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child abuse. These are the kind of people that would get arrested in the USA. Unfortunately, in Nigeria, most parents get away scott free under the guise of 'not sparing the rod." Fashola, take a note of this. For those who disapproved of Fashola's new law against corporal punishment in school, what are your thoughts on this?

I tried it yesterday (even though I did not even realize that a question of such had been posed on Nairaland) and came up with about 38 or 40 words.

How can you turn your spouse into a punching bag? Shame!

why cant I modify my earlier thoughts on this subject?

Thumbs up to the law. That would put in check the sadistic nature of some teachers in the educational sector. I absolutely detest the manner corporal punishment is instituted in Nigeria. I have always said this, when I have kids and they are punished unjustly, I wont take it kindly with that teacher. I know teachers who have sworn for parents who questioned their barbaric methods on their kids with parents simply biting their tongue or worse, pleading with them to be more lenient with their children. That's completely unacceptable. If a child misbehaves in class, a swat in the buttocks is fine, or send them home to be disciplined by their parents. If their action is deplorable, expell them. Dont cane them mercilessly with sticks on their bare buttocks and excuse your barbaric actions with the Biblical adage that says, 'Spare the rod, spoil the child." There must be a limit.

odumchi:
I am from Abia state but my town shares a common boundary with some Ibibio settlements at the edge of Ibibioland. We speak a little Ibibio, does that count?

Is it AroChukwu?

dayokanu:
Ndipe,

[b]All men I know below the age of 40 that dont have househelps help with household chores

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You did a survey to come up with this conclusion?

dayokanu:
Pls which kind of men are you talking about and which man would expect a woman to serve him food after a hard days work while he wont do anything? Are we still in the 18th century?

In the olden days, Women dont go to school, and many viewed the education of women as a waste, But nowadays Women are getting as educated as men and in some cases even more educated So why keep the dynamics of 100yrs ago in 2011.

Why keep women tied at home like its done 100yrs ago when they were nt allowed to have an education, vote or even talk in public

Are you telling me that wives dont serve their husbands food anymore in addition to attending to other domestic chores? Or are you implying that the men assist in domestic chores including washing the dishes, sweeping, cleaning, that will be unusual in the Nigerian culture.

For those who disagree on my thought that being a housewife is a fulltime career, I would tell them to reconsider their viewpoints. Traditionally, men are supposed to be the breadwinners and women the man's helper. So, in the past, society dictated that a man had to work while the woman stayed at home to nurture the kids. Times have changed with the high cost of living in the society. Even when women work outside their homes (and some of the men here say that being a stay at home mom is a liability), they are expected to come home and take care of the kids, do the dishes, clean, cook and serve the man food. And the man does not even lift up a finger to help them. Rather, he would expect 'honey' to serve him food, clean up the table and do other domestic chores around. Why? Because it's a woman's job. But hey hey, is it not a man's job to provide for the family? If the woman will equally share in contributing to the household finances, then the man should also assist in domestic chores. Afterall, both of you have jobs outside home and it would be unfair to expect the woman to work double shift at home simply because it's not traditional for a man to engage in housework. There is this picture of Obama, prior to his election as the President of the USA, doing the dishes, and some of the men exclaimed that it was very unafrican (which I totally agreed) But times have changed, mek we boku help women too, dem no be slave. Either they stay at home fulltime or if they work, when they come home, also assist them in domestic chores. It's as simple as that. Women are not slaves.

