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LadyRosa2:
As the topic implies, this is a true life story.

Although my knowledge of this family started around when I was 19 years old.

I will call this friend of mine Sarah, the first child and daughter of her father. This true life story appears sad, and in my quiet times, especially recently, I'm beginning to feel sympathetic to both sides of the coin.

A few days ago, around 6 am, Sarah called me, and our conversation went like this;

Me: Babe, how far, this one you dey call by this time?
Sarah:I'm going to drop my papa at the park.
Me: for what na? Person wey just enter town yesterday? You for allow the man rest small...

Sarah: no be for my house, I don drop am, pay him transport, and still give am 5k to hold the body for the road.

Me: Babe, I dont support this one, in less than 24 hours your dad dey the Road for like 12 hours.

Sarah: That one no concern me, no be me invite am come.

A day earlier her father had called her from their previous location, he must have gotten there only to find out his 'ex-wife' had moved out. He decided to call Sarah, and she picked up, accommodated him for the night and bundled him back to the next available bus to Makurdi.

Truth be told, the ex-wife no longer lived in the slum he visited. She is now in a duplex, paid for by his first son. Let's call him David. David is in Europe and through one of my kinsmen, had secured a 3-bedroom duplex for his mom. His father is not aware of this.

Those children suffered men!

Big Mama, Sarah's mom was abandoned by her husband when Sarah was just 12 years old. The same year, Sarah was brutally raped by a neighbour because of 20 naira, while her mother was bedridden in the hospital after child evacuation. The father left while she was pregnant with the 5th child. Sarah would hawk all manner of foodstuffs to put food on the table. When she doesn't sell, she sells her body for peanuts to buy pepper and oil to make even the cheapest dried akro soup.

Her father had remarried and stopped caring about their welfare, a federal government worker in a good money-spinning ministry. He got transferred to another state and started a new life.

When I knew Sarah, she already had a child, a small saloon and four more mouths to feed. She would work in the morning and at night she would visit lounges. Life was hard, and so cigarettes and drinks became her god.Sarah till date is a chimney and she does so even in the presence of my husband, he no longer minds.

One cold night a couple of years ago, after we shared drinks at my place. She narrated how she and her siblings suffered.

" Sis, say my brother travel abroad, no be my power,na say God don look us say we don too suffer. David go gather wound for his body, from one Lebanese and Indian company to another, na so machine go dey cut cut his body. So so blue ink full him body"

I watched with tears how she broke down completely, spilling her wine all over my tiles.

"Sis, na 20 naira e take to lose my virginity, 20 naira!"

", My father...Wetin' we do am?!"

Two years ago and some months , she got a huge break. She called me to follow her to Transcorp Hilton and made me promise that I 'behave' myself.

We met this man, well groomed. We were half into the conversation when she looked at me with a forced smile, and said to me
" Sis, this is the man that raped me"

The spring rolls in my mouth turned into vinegar, my heart began to pound, and I could only see everyone but the man blurry. I eventually kept my cool but was silent the whole evening even as the man apologised profusely. My baby was beginning to cry, and I took the opportunity to leave their table because I was feeling sick and nauseated.

In less than 6 months after that encounter, he had secured a bigger and well-equipped saloon for her and had given her enough to travel out to buy hair.

Let's talk about David. David suffered oooo. I remembered one time I was going through her old pics and saw a younger version of David, sickly with his tummy protruded.

" My sister, na poison. My father come one day,, carry am go makurdi, na so person call my mother say make she come do carry her pikin before them kill am.My mother enters Moto, and as she stops for Keffi, she stand for Road dey beg for Moto wey go carry her reach makurdi, no money na. We carry am waka from one church to another before God just save that boy. "

I looked at the picture again and gently dropped it, still overwhelmed with internal grief. The first time I saw David in person after he graduated from the University ( he sponsored himself with the help of his sisters), I asked in bewilderment,

" So na this boy your father abandoned?"

Standing before me was a young man, fair, built and with a height I reckoned would be above 6. In inches. No wonder white women couldn't get off him as soon as he landed in Europe. He got married to one and life in that family changed in a flash. I enjoyed it for I got a cut from my father's kinsman when he bought a property.

Their father is no longer with the second wife, as she left him after three kids. He married a third and is now a retired pensioner.

Last night, while shopping together, Sarah was laughing and I asked, " Babe why you dey laugh"?

