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Ememmmi:
I have an uncle that passed on early last year. My daddy told me he's my "uncle" but a distant relation because I don't know him in the village. We only met in lagos here so I think we are related but not close relation. Before he died, I use to send money to him especially during covid. At times he will ask and atimes I will send without him asking me. So when he passed on early last year, I was still sending the little amount I can afford to his wife. Its been 4 months I gave birth and she did not even come to see me. Her house to my house is about 500 transport fare to and fro. She knows there's no how she will come to my house and I won't give her cash even if at all she don't have transport fare.

She called me 2 days ago asking of Christmas money. I told her I will send it but inside me I am not happy honestly. People came from very far distance to visit me when I gave birth but this woman didn't even show concern. Anytime she call me will always be to ask of money. She said all her husband relative has abandoned her.
It is not like I don't have money to give her but her attitude is bad. She has only one daughter which she claimed she's in university. I don't know how true is that
Do you think I should overlook her character and give her the money

If her character is bad then she is reaping the fruits of her bad character that's why everyone seems to have abandoned her.

If you are a believer, please follow the leading of the Spirit.
Some times it's the little things that convert a soul to encounter God's love.
But I've also learnt to be sensitive when it comes to giving- some times it is God Himself that's dealing with some people so please be sensitive.

Mysteriousworld:
A younger brother of mine saw a message on his finances phone.
She sent a message to a guy on instagram, telling him she likes his lips, so tempting.
Now shes claiming its not a big deal, that she doesn't even know the guy, that hes just an instagram model...(its true she doesnt know him,and have never met him).
But my brother doesnt feel good about it, he asked for my advice, and i decided to put it here for him to see himself.

Pls is this a red flag... Or not much of a big deal. The wedding is in February.

It depends. If it's a DM, red flag. If open comment, no biggie.

But it all balls down to your brother's evaluation of her character since he knows her better. If he thinks she has hook-up vibes, then she most likely does.

Jogs1900:
These people always like to align with the government at the center.

True. Though if sincere, his reason is applaudable.

FeliciaOja:
I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.

He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.

We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change.
But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling
Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today

I can't take it anymore
He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.

I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen.
After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.

Am I overreacting??

He needs deliverance.
Apparently football is his source of joy, not you and certainly not God.
His emotionally immature.
Is he as passionate and loyal to you as he is to Arsemal?

It balls down to his other attributes.
Do you share core values together?
Is he the type of father figure you want for your kids?

Yemike:
My life have been stagnant for like 4-5 years now. I work in a factory and I also sow clothes.
I've not been able to spend money on myself or to pursue my dream as a result of family responsibilities.
I'm a drop out of FUOYE and I'll so much love to go back to school but the plan has been failing for 2 years now.

I've obtained a part time form from Adekunle Ajasin University Ibadan campus last month hoping to start the new session next year but my problem now is that I have a brother that just finished HND 1, his rent has expired and he'll pay his school fees this January.
I paid his rent and school fees for HND 1 and he has notified me for HND 2.
My fear now is that time us running out for me (I'm 27yrs now) as I sincerely wanted to go back to school but I can't sponsor myself and two siblings.

Should I wait for another year or everybody should carry his cross?

Your brother has completed HND 1 and hasn't started earning money for himself? Even in this Social Media age?

What's the guarantee that he'll start making any money after his HND 2?

You have a large heart. But I fear you are loving others more than yourself.
The bible says love your neighbor as yourself not more than yourself.

I believe it comes down to one question really.
Ask yourself, who is more beneficial to go to school now between you and your brother?

God bless you.

FILEBE:
Leaked recording? There was also a leaked recording of boko haram infiltrating lagos. .

If blames would fix a country. Nigeria would be the best country in the world

What makes you think either was untrue?
At the end of the day, it's our prerogative to do with information whatever we please especially in a country where it isn't regulated.

Point is, some persons whether IPOB or others hijacked the protest and it exploded into a wild fire that cascaded burnt autopsy centre.

You have to agree by now that people should be blamed and held accountable when they err.

FILEBE:
You are right but i will disagree with the bolded statements.
Except we want to deceive ourselves. The vandalism was largely carried out by "yoruba" ask the people around oyingbo who burnt the brt busses . Same with Agege police station, same with the magistrate court, igbosere . Around my area I have seen these boys vandalise during the lockdown . During the time of the protest I had seen them hitting a streetlight at Ojuelegba while i drove by, they were yoruba.
Also the name calling is unnecessary, throwing shades at a particular tribe isn't okay . It has some tribalistic undertone .

