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Medicine after death!

Why did they not lock the door.
They have exposed the children to something awful.
Those kid`s are so young.
What do they want to explain, that they were putting in the baby through the mouth

You have to be extremely careful with kids and how you go about explaining these things to them.

When one of my sons was younger he asked the dad how babies are made and my husband answered they were a gift from God.

He pondered over it and came to me, told me what his dad said and asked me if it was true.
When I said yes he had this really disgusted look on his face.

" mama you mean God goes around putting his hand in all the women`s bum bum to put in the babies"

When I explained to him how it really awful he was visibly relieved.

Previous properties are in both names so what rainy day are you saving for?

He has already provided for the rainy day.

You are about to remove the mantel and both of you will eventually get wet.

A natural birth can be a beautiful experience for a woman if only she will be open to it and face it without fear.

With the proper breathing technique and relaxing you can give birth to your child without feeling too much pain.

With my first child I kept waiting for the terrible pain to come to get me screaming and shouting but it never came.
I honestly never got an epidural and the labour was quite bearable every time.

Certainly there was pain but the pain comes in bouts and at the end when the baby comes you do not feel that much pain because you are so busy pushing.

I know some women who had epidurals and complain of back pain yeas later. Perhaps the doctor can confirm if that is possible.

kemachuk:
E-family please advice me on how to make my hubby communicate more. He doesn't like gisting. Prefers watching cnn. Me I like fashion, celebs gist and he isn't interested in stuff like that. I stopped talking about those when he opened up to me that he's not into such gist. Even when I bring up politics his respond is yes, no kind of respond. What do I do about this cos I've even tried talking Football but he isn't interested. Or is that I am the problem? Between we've been married 4 2yrs with a son. I'm not really the talking type too but @least they should be things we should talk about.

If he is not complaining you don`t have a problem.
Some people just need their privacy and are not great talkers.
Besides you cannot make an interesting conversation, when you have no interest in the topic.
I and my husband don`t talk that much either. We spend time each doing our own thing. It took some time getting used to but it does the mariage allot of good. We don`t get irritated and we have never gone to bed angry with each other.
Sometimes just sitting together in silence is more that a thousand words.
Like now I am here on NL and he is watching his TV in another room. Every now and then I go to him hug him and return to what I`m doing. He does the same.

My kid`s get their fixed pocket money every month. This is very important for me because children need to learn how to handle money and save.
Pocket money starts when you enter primary school and increases gradually.
starting from 10 € in primary one then 20€ as from 5th class 30€ and so it goes on to a maximal of 150€ a month.
The pocket money is their "salary".
If you mess up you might end up with a reduction or a month without pay
They know that I am on the look out on any way to save money so can`t wait for you to mess up . If you loose your school materials, you have to replace them from your pocket money.

Children need to be motivated. much more important is with praise and kind words.
My children just love to bring home good notes because I "perform" for them. Carry them in the air sing dance, shower them with praises .
That makes them so happy.
However what makes a good note depends on the child.
I have a child who had slight learning disabilities. One day he got a pass in the fourth class, I was so excited praising him, a mother was so curious asked me what he got. When I told her a four she looked at me baffled and said her son made a 2. I told her my son`s was much better than the two because he worked so had for it. He really did! We had to spend hours learning the first 4 years of school. He found simple things difficult.
So too it is with behavior. Each child is different and we have to make room for their short comings.

cococandy:
Do you also have a pretty babe to help tame truthnl of his bitterness?

Some of these dudes need to get laid.

Quite honestly I think that some of the ladies here are frustrated.
They need to feel the warmth and strength of a man to calm them down.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Plenty of fury on board now.

Have you consulted your parents, sought advice from your pastor, or someone mature.

Divorce is an option that should really be the last option and no matte how it goes, the price you pay for it is heavy.

It is also hard on the kid`s.

Please try a separation first - that is if you cannot cope any longer.
That will give your man a reason to reflect and fight for your love.

cococandy:
na you wan marry the babe?

Let him toast away if he wants so far they are operating on the same frequency.

We haven't had any NL wedding in a while.