" When my father comes to my house, him dey ask me why I leave one bedroom go enter 3 bedrooms with my son. I tell am palee, this house no be rent o, na my house be this o."

" So wetin' him come talk?" I inquired.

"Wetin' him one talk again? Shebi waist pain wey my mama dey go through na say he left her when she was in her twenties. The woman has not seen Preek 4ck till today, because she carries church for the head. Woman wey him marry when she dey 17 years."

I choose to use the word ex-wife, but they never really divorced because the bride price paid is still binding. The fact that this woman who has suffered so much will soon be a mother-in-law to a German BMW Engineer in a few days is overwhelming. I wasn't surprised their last girl will end well, she's always looking like something out of foreign red carpets all the time. Like David, she is tall slim, surprisingly Conservative and intelligent.

Palee will be coming again to grace the marriage of one of the daughters he abandoned. Can't imagine his regret when he sleeps in a well-furnished duplex, away from the slum where he abandoned his children and wife many years ago, only to find out the first son from his loins bought that for his mother.

E go to pain am.

But one thing is certain or I think I noticed, David and Sarah still bear the hurt. The other kids have moved on, and don't mind being in their father's life.

You're a good story teller.
Momsy is the heroine of this story and Pman clearly is the villain.

Time always justifies. In due time we all reap what we sow in this life and hereafter.

MikeofKd:
Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

Fear of commitment is on the high side in this generation among both genders.
Past relationship experiences and observing what others are battling with in their marriages is enough to make marriage a dreaded thing.

It's important to ask yourself the right salient questions;
-Why do you want to marry?
-What are you looking for in a marriage?
-What's your idea of an ideal marriage?
-Are you being pressured into marriage, have you set a deadline for yourself?
-Are you ready for marriage- spiritually, emotionally, financially, etc
-Are you teachable and are you learning, unlearning and relearning about marriage?
-Have you healed from your hurt? You know you've healed when you can share your experience without regret but lesson learnt.

Fear is an emotion that is both productive and destructive depending on ow you react/respond to fear.
You certainly have to overcome your fear of commitment.
Start by praying about it. Then start exposing yourself to good marriages online and offline,
This will help change your narrative about marriage. You will like wise start to attract the right type of people into you life.

finallybusy:
In our part of the world, relaxation means sitting in bars drinking or watching sports. What can an adult do which won’t involve the activity?

There’s swimming. There’s hiking (many don’t consider it relaxing nor an activity to indulge in for obvious reason). There’s playing soccer, I’m not a fan of this. What else?

Have you considered working for God?
There's activities to do individually and corporately.

officialwdhtv:
Another groom cancels wedding after finding out wife to be visited her ex before their wedding

This seems to be rampant now as more men are "waking up" to avoid cases of paternity fraud.

Why cant some women just be sincere and stick to one man?

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmcHqkJkdU4

Another victim of soul ties. There's a spirit behind it and it can only be broken in Christ.

Queengee:
Indian managers don't know exact meaning of being manager. In their heads, they literally own you; they don't say no to clients and then literally overload the workers. They need soft skills training and if this does not work, they should get kick on their ass.

They don't trust Nigerians.
But they value honest and hardworking Nigerians.
They overwork staff if the job permits it.

Blackhacker:
Saw this and I wanted to know what opinion will you defend like this?

That God is Good All The Time.

MadamVanessa:



No man born of a woman can cross Vanessa using false marriage promises as bait .

If you need sex, Open up and be genuine with your intentions. when once you starts with marriage, I know immediately that you're a clown and still a baby in the game and I will play you the game till you become so useless.

I have done that to couples of men, sadly , today they're so useless . They foolishly sold every of their properties just to see Vanessa's pant. Men men men chai and today I am the Jezebel and I agreed totally.

As seemingly defensive as this is, it is quite demonic. You may need to go for deliverance or simply rededicate your life to Christ.
They may not possess you sexually, but for collecting their gifts with ulterior motives, you're indebted to them.

Jezebel spirit is real. I don't know if that's the actually spirit behind what you described, but take it serious.
Try to stop and live a clean life for some months. If you can't then there's a spirit in control that needs to be cast out of you.
I hope this doesn't scare you but brings you to repentance.

I believe you're going to be useful in God's kingdom, winning souls of men and women by God's Grace and some of your experience.

Animegirl:
That was how one lied that lovemaking is different from fornication when we're not even married.

Lemme have money first, I will show men shege especially those Christian brothers bloody hypocrite.

