₦airaland Forum

Amarisco:
1a… na. this is an urban myth. We are roughly evenly distributed

Amarisco:
I specifically wrote we are roughly even with a less than 1% difference. I then suggested that perhaps the calibre of eligible men/women are what increases the disparity. You’re just mansplaining and repackaging what I literally just said 🫤.

I think the world "calibre" is close, but perhaps "eligible" would be a less-loaded/biased word, in the sense that, while a woman is eligible for marriage by (e.g.) 21, a man in her age-group won't be until (e.g.) 26.

I think the disparity comes down to two factors:

1. In any age group you'll typically have younger women pairing with older men (can be a difference of 4-10 years). GIrls mature faster than boys because babies need to be borne earlier, and men later because they need to acquire resources to cater for their family. We see this play out in most dating choices.

2. the age pyramid (fewer number of older people at the top, and larger numbers of younger people at the bottom - see picture), practically guarantees there is a smaller pool of men for women to choose from, in pretty much any age-bracket after 20, especially if women choose up in age and status.

Then add the elegant treatment on the attrition of men due to early deaths or removal from the pool, and I'm fully convinced that there are always more women chasing fewer men, hence why polyandry is inevitable. It also means that generally, most men before 26 are "invisible" to women as far as marriage is concerned.

pansophist:
No, we are not roughly evenly distributed. It is not true and has never been true.

Ok, I will put it this way. The realities of men make an unequal availability of marriageable men compared to women. Depending on the society, a woman is pretty much available to marry at 18 years old.

It is not the same for men. For example, lots of Ukrainian widows have emerged whose husbands had died in the war, over 300k Ukrainian men died just within the last 17 months of this ongoing war.

And that's just war. Prisons, work death, low-value men, etc are all in the mix of the few available men, so how will all these women get married? In the West, they can just adopt and depend on social benefits, but the west is less than 15% of the global population.

So no, societal stability is burdened on men, and in many cases, men's lives are sacrificed for it. So there will always be a surplus of more women than men who wants to marry.

It is from this angle that Islam for example permitted polygamy, not for evanescent reasons.

Timblaze:
Hmmm,
If is a federal road am not giving way or chance.
If is a state Road I may shift a little but if it is a local road I will just drive off the Road.

What does the level of road have to do with the madness of the trailers that are about to jam u?

DenreleDave:
Why shud I be threatened? David defeated golaith

David was able to with God's help and special attention. You think God has your time? You are already lucky because you're not on a bridge or a place with reduced shoulder. Please jejely slow down enter grass my brother

My question is: "why can't she take care of her husband with the education and skills she learned"?

I mean this is supposed to be a time of gender parity, and we all went to the same schools, and have similar opportunities in life. She should silently bear the burden of being a breadwinner, just as men have been doing for centuries. Afterall she even has free babysitter in the form of husband and his mother

Let her not forget that the motivational speaker that is gingering her will not follow her to prison if the new leaders recall her home.

Caleb15:
Even the owo/ikare route to connect kogi is bad, it is the north that have good roads. In terms of time wasteing the aforementioned route remains the best

I found that roads in North stay good for longer mostly because of not so much rain, and frankly, not too much heavy traffic on the roads.

Eric7350:
This is bad. Because of no good drainage system.

And where there is drainage, passing motorist fling out their trash indiscriminately... why won't available drains be blocked...?

chocboi78:
LMAO. The lion lured the goat into its den and dismantled it in the full video. Lions appear relaxed wen preying on a very weak prey

hyfr:
you sound like the type of guy that would never believe their woman be cheating even when it stares you in the face

And you sir, appear like the kind of guy to jump to conclusions, just like the goat

The goat eventually ended in the Lion’s belly. See full video here 😂pic.twitter.com/IMqr17AFZ7

— Henry O (@Uncle_Onos) August 2, 2023

If you watch the whole video, the goat was doing oversabi and lion eventually dragged his ass into the cave for dinner. Similar to how Nigerians like doing oversabi until something chop them.

Kukutente23:
Always take your time to read. It doesn't hurt

You're right. it wasn't a private hospital.

Isn't the strike going to make things worse for potential victims while they're striking?

That person who posted about how the poor are voting to make millionaires richer... hits the nail right on the head...

And it's mostly "nke a si, nke a a siro"* what are people doing watching this secondary-school drama?


* "this one said, that one did (or not) say ..."

NwaNimo1:
.....they can divert to our national grid. What business do we have exporting electricity?