That is why I am encouraging him !

He will be doing a great service to mankind if he can tame one of these vipers and get the poison out of them.

BlackLeopard:
Sistah it's all good to be scared.
They're scary bleeps. And dangerous at times. But also super primitive and super cowards. You're brave in your own ways, and saying you were scared is brave too. It's only cowards and liars that pretend they never get scared.

Great way of toasting a babe.
I duck my hat for you.

See how men go after women
Tomorrow, she pulled my shirt and slapped me.

Ride on Broda.
I like your style- tell them what they want to hear.

coogar:
why are you mentioning my name?
at what point exactly in your miserable life were you cursed? keep my name out of your calloused-fingers. i only do tete-a-tete with classy women. your clïtoral erectiöns for me won't get you far, please attach your panty liner & zip up.

Naughty, naughty Coogar

This thread should now be titled-
The good, the bad and the ugly!

bukatyne:
Mutter What do you say about This custom?

Something needs to be done about cheating

Certainly our tradition has always protected women and held them in high esteem.

However a man was allowed to marry several wife`s and also to discipline his wife, even hit her.
The definition of mal- treating here is the key word here.

Not denying the role of women in Africa, were strong, confident and proud Even went to war.

bukatyne:
If a man & a woman was caught, they were both stoned to death

There are a lot of cases...

The only one I know did not involve death was If the woman was a Virgin and he must never divorce her

As I said I stood to be corrected but now we arre back to Nigeria and perhaps you can let us know how it was in Nigeria then.

You need to switch off before going to bed. Do not listen or watch anything that will unsettle you. Rather something relaxing.
Take hot tea or a chocolate drink.
Sleep in a well aired room. Sometimes even fresh bedsheets make you sleep better.
Change your bed position or sleep in another room.
Some people need to fall asleep in from of the TV or with music but what I don`t like about TV is that if they start showing something aggressive you take it up in your sleep without realizing and it can affect your dreams.

When it gets too bad you jut need medication to help you out.
If you don`t get sleep you might get a burn out or something similar. You need to take it in reduced dose and for a short time. Ask your doctor to prescribe you something that is not addictive and do not keep it in large quantity in your home.

See just as the body can be sick and tired so it is with the mind. Consult a doctor for help, medication. Also try and find out what is bothering you.

Finally prayer is a very strong weapon against sleepless nights anxiety and so on.
Call on God and he will give you peace of mind.

bukatyne:
Interesting

Now see why you support men most of the time; men are always right.

I would say We go back to the time of Moses in the OT. Luckily for us, God is fair and it is stoning to death for both parties

Drastic actions need to be taken against cheats

What do you think ?

A man was stoned to death if he laid with another mans wife.
That was an offence against the other man and thus he erred.
He was not stoned to death for cheating on his wife.

I stand to be corrected

bukatyne:
You seem to know history well

What was the punishment of erring men?

We might as well go back to it

When it came to women, men never erred.
They were always right.

username792:
Omg, you AGAIN??

Do you get paid for spewing such rubbish? Do you teside in this forum??

The other day you were defending men for killing their wives and today you are defending a wife beater ready to humiliate his own children?

You are talking about her 'tone' as direspectful, arrogant and stupid. What about the disrespect, arrogance and stupidity against HIS OWN CHILDREN AND FAMILY for bringing this to Youtube? What about the disrespect, arrogance and stupidity in BEATING HER UP? What about the disrespect, arrogance and stupidity in men KILLING THEIR WIVES BECAUSE OF THEIR GINORMOUS EGOS AND MAKING THEIR CHILDREN ORPHANS WITH NO PARENT TO TAKR CARE OF THEM?

Obiviously you see none of that since youdont know basic stuff such as the right to live or the right to privacy.

All you see is her 'tone' - Fvck women's lives and their children.

You are one of the daftest person on this forum. Were you dropped on the head as a baby?