Technically.,that's actually true.
Sex can be with anyone. but it's different with someone you actually have feelings for.
Sex is physical, love-making is soulish/emotional/mental. And usually leads to soul-ties.

But whether sex or love-making, all should be done within the confines of marriage.
The easiest way to ruin a godly relationship is to get sexually involved before marriage.

tctrills:
In the book of John 17.3, we learn, And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.

If eternal life is the knowledge of God and Jesus Christ, then what does it mean to know God.

Do you know God from reading your Bible?
Do you know God by being a Christian?
How does one get to know God?

These are very Profound questions.
God is set to reveal Himself to you.

1. You know God by seeking Him in sincerity and humility.
By asking the right questions like you're doing now and being open-hearted. He reveals himself in various ways, the Bible is a documented book inspired by His Spirit.
So clearly it helps a lot. Studying the bible without the Spirit of God teaching you makes it head-knowledge which is not productive but destructive.

2. What does it mean to be a Christian?
A Christian is not a title but a nature. One who has known Christ and now talks, walks and works like Him. One who bears the gifts and fruit of the Spirit.

3. By studying the Word of God to Know and Do His Will. Not for ulterior motives or arguments.

SweetBuns:
They say that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but honestly speaking there are certain calibres of men I will never go near no matter how hard they try.

To get straight to the point,

1. Short men
Oh my God.... I don't just know what to say about these sort of men. If I'm taller than you as a girl, then sorry but I can never see you as my second piece. You'll always be like a younger brother to me. No hard feelings.
Short men also have this irritating attitude whenever they see girls around, as if they're trying to compensate for their low height. And some even go to the gym and gets muscles.... But it just makes them look shorter like a 5 litre jerry can and irritating
Also, why in the world would I pick a short guy over a tall guy? I literally feel so protected and safe when I'm with a guy that is wayyyy taller than me (I'm 5'2 so my height is kinda average)... So ofc I'd want a tall man and not a mini man.
Imagine hugging a man and he's hugging your waist cause he's short ugh.
I wanna stand on my toes whenever I kiss him and strain my neck just to look at his face. No more no less.
Tall men also stand out more, they're far more attractive and I also want taller sons and daughters.
Who should the short guys date then? I dunno... But not me.
The bar starts at 6'0, but If you're like 6'2 or 6'3... I want your babiesss

2. Bald men
The only age where I think baldness is acceptable as a man for me is if he's like in his 50s or 60s. But if you're in your 20s-30s and you're already going bald.... It just irritates me low-key in a inexplicable way... Like why will a young guy have a hairline that receeds all the way to the middle or back of your head? Where did all your hair go? Gross
I also read somewhere that early balding is genetically inherited so that means my children too will suffer the same fate? God forbid.
My man ought to have a head full of hair well into his 60s, then we start talking about hair loss.

3. "Oju yo Bo" people
I didn't know the English term for this so I had to Google it. It's a Yoruba term for people whose eyes pop out of their sockets like that of a wall gecko. This is also something I don't like in my man.... I want his eyes to be like that of Henry Cahill... Neatly tucked inside and having small slit like opening.

Addition: so I just googled it and it's called prey eyes. I prefer the hunter one since it gives my man a piercing gaze and I just wanna hug him immediately.

4. Eyebrows
A man MUST have thick eyebrows. If you don't, I can't take you seriously

5. Men with bad posture

6. Men who supports man U

That last one was a joke but I'm dead serious about the rest. And I'm sure other girls will agree to some up there too.

Say no more... I'm your soec.
Surprised you didn't add broke men. Typo/Oversight? Lol

Antoeni:
As Christian, We Should knows Our Limits ,There are DO's & DON'Ts In Every Organization, Abide or Quit.
It Serves Her Right

As right as you are that Christians ought to know their boundaries, especially when it comes to profession, you have to also understand the place of compassion. A believer is meant to be compassionate.
So she might have been in a situation where she was torn between her spiritual obligation and professional obligation.

There are grey areas to this story hence why it may be a bit too early to judge her until we hear her side of the story.

Her deportation should however not be seen as the end of the world. God does not waste his ministers where they are not valued, I believe this will end in praise and God's name will be glorified.

money121:
Potential kee you

With this attitude, na only your mama go dey patronize you last last.

money121:
We must learn a lesson in hard way

E pain Am

Must everyone patronize you?
Must someone patronize you before you are nice to them?

