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He who pays the piper dictates the tune, that's the truth in most cases.

If a foreign production company is paying for the rights of this book to be adapted into a movie, then they are at liberty to cast anybody that they deem fit, in this movie. Otherwise, Nollywood could finance this project also and cast a Nigerian actress to play the lead.

Lets stop raising a storm over a teacup.

This tradition should be abolished, the tradition of levying relatives exhorbitantly to make room for expensive burial rites. This is part of the reason some people are afraid of spending money in hospitalizing their ailing relatives for fear that on their death, they wont have enough money to pay for their funeral rites. This leads to partial neglect of the deceased because their 'loved' ones, burdened by tradition, want to set aside money for funeral expenses. Abi, I dey lie?  This is also a potential minefield between siblings with accusations that while one drained their expenses in taking care of the deceased during their lifetimes, the other sibling was simply a no show. Yet, one could say, there should be no price limit in caring for a love one, which is true, but during funeral, most people would rather pay respects to the generous bereaved for spending lavishly on cows, goats, drinks, renovating their father's thatched house into an imposing edifice to give their parent a befitting honor back to mother earth. You will even see elders extolling them, "You gave your father a befitting honor during his funeral." This leads to resentment, particularly, if the caretakers (in some cases, the daughters) are not recognized for caring for the decased during their lifetimes, but ran from hospital to hospital in search of remedy, and in the process, are unable to contribute a widow's mite, during the funeral.

This is an eye-opener to all and definitely a topic worth discussing.

Another one.

A man came back from Church and lifted up his wife and she said, "Baby, this one is sweet, you have not done this to me before," and the husband said, "Our pastor said when we get home, we should lift our problem to God."

deadie:
Everything in Nigeria is meant to showcase wealth - marriage, birthday, burial, anniversary, memorial service, out-of-prison service, thanks-giving service, miracle service, naming ceremony, etc. This is the reason why more than 90 percent of Nigerians will steal if they are in the position to do so. The life of the society is geared towards showcasing wealth.

True, I used to question the essence in throwing lavish parties at ceremonies and I blame it partly on tradition. We need to question some of our African values that celebrates pomp and pageantry even at sombre occasions like funerals. Once, my mom came home from a funeral and our house help hadnt prepared food for her. My mom got angry at her and berated her for implying that she must have eaten at the funeral, hence her reasons for not cooking. Sometimes, it has to do with poverty, but at the same time, we see even respected elders demanding for cows, money, etc, etc during funerals while sons and daughters of the deceased get into debts to satisfy the demands of tradition. And dare not conform to it, you will be the laughing stock in the village.

ileobatojo:
Which could easily have been cured by a pill.

How is it different from malaria, a cold, a headache? This is about enlightening people to stop demonizing things that God has already provided the solution for via medical science. Your post is not helping matters because it is not giving the entire picture. That woman would likely be alive today if she had been taken to a psychiatrist.

Back to this poor woman in question, it sounds more like she was psychotic than just depression. Her leaving home and wandering about all night makes it appear to be more than depression. Post partum psychosis, schizophrenia, acute psychotic episodes etc come to mind.

When will my people stop wasting each other’s lives? Spiritual leaders please wake up and start to educate our people!

Not any different, all sicknesses are from the devil, and yeah, pills can cure some of them, remember, power belongs to God ultimately.

debrief08:
Post Partum Depression, why does everything have to be a spiritual problem? Haba, Mothers are taught about this at antenental clinics. I am so so sad. They should have taken her to the hospital and not conclude it was a spiritual problem. Post patrum Depression, on my Gosh, My people really perish for lack of knowledge

And post partum depression is a spiritual problem caused by the devil. Depression itself is not from God but from the devil, so yeah, it is also a spiritual problem.

henrychubayo:
Hi friends, after reading all your stories, i've decided to publish this funny but real life encounter with 419. My friend told me this story he had with them. He was going home from work, very tired and hungry and had small naira with him but not much to buy any tangible thing. He was stoped by one guy who said he had travel from far place and need direction on some location. My friend said ok and directed him. He moved some steps forward and he was approached by another guy who ask him what that guy was discussing with him. My friend having explained to him and abt to go was convince to call the other guy back and ask what he was doing and how he manage to get here. My friend having known that they are 419 ppl decided to play along since he had no money home and abroad. He call the guy and ask him those questions. He answered and promise to give him some dollars if he help him find the place. He went with them to a place and the showed him some dollars and said that much of it is with one native doctor but that he need money to pay the man to pray for the money so that they can share it. Agreement was reached. Remember that i told you guys that my friend was playing along. So he acted as if he will die if he didn't get his share and this abt convinced this guys that the guy has falling for them. The said that everybody shld go and bring his. My guy told them that he had no money with him but he saw his uncle with a huge amount of money yesterday and that is his only hope to bring his share. So they asked him to go and bring it. He told them to wait for him in 1-2 hours time that he knew where his uncle kept the key. All of a sudden, my guy frown his face. They ask him why. He searched himself and brought that small money he was with and told them that he really can't go to his uncle place now since he had no money to take a drop to that place. They offer to drive him but he said that it will risk suspection from nabors. They agree to give him some money for drop. Guess how much a drop is in coal city. Very much money indeed. My friend pretended to be in a hurry to go and get the money. He enter local transport and stop near his house. There is one joint nearby that he desires to go but had no money. So he entered and ordered for bush meat with palm wine. He eat and drink while the fools where still waiting for him to bring his uncle money. That is the end. He told me this story few years back. So guys who is the 419er now? Answer if you can

