₦airaland Forum

Mercylike:
Growing up with my family, I grew up not liking my dad but liking my mother so much that I can go to the extreme for her. It all started like this;

While we were growing, my dad having like 2 wives never really cared about us. Not even our steps siblings who are older than us. Their own even worse, they struggled and worked hard to get what the want with little or no help from our dad. Except for 1 or 2 out of 7 of them, the rest stopped at secondary school (public). My dad had no intention of being responsible for them.

Back to myself and my brother which are the only kids my mom gave my dad, he never still feels responsible.

Throughout my primary, secondary and tertiary years, I can't pinpoint one time that my dad bought sandal, cloth or anything for us. The only drug my dad has ever bought for us when we are seriously sick is paracetamol, even if we have serious sickness, he doesn't care. All he does is to call my mother to come take care of us (my mother doesn't stay fully with us because it won't even be convenient in such house with step mom but whenever she comes, she could spend a week).

Infact he was un-interested in sending us to school but thanks to my MOTHER. Though she didn't read well as she stopped as primary 5 or so but she said that she vow that she will train her children to school if they are ready to learn. Myself and my bro were ready to learn and my mom entered debts just to make sure we go to school. I could remember giving up when I gained admission, my dad already told us that he didn't send us to go to school ooo. I didn't know how my mother did it, she came home and gave me the acceptance fee and school fees with some other money. ( I cried before and after the incident, I don't know how this woman got this money but I'm sure she took loan).

Sometimes our step mom gets jealous thinking it was my dad that was doing those efforts for us but never did she know that all was my mom. I won't deny, dad contributed little but it was by force, begging his friends to plead to him to pay part of our school fee and all. But he is always boisterous of the fact that his sons are in school and all which angers me to see him boast with me especially.

Till now, I still don't feel responsible for my dad well-being. I have tried adjusting myself to loving him well but I can't. I just like him and respect him as a father but for my mom, I will do anything for her. I will go hungry for her, I will starve for her.

Nairalanders, it's being like 3 or 4 years I went to see my dad even though his place is not too far from me. He has been calling me several times that he wants to see me but I have always told him that I don't have time.

My problem is, my dad has never changed.. He is always concerned about himself, all he ask is money. He hardly calls to check up, except when he need money.
Since I started working, I have never defaulted in sending him money every month but I send my mother 3 times or even 4 times what I send my dad. After all, he has our step brothers and sisters he can always ask for money. So I don't really care about him.

One statement he usually makes since we were small "Go and meet your mother". He doesn't feel responsible for our needs, all na our mother.
Though he gives us daily feeding while we were growing and living under him but thanks to my mother that pays food vendors around to give us food whenever we are hungry because my dad doesn't give us enough.


Many stories but I can't say all...

Nairalanders, I still feel guilty as to why I don't like him. It feels like I have not forgiven him but to be honest, I have no issue with him.

How can I free myself from this guilt?

Jackanda1:
I'm in the south south.

Please can you throw more light on the conversion/sanctification part?

Why don't I get the conviction of the Spirit?

Seun:
They are. They have known for at least two decades. They love to make me join their prayers whenever I meet them.

linearity:
Are you sure? And are you really free in Nigeria? Do you have freedom of movement? What about freedom of speech? Which freedom we really get for dis Country?

Jackanda1:
My own fall was even worst cos i became atheist, turned against God and insulted Jesus, went into porn and mxstxbxtxxn, smoking and drinking even after being born again. Later got visited by demons.

I have stopped sinning. The trouble i have now is about my hardened heart. I'm struggling with geniune repentance and Godly sorrow.

If you care about me, please pray for me. Ask the holy spirit to show mercy and open my heart again.

atheistconverta:
Amen. Lol! Thank God for your life. Truly, truly God exists but what He cannot do doesn't.

God bless you brother and may He perfect the beautiful work He's doing in your life.

atheistconverta:
The number of NL atheists turned Christians seemed to be rising on a regular, so this thread is specially devoted to them to share their testimonies and experiences to inspire others, including those atheists who may be contemplating leaving atheism for Christianity but need some encouragement.

I will be mentioning monikers of some I can remember now but would be updating them subsequently when more come up, so if you know any NL atheist that converted to Christianity, kindly mention their monikers so they could be added to the list.

Also you can share the post of their testimonies or links to them here just incase they are not available at the moment.

I will be sharing the ones I could lay my hands on later.

Former NL atheists turned Christians:

1. Myer/Pressplay411
2. Jakanda1
3. Michellekabod
4. NSNO
5. Drjones109
6. GXCHANGE

If God could do it for these, He could do it for you too.

There's nothing impossible with our God. In Jesus name!

Seun:
Present sir.

AmTruth:
Psalm 59:1-2,5....DELIVER NIGERIA from NIGERIA enemies, O our God; defend and protect NIGERIA from those who rise up against NIGERIA. Deliver NIGERIA from and lift NIGERIA above those who work evil and save NIGERIA from bloodthirsty men. You, O Lord God of hosts, the God of NIGERIA, arise to visit all the nations; spare none and be not merciful to any who treacherously plot evil against NIGERIA.