If you had handled it well, that was a potential customer and may have been a loyal one.
Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Ballotelle:
Good day house, has any experienced job loss unexpectedly as a graduate and how did you cope during that period expecially when you have a family (labourer jobs are not even easy to come by), how did you cope with rejection, the emotional effect

First realize that most disappointments are but blessings in disguise.
Many people are stuck in jobs they do not like but pays their bills. You've been forced out of that pool.

What will you have launched into if you had not lost your job but you decided to resign?
Do not limit yourself.

Is your wife supportive? Is she working?
If no, you may need to be under-employed to foot your bills.
If yes, take your time to pray for direction. Some times you need some time to decide what you will do.

Most importantly, every thing starts with getting God right.

Chingyyy878:
Why is it a problem to date a friend ex, what if she’s a God’s plan for me ?

You must be willing to choose between them.
If she is indeed as you perceive, God's plan for you, then that friendship is worth sacrificing.
A good friend if indeed he knows the ex is a good person should not deprive both of you of happiness, if he has moved on.

agulion:
What is good is good, what is bad is bad, well-done Mr governor

It's difficult not to like this man. Even though I have my personal reasons not to like him, I can't deny his excellent spirit.
He is a blessing to Abia state and the East. And hopefully to Nigeria some day.

Rossikk:
I don't understand why we need these whites or Asians around to be building our roads in this day and age.

What do they teach civil engineering students in all the universities we have?

If e no dey shame una, e dey shame me.

Our education institutions are nothing to write home about.
Most schools don't have the facilities to well-equip students.
Most students we churn out can't adequately defend their course certificates.

Corruption is insidious... it affects every thing directly and indirectly.

Lamanii22:
So guys, my sister met a man like a year ago that is divorced, right now he wants them to take it to another level, like wedding level…. My sister is a single mother though, educated, working class, successful…. But my mom doesn’t agree to it, she’s only seeing the bad side…


So I would like to know if there’s anyone who has gotten married to a divorced man before.. I would also like to know the pros and cons…

This said man has been truthful so far though…

Waiting for comments! Thank you…

Every thing has it's Pros and Cons.

They're both single/divorced for a reason.
They both have to allow themselves to heal first other wise.. fry pan to fire.

But if they've learnt the necessary lessons from previous relationship and healed, they're going to be able to understand and support each other better.
Most importantly, they should please put God first.

IAMBOSS1990:
Omo this cannot be overemphasised.
Sex outside marriage now has so much be glamourised that people don't even think of its negative consequences anymore. Despite the fact that we have witnessed how much it has destroyed many people's lives, we just somehow go ahead and ignore the dangers.
Whether you believe in God or not, there's nothing like free sex or consequence free sex. Be careful out there.

It has been normalised o. Only God can deliver this generation from decadence.

Truths9ja:
People are mad, I like the way Davido calls me his younger sister despite we are age mates – Singer Teni

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CL0v7BhxMWI?si=Fi6Wc0Rx8VVAkdaz
Credit: Intel Region

Age is such a great snare to so many especially Nigerians. We practically idolize age.
Age is not the determinant for seniority or honor.
Seniority is determined by a whole lot of factors, age is simply one of them.

Glory is the determining factor.
Who has achieved what you desire?
In honesty and humility, who is more successful than you?
What do you glory in?

Is it Age?
Is it Money
Is it Education?
Is it Spirituality?
is it Connection?
is it Beauty?
Is it Marriage?
Is it Children?
Is it Talent/Skill?
is it Certificates?
Is it Followers on Social Media?

All these are the factors that can determine who is a senior to you. And to each their own.
But in Nigeria our culture happens to glory in Age and Money and Spirituality the most.
Hence why we are so reactive against her calling Davido who is clearly her Elder in the music industry, in money, in pedigree, in so many things she just like most people desire.

Most importantly, scripturally, if we must glory in any thing, we should glory in our knowledge of God, our faithfulness to Him and that our names are written in heaven.

Kukutenla:
You fucking zombies and ass licking
So Aketi is sick because he didn't support tinubu according to you. So who did he support. Remind me who said Tinubu is the Don if SW and no one should run if he says he wants to.
You zombies need a brain check cause this is not normal

Like I said, it is not for the carnally minded.
Stick to what you understand. Your little foetal mind might get fried trying to even understand it.

Odin13:
Aketi, the man that set the dice rolling for Oga Tinubu with his “ power must come south” noise..