Some years back a lady was admitted in hospital the man had given her a good beating and she called the police. When the police came she acted up like she was collapsing and the called the ambulance.
I really fet bad for her when I saw her and then I deceided to go visit the man and talk to him.
He was sitting there really upset. You could see a man at the end of his rope .
The woman had poured the soup put all over him. Worse still the whole house was in an unhygenic and messy state, really aweful. The woman had also been buying on credit , owing everywhere, cheating on him, all over the place for money. It was such a disaster.
What could I say?
He was bleeding too just that the scars were inside.
Not without reason that provocations an excuse in Law and you can even get away with man slaughter if you are provoked enough.
The wife going public is in no way anything compared to the woman's adultery.
Did she not mess up the lives of the kid`s by what she did.
I hope you are not supporting her because you identify with what she did
In the olden days she would have been stripped naked and chased away, or made to take a cleansing bath in public. This even still happens in some places today.
According to African tradition the punishment for adultery is public disgrace and humiliation.
This is exactly what she got here.

The ancestors will certainly be happy with him

username792:
I think I should take a break from this site.
The kind of horrible things I see people say daily is beyond me and I refuse to have all that uglyness rub on me the point I start using insults all the time.

That is an understatement of the year.

By their tongues you shall know them!

omoharry:
Guy, aside from the excuse of punishing you due to some grudges she might have had against you; have you ever wondered if she enjoys having sex with you?. It could be that you might be a bit big down there which could definitely be a painful sexual exercise for some ladies. Such women would find every excuse to avoid sex as the slightest opportunity. Sit her down and ask her if she enjoys sex with you so that you guys can find a way to solve this problem.

Neither partner has a right to withhold themselves.
Allowing is not just enough. It should be given with love and emotion.

Please if the woman is scared, not ready to take the size and so on she should not have married or become a reverend sister.
We all know how this thing called marriage functions.

Any wife that cannot fulfill the fantasies of a man should blame herself if the man goes outside.

No man should be asked to put up with this .

Like getting a present and not being allowed to remove the wrapping.
When eventually you are allowed to remove the wrapping you are instructed to put it in a show case.

francizy:
I never imposed myself on any girl. I don't know what was difficult for you to understand there. I've never given any girl any reason to get scared when with me and I never will. I've dated girls that I've spent time with and without having sex with them, even after seeing them naked. Does this whole thing actually make me the devil? Acting out of what was impacted in me by people?

Are you a saint? If you have sinned before then you don't have the rights to criticize me. You didn't even show any sign that what those girls did to me was bad, you just omitted all that and jumped straight to biting my behind.

It seems you probably felt bad that I talked about girls that molested kids. Just hope you ain't one of them...

I am sorry I did not sympathize with you!
Yes what was done to you was evil, it was wrong.

But you see you were also not "forced" with physical force but you were still forced because pressure was mounted on you and you had no choice, their will was imposed on you.

But that does not justify your doing the same to others.
If you ask a house help to sleep with you, she would do it for fear of you maltreating her or coursing her to leave.
You just have to admit that there was no justification for what you did.

i am certainly not condemning you but also just pointing that out to you.
If you have a chance apologize to your victims.

bukatyne:
This husband's action was foolish..

He just disgraced himself and children...

Tomorrow people will point to his kids as.... the Children of bla bla bla

If women cheated go online, internet would have blown

Then what was the act of the wife- wise!
Did she think about her children when she got naked and let another man climb her?
Did she think about her children when she was blowing her silly mouth of to the husband?

That woman broke her marriage vows and opened up for another man.
Thus she descecrated the marriage.
A marriage is holy bound in heaven as well as on earth.

When you descecrate a holy ground it looses it`s holiness and vultures can come and feast there.
Dogs can come and defecate there.

Since she wanted to take what was meant for the marriage and expose it outside.
The man is only helping her to expose it the more.

By exposing her he has cleansed himself of his hurt and pain.
The woman was not repentant so she deserved no mercy.

but at the end of the day you also molested girls and imposed yourself on them and I am sure some only said yes because they were scared to say no.
Being abused does not give you a right to abuse others back.
Thank God you have changed but have you asked your victims if they were able to have a normal life after that

Actually a good idea coming to think of it.

These girls have such a close bond that they are not so dependent on having too much attention rom a man.
This way they are together and inseparable.
No man coming between them. No having to visit each other.