Amen.

God bless President Tinubu.
God bless Vice President Shettima.
God bless our Securities Agencies.
God bless our Ministers.
God bless our Lawmakers.
God bless our Judiciary.
God bless our Governors.
God bless our Local Government Chairmen
God bless our Religious and Traditional Leaders.

God bless NIGERIA.

blingxx:
Believe it or not hushpuppy is living better than the average Nigerian even in jail

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni relax
Relationship, love and marriage is not for everyone

Feintline:
No matter how hard you try, you cannot give what you don't have.
If you don't have it, you don't have it

The person of Peter obi did not just come out to talk blablabla for people to clap.
He has lived the life of the new Nigeria he talks about.
He is not coming to learn how to live it. It is a part of him.

I see Nigeria today and I shake my head.
Tinubu presidency will sink Nigeria.

KiNg0G:
eazi has every right to be here.
He blew but fell off.
Money supposed revive am.
Mr EAZI blew.
He won next rated everyone was asking who is this youngster just like they did to Omaha lay 2021.

But he fell because of what he said not because he couldn't sustain or remain at the top forever.

If he didn't say what he said trust me Mr EAZI would have still be banging hot like Kiz Daniel by now.


Dude is literally one musician that has his own style.
Different pattern entirely from all this party jam artist .

VEXT:
Most of u just come online to showoff

MaxInDHouse:
It's a useless slogan because people agree to what others say either through conviction or by force.
A pastor tells you to empty your pocket in the name of God so he could help you spend your hard earned money but an armed robber tells you the same thing at gunpoint.
If you no gree for the first person you go gree by force for the second person!

placeofallure:
If people need special grace, or skills , or abilities to survive you, Tope, then you are of questionable character. You are toxic and difficult to cope with. Honestly, this reminds me of the American movie, 'Deliver Us From Eva'.

Your husband and siblings can't all be bad. Maybe you are meddlesome, maybe you are domineering and unreasonable at times. Just work on your attitude is all! Live and let live.

janejjjjj5000:
I hired a househelp in October. She is 34 years old. She tells me she wants to get married and that she is not getting any younger.

My mum is around now on a visit and when she heard her saying it, my mum told me to send her away so she will not snatch my husband.

My mum said that people like that when they get too desperate can come up with all kinds of ideas.

I trust my husband but my mum's words have been playing in my head.

I would appreciate your advice.

Thank you.

Demigod22:
You think your personality are largely responsible for the kind of people you attract? Do you consider environment? Circumstances and other natural and external factors?

I don't go about gaslighting people, I am just on guard to avoid being manipulated.

tallfish145:
Is it right for a husband for demand for any money sent to his wife by her ex for the support of a child she got for him,ie the current husband's step child? Worthy to note that the child has been living with them for close to ten years the husband married the mother and has been paying the child school fees and feeding

Klinxmanz:
ladies which category of guys will u choose "handsome broke guys or rich ugly guys"

Demigod22:
Some partners don't give you same energy. Some people are already damaged from past relationships.

For instance, I asked a girl to visit me, she said she wants to cook for her Dad, I said that is okay, we see tomorrow instead. She got angry that I should have forced her to come. Another one expect me to be seize her phone for not taking an instruction, she wants me to be reading her chats and have her password.

Such people only know negative energy, and if you don't correct them or leave them, they can easily influence a weak mind.
Talking about manipulative partner, have you learned how to make use of telepathy, reverse psychology, and clairvoyant power?

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

CoronaVirusPro:
That's a good price for a nanny based on Davido`s social status.

We talking about Davido`s first daughter and child here!

Demigod22:
God knows I am not created to be nice. I can only be considerate or humane, but nice is not for me.

When it comes to relationship, I am in charge, I am blunt and refute what is wrong immediately, I am not perfect, but I am not totally sentimental.

Nicepoker:
A nigerian girl is like a summer weather surrounded by a winter constitution. Always keep them where they belong. (The back seat). They don't even know what they actually want.

SETHARTHUR:
I can't take this advice. Mbanu.

DamnnNiggarr:



I think I'm beginning to like this trend 😂😂😂

in the coming week(s), watch out as women would wake up from their slumber.

This is an eye opener to ladies rubbing shoulders with their husbands.

Bulldozer90:
Shouldn't that be a civil case. If someone made a criminal complaint against them,why are they being paraded?

Bulldozer90:
Shouldn't that be a civil case. If someone made a criminal complaint against them,why are they being paraded?

Righthussle:
This guy no even know who Tinubu be.

The committee will be constituted in May and they'll come up with an amount in December this year. Implementation will be June 2025. And before then 1 Dollar will be exchanged for #2300 and 1 litre of petrol will be #1450.