Okowa..was politically deceived by a Yoruba man.. like all those foolish governors

Wike saw ahead after consulting.. backedoff only to realign for selfish reason

Obiano stepped aside reading the buhari’s government hand writing..

Udom dogded the Yoruba bullet..

The rest fell for it.. especially IPOB.. Na so dey carry southern unity like endsars enter market.. while the Yoruba sit and watch

Today e don be for Aketi properly.. to enjoy the southern Presidency na war.. even the presidency they run am local with his deputy..

Ipob na dem scream pass..

Nigerians sef .. too easy to manipulate them using same pattern they believe to know..

Some things cannot be judged casually/carnally/naturally.
There are people you don't cross.
Akeredolu was not totally in support of Tinubu, and I suspect he must have been working on an agenda against him.
I don't even think Tinubu did any thing to attack him. He is being judged for what he knows he did.

I suspect it has a lot to do with the Yoruba Nation Agenda. Tinubu was not in support of the agenda.

FOURSQUARE GOSPEL CHURCH
TODAY'S MESSAGE (26TH NOVEMBER 2023).
THEME: Rest on Every Side (I Kgs.5:4; Matt.11:28)
TOPIC: Preparing for Your Eternal Rest (Heb.4:9,11; Rev.21:1-7)
MESSAGE BY: REVEREND TOPE ONI

Definition of Rest – Rest is defined as: peace, quietness, cessation of painful and stressful labour, safety and security, and freedom from oppression. It involves two broad dimensions. The first dimension of all-round rest is: victory in our various needs, challenges and battles in life (I Kgs.5:4; II Chron.20:29-30). The second dimension is: spiritual rest, joy in the Lord, calmness and peace in our hearts, regardless of what we are going through, and irrespective of whatever is happening in our environment (Matt.11:28-30; Phil.4:4-7).

CONDITIONS FOR ENJOYING GOD'S ALL-ROUND REST

Joshua Selman emphasized that though the God of grace has made rest available to all human beings that will come to Him, it is not a free gift that all will enjoy. Not all human beings, and even not all church-goers will enjoy all-round rest in this life. This is because there are things to know and to do, for us to constantly enjoy all-round rest in this life (Heb.3:7-11).

Quoting Ps.34:19 & Jn.16:33, Joshua Selman emphasized that all people that came to this life have faced and will face problems, challenges and adversities such as financial hardship, sickness, conflicts in the home, delayed marriage or fruit of the womb, physical attacks, depression and emotional illness and various forms of demonic attacks. He however emphasized that Christians increase the adversities, challenges and problems in their lives through: disobeying the principles and commandments of God; not having a right understanding and discernment of the way, will and mind of God; ignorance and not walking in wisdom; dishonouring people we should honour (pastors, parents, elders, and leaders) and demonic attacks. Almost all the ministers in the Convention emphasized that challenges will be highly reduced and we will overcome almost all life challenges through: foundational encounter with God at the new birth; continuous life-long encounter with God and being spiritually deep in the knowledge of the word of God; praying without ceasing; regular fasting; intimacy with God and with the Holy Spirit; and hearing clearly from God and following His leading and His voice, and walking in divine wisdom. Joshua Selman emphasized that not all church-goers know God and are spiritually minded, even though they sing, dance, and speak in tongues (Rom.8:1-. He also emphasized passionate worship with knowledge, understanding, depth and passion, as an instrument for receiving God’s blessings and all-round rest (Ps.47:7). If we follow all the above principles, adversities and unrest will be avoided, highly reduced and will be overcome 90 to 95% of the time, sooner or later. In the few cases of unmet needs, we will still have rest, with faith, patience, and longsuffering, in our relationship with God, particularly as we constantly remind ourselves that we are strangers in this world and that we will soon enter our perfect eternal rest.

PREPARING YOURSELF TO ENTER GOD'S PERFECT REST IN HEAVEN

Our perfect rest is not in this world, but in heaven. Even when our personal problems are solved in this world – some level of anxiety is still inevitable on various issues that may not directly have to do with you: issues with spouses, children and family members; wickedness of neighbours, human beings and political leaders; sin, ignorance, hypocrisies and contradictions in the Church, minor accidents; forgetting some things etc; all of which will still cause us some pain, sorrows, groanings and displeasure.