Polygamy does have some advantages. It should be made legal all over the wold.

It is always more difficult for the one with the upper hand to apologies. Just like it is harder for a parent to apologize to the child or the older sibling to apologize.
That takes allot of maturity and a big heart.

So if you don`t have that kind of husband you have to lead him initially to the great "art" of apologizing.

By approaching him when tempers have cooled down, when you can talk calmly and without anger or frustration and then explain to him where he hurt you. Let him know what an apology means to you.

I have this fault that I get really mad, when people don`t apologize but instead start lying or making stupid excuses. I needed to work really hard at myself to keep this anger in check with my husband. Initially he could only realize if I first apologized. Another tactic was finding every argument to make me feel I was in the wrong. Amazingly it was over minor things.
Well one day I complained to my husband that my son always argued that he was in the right rather than apologizing and my husband asked him why he did that.
son - Papa you do the same with mama. The last time you bought meat that was spoilt and you kept arguing it was okay.
Husband- but I am the boss.
Son- when you are out I am the boss too!
My husband was rather embarrassed and could not say anything again.
We never really quite realize how much kid`s learn from us.

Then he deserved what he got!

For a woman to have the guts to do such a thing it means she has absolutely no respect for the man.
A man should establish his position and authority in the house.
Some men these days just cannot act like man.
Why marry when the woman does not respect you? That is what happens when you do not marry for the right reasons.
It is better to marry a woman who respects you, than a woman that you are in love with.

If a girl did that to my son, she is leaving that house, back to where she came from. She can try comming back when she has learnt some manners.

If you can do it- then I can talk about it!

Bad enough that she did it. I mean we can give her the grace of saying she fell short of grace, got carried away, got weak whatever.

But the tone in her voice when talking to her husband!

It is arrogant, it is disrespectful, it is stupid

If she can spread her legs for another man , then why blame the husband for bringing it out public.

If she had done a noble thing and he had brought out a video, all women will praise him.
What do you want the man to do- a pat on the back and carry on girl!

You have to keep it to yourself because that is the best for all parties involved.

I once made that mistake as a young girl, caught my dad and told my mum.. By the time my father applied love and persuasion, my mum was accusing me of lying and my father bullied me for days.
Eventually gave me the message-
Not everything seen by the eyes is said by the mouth.

You will only cause your mother pain.

Besides your mother knows the man she is married with, you are only humiliating her by telling her you caught him. It already hurts and will hurt her more because the children now know.

Your father will look at you like a wimp - a man who does not know how men function yet.

He broke the 11th commandment- thou shall not be caught.
No one can say for sure who has not been cheating.
No one ever want`s to even imagine that their mothers can do such a thing, but it does happen
So just maybe they have been cheating on each other.
So just do everyone a world of good and stay out of it. Especially so long as your mother has not consulted you.

It is like you are trying to justify what is obviously indecent and unrighteous to do in the house of God. If it is true that there is no better place to bosom-feed one's child than in the church, one can also say that there is no better place to serve one's children and husband food and make love to him than in the church!
God said His house shall be called a house of prayer, should we make it a house of free show of boobs and bosom-feeding?

@ Anointed are you God? How do you know what is pleasing to him?

Imagine a woman in church with her baby trying to follow the mass. Getting inspired and communicating with her God. The spirit coming down on her, and then...

Hang on God, I have to go out and breast feed!

Certainly not ! Do you want to deprive her of the word of God for so many months?

If I have to go to the car to breast feed I can as well stay at home.
Blame the community for not making provision for the mothers.

You call that a friend OP! That is not a friend. He does not care about you at all.

Every woman needs time to adjust to a pregnancy even if it is not her first. There is so much change and so many fears.

In this case it is her first pregnancy and she is not married. It makes matters harder for her.

Look your friend is just making an excuse to shy away from his responsibilities and dump her.
Possibly the girl has sensed it.

When a girl gets pregnant it is a joint responsibility. The man has to stand up and do the right thing. The girls is the one carrying the pregnancy she already has enough on her hand.

You mean to know when she concieved.