And you expect us to believe this story? LOL

Why cant GEJ feed himself and his entourage with the jumbo paycheck he is receiving as President of the USA? In the USA, the president is responsible for feeding himself and his family.

why should Nigerian men be interested in golf, or should we be interested in every game that's popular in the USA?

Is this one of the longest running threads on Nairaland?

The sight of a toy gun in Church given as a present to a member of my congregation created a stir that it wasnt an appropriate gift. As a kid, I loved playing police and thief thought my mom objected once when I requested for this gift from a relative. As a grown-up, I can now understand her misgivings about toy guns, but apparently, there are some parents who would not bat an eyelash if their son or daughter were given one.

What are you thoughts about it?

Thanks for the correction, Mystikal about Uk being an oil producinjg country. However, lets also compare the prices of petrol in Nigeria with that of other oil producing countries like Venezuala, Saudi Arabia, Iraq . . .

Sometimes, I wonder if Nigeria is better off with a military regime over a civilian regime.

That is why I am totally against this barbaric act of kids being flogged.

in me:
If it was the other way round, i mean if it was GEJ and his wife that did the same thing, you will be quick to draw comparisons

The complainer, (Expensive 007)'s profile lists Nigeria as his base, so how could he be affected by Michelle Obama's spending habits back in Nigeria? Kinda like someone commented that Genevieve Nnaji is more fashionable than Michelle Obama, and I am now thinking, does Michelle even know who Genevieve is, or is she weeping buckets of tears for being overshadowed in the fashion industry by someone whose existence doesnt add any relevance to her existence? There are more important stuff happening in the society to be sidelined by these childish topics.

How this one concern you?

LagosShia:
read about the early history of christianity and the formation of christian dooctrines and beliefs and the formation of the bible.then you'd get an idea of what insanity and falsehood mean.

can the bible tell us how many years since the world was created? how does the lack of availability of that information make Islam or christianity or any religion false?

And in the same vein, you do lift up passages from the Holy Bible that you accuse of being false, as containing verses supporting the existence of Mohammed as a prophet. Nna, make up your mind about your views on the Holy Bible.

Watch this montage of Bishop Oyedepo on youtube slapping a girl in Church. This is abuse!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Uidhk7ioYO0

Good job, Fashola, but please reduce the school fees at LASU. It's outrageous.

@jamace, sorry, but I do believe in the existence of these 'myths' in our culture.

http://www.akisan.org/documents/2009/2009_town_hall_abstracts.pdf

Please read the above that attempts to debunk myths/superstitions in our culture.

[quote author=obo_man link=topic=825308.msg9773989#msg9773989 date=1323981662]Any sane person has to criticize a barbaric act. We ain't saying Islam or Christianity is any better than ours but other religions ( Christianity esp) have evolved with modern practices and thinkings while ours haven't.

E.G, the practices of Christianity is quite straightforward and undemanding. No need for human sacrifice, animal sacrifice, buying 7 men with kings, e.t.c. I'm not implying Christianity is any superior to our traditional religion, but we can learn from it to modernise ours. Our fore-fathers rode on horses @ Rgp92, why ain't you still riding on horses? I'm sure you prefer to ride a Ferrari right? 

Same with tradition, our fore-fathers invented it, now it's our turn to either invent ours or modernise it.

Condemning this barbaric act is a form of trying to modernise it.[/quote]But it is superior to other religions because it offers true believers eternal life in God's Kingdom.

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=825308.msg9767094#msg9767094 date=1323897917]The way my father has described the traditional religion to me, it honestly sounded pretty barbaric. Too much focus on human sacrifice and ish.

This is why I'm not convinced that the coming of Western religion to Yorubaland and various other parts of Nigeria more generally was such a bad thing.[/quote]Applause, read my criticism of certain parts of African culture

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-824543.0.html