@ the second bolded . We have burnt trading blames since independence.
Where has it gotten us? Of what use is the blame trading? If you have a lady that blames everyone for her misfortune, will you go ahead to marry her?

There was a leaked recording of incitement by POB to wreak havoc in Lagos and Rivers states. You didn't get that?

Trading blames is counter-productive when accountability is not in place. If that is your point, then you're right.
Accountability is the most important thing.

HenryTimes:
Na constabulary them wan bear the blame

Is it not a good idea?
Are they not part of the blame?
Should we not be able to distinguish between constabulary and the actual police officers?

Let's learn to appreciate good initiatives when proferred. This is an expert in the field that knows better than you and I do.

FILEBE:
We should know when to trade blames . By default, Nigerians will be quick to blame rather than find the root cause . Look around you, check all the mess we are in as a country and see how we always blame it on something or someone.

Present government blames Buhari.
Epileptic power supply throws blames
Military will throws blames
Rising cost of inflation throws blame
Health sector throws blame on japa doctors.
We are even throwing blames on tribes lately .
And so many more. It's always a blame game. We are so always quick to blame just to spite one another .

If the motive of the protest was to destroy properties, it would started immediately the protest began. It took days before it took that violent turn and it wasn't after the Lekki toll gate incident.

We should not be quick to trade blames. But it's important to know who is responsible for good or bad occurrences/happenings for accountability purpose especially.

As you've rightly said, ENDSARS protest started well and was an honorable protest that was a necessity. And it was peaceful for the first few days. It actually achieved it's purpose of calling out the government for bad governance and putting an end to the excesses of SARS. Buhari and his cabinet actually responded, addressed and met the demands of the protest.
SARS was decommissioned and they promised to meet the other demands which some were short term and others were long term.

But the youths did not disperse but continued in the protest until it was hijacked by the IPOB mercenaries who saw an opportunity to execute their own agenda of destroying Nigeria and especially Lagos state.

One of the consequences of which as Mynd44 rightly pointed out, was the burnt down Lagos State autopsy centre which has delayed Mohbad's investigation and apparently countless others.

Every action and inaction has consequences. And the heroes and villains must be Praised and blamed respectively.

For all the cases you highlighted, should the culprits not be blamed?
Should past government administratiins not be blamed for handing over a dilapidated country?
If Tinubu's administration performs well, should he not be Praised? And if he performs poorly after his tenure, should he not be blamed?

What we should demand is that beyond the blame and praises, is there accountability?
Are people being recognised and rewarded for good performance?
And are people being punished/sanctioned for bad/poor performance?
And is their reward or punishment commensurate with their performance?

EmperorTolson:
All Asake songs
All Fireboy songs
Few Rema Songs

That's all.

Seyi Vibez is a ❌❌❌
There's no message in his lyrics.
No correlation.
I hardly hear what he says most time.

Every song has a message and a spirit.
We simply choose the ones we resonate with.

For me, I choose gospel music because it resonates with who I want to become- Jesus Christ.

Secular music are for other creative inspirations and entertainment and I'm careful of which and how I listen to them. I had to cut it all off for a time though.

kingthreat:
The same Endsars riots supported by more than millions of Nigerians that burnt buses and infrastructure.

ENDSARS protest started well until it was hijacked by IPOB.
IPOB under the aeges of Nnamdi Kanu has one primqry intention/agenda/mission- to destroy Nigeria until Biafra is achieved.

The earlier our youths realise this, the better for them and the earlier the reasonable ones will dissociate from them. But dog wey go lost no dey hear the whistle of him hunter/owner.

Haydens:
2023 taught me never to trust the public.

Great lesson. Trust God only and honor men.

Cursed is the man who puts his trust in men.
Blessed is the man who puts his trust in man. Jeremuah 17

FILEBE:
Very unfortunate about the forensic lab. I just couldn't understand the reason behind burning it . I question the effect of burning tires not to talk of infrastructures. It never made sense to me to vandalize all these in the name of protest


I guess they were just burning anything related to lagos as the protest was hijacked by illiterate touts .

If you will remember the "George Floyd " movement, the BLM movement . Almost every blacks and celebs participated in the protest. Some people decided to take advantage of the situation to break into shops and steal things.

We just like to trade blames in this parts of the world. The bolded part was unnecessary.

