I've been with this guy for close to four years now and its not really been a perfect relationship. Lots of ups and downs due to what I can term insecurity. At some point we're cool and the next minute issues arises just like every other relationship.
He's a good guy to some extent as he showers me with love ( my thoughts)and a lot of times he gives gifts not money though. I've had to give financial assistance to him alot of times, he returns some if he deemed it necessary and doesn't return if he so wishes. I've never complained about this and still always willing to help him out whenever he is in need. Pls note that we're both financially ok.
This gesture of me offering him financial help stopped when I realise he doesn't do same to me. I've had to test him on serval occasions that I needed financial help and he has never for once helped out on those request despite knowing he has. I never needed the money though, I made those request to know if I could actually fall back to him if I'm in need.
Last year October, I told him about my plans of getting a new car as I got tired of the one I was using. Pls note that I did not request him to buy for me neither did I ask for any support whatsoever. I contacted my source in the US with my budget and spec, was able to find one in a short time and I paid for it. All of this moves were known to him. By December, the car arrived and cleared accordingly with every expenses incurred payed by me. He gave some moral support though.
A week after getting the car, he called me one morning and started apologising for not supporting financially in getting the car which I told him I had no issues with that. I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it. The next I heard was him ranting on phone that he doesn't expect less from me, said I'm a proud and that he knew I wasn't going to be a good wife. He said he has always known I wasn't going to be a submissive wife and a whole lot of other derogatory words despite not having issues whatsoever prior to that time. I ended the call as I was so surprised he could say those mean words to me.
All through that day he didn't call back and I did not as well cos I was expecting him to realise I was hurt by his actions. A week pass and still no call from him so I decided to call him and he didn't pick. I'd sent a lot of of messages to him and has not replied to any. I'd gone to his house to check up on him and not met him too. Its been three weeks now and we haven't spoken and seen despite all of my effort to talk to him and or see.
Guys please I'm confused and do not know how to handle the issue. Pls advice.
Babe you're dating an arrsehuole who is insecure and will always try to blackmail you into doing his financial bidding.
Look at the current scenario? he messed up, he's acting up, yet you're the one reaching out to him and trying to apologize.
What do you need a man for? if na for fvuck, go to a bar and pick up a stranger and dont leave your number behind.
If na for money, you got yourself covered.
If it's love, take some time and look for someone else.
Don't be in a hurry, marriage is a lifetime decision. There are no erasers to clean up your mistakes.
DebbieBianca: Singer, Queency Benna has taken to social media to cry for help after allegedly being raped.
According to Benna, a man raped her in a hotel in Abuja, leaving her feeling depressed and suicidal.
She shared his name, photos, and screenshots of chats they allegedly exchanged to back her claims that he raped her.
She said the man who is said to be a doctor, invited her for dinner and she was initially sceptical. She said she later went and it turned out she made "a big mistake".
She called him a "bloody hell rapist" and added that she's waiting for the doctor's report to be out.
She tagged the Nigerian police to her post.
Below are screenshots and a video posted by Queency, saying she's tempted to jump from the 9th-floor window where she was.
Rrchrd: My lips is always black as if I smoke but true to God I've never smoke since I was born...
Today an interviewer asked me Do you smoke Me:No did you used to smoke before Me:No she echo Ok
Other astonished questions she asked me are; how many are you in the family me:6 do you have kids me:No which church do you worship I reiterate
*what would you do if "shout @ you" oboy this one marveled me most
I'm a graduate though & the position applied for is: Office Cleaner I can't stay @ home again location:Abuja salary :50 Tp to&fro:700 work days :Monday to Fri or Sat. Time 7am-4pm daily
I'm sure they would call me to start work
My brother. I just want to say if this is how you respond to interview questions, you wont be able to get a good job.
Whenever you respond to a question, don't just say yes or no.
Say yes, explain your reasons for saying yes, give some examples of why you choose your reason, and then some lessons learnt in the past. It helps tune the conversation to your advantage, and boost the believability of your responses.
5000 naira to get to ibadan when it's 700 and I'll get a good bus. They should complete Lagos rail project within the state, that has more commercial value than this over bloated project that is not necessary. I heard it would link to Kano and then Niger republic. So that more herdsmen can move to the south west.
please do intra Lagos rail line linking alalimosho to agege and then Victoria island and lekki with other parts of the state Lagos traffic is killing
They will make the roads unsafe with bandit so you have no option but to use the train. Check out Abuja to Kaduna.
michelz: Justice has been served. These IPOB people are some of the most ignorant and gullible set of humans on this earth. The worst is that they would never agree that they don't know. How could you go about embarrassing and attacking the very few people who could speak up for you in times of trouble? What sort of unthinking people are these? Is that how others got their own nations? See the way they are vilifying David Umahi for joining APC yet,this same Dave Umahi is about the only southeastern governor who has done something tangible. If tomorrow now,he misses out on his ambition at federal level due to IPOB's pull-him- down tendency, the same IPOB will start screaming that no Igbo man has a serious position in the government. I just tire for these people,abeg.
You are ignorant. Did you read the post? 20 days of labour is a pat on the back.
CalliDora1: This is what happens when children date.
The guy is daft. He doesn't know the implication of that statement otherwise he won't dare to say it. An enemy of the girl might be watching and seize this opportunity to strike making it seem like the boyfriend did it.
Who is Davido that is giving you moral? Hushpuppy with all his wealth and riches couldn't bribe his way out of his case how much more you...
Righteousness89: Why can't We Forgive someone! The young man has Begged! The young Man has Cried! The young man has Apologized! Let's learn to Inculcate the virtue of Forgiveness..
If JESUS Should Do us all like this, Na Who go Make Heaven?
Forgiving people is why we keep making thesame mistakes.
iwaeda: Reason why we are poorer, people are not borrowing to invest to produce more goods and services, but for consumption Welcome to New Nigeria Lalasticlala
The dead cannot invest. Food is a basic necessity even before investment.
light099: Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.
Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you. If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass. Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.
I do not support Buhari, but although this is a good move. Naira is about to hit 500/$.
A lot of criminals collect USD while claiming to want to import agricultural/food products. Unfortunately, this good move will lead to a bad result due to dollar scarcity.
Nigeria is too damaged to work.
Good moves leave bad results, bad moves leave bad results.
Sessanvandy: Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.
I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.
My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.
My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.
They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.
Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.
He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December
I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...
Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!
sorry for the long post.
He never give you ring and you dey call am fiance?
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