It's an agreement we made so Niger won't dam the river upstream of us for their own hydro plant. We had enough capacity from Kainji back in the 70's; trouble is we didn't plan for the explosive growth in population and demand, and waste a lot on an inefficient grid.

see: https://dailytrust.com/presidency-why-nigeria-exports-electricity-to-benin-togo-niger/

If there's a treaty in place, then Nigeria is in violation of those agreements, coup notwithstanding, and will encourage Niger to accelerate their plans for a dam.

... and looking at him you would think he's responsible.

This man is talking of committing war crimes here. For what it's worth, there was a blockade, and millions of people died of starvation, so I'm not sure what his point is.

You do realize that people have a fundamental right to self-determination. The US was founded by rebels who felt being under the United Kingdom was not working for them... it cannot be right to starve civilians because they said: "we no want again"

AlphaHakimi:
I think Christianity brought about cheating. Cheating is a term used to describe having sexual relationship outside of a defined union.

Naturally, women prefer sexual exclusivity with a man who is capable of taking care of her financially. They don't practice sexuall exclusivity with poor man. On the other hand, poor men practice sexual exclusivity while rich men don't like sexual exclusivity. It is evidently clear by this analysis that women originated the term cheating.

If I'm broke as a man, my women would prefer to sleep around with men who are more financially stable than I'm, then what gives her the right to prevent me from sleeping with more women when/if I have the means to do that?

This is nature, there is nothing like cheating. Women call it cheating because they don't want men to practice polygamy. In reality, every man wants polygamy, it is the women folk who want monogamy because they want to monopolies the resources a man has all to themselves.

Here is the analogy, A woman would want a man who is worth 100 million dollars because she knows the whole money would be spent on her and that translates to a good life. On the other hand, if a man is worth 100 million dollars and he has 4 wives, automatically, each wife may only be entitled to 25 million dollars and that is less that what each of them would get if they are the sole wife. Separate a man from his wealth and women would care less how many concubines or wives the man decides to marry.

Shalom

This is one of the more eloquent responses on this thread that clearly explains the underlying reason for polygamy, and why it's seen in a bad light by those it doesn't favor.

I was stating that basically those with the financial means will make the rules about who can "cheat" - or be in poly-amorous relationships; and that it would be hard for most women to gain that advantage. Some character just bleated out "wrong!" in a kneejerk response, so I'm glad to see some people can still put their thoughts to words sensibly.

kkins25:
Wrong!

Hah! I love these kind of responses that have no content... no context... no insight... just the sound of croaking: "wrong!"

Druss:
Who considers cheating normal for men? My father, uncles, and other male figures in my life never gave me this impression. Tufiakwa that this is considered normal.

I dunno dude... every wife after the first came in as a form of cheating...

Kobojunkie:
Correction.. Adam did not choose Eve. Rather, Adam was given no other choice but Eve, his clone.

1Sharon:
If she is female, how is she his clone.

Good point... clone would be genetically the same. Alright, so maybe his word choice wasn't the best, but I get the gist.

But still, I think the problem is that our society, influenced by Judeo-Christian ideology, imposes on men a monogamy that is not natural - and we know that.

Men are biologically predisposed to be polygamous - a man can make babies with many women in a given period, and is disposed to sharing his seed. The opposite is not true (i.e. a woman can only get pregnant once in a given period), and would be more disposed to forming a bond with a single partner that can provide for that seed. You can even see this in preference: generally men look for clues of child-bearing; women look for clues of child-rearing (status in society, ability to provide/protect).

Socio-economically, a woman has been (fairly or not), seen as a dependent to transfer from her father's house to her husband's house. It is not ok for a dependent to cheat. On the other hand, a man is seen as a independent agent, able to accommodate as may dependents as his strength allows.

I will get some flogging for this line of reasoning, but the truth is: those who control the finances get to call the shots. Women as a group are unlikely to be able to devote the same amount of time and energy to advancing in their careers as men if they want to also carry and nurse multiple young. In societies where women are choosing careers, there are fewer babies being born. Not saying that's good or bad, but I'm just pointing out that - given the same mental capacity - a woman over her lifetime would have to share her time and energy in a way most men don't. And the consequence of that is ability to control finances.

Ketam:
Niger and Burkina Faso don't have a single battle tank,Nigeria alone has triple the personel and military equipment of the entire Malian, Nigerien, Burkinabe and Guinean armies combined,it's a walk in a park for us

I would believe this if not for the fact that a terrorist organization controls northern Nigerian territory. If not in name, then de facto. Intervening militarily would only invite Russia dem to com an parry.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
fear fear man. We are not giant of Africa for nothing.

i go donate 30b agbado soldiers.