Once, an arguement arose between my cousin and I over this issue. A family friend of theirs graduated from medical school in Nigeria, got married and is now a stay at home mom. Her parents are unhappy that she hasnt utilized her degree and cited the sacrifices they made on her behalf. My cousin saw their reasoning but I completely disagreed with him. I told him that it was the parents duty to educate her, and afterwards, what she chooses to do with her degree is solely upto her and her husband. O

Being a fulltime housewife is itself work, because you are taking care of the kids, cooking and taking care other domestic duties in the household. It's ignorance to assume that fulltime housewives have it good. No, they dont, and dont even tell me that it's a waste of education for a woman to be a fulltime housewife after finishing college. The fact that she is educated and literate is positive proof that her education is not in vain. Personally, if I am very rich, I would want my wife to be a stay at home mom and take care of the kids in their infancy before transitioning to the corporate world. It's not easy. Give women a break, give housewives a break. Or if your daughter were to tell you that eventually, she would be a housewife after her education, you will choose not to educate her beyond elementary school? My parents are dead, and my senior brother and I took care of the responsibilities of educating our sisters. The youngest, after completing her bachelors decided to do business instead of working 9-5 and I supported her decision and told her that I am ok with it as long as she can live comfortably from it. Or should I have just said, "What a waste of resources after spending 4, 5, 6 years in college?" No!

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=701555.msg8610983#msg8610983 date=1309295607]See this one o! 'Better people' that stood a greater chance aren't complaining, na you de cry. Shior!  [/quote]Exactly!

paragonpro:
As usual all sweeping generalization without any substance, yes i know that there were other forms of writing outside alphabet, but you did not give any example or even a googled link to the form of writing in pre-colonial Nigeria.

Google Nsibidi


I never specifically said that we had no poet, what i said that we do not have any evidence of the poetry since we had no form of writing.

I never said all Africans wore leaves, what i said is that people in present day Nigeria did not have writing and advance technical knowledge or sciences before our contact with foreigners. And i want you to help dispute this.

I dont know about Nigeria, but I can recall reading about a certain tribe in Mali and their expertise in the solar system even before the advent of colonialism. Please do your research before posting this write-ups.

Rich pamper their children in America also, or have you not heard of folks like Paris Hilton, Nicole Richie, P Diddy (who bought an expensive car for one of his sons) and the like of them who paint the town red with ostentatious parties for their wards? You see some of these rich folks establishing trust funds for their kids and the kids hopping from one party to another party in town. Would you say people like Nicole Richie or Paris Hilton have ever held a job working for their fathers? I dont know about that one. They are many of them, just as they are who instil good work ethics in their children, so dont overgeneralize. Some of the Nigerian parents who spoil their kids are perhaps the ones who had it easy in life and are not interested in subjecting their kids to hardship. Personally, if I had a lot of money, while I would let them work hard, at the same time, I would splurge on them too.

Gbenge 77:
The crucial word here is the green card which guarantees her American citizenship provided she maintains that status for five years.Why would the fella miss out on such a huge opportunity?

I wonder!

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=695892.msg8598449#msg8598449 date=1309160691]Miss Taraba/Nigeria on twitter . . .

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    And this is the new queen?  [/quote]Someone is insinuating that an imposter is impersonating her on twitter. Look before you leap.

Even if Nigerian houses were built by foreign architects there will still be criticism, so lets give it a rest. Besides, our houses are built to ensure security, for some part because of robbers. No, I like our architecture and prefer it to the UK that I find uninspiring.

Why didnt Ms Ekiti win?

What was her role in the Obj's regime?

So, which contestant is the favorite on Nairaland? Sha, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but I really think Ekiti is the fairest of them all.

stillwater:
The Ekiti chic should really win Miss photogenic, because she doesn't look like that in reality. . .ok the video. The difference is major!!!!!


https://cdn.bellanaija.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/V14-400x600.jpg

To me, she is the finest of them all.

Eko Ile:
I'll leave the Biafra part alone simply because it's been discussed and over discussed on NL. Besides, we both don't need the potential tribal headache it's bound to generate, but I'll take a stab at the other issues raised. I'll try to keep it simply and straight to the point.





Let's start from the sage himself-

Awolow remains a great man, a great patriot, a wonderful civil servant and trail blazer. He fought selflessly for the upliftment and survival or the Yoruba people and he excelled across the board. Well, I wont bore you with his wonderful achievements.

The fact is, Awolowo died decades ago and many in Yoruba land are still holding on to him as a savior and everlasting leader, the though of any other leader stepping up is is not only a no no, it's just not tolerated.

