.com/6834344/love-im-scared
Here is the update.

I let my feelings known to her telling her how much I love her but unfortunately, the love is unrequited. She told me she's not ready for a relationship due to some personal reasons.
I so much feel heartbroken right now.
We move!

Kudos...one bold move.

Now back off as you made your intentions clear...She will surely appreciate your boldness.

Move on.

Sonnobax15:

You can imagine that kind phenomenal eye punch . Heart break dey learn for where this one dey abeg . This is what we call emotional smack down

Meanwhile,na like this nairalanders push op go front her . Down below

Lmao..

Candidlady:
if the lady says no sex you'd end it?

Immediately....I mean what are we doing?


I can't call you my woman, if we aren't having sex...Just as simple as that..

The truth is, if you both love eachother, why deny each other acess to your bodies?...sex is bonding not just pleasures alone.

Two must agree to work...

PlayMaker14:
You're just an ignorant fellow bro... There's nothing wrong or fetish about wearing beads. (Jigida)

They are an African beauty accessory that accentuates women's waist... I love seeing it on the waist of ladies.

Your girlfriend is not a corporate Olosho, rather, you're just an ignorant church boy.

No mata how cute it is claimed to be, I don't fancy it...Waist beads, and leg chain...A no no for me.

I rather, prefer piercings especially the nose type and anyother place...

The bead thing is a turn-off for me.

ORLAHOLUWA:
That was how I had a crush on this beautiful girl in school back then, OASOS, OKE-BOLA, my friends and hostel mate knew I liked the girl, so whenever we come across the girl, they start to shout, whenever the girl was seen by my friends, they will shout my name, there was a day the girl also participated in a foot ball which required a penalty shootout, as soon as it was the girl's turn, my friends started to shout my name again and the girl became suspicious too.
So on this great day, during the heat of inter house sport, i participated in the 400m race and won, my friends watched the girl clapping for me then they used the opportunity to set us up, then they met with the girl and told her I would like to see her�, that she should wait under the tree opposite our hostel. My friends then came to inform me about the plan, and said the girl was waiting under the tree, they gave me a phone to get her contact, then I decided to summon the courage and go over to talk with her, with my friends watching from the hostel.
My brethren, as soon as I got to her, I just greeted her "Good afternoon" and walked on.

My friends didn't see me till evening when it was time for prep.

Mo Japa ni ooo

Your story deserve the award...

You greeted her and walked away...chai

UYEMDO35:
I was so timid in the front of girls .. Back den in secondary school my friends try to set me up with my juniors, but I just couldn't have time for dat. It came to a point dat even the girl I had crush on, I just couldn't confront her to express my feelings to her. When I tried sending my friends to help me talk to her on my behalf, she told dem dat I should come by myself to toast her. Though! When I went there by myself, I was lost in thought, very shy to talk, I nearly wewe on my body. Funniest part I can woo a girl for someone but doing for myself is always difficult.

You dey cut liver..like my guys will say those days..

ORLAHOLUWA:
Have you ever been in this situation? Share your experience

Secondary school stuffs...Buy new cloth and pass the babe house so she can see..

In Jss3 me and my clique do rehearsals on how to chyke babe for street...

One will act like the babe, then two will push you to go and show how you will stop her.. Boys hahahahahaha funny people..

Mstick:
Men are polygamous in nature na for another man wife or girlfriend body oh.

joshuaidibia:
They did their traditional wedding exactly one month ago and will be having their court wedding next week.

Congrats...nice concepts.

This argument sef

ahnie:
My younger brother.he can finish one paint of garri in a day.anytime he informs me of his visiting me,my heart always beat.

PlayMaker14:
This is exactly what a boy who thinks with his reproductive organ will say.

Lmao..

Mariangeles:
O nwere ihe mmadu na agahu agutafu na forum a? Ike gwuru o!
Ndidi ka e ji a no nga o.

O wu nu ya.

Buckeyemedia1:
And also eliminate unknown crooks in your family before those rotten apples come & corrupt the whole bunch? Now that is what I call vision.

As you be born throwaway, you won't value family..

I am not surprised at all...Smh

One of the unfortunate element wasting away here...

Mariangeles:
So, your idea to marry a wife is to exploit her?
You don't want a wife, you want a slave.

Sometimes you don't need to pick offense when you see comments like that, Women have done some guys ihe Obi m gbawa a lot.

Kobojunkie:
There is absolutely nothing supernatural about what a coach does or offers.

The reason why couples are encouraged to get marriage counseling is because it takes two to make a marriage and if both are willing to engage the help of a Counselor, then it means they are both willing to try to work on their marriage.

Counselor or no counselor, it takes two to tango...

Two must agree to work.

Kobo you too dey argue o

horlahwaley:
omoh... If i have to go through all this just to get sex from my wife. I dont think i am going to marry at all. Kilode

Lol...but you do that and more for your girl friend...

Tickle or forget the extra.

Men, will should readjust to the mentality of keeping wify like used cloth after marriage...

Awlays give her the girlfriend treatment....And a bit of pampering ones in a while...You will be enjoying her fine...

But, if you come with the mentality @bolded bro, you go frustrate...It only takes attention and care to enjoy best of her.

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

In that case, a wife must be treated like a girl friend even after marriage..Tickling her fancy..

The part you show her result and demand finish me with laughter.

A happy woman Will always be in the mood..

BigDawsNet:
Chia

Why is Ghana so lucky? :-

Tbh they don't really go Tru this insecurities shiits...

Kidnapping
Terrorism
Skull miner
Banditry...


I feel sorry for our darling Nigeria...

All thanks to late Jerry Rawlins of Ghana....He did a revolution that rid the country of bad politicians..

Imagine one young officer coming up to takeover power and eliminate people like Tinubu, buhari, atiku, rochas, obj, babangida, OUK, just mention all these benefit politicians... Sending them to meet their creator, Nigeria will function again.