Should people only be praised when they do right but not be blamed when they err?

01Deji:
There's somuch lesson in this Mobad death

Caee to share?

Bmaster:
reduce how addictive you are to something should have been the heading,not stopping it in it's entirety.
People don't change,know this and know peace

Exactly.
Only Jesus can change a person and take away their additictions.

EmperorCaesar:
Do u know why people even grieve when their loved ones die?

The grieving isnt about the dead, as he/she has transited and shifted to a diff realm, the grieve is for those he left behind as they would miss him and will never get to see him again


Again, death isnt a negative occurence, the dead even prefer death as that is the only time they experience eternal peace in their nothingness

Clearly you're not a Christian.
Death as you rightly said from a Christian understanding is a transition from this realm to the another realm. Depending on how one lives his life, one m either transits into heaven/paradise or hell. That means either eternal rest/peace or eternal suffering/death.

I sincerely hope Akeredolu received grace to repent before he passed on. I believe his undoing started when he began to re-establish and emoiwer the traditional gods in Ondo state through the Amotekun. He even caused believers to support idolatry.
God's judgement lately is very speedy.
Let's be careful and know who the true God is and that His name is Jealous.

A word is enough for the wise.

BreconHills:
I am always struck by how quickly we inculcate the language of a dying western civilization. Moral relativism is a major reason for that decline. When you say "his truth" you make opinion to become fact. So if his truth is that he can recover from illness by electrocution, he should be allowed to find an energized exposed electrical current and do the needful?

Finally by shutting down the person you are responding to, you make a categorical statement that opposes your relativist first statement and ask him to accept your view.

That's the problem - relativism itself is subject to relativism. I sincerely hope you don't impose this on your current of future family because it is the shortest route to dysfunction.

Merry Christmas.

Macaroni's fight was a fight for all youths and well meaning elders. A fight against the corrupt leadership and institutions of Nigeria.

The said leaders also responded by decommissioning SARS and made necessary promises.
However the protest was hijacked by the usual suspects IPOB and with the agenda to wreak havoc and cause mayhem.

Newborn27:
Merry Christmas to Seun Osewa and every nairalanders.

Aseyi samodun lola Olorun oba.

Wish you the same.
A very blessed christmas and prosperous 2024 to you.

IyaTola:
Following this thread https://www.nairaland.com/7947584/whats-greatest-achievement-2023, it important we start making plans for 2024 because who fails to plan, is planning to fail.

What's your goal for 2024?
Me:
👍 I intend to save $1700 by October 2024
👍 Start a business by November 2024
👍Get married in 2024

I have many plans but I have come to find that it is God's plan that will prevail.
So my plan is to know and do Gods plan/ will for me through out 2024 and beyond.

His plans in 2023 have been more than mind-blowing. I am anticipating all so fearfully and joyfully what's in store for 2024, trusting that His plans for me are good and not evil, to give me hope and an expected end.

A very blessed and favorable year 2024 to you and me in Jesus name.

[quote author=fergie001 post=127603055][/quote]Merry Christmas Mr President.

Transition to Stability, Prosperity and Renewed Hope.
This is my portion and as many who want the best for Nigeria in Jesus name.

Naijaagenda:
I have fought so many wars in my life and won all with the exception of Onychophagia (Nail Biting)


Now remains one single habit that I have been fighting from my early childhood (ONYCHOPHAGIA)
The sweetest in the life of nail bitters is the nails and it's cuticles.

I'm now 44 years old, married with kids, have my own house, self employed and doing well in business ,good, stable and predictable cash flow.. I had fought so many difficult wars and habits in my 44 years on Earth, one of the most difficult is nail biting.

To the glory of Almighty God,I won this war in 2023.
When I reflect on what Jehovah has done for me, I can only thank God and AI bards that gave me the tips on quitting Onychophagia.

Since June 2023, I never bit my nails.
You too can win one of the most embarrassing, non-harmful but oneb the most difficult habits and wars to win.

I don have the picture before I won the war against onychophagia, but the picture as at today is posted.
This is the best Xmas gift I had ever received from myself for myself in life.

Thank you Jesus Christ. I won onychophagia after 44years on earth 🌎🌎🌎🌎.
You too can win.

Only those who have been there or still battling with this will understand the gravity of this testimony.
My brother I am so happy for you.
I'm on and off with it now but I am almost there too.
By God's Grace 2024, I'll be sharing this along with other victories/testimonies.