Right after June 12th, the Awolowo family sided with the establishment against the Yoruba people including Tinubu and other members of NADECO, they broke rank and pitched their tent with the same people Awolowo himself spent his life fighting, the Awolow family decisively pushed Awolow's legacy to the side.

To assert their new role as the mouth piece of the establishment, the oppressors and enemies of the Yoruba people, they deployed the news paper Awolow started nearly 60 years ago to be the voice of the people to attack, abuse and ridicule the people including perceived threats to Awolow's leadership shoes since that's all they have to hide behind while they wine and dine with the eniemies of Yoruba people including.


The Awolow family and the Tribune became the mouthpiece of corrupt Yoruba folks like Afenifere and people like Oni, OGD and Akala. The Tribune is now a propaganda organ of PDP.


Today's politics-


About a year ago, the ACN and Tinubu became the main political force in the SW and a major threat to the Awolowo family and their benefactors/PDP so they deployed the Trubune to publish daily PDP propaganda and attacks against the ACN and Tinubu in particular, but the ACN and Tinubu didn't respond simply because of Awolowo's name and legacy.



Sam Omatseye-

Sam is a fearless writer with the Tinubu's Nation newspaper, he wrote the only response to the Awolow and Tribune's many years of deception, corrupt and crooked behavior, he exposed the Awolow's family and the Tribune's shady dealings and anti SW activities, something the whole of the SW swept under the carpet and refused to discuss simply because of the name involved.

Shortly after Sam's article in the Nation newspaper, reactionary elements from the Awolowo family to the Tribune  and their corrupt friends reacted angrily and blamed the article on Tinubu so they unbleached on him accordingly.

Days later, Tinubu responded by writing HID, he denied any knowledge and didn't ask Sam to retract the article of apologize for the content.

Sam not only didn't take it back, he refused to apologize as demanded by some folks.

The tribune again responded with their usual attacks and insult editorials by calling Tinubu names like bastard, felon and questioning his paternity.

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Awolowo is dead, so let another person be given a chance to lead the Yoruba tribe. Besides it's not a hereditary role, so none of the Awolowo's can lay claim to it. His daughter, Tokunbo attempted to be the governor of Lagos state in the 90's but lost the election. If the controversial Tinubu or any other politican aspires to be the next leaders, let them be given the chance to do so as long as they have the mandate of the people.

Abia and Ekiti

What role did Awolowo play in the Biafrian war?

Another question is this, what's the bone of contention between Tinubu and the Awolowo's? I dont quite understand the story, or could it be that Tinubu wants to be the leader of the Yorubas and the Awolowo's family are saying no to his ambition on the fact that it is strictly limited to scions of the late politician?

Let me know please.

jowlzaah:
Hey , i've just started to study with JW's.
I haven't really studied much of any religions.

But one thing i don't get in the "holy bible' is that you guys don't use "Gods" real name "yhwh or yahweh"  PSALMS 83:18. http://bible.cc/psalms/83-18.htm

Why does it not say "Jesus Christ, are the Most High over all the earth" ?

Im so confused on what to believe now days , so many religions are different but as the bible for says ,  satan will rise up and fool the many )=

No one knows 100% which religion is the truth , i guarantee that , i guess you only believe what you have been brought up with ,  ?

Jesus Christ is the only Way to God Almighty, that's for sure. He is the founder of the Christian religion.

Here is another one

http://www.mlive.com/news/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2009/05/reunion_of_man_birth_mother_wh.html

Like is this news?

LUSAKA, Zambia -- U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton on Saturday warned Africa of a creeping "new colonialism" from foreign investors and governments interested only in extracting the continent's natural resources to enrich themselves and not the African people.

Clinton said that African leaders must ensure that foreign projects are sustainable and benefit all their citizens, not only elites. A day earlier, she cautioned that China's massive investments and business interests in Africa need to be closely watched so that the African people are not taken advantage of.

"It is easy, . . .


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/11/hillary-clinton-africa-new-colonialism_n_875318.html