Rest on every side does not also stop people from persecuting us for belonging to Christ, and for preaching holiness and righteousness. It is only heaven that we will eternally enjoy God’s Perfect Rest, without any pain or displeasure at all. In heaven, there is no sorrow, no sin, no wickedness, no unmet needs. The joy and pleasure of heaven is beyond description. We will have a new body. Heavenly Kindgom is completely different from the Kingdom of this world; it is a Kingdom of perfection in all realms (Rom.2:9-10; Is.65:17-19; Rev.21:1-5).

If what Joshua Selman said is true, that though God’s all-round rest is available to all people in this world, but that enjoying it is not automatic and that not all people will enjoy it, it is all the more so, in respect of entering to our eternal rest in heaven. Making heaven is like making 1st Class in the University. It does not happen by chance, by luck, unprepared or expectedly. You must greatly desire it above all things, work hard with God by drawing from His infinite grace, and be willing to pay all necessary price and sacrifices, before you can make it (Matt.7:13-14, 21-23; Lk.12:32-40; 13:23-28; 21:34-36; I Cor.9:24-27).

The following are some of the key tips for entering God’s eternal rest

1. Our divine encounter must continue all the time, through your deep intimacy with God, in praying without ceasing, in fasting, in loving fellowship with the brethren, in eating the Word of God daily, and studying other helpful materials – Is.40:29-31; Jer.29:13.

2. You must love the total truth of God, without being selective. Your heart must be totally open to the whole Word and truth of God – II Tim.4:1-5

3. Run away from sin and live a holy life. Believe that holiness and freedom from sin is possible in this world. Give God no rest until He gives you the gift of sanctification and total freedom from sin – Heb.12:14; I Pet.1:15-16; I Jn.3:8-9; 5:18

4. You must be willing to know your weaknesses, what is lacking in your life, and you must be willing to take correction, counsel and discipline, without argument, and without pride – Ps.139:23-24; Prov.9:8; I Cor.11:31-32; II Cor.13:5; Heb.12:5-11.
5. Knowing that God has two sides, that God is terrible and dangerous, though loving and merciful, you must be sober, watchful, and take the side of caution, moderation and self-denial in all things – Ps.2:11; Heb.12:28-29; I Thes.5:22; Lk.21:34-36; I Cor.9:24-27

6. You must pray for grace to make heaven every day, after you must have taken care of all the above – I Thes.5:17; Lk.21:36

7. Finally, you must have definite scriptures you are standing on, and have the faith that having done all, the grace of God will help you to make heaven – Lk.12:32; Jn.10:27-30; 14:1-3; Phil.1:6; Heb.7:25; I Thes.5:23-24.

CONCLUSION

If we take time to digest all the above points and seek God’s face to do them and walk in the light of God’s word, it will be easier to walk in all-round victory and enjoy the peace and rest of God. If there are few areas where the challenge appears persistent and our prayers are not yet answered, we will continue to walk with God in faith, patience, and longsuffering, with the determination that our love for God and faith in God is unconditional. Most importantly, our deep hunger and thirst must be making heaven. This must be our greatest desire and driving force, as we set our affection on the things above (Col.3:1-4; I Pet.2:11). This grace alone will make us to have rest here on earth, regardless of what we may be passing through, knowing that our stay here on earth is for a very short time, and that God’s perfect, eternal rest is waiting for us in heaven, if we continue to walk with God steadfastly, in holiness, righteousness, total obedience, passionate worship, with faith and patience (I Pet.1:3-9).

Jewessgratitud3:
A man has planned to run away from his wife and baby after he was seen pricing baby food and diaper and started sweating inside AC after he discovered the prices.

He called his family members right away blaming them for forcing him to marry, that now he's the one facing the heat and none of them is here to help him out.

Now check out the phone the man is using, not up to 4k. Check out his shirt and trousers.. is that the person you think can afford that kind of food? I'm not trying to degrade him. I'm just trying to say, make sure you can comfortably cater for yourself and one more person before going into marriage. This is exactly what the so many men who abandoned their family passed through before deciding to take to their heels.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. let's stop making it look scary and undesirable with our myopic approach. Do it when the time is right not for public commendation or validation cos when you start facing the heat, non of those people cheering you on will come and help you like the man rightly said.

Well said.
Marriage is for matured people who can handle responsibilities. And most importantly who put God first.