The same soldiers that have not been able to wipe out Boko boys abi? When Chadian forces have proven more effective. Dey play

Dr. Simi no come back oh! If it's not police, na kidnappers. Patients won't pay yet want service. Nepa won't provide u with light for your practice, petrol scarcity go dey, and gov't will frustrate you from getting equipment, and the nurses are as callous as can be.

If Naija dey hungry you, visit Abuja for 2 weeks twice a year, then return to obodo oyinbo abeg. Rwanda dey, Ghana dey, no come here to be destroyed.

UrPapa:
You need to act bro. This is cheating of the highest order. You should not look away from this act and make sure he’s prosecuted
First report him to soldiers. Let dem give him a very good beating
Then after, you can call the police so they take him to station for further interrogation and beating
From there, he’ll be charged to court and sent to jail

You do realize all this will cost money? Soldier, police, lawyer go all add their bills. Him papa no get shishi so what is he suing him for? Plus all the societal castigation the son would (unfairly) receive from other family members.

It's a very very bitter pill to swallow, but man, I can only advice moving on... but keep papa at arms length. No need to raise your voice - the bitterness will be felt in your silence. Sorry man.

Mister123:
Hello guys. Greetings to you. Please don't mind muy grammar, I'm not here for English classes lol.
My first child's almost 3years, trust me that girl can be playing and roaming about 24/7. As long as she's not asleep, her mum and I are always talking, don't do this, don't do that. Sometimes I lose my cool you know. I'm planing to enroll her into a conventional school by September because she seems really smart. My question here is, how do I handle her, she can't just stay in one place and our apartment is not really safe for her to be playing outside.
Parents and expert in the house please assist a brother with an idea of what to do.
Thank you

Nothing to do my brother, just play with her and continue to watch her so she doesn't hurt herself. It's hard work, plain and simple.

If your oyinbo overloards are happy with duke, marquess, earl, viscount, baron (of Essex, Cornwall, Winchester, etc) - and don't find it inconsistent with their religion - then yes, you their perpetual copy-paster, can also be happy with the chieftancy titles your own ancestors have bequeathed you. You're saved, oyinbo god won't send you to his hell.

ab1x:
And you think someone who lives in a face me I slap you can afford a lawyer ?

Thank you. Na wetin I been wan ask before

And after the medicine already recommended, please be using shea butter daily. Phew.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!

What's your opinion about women with multiple piercings? What do you think of that or them? Does it affect your opinion about such a woman? Will your opinion about a woman change if you notice she has more than the usualpiercings on the ear lobes? I have about 4 piercings on my ear lobes. I don't know if someone's opinion about me will change if they notice that. Or if those piercings will have any effect on how the person sees me.

The more the merrier my dear. Ears, nose, brows, nipple, tummy, that place, all is wonderful Just don't overdo because there's a line between cute and overdone.

What I don't like are holy-holy girls who will quote me bible about every single thing. In fact, aren't there some churches that ban any piercing?

We used to pierce a lot in Africa. Then oyinbo came and told us their God only allowed 2, and now we think it's an issue to have multiple piercings. Arabs and Indians have been piercing all over since time immemorial. Meanwhile oyinbo is starting to pierce a lot. Funny lot we are huh.

slawomir:
Na rema global recognition dey shock me

That rema is recognised worldwide
How he take happen I nor just understand

He clear say if God blow your whistle even if you nor see jersey wear say na wrapper you tie you go Play for the match

Abi now? Since he was featured in Obama's playlist that year. E shock me too

Chai... see money person for take start foundation... just wasted like that.

In my dear Asaba, people still dey take am wash hand.
Same people will be complaining about their landlord.

To all the people yabbing this guy, why no heat for his former boss? Or the cabal he was serving? It's not as if he can really do anything without their tacit approval. This is so much like sacrificial lamb things

cucumbar:
you APC and Tinubu supporters don’t get tired of these your useless stupid analysis. You gave several analysis for 8 years while things got out of hand. You have started again with your rubbish analysis of it will go up and come down. It will never be well with you and your kind that support evil.

No vex. I voted for Obi, but I cannot see good and call it bad. If Obihad become president, he would likely have done the same float, and the rates would be doing the same thing. Removing subsidy and floating the Naira are two things that make sense, no matter who did it. There's going to be pain, but our focus should not be on managing the symptoms, but on moving us to a producing country.

mightyhaze:
I still dey use 50k fill my tank

100k in a month for just car fuel

But hopefully, you will spend less on gen (that is if the savings are used to improve electricity supply in the long term... and that's a big if)