₦airaland Forum

soulglo:
Report it to the police anonymously. It's the least you could do. I cannot have this kind of information and sleep at night. REPORT IT. Let the man and the child's parents smell the inside of a jail cell.


PS
Aren't medical practitioners required to report this in Nigeria. It would be a shame if this was not required by law.

soulglo:
Report it to the police anonymously. It's the least you could do. I cannot have this kind of information and sleep at night. REPORT IT. Let the man and the child's parents smell the inside of a jail cell.


PS
Aren't medical practitioners required to report this in Nigeria. It would be a shame if this was not required by law.

ifyalways:
I quite agree with some of your posts, however, nothing justifies murder.
Agreed, those men were pushed to the wall but ending the marriage as opposed to the wife's life is a better option.

Well, the ladies are the ones getting killed because of their greed. You know you don't love a man, then don't jump into marriage just so you escape poverty.

aisha2:
But some of the men still expect that after a hard day the woman will come home and still perform her duties as is done in Africa. Failure to do so will earn her the tag of bad wife who wants to be westernised.
There are case scenarios for each of the scenes we have both painted. For me the way to get back at someone who hurts you is not by murdering them

Sophyrocks:
Have women here not gone through worse in Nigeria? Did these women go on shooting spree like their male counterparts abroad? Please you are clearly justifying murder by constantly pointing at the women. I wonder what the views here would be if it were women doing the killing. No matter what a woman does to you, no matter how acidic her mouth is to you, you dnt commit MURDER madam!! You dnt!! stop with the justification!!

andromida:
True the couples hardly know themselves which is why the man should have married a woman he will not have to kill or develop coping skills to match the situation.

Note the woman could have divorced him and walked away with everything as you said but she didn't so why did she stay?

aisha2:
So if women push their husband's to the wall should their reward be death? Men here push women to the wall everyday because the law here favours them, if women start poisoning their husband's should we say " oh well its the men who pushed them to the wall"?
Abuse of power is common to both genders but should one take laws into their hands and end a life?
As hard as it is for women here to start their life all over we always advice that they leave when a relationship gets bad, men too there should leave. Murdering their wives can certainly not be a solution

aisha2:
Its het fault when she works 16 hours a day and comes home and is expected to clean up, cook and care for the kids without complaint knowing fully well she can't get a house help to help out abroad like we have here. A man who wants control will do anything to get it. Are there no women abroad? Why travel and marry a woman he doesn't know simply to bring her abroad and try to control her knowing the system abroad doesn't function like that?
He wants good roads, good health care a working system, a wife who earns well yet he still wants to act like an African cave man while enjoying the benefits of civilization abroad.

I can't even deal with this line of thought, all women abroad are not evil, marry who you know and stop running to marry girls you don't know just so you can act like a barbarian abeg.
This is sad coming from someone abused so all thosr times you got beaten shebi you provoked your ex? You make it sound as if these women earn their deaths did you earn every slap and belt you received

andromida:
How and why will a woman go from daddy and sir to useless man? can it be just because her eyes are opened or are there other things going on that you cannot know. Why must it be the woman's fault? Accepted in some instances it will be mostly the woman's fault but it cannot be in all instances.

You speak of vow did the man not promise to love his wife? yet he kills the woman he promised to love for his pride sake he prefers his children to be orphans what level of selfishness is this? even the children are nothing to him his pride means every thing this is the kind of man that cannot command respect.

I don't think this kind of man is concerned about the custody of his kids,all he is concerned about is himself. If he was concerned about his kids he would not kill their mom and truly destroy everything.

aisha2:
Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

andromida:
But why did the men marry such women? and if the women are so evil why not divorce them?

Seeing as a woman can break a man he should do his due diligence to marry a woman who is good for him and become the kind of man who can command respect from his wife so that the children can learn how to respect themselves and others.

pcguru1:
I get what you mean, I just believe the right to expression should be limited yes I know I sound like a tyrant but I think too much freedom allows hate speech and opinions. That's just me but I respect that you respect my view. Also Am no way misogynistic or atheist totally the opposite

carefreewannabe:
Ok, if one man has the right to be hete*rose*xual then another has the right to be against it, according to your logic. I love your logic sometimes.

Juzzybabe:
Sometimes when I lie on the very side,and the vibration starts,I get so miserable and I wud just suddenly jump up in annoyance like warisdis !!!
Just don't know why most of our doctors of now usually don't have ideas of all this for God's sake. My gynecologist should have explain this to me to stop me from panicking but he instead recommended Gestid,well I told him I don't need gestid cuz I don't have heart burn. Thanks for the clarification dear,sometimes our fears can harm us faster than our problems itself. Its much easier to bear the discomfort knowing its cause.

thorpido:
It's basically a musculoskeletal pain.It's quite common with pregnancy.
Pregnancy hormones make your tissues to stretch and when that happens,it puts pressure on other structures especially the nerves.When the nerves are pinched,they cause a discomfort.The vibrations you feel are called spasms-the muscles 'shake'.

What you should do is get a balm.Massage the area frequently and anytime you feel the pain.Also you will need to change your position from sitting as that position pushes pressure up from the big belly.You can lie flat at that time if you can.

Physio.

koyyess:
Sorry, but we are not on the page because I do not see how accepting a run away ex husband gives any woman more respect. I don't know the op's mother but from her story, I already have a high regard for her mother who single handedly took care of her kids in hard times. Her mum could have as well abandoned them under the bridge like some have but she didn't so tell me if that does not depict a woman of honor already.I'm not saying the both of them shouldn't forgive the op's dad but a lot has happened before now so you do not make such personal decisions for a woman who has been through hell.