Truths9ja:
Wow that’s lovely, Damilola is promoting Yoruba culture and heritage in US

I don't know how to react to this.
This is exactly what Apostle Paul exhorted us not to do. The essence of speaking in tongues is for evangelism and edification of this church.
How can the prayer edify this audience when they do not understand it and no one to interprete?
They didn't even know when to say Amen.
It's okay if he actually can't speak their language but since he can, he should have prayed in the language they understand.

However God works in mysterious ways, it probably won't have made news if he hadn't prayed in Yoruba. So it would seem it achieved the purpose of evangelism and promoting the gospel.

May God's will always be done and His name gloried in Jesus name. Amen.

mycar:
if you check well, the reason makes no sense, in the developed world, you can chose how many years you want to do a particular course, why stay 4 to 5 years in the university for a course you can do in 3 years?
what will happen to the students that have been admitted?

You did not read the reason or you missed it.
They kept exceeding their admission limit for the course.

Chygoz01:
Hello nairalanders I do hear many Nigerians say ojukwu lead 3million igbos to death expecially from a particular tribe so my question is how did ojukwu lead 3million igbos to death is it him that fire the first shot ? If your brothers are being killed unjustly won’t you make a decision.
Let’s take for example your sisters husband always beat and humiliate your sister and it get out of hand won’t you tell your sister to come home .how did igbos offend nigeria

The most important day in a person's life is the day he begins to accept his/her blame and stop blaming others. The next is knowing when you have been defeated and accepting your defeat.

Most igbos tend to blame others for their misfortunes but take the glory for their fortunes even when they were helped.

When igbos finally accept that every one that partook in the civil war had a portion of their blame, igbos will be delivered from their anti-Nigeria agenda.

The funniest part is that most igbos till date still do not accept that they were defeated in the war instead they have their own narrative of the war. That's the height of Pride and self-deceit and stubborness.

The igbos have not healed and I hope they allow themselves to heal by telling them selves thr truth.

adaperry25:
if she was in a relationship.. She wouldn't consent to us meeting.

I've told her how we can improve on our communication because I don't like a one sided stuff.

I should want it just as she wants it too.

To those saying I should flash her money..ive stopped doing that..money is important but she shouldn't love me for money .

Build friendship with her. For some, that takes time.

Akano5:
@Myer

So i'm more interested in chasing success not hoes and it has helped me a lot... na person way don chop dey find woman up and down.

Thank you for the great advice sir. I really appreciate.

You're most welcome.
Now another distraction is money.
Don't chase money. Chase the things that money chases. Make yourself valuable.

Put God first, building yourself spiritually, intellectually, physically, emotionally and socially.

There's no limit to what God will make out of you.
God bless you bro.

adaperry25:
I talked to an older colleague that I was looking for who to settle with and gave her my spec. Wanted a young ibo lady. After a few days, she recommended a lady.

It's been a few days and I'm tired.
I do all the calling and initiate all the chats. I told her a couple of times that I want the communication to be interactive. Sometimes I'll call and she won't pick or chat and she will read and won't reply.

I had to tell her wholeheartedly that if she's not interested..she should let me know. She apologized. I felt she would call this morning since I've been doing all the calling and texting to no avail.

I called this afternoon, she didn't pick and sent sms that she will call back. Up till now..she didn't.
I chatted her on WhatsApp and she said she's sorry that she went to lagos and she's tired.

Abeg all the guys..is this how stressful it is to woo a woman or she's not into me... I don't even know what to tell the lady that recommended her because im tired.

There are 3 things involved.
She's either in another relationship and you're the back-up or she is simply not so used to this relationship thing or she needs time.

Communication is every thing.
Have you asked her if she is in a relationship?
Have you asked her the time convenient for you both to talk?

Seems you have given yourself a deadline to marry as most Nigerians do. Patience is a virtue. Build a friendship with her and see how it goes from there.
Your communication will naturally improve when she begins to like you.

jkpbestseries:
for taking them court

But the reason was clearly stated.
Try dey read. No be every thing you go be reactor.

jeromestarks:
Which of the following is stoping you from getting married?

1. Lack of finance?

2. No serious suitor?

3. You're simply not interested in marriage?

4. Your parents want your elder sister to marry first? ( some tribes do this).

5. Your pastor/imam said this is not your year?

6. The person you love doesn't love you?

7. You are scared of the troubles that come with marriage?

8. You lover is in abroad and s/he wants you to wait?

9. You're passed marriageable age?

10. You think you're too young to get married?

Add yours

Whorever population.