AbuTwins:
Send your son to be hanged too?
And what does God need a son for?

What exactly is your point?

AbuTwins:
1. Christmas wasn't mentioned by name in the Bible just as trinity!

2. Many so called big pastors has called it idolatrous!

3. Jesus spent about 33 years on earth and he didn't for once celebrated Christmas!

4. The Christmas tree and Santa are pathetic symbols of paganism!

Celebrate him the proper way.
Just celebrate and be joyful because he has brought good will/good tiding/favor to us all.

A very merry Christmas to every nairalander.
It's the season the whole world joins Christians to celebrate our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ on the 25th December of every year.

However way you celebrate this day, do not forget who this day is about- JESUS CHRIST.

Do not forget his purpose- For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should notnperish but have eternal life. John 3:16

Do not forget his legacy- That he might live through you and I in Spirit, in Love and in Power as sons of God even as we put our Faith in Him and continue to know God through Him obeying as He leads us through life. John 17:3,

As we celebrate this year's Christmas, please renew your relationship with God by desiring to know Jesus Cjrist personally. He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. And no one can come to the Father except through Him. He has all the answers to our questions and solution to our problems. He knows our Past, present and future. And He wants to make you His son, disciple, servant and friend.

Often times during this season we expect gifts from people. As good as this is, let's also share this gift with others- the Gift of Salvation and Love.
If you have things/properties you're no longer using, they may be valuable to others. You can donate to those in need around you or to a church or a motherless home, etc and put a smile and a glint of hope in someone's face. This is what the season is all about. To renew our hope and faith in God and people.

God bless you and I and God bless our great country Nigeria. 2024 will be glorious for us spiritually and materially in Jesus name.

May the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Love of God and the Sweet Fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us now and for ever. Amen.

DrDoc:
Emefiele is stealing banks. Buying banks with phantom payments. What a wonderment !


Emefiele is a financial terrorist ans should serve ten life times behind bar

This deserves a Nollywood blockbuster.
The guy is Nigeria's Wolf of Wallstreet.

Vinnie2000:
She initiated sex and I rebuked her with my 'Rod'.

You consider adultery sinful but you don't think fornication is??

Quality20:
In the past, many pastors married and converted ashewo women and they became responsible and religious but these days, many guys flow with hookup girls.

Guys can u really marry those religious hookup babes u are dating or u guys are only having fun? Are u trusting enough of ladies? Remember some of them only did hookup because of some problems bordering on finances, like been with younger siblings who need money or sick parents etc.

This is an interesting table that only God knows how he decides their fate.

Natbrowny:
Kunle

Tell us something new about Nollywood.

Coz this info na since 1990s
Same info for other industries. Even Banking, Oil and etc etc etc.

Na clique. Very dangerous clique

Confam. Na who dey the mattter e dey new to.
Hope it's not what I'm thinking.
Glad his head is in the right place.

Botragelad:
Have you lost your mind?
Is there a law against wearing a brassiere or whatever you call it.

It's like saying a bloke can't come in because he's not wearing a singlet. How does that make any sense? You're the same one who moans about government injustice but you back injustice against others or things you don't like. Isn't that hypocritical!

By your logic, you don't challenge your tutor and expect him to cave in but you want your president to cave in to your demand on how to make the country better. You are saying she has no right to speak and stand up for herself yet you moan the judiciary is rubbish, you want everyone to shut up and let their right get stomped on, yet you lot whinge about abuse from the police.

The audacity of that bloody wimp. I can't picture this happening in the US or any civilised country. You are bound to get your arse sued for harassment!

What is justice? What is injustice?
Who decides what is fair?
Fairness/Justice is relative when it comes to institutions and nations.

If the school has rules against her style of dressing, then this is justice.
If the school has no rule against her style of dressing, then it is injustice.

She has done the right thing by bringing it to public scrutiny. And hopefully this gets to the school authority too.

bonnyhope:


Na hm tell u say hm be graduate?

Even if na only sec sch e still no pure na.

Kasdat5:
I'll be traveling to Lagos 26th . Heard t.p is about 30k + for regular park. Some 50k

How is this useful without your location?
And you be graduate.

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

This story is not adding up.
Your wife suspects your every call all of a sudden?
What changed?
Do you hide things from her?
How us your communication together?
Is she also hiding things from you?

Youay nit have committed the actual physical cheating but I suspect you're wmotionally cheating on her.